I second what chaab01 says, our beautiful double donor baby girl is 14 weeks old and I didnt think it was possible to love someone so much! Each day that passes we love her more and more - when I was pregnant I felt instantly connected (especially after seeing the scans!) and so did my DH but of course I had doubts/worries running through my head about how I would feel, what would she look like, would it be obvious that she was not biologically our baby etc etc and believe me, all those worries and fears completely become irrelevant when you hold your bubba in your arms!! If anything I feel I love her more as she is so special and we tried so hard to have her - I feel she was meant to be our daughter, despite miscarrying the year before she was born with my own egg! My only worry is that, as we are going to be open with her as to how she was conceived, I worry about her feelings about it all. I hope that we bring her up in such a loving environment that she doesn't worry about her genetics but I just hope with all my heart that she feels ok about it all. It would break my heart to think she will feel negative about it or that she feels sad that she doesn't look like anyone etc...My DH is adopted himself so I hope she can connect with him about any feelings of not "looking like us" I know adoption is completely different from carrying your own donor baby as people adopted have been carried and been born to another women but my DH had feelings when he was growing up about not looking like his brother or mum and dad etc so maybe he can talk to her about those feelings if it is something she worries about. I have already written her a letter about how we longed for her to grow in mummy's tummy for many years and how mummy's eggs didn't work and daddy didn't have any seeds and that a kind lady and man gave us their eggs and seeds so that you could grow in mummy's tummy etc etc... I hope when she is old enough to understand, to speak to her about it and show her the letter I wrote when she was born so that she can try to understand how she was created... that is my only worry now...but I hope if we bring her up as a loved and balanced little girl who is showered with love and affection my worries will be for nothing!
We hope to try for a sibling for her but unfortunately we made the big mistake of not freezing the left over embryos so if we have another child it will be from different donors. In hindsight I wished we had frozen the left over embryos as it would have been nice for her to have a biological brother or sister but hindsight is a good thing. I was more tempted by the fact that a fresh cycle has a lot higher chance of working than frozen so we would do fresh again, but at the time, didn't consider it from a sibling point of view.
Not long to go now Dharmagrrl! Enjoy every minute!
chaab01 - congratulations of your beautiful baby girl! Being a Mummy is just amazing!
congrats also to Am-x and Ciaelle!
What we have been through to get here makes our babies even more amazing!