Prospective Adopters Chat Thread

[♥ M J ♥]

Hi Ladies and Gents

Have started a new home as not only is your last home got a tad long i have just realised it was a 2008 thread and you dont have a 2009 home

happy

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[♥ M J ♥]

Hi- just so this doesn't get missed this is todays post and the last post on the previous thread

hi everyone

hope you're all well...just on for a quickie so not got time for personals....

jacks i'd give them a wee call if i were you...did you send an initial enquiry form in?  we did and when i hadn't heard anything in a couple of weeks i gave them call saying "just checking you got the form" and they looked into it and said we should've been contacted by now...i got home later that day and the letter was there!

we had our initial meeting today and it went well...he really just went through the process, filled out a form etc...he was nice though and has adopted himself so it was nice to hear a bit of his story.  because we've had tx though he says we'll need to wait 6 months from that finishing so that takes us to july/august he thought.  it'll fly by though then we'll go to an info evening then prep courses then hs should start...feel really good about it...so does dh...we both feel v positive....

anyhooo...i've babbled enough...
take care
deb x

[popsi]

MJ.. thank you

Much   to everyone xxxx

[jrhh]

Thanks MJ.

Debs thats fantastic news I'm not surprised you feel so positive! I'd be babbling too 

Think I will give them a ph. I'll wait till after the B Hol then its May so hopefully I won't look to impatient 

Hi to everyone else hope you are all OK.

Love

Jacks x

[popsi]

Jacks.. i would ring, i found when i did they were more than happy to hear from me 

[curvycat]

I must admit that for me the hardest part is the constant waiting for something to happen.

Jacks the phone call will do nothing but remind them how much you care and can definately not hurt.

I always set on my phone a date that I expect to hear something by and if I dont I call.

My next date is end of May and believe me if I havent heard about the prep course by then I will definately be on the phone!

This gives me some comfort that I wont over do it but that I have some control.... or at least a guide to being a pain! 

[L456]

Hi there,

I hope you don't mind me posting, I have been very much a lurker on this section of the site rather than a poster but thought i would take the plunge and say hi and introduce myself

My DH and I are on the road of adoption and currently waiting for our second appointment with our agency.   My DH is in the armed forces and is away on deployment so we have had to wait until he is home.  We have been lucky enough to have our provisional dates through (July) for our prep courses as they have tried to fix them round DH ships programme.  But we are trying so hard not get too excited about it all, we have been told he needs to be shore based before - if we are lucky enough to be approved before we can be matched with a little one and that wont be until 2010/2011.  We knew that the process would be long and hard and frustrating but it just seems to be made worse because of his job, which he can do nothing about. 

However we are determined to remain positive and you just never know what will happen 

I hope that everyone is having a good week.

Take care
xx

[Moppit]

Debs - Really glad to hear your initial interview went well, sounds like once your 6 months is up things will move quickly so you have every reason to be positive. Enjoy celebrating that you have started the adoption process.

L456- Welcome to the board and congratulations on your first post, really glad that you are here its a fantastic place to get infomration, meet people and best of all get loads of support. It must make things extra diffiuclt with your husband's job which seems unfair but good news that you have a date for Prep Groups thats a big step.

Jacks - I would definately call them, it won't do any harm and as the other ladies say will show that you are determined and committed. At least then you'll know more. Good luck.

As for us well just over a week till Prep Groups and getting very excited if a little daunted that we're about to take the next step. Really excited about meeting the other couples on the course but feel nervous too.

Moppit x

[♥ M J ♥]

Hi Laides

L456-not sure if your aware however there is support for those adoption who are in the forces- Soldiers Sailors Airmen & Families Association (SSAFA)- Forces Help if you "net search" them as they cover the whole of england
 

Hope these might be some help

M J
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[sonia7]

Hi everyone

Can I just ask I noticed those of you who have recently had an IVF Treatment and want to go down the adoption route have been told to wait 6 months. Is this the same for all authority places and what are there reasoning behind the 6 month wait. As getting slightly worried now as I only had a recent IVF and we have made our decision to adopt and it will be the same decision in 6 months time as it is now. I will just feel that iit is another 6 months added to the already long wait. And this was a decision made last year (fostering/adoption) if this IVF treatment had not worked.

Hope everyone is okay

Sonia xx

[jrhh]

Hi Ladies,

Right I have decided I will call them, mmmm maybe tomorrow   thanks ladies for not making me feel neurotic  

Moppit ooooooh how exciting, I'd be nervous too, but I bet everyone else will be aswell so you'll not be on your own  

Hi L456 and welcome. I am pretty new here too and the ladies are lovely and so supportive. Good luck  

Sonia hi hun yes its the same for us. I had IVF in March and its not stopped me applying. They said its good to make a start as these things have a habit of taking a while anyway so its good to get the ball rolling. I figured at least we can get the initial appointment done and then plan the rest around the Sept when the 6 months is up. Its so frustrating but I can understand they have to make sure we have had time to grieve and be 100% committed. How are you feeling?

Hi to everyone else.

Jacks xx

[mavis]

Hi Everyone,

Firstly sorry to Popsi for your Panel appt being postponed aaargh  , I hope you get to hear when the new one is soon.

Great news Hornauth on your intial meeting, glad the Sw was nice and open too.

Good on you JRRH, it is good for SW to hear your voice so they dont forget you.

Sonia, I think some vary, but most will let you start and go to open day/eve and have the intial visit and as JRHH has said the time should pretty much come round by then anyway.  Has SS mentioned anythign about their policy on this yet?

Kirstyn, I so wish your LA would come on - argh.

Good Luck Moppit and CG oh and of course Carol now as well for your preprs : )

Tiger hope you are ok, thinking of you.

L456 welcome : ) - loving your PMA x

Hello and love to everyone else too x

[popsi]

hi ladies.. just a really quick post ...

tiger.. how are you honey xx thinking of you and your family, if i was you i would try NPT as you can go to any LA within 50 miles x

mavis.. thank you honey and thanks for the pm your one special lady xx

Sonia.. i was able to start straight away, no wait necessary we just had to be sure we had left tx behind and were fully focussed on adoption x

much love to everyone else, sorry not been around much lately, been quite poorly, looks like i may have gallstones so back to docs tomorrow then ultrasound, thank god for private insurance xxx

i do read everyday and will get better posting when i feel a little more human xx

[curvycat]

Sonia I am with Birm and there LA makes you wait 6 months after an IVF treatment.

Popsi I hope you feel better soon hunny.

Hope everyone is good today and looking forward to the bank holiday 

I know I am!!! Lego land here we come 

[L456]

Morning all 

Thanks for your welcomes!

Sonia - I am with a VA and we were told we had to wait 6 months even though my DH and I didn't even go down the IVF route or get a definitive answer as to why we can not conceive.  However it seemed to all slot into place for us as we had out initial phonecall in novemeber then out interview just after christmas and then my DH went on deployment so by the time we have our next meeting in 3 weeks it will be nearly 6 months.  However when i spoke with my LA i was told they would not even speak with me until after a year had gone by!

Thanks MJ - I took your advise and my DH emailed NPFS from the ship and spoke with them yesterday!  SAFFA will be intouch with us when our home study gets underway aparently they need to help with the assesment of my husband. ALso we have been told that they might be able to help with getting my husbands current draft reduced if there is a chance of a potential match.  so here's  that they will.

I know we are running away with it all at the moment and thinking way to far ahead - we need to be approved yet - but i have to think we will be approved otherwise i will go mad 

I hope all your weeks are progressing nicely and that you are all looking forward to the nice long weekend
xxx