A New Chat Thread for Twin Mummies bringing up lone twins

[Rachel]

Clare

Huge huge hugs sweetheart 

You blurt it out all you want to when you're ready. I find it helps to write things down.

Take care my lovely

Rachel xxx

[Donna Taylor]

Big Hugs Clare xx x

[AggieJ]

Kiwi,

This is the thread hun. Can be resurrected at any time 

[kiwitk]

A big thanks to Aggie for pointing me to this thread

I am hoping for some good news stories and also advice on what scans/tests I should be asking for at the hospial. 

Our situation - currently 21+5 weeks pregnant, and up until last wednesday with twins.  Went for our 20 week scan last wednesday all excited to find out what we were going to have only to be told that we'd lost one of our babies.  They estimate that she'd stopped growing at around 15 weeks, but we know from an emergency scan that she was still alive at 18+ weeks so she most likely passed away in the last week or two.

Has anyone else had a second trimester death like this with a good outcome for the surviving twin?  Everything I'm reading on the internet seems to be optimistic if it happens in first trimester, but not so much for later deaths.

Any stories/advice gratefully received

Kiwi x

[AggieJ]

Hey Kiwi

This thread has been really really quiet recently. There are/have been mummies of lone twins on FF but not sure if they stop using the site or avoid the Twins board? However, the Sands forum has a section for multiple losses (including loss of a twin) and I've definitely read about other Mummies in your situation who've delivered their surviving twin safely. Might be worth a look...  You're all in my thoughts...

Much love Kate xxx

[Hugs]

Hello,

Aggiej, Thanks for pm i will reply.

Well here i am with my bit.................


Kiwi - Huge hugs to you and your DH. I had my routine scan at 20+1 and there we saw our two perfect bigger that average babies bouncing about and we even heard there heartbeats for the 1st time  then to cut a long story short i woke up the next day to find i was bleeding and had to go to the maternity where they scanned my but both my babies were still OK. Sadly my waters broke at 20+2 and it was my wee boy Daniels sack but i was told he could still survive with out his waters cause he would make then again but when i was taken for a scan at 20+3 but my beautiful wee man had gone but Aimee's heartbeat was there, a awful, awful feeling that i will never forget. I then had to deliver my baby boy  that afternoon as they told me he could not stay inside. My DH and mum were told i would most likely loose Aimee too but Aimee stay with me till 24 week when i had to deliver he cause i was bleeding.

I think i may have went on a bit.

Aimee is sitting in her highchair next to me right now after having me up all night cause she is teething
  but she is just perfect. I look at her and wonder would her big brother looked like her but i take comfort in knowing that he lives inside her cause there is no bond closer that twins. I talk to Daniel and tell Aimee about him all the time. The pain will never go away and even to this second it hurts like hell but i also know how lucky i am to have Aimee. We never got any reason as to why i lost Daniel and thats also hard to deal with cause i often wonder if it was something i done.

I remember the 25 day between Daniel and Aimee's births was just so very hard but my wee princess survived against all odds and we were even offered a termination after i delivered Daniel cause they never thought she would have made it.

Just remember your wee princess will be watching her brother and I'm sure all will be just fine.

I'm sure Daniel will welcome her into the specail heaven that our babies are.

If you need anything just pm me.

All my love
Dense+Aimee

[dreamer100]

Hi Ladies

Have just come across this thread, so do you have room for one more 

I am thinking about councilsing but what happens ? Does it help with dealing with your issues of everyday without them.

Sorry !!! just not sure where to start and if it would really help, I think the hardest thing is asking for help, when you are trying to carry on been strong but am running out of strength and should be so lucky to have sophie.

Michelle

[budgie]

Hello to you all, room for another?

Thanks Kate for telling me about this thread.  I had been lurking on the other bit not daring to come near the twin part and all the time you were here.

I so need to support of others and hope that I can do the same.  I feel so isolated.  Having my boys early ment I never had the chance to do the whole meet mums whilst pregnant thing.  Nathan was in hospital for months and then we didn't really go anywhere.  Have made a few friends but they don't understand. 

I don't want anyone to know what its like but at the same time I need someone to understand.  Does that make sense? 

Lots of love to you all

XX

Michelle - I never really done the counselling thing but have heard it can be of great help if you find the right person

[Hugs]

Hello,

dreamer and budgie - Cant excatly same welcome to the thread so will just say hello (im sure you know what i mean)

Budgie my baby was called Daniel too    His sister spent 185 days in ITU so like you i never got to meet any other mums that could understand.

Dreamer - How is your little lady doing ?

[budgie]

Hi Hugs

Daniel is a beautiful name.................

Your little girl looks so beautiful.  How is she doing?  Nathan is now 22 months old.  He is doing great, just a little behind with speaking.  I have not have much contact with Mummys who have had such premature babes either so you will understand me greatly!!  At the hospital other mums used to look at me like I had said Nathan had come off a space craft when they asked me how prem he was.

XX