I am looking for some advise. I have just had our 4th failure at IVF, this last time was a blastocyst transfered via a natural FET. I have been in touch with Penny and we are going to see her next month for me to have a aqua scan, the test for NK cells and possibly if needed a hystoscopy. I am wondering if anyone can tell me what their experiences of these tests are?? do they hurt??
I am a little upset as Penny was what I classed as my fall back, the clinic we have been for the last 4 transfers said at our last consultation that if our last transfer didnt work then we wad had to go down the DE route. I have always heard such amazing things about Penny that I just thought she could work miracles but when I spoke to her yesterday (bless her after my e-mail to her I am sure she thought I was possibly sucidial as she called me within an hour of my e-mail) she agreed when she looked at my notes that the DE route would be the way to go. Please don't get me wrong if this is our only route then we will take this route as we want a family more than anything and I can see the plus sides of having a donor, especially as I am now 39 and donors always have to be much younger.
My mum is financing our IVF and she is making this decision really hard as she feels that the baby (should it work) would be 50% my DH and nothing of me. I don't see it like this but she is making it hard for me to move forward with this decision as she is not supporting me in it. We are really close but on this she just doesn't understand.
Has anyone had DE at Serum, could you tell me about your experiences. How do they chose the donor? I am little worried as I am blonde with pale skin that by going to Greece to have the donor we would find it difficult to find a match. I want as much as possible for the child to have a similar colouring to me.
I feel very confused about all of this, it is not our first choice of having a child but then IVF would of never been our first choice and after 3 years of fertility treatment I have come to realise that when/if we do get preganant it will be a miracle.
I just want to be a mum and my husband to be a dad.
This journey is so hard
Any help will be greatly appreciated.