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BFP Sept/Oct/Nov 10 - Autumn Part 7

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BFP Sept/Oct/Nov 10 - Autumn Part 7

The last chapter!

Once your babies arrive your Birth Club Thread is here: http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?topic=263206.0

B xxx :-*



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Name, BFP Date, Scan Date, EDD, Flavour
~Sapphire~, 16/08/09, 13/10/10, 23/04/11, , ^storkgirl^ Lilia Ava 06/05/11 ^congrats^
want2b, 25/08/09, 20/10/10, 25/04/11, , ^storkboy^ 10/04/11 ^congrats^
Reb363, 31/08/10, 22/10/10, 27/04/11, , ^storkboy^ Max 27/04/11 ^congrats^
Kerrie_1975, 31/08/10, 22/09/10, 05/05/11, , ^babycrawl^
Jodes17, 31/08/09, 24/09/10, 03/05/11 , , ^storkboy^
shebear, 01/09/10, 20/09/10, 09/05/11, , ^babycrawl^
ciwarner, 03/09/10, 20/09/10, , ,
Beth137, 03/09/10, 21/09/10, , ,
hsmom, 06/09/10, 25/09/10, 16/05/11, , ^babycrawl^
looking4, 07/09/10, , 15/05/11, , ,
Reb s, 08/09/10, 18/10/10, , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
JanaH, 09/09/10, 28/09/10, 18/05/11, , ^babycrawl^
blonde_one, 09/09/10, , , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
beckyb, 09/09/10, 01/11/10, 17/05/11, , ^storkgirl^ Ellie 27/05/11 ^congrats^
TMP, 09/09/10, 20/09/10, ,
looking4, , 09/10/10, , ,
bondgirl, 09/09/10, , , ,
Glamis, 09/09/10, 01/10/10, 14/05/11, , ^storkgirl^ Nina 05/05/11 ^congrats^
alamaya, 12/09/10, 05/10/10, 19/05/11, , ^storkgirl^ Olivia Grace 05/05/11
redpixie, 13/09/10, 05/10/09, 18/05/11, , ^angel^ ^angel^ ^hugme^
daxcat, 14/09/09, 12/11/10, 16/05/11, , ^storkboy^ Matthew David 27/04/11 ^congrats^
carrie lou, /08/10, , 11/05/11, , ^storkboy^ Zachary Stephen 26/05/11 ^congrats^
Nat2010, 15/09/10, 06/10/10, ,
Mimo, 16/09/10, 10/11/10, 22/05/11, , ^babycrawl^
Molie, 16/09/10, 05/10/10, , ,
pooh bear, 17/09/10, 22/10/10, 21/05/11, , ^storkgirl^ Trinity 16/05/11 ^congrats^
MandyM, 18/09/10, , ,
Natmc, 20/09/10, 06/10/10, 23/05/11, , ^storkboy^ ^storkboy^ Blair & Alfie 06/03/11 ^congrats^
Tracey77, 21/09/10, 11/10/10, 27/05/11, , ^babycrawl^
Imogen779, 23/09/10, 15/10/10, ,
welshginge, 23/09/10, 12/10/10, ,
mjp1977, 23/09/10, 27/01/11, 06/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ Lily Rose 10/5/11 ^congrats^
sweetchilli, 24/09/10, 08/10/10, 01/06/10, , ^babycrawl^
wantone, , 23/11/10 , , , ^storkboy^
daisy may, , 12/10/10, 25/05/10, , ^storkgirl^ ^storkboy^ Daisy & Max 11/05/11 ^congrats^
Flozzie, 25/09/10, 09/10/10, 01/06/11, , ^babycrawl^
Ipswichbabe, 25/09/10, , ,
Astral, 26/09/10, 19/10/10, 08/06/11, , ^storkgirl^
smile 26, 27/09/10, 21/10/10, 02/06/11, , ^angel^
Shondra, , , ,
Clarabel*, 30/09/10, 22/10/10, ,
butsy, 01/10/10, , , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
Ruby Roo, 01/10/10, 20/10/10, , ,
flumple, 02/10/10, 15/10/10, , , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^ ,
Kitten 80, 02/10/10, 21/10/10, 05/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ ^baby^ 19/05/11 ^congrats^
MandyL, 02/10/10, 19/10/10, 09/06/11, , ^babycrawl^
Nattee, 04/10/10, 26/11/10, 07/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ Poppy Mae 26/05/11 ^congrats^
JWTBAM, 05/10/10, 26/10/10, 10/06/11, , ^storkboy^ Tyler 03/06/11 ^congrats^
MummyT, 05/10/10, 24/10/10, , , ^babycrawl^
ally1075, 06/10/10, 02/11/10, 09/06/11, , ^babycrawl^
fiona_apple28, 06/10/10, 25/10/10, , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
Seachest, 07/10/10, 27/10/10, , ,
squidgely, 07/10/10, 27/10/10, 09/06/11, , ^storkboy^ Jack 27/05/11 ^congrats^
carole99, 08/10/10, , , , ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ Rebecca Ann & Emilia Marie 01/06/11 ^congrats^
Rhubarb04, 08/10/10, , , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
impatientlady, 08/10/10, 20/10/10, 11/06/11, , ^babycrawl^
LizE, 08/10/10, 29/10/10, 17/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ Sophie Anne 04/06/11 ^congrats^
babypapermache, 08/10/10, , ,
laurenelhall, 08/10/10, 29/10/10, 09/06/11, , ^storkboy^ ^storkgirl^ luca & sophia 25/05/11 ^congrats^
kumuka, 08/10/10, 29/10/10, 08/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ Alice Cicely Ella 06/06/11 ^congrats^
Niknaks, 11/10/10, 29/10/10, 21/06/11, , ^babycrawl^
rjmett, 12/10/10, , 13/06/11, , ^storkboy^ Charlie Thomas 22/05/11 ^congrats^
juicy27, 12/10/10, 03/11/10, 20/06/11, , ^storkgirl^
abbybella, 13/10/10, 28/10/10, , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
Janey35, 14/10/10, 04/11/10, , ,
Helen13, 14/10/10, 04/11/10, , , ^storkboy^ ^storkboy^
debsxxx, 16/10/10, , ,
kellyjayne, 16/10/10, 05/11/10, 21/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ ^angel^
movingahead, 16/10/10, 01/11/10, ,
kateandflo, 18/10/10, , ,
WinnieThePooh, 19/10/10, 11/11/10, , , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^
sara76, 21/10/10, ,
hart2hart, 21/10/10, 10/11/10, , , ^angel^
Gribbie, 22/10/10, 18/11/10 , 29/06/11, , ^storkboy^ Daniel 11/07/11 ^congrats^
Hopeful Hazel, 22/10/10, 15/11/10, 27/06/11, , ^storkboy^
Dreamingbaby, 23/10/10, 09/11/10, ,
beccibo, 25/10/10, 18/11/10, , ,
Daisy38, , 25/11/10, 07/07/11, , ^babycrawl^
Mollieboo+Two, 29/09/10, 19/11/10, , , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^
MaisieCat, 29/10/10, 23/11/10, 04/07/11, , ^angel^
ingy, 25/10/10, 09/11/10, 04/07/11, , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^
Camilla, 29/10/10, 16/11/10, , ,
Kandykane, 31/10/10, 23/11/10, 07/07/11, , ^storkboy^ Lois 11/07/11 ^congrats^
yaya, 31/10/10, 18/11/10, 08/07/11, , ^storkboy^ ^angel^ Joseph William 20/07/11 ^congrats^
41yroldnewbie, 02/11/10, 24/11/10, 08/07/11, , ^storkboy^ James 10/07/11 ^congrats^
whitvi, 02/11/10, 18/11/10, 11/07/11, , ^angel^
donnachick, 05/11/10, , 11/07/11, , ^angel^ ^hugme^
maggymay, 05/11/10, 26/11/10, ,
jojofiftyfive, 06/11/10, 22/11/10, ,
ninamumbest, 11/11/10, 26/11/10, , , ^storkboy^ Atticus 11/07/11 ^congrats^
linnyhope, 12/11/10, 29/11/10, , , ^babycrawl^
Bidbabe, 06/10/10, 28/10/10, 13/06/11, , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^
t-star, 06/11/10, 24/11/10, 14/07/11, , ^storkboy^ Harrison Thomas 17/07/11 ^congrats^
Jenny74, 13/11/10, 30/11/10, 18/07/11, , ^storkgirl^ Abigail Lily 05/07/11 ^congrats^
Jen74, 11/11/10, 02/11/10, , ,
Pinklady, 12/11/10, 03/12/10, , ,
faith25, 18/11/10, 09/12/10, , , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^
Donnie Darko, 17/11/10, , 19/07/11, , ^storkboy^ ^baby^ 03/08/11 ^congrats^
marie10, 17/10/10, , , , ^angel^
Sue33, 23/11/10, , 28/07/11, , ^storkboy^ Jack Tomos 27/07/11 ^congrats^
aerdna, 20/11/10
bestbean,17/11/10, 01/12/10
gibs, 07/11/10, 29/11/10, 17/07/11, , ^storkboy^ Harold James 28/07/11 ^congrats^
daisy70, 29/10/10, 16/11/10, , , ^babycrawl^ ^babycrawl^
marieclare, 04/11/10, 01/12/10, 11/07/11, , ^storkboy^ Zac Benjamin 05/07/11 ^congrats^
Rachel66, /10/10, 03/12/10, , , ^babycrawl^
DaisyF, 11/09/10, 27/09/10, , , ^babycrawl^
Torby, 06/12/10, 29/12/10, , , ^angel^ ^hugme^
Hola, /07/10, ,18/04/2011, , ^storkboy^ Frederik 26/03/11 ^congrats^
bubblicous, 23/08/10, 15/09/10, 02/05/11, , ^storkboy^ Ruaridh William McEwan 11/5/11 ^congrats^
Martine, 22/10/10, 11/02/11, 25/06/11, , ^storkgirl^ Lauren Kendra 03/07/11 ^congrats^
smallredsock, , , 13/07/11, , ^storkgirl^ Charlotte Jennifer 19/07/11 ^congrats^

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#3 ·
Maireclaire - I am with you on the inattentive husband. Mine is somewhat still very unsure/against the donor sperm aspect, although he does seem a little warmer than ice about the baby as we are getting closer.
I did ask him to feel the baby kick the other night and got the total brush off. I think he has finally decided that he might have to be at the birth - but he is so busy with his business this is touch and go. He did ask to see my scan picture from Wednesday and being ok about the decorating of the nursery so I guess I have to be thankful for the little I can get.

For those using bio oil - do you think it works? I haven't used anything on my belly at all - I think I half heartedly applied cocoa butter 3 times, but I have not got any stretch marks. My mw says you are genetically at risk of them or if you put on rapid amounts of weight. Diet and hydration just as likely to help. I am not sure about all these creams and oils.
 
#4 ·
Hi ladies

Carrie -  few tightenings earlier with pressure down below but nothing much since. 

Natee -  thanks for the info,  will look her up tomorrow.  Been doing the hand one all day every time I sat down. Just off to bed so will get dh to do ankle again.

Have been speaking to a reflexologist today and will have a couple of sessions with her next week if nothing happened by Sunday.

Really tired tonight so hope to get good couple of hours sleep before the toilet trips start.
 
#6 ·
Poohbear  Congratulations ofn the safe arrival of Trinity.  What a lovely name.  ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^congrats^ ^clapping^ ^clapping^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^

Squidgley
 
#7 ·
Pooh bear - Congrats on your arrival  :) and what a beautiful name, hope to see a pic too.

Marie - I have had similar on and off with my dh too, and what with the hormones I have ended up in  :'( saying a cuddle is all I want not hot steamy sessions. DH said he didnt realise and was scared of hurting me/baby, but slipped back a few times, so I have had to raise it. Can you try this?

Hazel - I have the breast pads but they are only good in a bra as they dont stay put on clothes or nighties so was hoping someone had an engenious idea or trick  :(
I use bio oil. Tend to put it on after a bath and infrequently now and then. I have a few white stretch marks but my mum/sis had horrible marks so think it may be in the genes  :( ah well never mind. If you havent got any or are not bothered then dont worry.
Think I am allergic to the coconut oil as I itch like mad for hours after it so stopped using it.
 
#8 ·
Morning all,

Pooh Bear - Congratulations!! ^itsagirl^ ^congrats^ ^congrats^ - wonderful to hear your news, and what a lovely name. Hope you're doing OK ^hugme^

beckyb - good you've spoken to the reflexologist just in case nothing happens before next week, always good to have some ideas up your sleeve! Hope you don't need it though ^reiki^

Hazel - personally I'm pretty unconvinced about preventing stretch marks using creams etc., I think you either get them or you don't! Bio oil etc are supposed to be good for making them fade more quickly though. I've not got any yet, and have been putting cocoa butter on my bump fairly regularly, but mainly because I've had such dry skin! I think it's just luck... Glad you're getting some interest from dh about LO, but a bit of a shame you're still not 100% that he'll be at the birth - have you got someone else who can be there with you if he isn't there? ^hugme^

marieclaire - sorry to hear your dh isn't very interested either ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ . Has he been like this throughout the pregnancy or is it just recently? Wondering if he's a bit scared and this is his way of dealing with it? If you're really keen on the active birth and don't think he'll be a supportive birthing partner, have you considered a doula? My friend's dh is really uncomfortable with pregnancy, he has a lot of issues about it, and so she knew she had no chance of getting him involved in the birth, and hired a doula instead - she said it was fabulous and she felt so reassured to have someone incredibly informed advocating for her throughout. He's a really lovely dad by the way, just can't deal with pregnancy ::) ::)

Kandy - ah, didn't realise you had another hospital option! That's really good, I'm glad you've got somewhere you're comfortable with. I know what you mean about personal issues with hospitals - I wouldn't go near jimmy's, but am happy with lgi! As long as I don't need a section I think lgi will be great for me, especially if I can have a waterbirth - and thanks for the parking tips! Glad you've made your decision about the section too - you do sound valuable enough that your clients are unlikely to drop you just like that I hope!

carrie lou - glad MIL may have finally got the message to back off a bit! That would drive me completely ^idiot^ ^idiot^ . Sounds like you're really getting there, hang in there it won't be long now ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^

JWTBAM - great to hear that you might know your LO's birthday soon! ^reiki^

donnie darko - glad the hypnobirthing class is going well, but don't envy you having to move house soon - I can't think of anything worse right now! I guess you'll have to sit back and give orders while everyone else carries things ;D ;D

Sue - ^hugme^ ^hugme^ for the lack of movement, that must be so worrying for you. If they don't want you to go back when you've had less than 10 movements, when do they want you to go in?! I'm kinda surprised they're happy with that! Really hoping LO starts doing a jig for you soon ^reiki^ . As for the leaky (.)(.), not something I've experienced yet I'm afraid! Pads and a sleep bra sound like a good idea?

T-star - oh you poor thing, crying at the thought of another night with no sleep, that's not a good sign is it! Glad you did get some sleep with all those pillows - it's getting ridiculous the amount we need in bed isn't it - think DH is going to be pushed out of the bed soon! Lovely to hear all was fine at your scan, and good you didn't have to wait long for it ^hugme^

squidgely - great to have those dates booked in, it'll all be happening for you soon! ^reiki^ ^reiki^

Nattee - glad the second sweep was much better, and great to get all that acu done as well ^reiki^

mummyt - great that LO is head down now - what did you do to make him/her move?

kumuka - ^hugme^ ^hugme^ for the carpal tunnel and spd - ouch! Definitely make it easy on yourself for meals - do some online shopping and get some ready meals in that freezer! If you choose carefully there's still some healthy options out there.

Astral - glad the nursery is coming together now, sounds like you got some bargains there!

Liz - you're right, I should sound out our favourite taxi firm and see how they think their drivers might react to a woman in labour! Definitely going to get some of those mattress protectors too. Glad you're not worried about the 'missing' head - how ridiculous! ;D ;D

yaya - glad the scan went well and all is fine - great news! Eek to the idea of giving birth in the back of a taxi :eek: what a thought!

Hello to everyone else!

Well the weekend has just started for me, as I'm not working any more Fridays now! 3 day weeks for the next 2 weeks, then a couple of 2 day weeks, then finally mat leave. Of course that means I woke up at 5:30, but at least I can try and get a nap later on! Will see if I have the energy to go to aquanatal today too, as pregnancy pilates was cancelled last night.

Bit of social life advice needed ;D - we've been invited to the evening do of a wedding in August, about 4 weeks after LO is due. It's just over an hour's drive to get there, and it would mean a lot to us both to be able to go (it's the wedding of my friend who introduced me to DH in the first place!). Do you think it's feasible, or am I being foolishly optimistic to even contemplate it? I've not got much experience of very young babies, so I'm not sure how things will be! DH has also been invited to the stag do in edinburgh - we're currently 'negotiating' about that one... ;D ;D
x
 
#9 ·
Pooh bear - congratulations on the arrival of Trinity!  ^pinkted^ ^congrats^ ^itsagirl^ I hope you and baby are doing well ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^


Hazel - I use bio oil occasionally but am quite bad about remembering to apply it :-\ However, I have only got a very few stretch marks on my legs and none at all on my tummy - my mum said she didn't get any either when she was pregnant so I think it is very much a genetic thing. Not sure if creams, oils etc make any difference really, but perhaps make them fade a bit faster afterwards? Good to hear that your DH is a little more involved now.


Marieclaire - sorry to hear your DH is being a bit distant ^hugme^ I think sometimes it is hard for men to feel involved or to know what to do, because they are a bit removed from the situation. I hope you can talk to him and get the support you need ^hugme^


Gibs - how nice that you are starting to wind down towards mat leave! Enjoy your time off. With regard to the wedding - it's tricky because you are obviously keen to go - but if LO is late, he/she might be even younger than 4 weeks. Personally I would be very unsure about going, mainly because I would lack the confidence being out and about with such a tiny baby. But then you might be lucky and have a really easy dream baby and it might all be fine! Sorry I know this isn't very helpful!


Becky - hope things start happening soon ^reiki^ I'm the same, have had lots of tightenings, sometimes quite regular, but then they seem to fade away to nothing :mad: Very frustrating
 
#10 ·
Pooh bear - congratulations on the birth of Trinity! Beautiful name, great to hear you're back home, hope you're all doing well  ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^itsagirl^ xx

Marieclaire - You are definitely not alone, I'm having similar issues with my dh. On the one hand he is an amazing help and support - he does so much for me now, all the fetching and carrying and washing up and some of the housework ;) , cooks dinner, gets me comfy in bed and arranges all my pillows, holds my hand and comforts me when I cry and get down..all the things I need him to do. But on the other hand he's pretty distant and I don't think he's connecting with the baby at all. He doesn't like to touch my belly especially when baby is moving, he hates looking when my belly moves, he says it freaks him out. He wouldn't dream of giving me a foot rub or getting involved with acupressure or massage in any way, there's no way in hell he'd read anything or be interested in something like hypnotherapy. We start NCT classes on Monday and he's really dragging his heels, he has trouble with his work in that its his business and if he's got an installation of a job or one of his clients needs him then that gets priority over me or a class. We joke a lot that he'll be doing an installation when I'm in labour...it is a joke but we both know there's a bit of truth in it too. We haven't had any nookie the whole time I've been pregnant and now he barely cuddles up in bed, I have to ask him for a cuddle. I miss the intimacy and I know he does but I guess he's not finding me all that attractive at the moment! When he was tired the other day after working a couple of 20 hour days he said to me that he didn't think we had a connection at the moment which hurt soooooo bad, I was in pieces, I couldn't believe he would say such a thing just when I'm feeling so vulnerable. He apologised the next day and said he was just feeling tired and distant and stressed about work. No excuse if you ask me, but anyway, I don't have the energy to shout and scream at the moment. I'm just hoping he gets a bit more involved when the time comes, I'm sure he's going to be an amazing dad and he'll be brilliant when the baby comes but its hard to deal with now when emotions and hormones are so full on. I have no idea how he'll be when I'm in labour and I have considered getting a doula, not sure yet what to do.
I hope you're ok and not too upset, and we all need a rant sometimes, sorry about mine too! Its great to be able to get it out to lots of ladies who know how you're feeling, and you're definitely not alone! xx
 
#11 ·
t-star  ^hugme^

Sue - Mothercare do a wrap over sleep bra. Also have you put a towel across where your chest is at night. I guess we are all going to have to come up with a solution as I gather everything is covered in milk once baby is here, and stale milk smells quite nasty.

Pooh Bear - it was late last night when I moved on to the new thread

^fairydust^ ^pinkted^ ^fairydust^ ^clapping^ ^jumpin^ ^congrats^
 
#12 ·
MANY CONGRATS ON THE ARRIVAL TRINITY POOH BEAR  ^storkgirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^congrats^ ^clapping^ ^clapping^ ^clapping^ ^clapping^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^banana^

KANDYKANE. i have been told the sickness will leave me as soon as the baby does. I cant wait. My mom was the same and she said she was vominting all through labour but it stopped as soon as she'd given birth. Amazing. The consultant assures me this is true too!

I have been using bio oil. Have to say i have always believed its in the genes and if you're gonna get stretch marks you're gonna get them! I have also heard its genetic and my mom suffered with them really badly so i expcted to. Well ive done a wooping 3+ stone and not a mark in sight yet so maybe there is some truth in these things working?!

Sorry for lack of peronals. Feeling oh so sick  :(

Love to all xxx
 
#13 ·
thanks so much for all the thoughts on dh.

hazel glad your dh is warming up a bit but it must still be hard.
I felt a bit guilty after I posted as he came to bed and asked how the baby was and also asked if we could dopple  ^eyes^  I might have been a bit harsh on him maybe I'm feeling over sensitive. He obviously is very much interested in the baby just not so much in me which is what I'm finding difficult. ^eyes^ Its hard for him as he has his 2 kids to deal with too who are quite demanding and a lot of pressure at work so I think maybe he's just worn out and doesn't have much left for me atm. I am very lucky in lots of ways as he is excellent on the practical side, eg has organised all the decorating / decluttering and doesnt need nagging for anything like that.

Sue thanks for the advice we have a week off together coming up so I am going to hold on until then and if it doesnt improve I will clearly raise it.

gibs I think he would be genuinely upset if I suggested using a doula instead, I did try to hint in this direction hoping it would make him pull his socks up a bit, I said if he really throught it was  all new age rubbish I needed to know but left the rest hanging... We have NHS antenatal next week so I'm hoping if they discuss active birth this will open his eyes a bit - I think maybe a lot has changed since his kids were born and he just needs to hear it from a professional.

tstar your husband sounds very similar to mine thanks so much for telling me about him. Its difficult reading all the positive stories I felt I might be the only one having issues. I know exactly how you feel in that mine is very very helpful in terms of practical things, making arrangements, doing housework, I couldnt ask for more. but any sort of intimacy is a no-no. I've just thought maybe our men are keeping their distance on purpose as they've not had any action for many months maybe its just easier for them to stay away incase cuddles lead to erm... discomfort iykwim  :-\ ;)

Sorry to hear you got upset, I have had a little cry too when I literally had to nag for a tiny cuddle - it doesnt make you feel great but I dont think they are doing it on purpose. I hope the NCT opens his eyes and you can feel a bit more confident.  ^hugme^

Gibs On the wedding I'm not too sure, is LO invited too? If so and its in a hotel or similar where you would have your own room I would be tempted to go and play it by ear. LO may sleep through but if not you can retreat to your room for any issues. Even if no room you could go and have the option to leave if things get tough

On bio oil I'm using the palmers cream after each shower and I don't have any marks yet but my mum said she didn't have any. Saying that she doesn't have cellulite either but I ended up with that so I'm not convinced I am safe!!

Becky hope you got a good sleep
 
#15 ·
Pooh Bear - Congratulations! What an absolutely gorgeous name. XXXXX

Sue - For keeping breast pads in place without a bra I use micropore tape and tape the pads to my boob. Micropore is really cheap and doesn't cause allergies. I find it works really well.  :)  Started doing it in hospital as I hate wearing a bra when I'm not out and about.

Love to everyone. XXXXX
 
#16 ·
Good Morning Beautiful Ladies,

PoohBear -  ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^congrats^ ^itsagirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^itsagirl^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^clapping^ ^clapping^ ^clapping^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^banana^ ^rainbow^ ^rainbow^ ^rainbow^ ^rainbow^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ ^pinkted^ On the Birth of your Daughter Trinity, really thrilled for you and what a beautiful name!  Hope you are all well, thinking of you and sending a universe of love and  ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ and  :-* :-* :-* :-* mmmwwwaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh

I'm sorry I haven't really had much chance to catch up properly, I love and think of you all xxx  ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^

Well Recovery from c-section is going great, mine was done with stitches on the inside, part of scar has come open, the district nurse came on Wednesday and patched me up, she should be here any time now to come and check on me! there is no infection so it should heal fine!  I have no support or help at all, I've found it quite hard, but i've managed, felt a little bit of a failure on a couple of occasions, reading Ed his bedtime story and night lullaby (morningtown ridem done this since he was born and works everytime!) Lily woke, as DH couldn't pick her up she screames and I had to try and explain to Ed that I had to get Lily, resuilting in him crying too, I felt terrible.  Ed is really getting into the big brother role, asking lots of questions, he's needing lots of reassurance which is really lovely and were having some really wonderful quality time when lily is asleep (which is alot)  Lily is feeding every 4 hours and sleeping inbetween, at night she sleeps 4,5 or sometimes 6 hours! so feel refreshed ina morning, got into a great routine which touch wood is working well.  Still not heard or seen anything from my family, they didn't even bother for Ed's birthday, I was furious.

Anyway, I must go as the district nurse is here to check me over!

Wishing you all a universe of love and kind wishes and  ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^


Mandy xxxxxxxxxx  ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^
 
#17 ·
ah nattee - gentle  ^hugme^  you poorly girl, not long now hopefully  ^reiki^  great news the nausea stops on giving birth - I can't wait and I bet you can't either!!

pooh bear -  ^pinkted^ ^clapping^ ^banana^ ^jumpin^ ^Exercise!2^ ^itsagirl^ ^bundle^ ^pompom^ spin ^congrats^  so pleased for you!!

gibs - if you go to the aquanatal at kirkstall the mw who runs it is lovely. i can't go today cause of work but will be going next week, might see you there!

on the bio oil debate, i don't really know for sure but what i do know is my mum and my sister both got horrendous stretchmarks (my sister's were awful bless her), plus i have stretchmarks (boobs, hips *and* thighs!) from puberty so i thought i would get them in pregnancy too. but i'm completely clear (so far!) and have been slathering bio oil on every night and some mornings since about 12 weeks. having said that i do drink lots of fluids and i also haven't put lots of weight on (about 9 kg) cause i've been throwing up a lot  :-\  so maybe that's why and it's nothing to do with the bio oil?  :-\  apart from anything else it definitely does help with the itching though  :)

on the whole dp/dh thing, mine is a funny one too. on the positive side: he's very excited about the baby now and has started buying toys and planning trips out with our little man  ::)  the 3D scan really helped with that i think. he also still wants lots of sex (but he's always been a bit of a nympho tbh  ;D ) and is now more understanding of the fact i don't always. he also does more fetching and carrying at home. on the negative side: he has been doing a lot more going out and boozing, expecting me to run a taxi service for him and scrape him off the floor then look after his hangover the next day, been spending more time with his mates and less time with me. we had a date to go to the pictures yesterday and he just said he couldn't be bothered and got himself a chinese instead (which I couldn't eat)  :( . he also still expects me to walk our two large dogs alone when he decides at the last minute to go to the pub after work instead of helping me with them (one of them is 40kg and has poor back legs so has to be lifted into the boot). he's also done f*** all DIY despite telling everyone he's really busy with it!!! I have cleared out the spare room, decorated it to be a nursery, put up the cot, redecorated and recarpeted the bathroom, redecorated the kitchen, replaced the bed in our room and rearranged it to make space for baby plus a dozen smaller tasks like hemming curtains etc and the usual laundry, cooking and floor scrubbing. he has done an afternoon's gardening and painted for an hour  :mad: . to top it all he has last week told me he might not be able to cope with labour "it's alright for you, you're the one doing it, I have to support you"  ^idiot^ ^idiot^  to be fair he is terrified of hospitals - clammy hands dizzy spells, the lot, but still!! so i drafted in my sister to come along too and we're both happier now, he doesn't feel as 'pressured' and i know i won't be left alone  :) . men eh? having said all that i love him dearly and he works very hard for us. i think he might be getting a bit frightened about how his life is going to change so much. just can't wait for this baby to arrive now really!

ok must get on - work is calling!

kandy  :-*
 
#18 ·
Pooh bear, congratulations!  ^pinkted^ Post some pictures when you get a chance please  :)

Natee, sorry you're still so sick  :( I really hope things kick off for you very soon. Have you finished working yet? I'd always though the same as you, stretch marks are genetic and if you're going to get them there's nothing you can do. I was sure I'd get them as 2 babies and already have some on the backs of my legs, no idea why! But I was given some really nice oils and creams at Christmas and have been using them regularly and no stretch marks (yet)! The way this pair are still growing I could get some still though...  ::)

Marieclare, sounds like he does have a lot on at the moment with work and his family. It's great that he does so much around the house but sometimes we just need some comfort. I think it's better to talk about these things, anytime I've been annoyed with DH and not spoken to him it has festered until we do discuss it, then it turns out to be misunderstanding/crossed wires and could easily have been avoided (hope that sentence makes sense!) If you explain how you feel I'm sure he'll take it on board.

Gibbs, could you explain to you friends that you'd love to come and that you hope you'll be able to but you'll need to wait an see how LO is when he/she arrives. I don't have huge experience of tiny babies either but from friends experiences/stories some are much easier and more settled than others. Some people seem able to bring their babies anywhere and they're quite happy and other babies are very unsettled which would make that trip a nightmare. I'm sure your friends would understand and cope with a late response from you.

CarrieLou and Becky, I'm the same, keep getting period pains, really uncomfortable tightenings and lower back cramps and getting excited thinking this could be it and then it all goes away again. So frustrating! Hope things get going properly for you both.

Hazel and t-star,  ^hugme^ sounds like most people are having some DH issues, I think they can't fully understand what we're going through physically and emotionally and we're not sure what they're going through in adjusting mentally to becoming parents and it can cause tensions. When it comes to the birth I'm sure they'll both be there, regardless of work.

Sue, hope your movements become more regular. Doesn't sound like you're getting great support from hospital.

AFM, I had such a bad day yesterday, hardly slept then was so sore all day I could hardly stop crying, poor DH wasn't sure what to do! Both babies are head down with their feet high in my rib area and anytime either moves it's agony. I was really thinking I can't cope with another week and half of this. BUT had a bit more sleep and feel much more positive today  :) I'm really trying not to be ungrateful, I know how lucky I am and this time last year would have given anything to be in this position. Sometimes it's hard to focus properly on that though. Also, I've had it in my head all the way through that they'd come early so now I need to adjust to being pregnant for longer than expected. Only 10 more sleeps to go till I meet them!

Hope everyone else is well xxx
 
#19 ·
Kandy, our posts crossed, wow I cannot believe how much you've done around the house! I feel so inadequate!  ;D Seems like maybe he's just making the most of being able to go out because he knows when the baby arrives he'll not be off to the pub nearly as often. And I kind of understand where he's coming from with the birth, I think men can feel very helpless as we're in pain and they can't do much about it. He's not put it very well though!!! xxx
 
#20 ·
^pompom^ ^congrats^ ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ ^storkgirl^ ^congrats^ ^pompom^




Congratulations on the safe arrival of baby Trinity, Pooh Bear.  Fantastic news.


MClare  ^hugme^


Max is just gorgeous - but no free hands.  love reading everyone's news though xx
 
#21 ·
congratulation pooh bear all the best xoxox ^pinkted^ ^congrats^
 
#22 ·
pooh bear congrats on the birth of your baby girl trinity
 
#23 ·
Carole - Think I have a lazy man inside - just like his dad  ;D ;D - but would be nice if he did improve. Think he has turned backwards as I feel a dig in my spine now and again today - ouch  :'(

Kandy - Could he be trying to get the last bit of partying out of the way before he has to a) be sober 100% incase you go into labour? and b) before bubba comes and nights out are athing of the past?
Have you had a word? Maybe he doesnt realise how selfish he is! Am I cluthcing at straws or is this a man thing?  ;D ::)

Hazel - Oh wow a wrap around, I will look at that. When you first start leaking its not like milk, its brown and stains the sheets and bed covers. I tried using beige and brown ones but even they stained. It does come out in the wash though. Its just a pain to keep changing the sheets every 5 mins! I hate wearing a bra if I dont have to, especially the size they are now!  :eek:

Dax - Thats ingenious thanks, I too dont like wearing anything if I dont have to! Are you leaking a lot? If you dont mind me asking?

Mandy - Oh hun  ^hugme^ is dh any better? how long has it been? Hope your scar heals well hun, but try and take it easy.
Have you heard from FS?

MC - Hope the week off works for you hun. I miss cuddles and dh has been very attentive so think he must have had red burning ears  ;D ;D

AFM - Movement a little more but not 100%, still using the doppler and see the mw next week, so hopefully as she is nice I will get somewhere! Well we can all live in hope  ::)

Sue
 
#24 ·
pooh bear - congrats on baby trinity  ^pinkted^ ^storkgirl^


mandy - sending you lots and lots of  ^hugme^ ^hugme^  thats great lily is getting into a little routine





everyone else - i am ready daily just not getting much of a chance to post




afm - im just loving my boy to bits im lucky that he sleeps really well at night normally 6 hours unbroken sleep he feed alot durring the day and i do now and again just feel like a boob  ;D  but its brilliant and i wouldnt change it dh doesnt like the fact he cant feed him but i have said once he hits 6 weeks i will express and dh can do some feeding then but i want him to be well established before i do this


sending you all lots of  ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^

 
#25 ·
Pooh bear - congratulations on new arrival Trinity, lovely and unusual name ^pinkted^ ^itsagirl^

Thanks everybody who posted recounting positive experiences with caesarian sections, it really helps! :)

Also everybody who made suggestions on stocking the freezer, I think I will send DH out to the supermarket to get healthy ready made meals, low in salts etc Not pizza and chicken korma!

Sorry to hear about other halfs not always being up to scratch, mine likes to feel lo's movements, kiss and talk to my tummy, does most of housework, and is generally good with working out equipment, but does not read up what to do when baby's here, so I'm boning up on breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and is very laid back about when lo's here.

Hello to everybody

k xx ^wave^
 
#26 ·
carole, sue - yes he is definitely getting in all the booze and partying possible before his life changes, just frustrating that mine changed 8 months ago and he is only now understanding how it feels to not be able to do just any old thing you want to do! he wasn't very understanding of my feelings at the start and now he's feeling similar to how i did he thinks his feelings are unique!  ::)  plus it doesn't help me feel less lonely when he's out so often leaving me to manage alone. we have talked about it (like i said I'm a very upfront kinda gal  ;) ) i know it won't be like this when LO arrives as he's already said he wants to be fully involved and share the childcare, particularly when i have lots of work on. i was just unloading really and trying to reassure hazel/marieclaire etc that they're not alone with odd dps.

bubs - loving your new family photo  :)

carole - i also try very very hard not to be ungrateful. i keep thinking of other ladies who would give their right arm to feel as crappy as i do if it meant they were pg, and also of the ladies who started this thread with us but now have angelbabies. we are so very very lucky to have come this far and i try to remember that when i feel rough  ^reiki^  :)
 
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