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I met my DH in 1979. We were both working in a local supermarket. We were engaged after 3 months, married after 6 months. Yes we got all the comments�when’s the baby due� If only. My only ambition was to be a mum; I was always looking after other people’s children, a born mum!
We never bothered with contraception as we both wanted kids. I was 18 he was 21. Well as you may have guessed nothing happened. Problem was I didn’t like Doctors was terrified of injections and pain. But eventually decided I had to go.
After referring me to the hospital I had a few tests but the coward got the better of me and I didn’t bother. I have always had irregular AF’s went a whole year without one a couple of times. So we decided if it happens brilliant if it doesn’t we were happy as we were.
Well the years went on my younger sister went on to have 4 lovely kids and we were like a second mum and dad to them. We were asked to be Godparents a few times and were always looking after other peoples children, but deep inside there was always that ‘If only’.
After 14 years together we drifted apart, more on my side than his. I moved out and tried to get on with my life, we stayed friends and after 9 months realised I missed him. So we talked and talked decided to give it another go and to actually do something about having a baby because the older I got I realised it does matter.
My GP was very sympathetic and referred us to a gynaecologist, who put me on Clomid, it didn’t work. So after doing loads of tests, I had a Hysterosalpingogram where they inject dye in to your tubes to see if they are blocked. Then he sent me in to have a Laparoscopy, a Hysteroscopy Diathermy drilling in the ovaries, as it was found I had PCOS, and a D&C all in one go. He then told me my only hope was IVF.
Oh god I thought the coward rearing its ugly head again. All those injections. He referred me and we received a letter in 1997 saying they had no funding left for that year and hopefully we will be on the list for the following year. Still praying like mad I wouldn’t need it we went up for the initial consultation in 98. I was surprised at how relaxed they made me feel and after each stage thought it wasn’t that bad. I started downregging with Synarel, sniffing twice a day, went up for a few scans but my womb lining was too thick every time.
After a couple of weeks I was called in to see the head man and he explained I needed to have a D&C as the thick womb lining could be hiding cancer. - OMG.
He arranged for me to go to my local hospital and they discovered I had polyps which were removed.
A couple of months later I started downregging again, this time with Buserilin injections. My womb lining thinned and I started stims injecting once a day. Well my ovaries went wild and produced 43 follicles my injections were stopped and I was told I was on the verge of OHSS and had to drink 4 litres of water a day, I spent most of my days on the loo.
Well we went in for EC and they found only 7 eggs of which only 3 fertilised. We went for ET and had 2 embryos put back in. I carried on as normal went to work and after 2 weeks was convinced it had worked. We went up to London for the test which turned out to be negative. Total devastation. Our one and only chance gone. Then a couple of friends offered to lend us the money for a second go saying you can’t give up. So we saved up and were pleasantly surprised to find our GP could prescribe the drugs for us, so we went for a second go.
This time the ovaries didn’t go as mad in fact they went the opposite way and we didn’t have hardly any follicles, it wasn’t certain that they would do EC as it may have been a waste of time. After an agonising day they phoned and said they would go ahead. They collected 4 eggs and all of them fertilised. This time I had 3 embryos put back. I went home and spent the first week in bed and took the second week as easy as possible. It was the longest 2 weeks ever. At the end of the 2 ww I was convinced it hadn’t worked I got up at 5 am to do the test and couldn’t believe it when I saw it was positive. We were ecstatic.
After 9months and 2 days I gave birth by an emergency Caesarean to a 7lb little boy who we think is absolutely gorgeous and well worth the wait.
I joined Fertility Friends because I thought I could give a bit of support to others going through the same treatment. I have been made to feel so welcome, I feel I have another home and extended family. GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE.
KIM - (KIMRIC)
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