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Pregnancy and Parenting After Infertility - Donor Recipients - Part 22

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Here's a shining new thread for all the Pregnancy and Parenting chat.

Happy chatting ladies!

Please use the bookmark tools at the top if you don't have any chat to post at the moment as we don't want lots of ''just bookmarking'' posts please.
 
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Please post any additions/changes and I will edit the page.......

Name                              DS/DE/Both            EDD or Birthday                Flavour/Name/Weight

ceci.bee                          DS ICSI                  EDD 11/04/11                    Joshua 6lbs 4oz

juju81                              DS IUI                    born 17/03/10                  Noah  Alfie  6lb 0.5oz

HellyS                              DS IVF                    born 28/10/08                  Emily    4lb 8oz 

Ju2006                            DS IVF                      born 29/09/07                  Girl        8lbs 2.5oz
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teresal                            DS IVF                    born 06/08/10                  Meredith Emma  6lb

Mighty Mini                      DS IVF                    born 05/07/10                  Lucas  Edward    6lb 7oz

pinkcat                            DS  IVF                  born 03/07/10                  Joshua  8lb 5oz

Fizzypop                          DS FET                  EDD 29/08/11                     

carrie lou                          DS IUI                    EDD 26/05/11                      Zachary Stephen 7lb 7oz

pippilongstockings            DS  IUI                    born 09/10/07                    Luke      7lb 11oz
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ALF                                  DS  FET                    born  May 08                      Girl    9lb 5.5oz

margesimpson                DS IUI                    born  June  2010                Boy 8lb 2oz

snoopygirl79                    DS  ICSI                  born 05/05/09                  Maisie  5lb 8oz  and
                                                                                                                    Chloe    4lb 13oz

Mistletoe (Holly)                DS ICSI                    born 21/06/11                  Charley 7lbs 14oz                   

Chrispx                            DS IUI                    born 21/01/11                    Girl 5lb 10oz

Northernmonkey              DS IUI                    born 28/04/07                    Girl 7lb 14oz
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Paws 18                          DS IUI                    born 17/03/10                    Boy 7lbs. 

Suze                                DS ICSI                  born 19/12/09                    Libby Pauline 6lb

Speeder                            DS IUI                    born Sep 09                        Little Speeder - Girl
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JanaH                              DS IVF                    born 25/05/11                    Joseph 8lbs 2oz

Sweetdreams73              DIVF                      born 18/08/11                      ID twins Matthew 3lbs 6oz
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Amandaloo                      DIVF                      born 04/07/11                      Noah 7lbs 13oz
 
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Just bookmarking















;D sorry mistletoe couldn't resist!!!

Glad everything's ok Phoebs! U wait til u have an internal when in labour! I needed as and air for mine  :eek:
 
#5 ·
Juju  ^bigbad^
 
#6 ·
Pheobs - Glad you got checked and sorted out. x
 
#8 ·
Cupcake ^idiot^ Enjoying labour? ;D


I was induced so it was a bit of a different experience for me. I was transferred to labour ward having pretty mild pains, they didn't believe I was actually in labour cos they said the pains weren't strong enough - but when they examined me I was 4cm already ::)
 
#9 ·
Loose goose  ;D ;D ;D ;D  thats what I am now  ;D ;D ;D ;D  Oh I knew I was in labour, I had contractions 1min apart 15 mins after my waters broke and do you know they werent doing anything  ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^  I didnt start dilating for about 14hours after  ^bigbad^ ^bigbad^  I'd like a cupcake/mini labour next time  ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
 
#11 ·
Sounds like you had a really easy labour Cupcake - you were obviously made for the job! Sadly many others don't fair so well.

My cousin's baby ''fell out'' when she put her leg up to get on the ambulance trolley. She had a few twinges, but did not think anything was happening. When she did realise, only after about an hour, she called an ambulance and the baby made an appearance, just like that.

Wish it was always so easy.

I did not even try as being over 40 I was told my risks of a complicated labour ending in an emergency c section were very high. Did not want to take the risk.
 
#12 ·
Thanks for all your support. I'm still not convinced. Used the pesserie Friday night. Went out for lunch yesterday and I was soaking. Big wet patch on my knickers. I've emailed my clinic, they are usually there on a Sunday and the consultant is amazing. The more I think about Friday night, the less happy I am. Firstly the young doctor came in and said was going to do the speculum but because of my place fa she was getting her superior to supervise. Next thing she is back on her own and does if with the midwife. Then when she finished she said she needed to discuss it with someone. The midwife told me that it was slightly creamy in there but very very watery so they weren't sure.  She said usually when we aren't sure we treat you as if if is your waters. So she left and I went to the loomand could see the doctor on the phone. Next thing midwife comes in and says there we go take this pesserie tonight, you're fine to go. I said is it ok to go for lunch tomorrow, she said yes cRry on as normal ifs just a discharge. She asked when my next scan was, I said 2 weeks and she said fine enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and I was out the door.
Any thoughts? I know they should know what they are doing but it doesn't gve me confidence when everyone I see says a different thing. For example a few hospital midwives and consultants have said the baby is breech and my community midwife keeps tellin mr his head is down? The consultant at my clinic said it should deff be a c section after looking at my placenta on the scans and then in the nhs hospital they tell me oh it will probably be fine!

Just waiting for my clinic to get back to me xxx
 
#13 ·
Pheobs it does sound very confusing. I'm by no means an expert on these things but I do know the placenta can move up and out of the way so they will be able to check this on the scan, and then make a decision whether c-section or not. They will also be able to tell then if baby is breech or head down. At 31 weeks there is still plenty of time for baby to change position so I wouldn't get too hung up on that for now.


As far as the discharge goes, I'm not sure - but if you are still worried and still leaking, then don't ignore it. Hope the clinic get back to you soon ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^
 
#14 ·
Phoebs - it does sound like you are getting lots of conflicting advice.
At least you have a scan booked, but like Carrie says, don't ignore it. Do keep an eye on your temperature and the baby's movements. I think you should go back and ask to see the obstetrician and not one of his registrars.

I was very wet in pregnancy and I think it is fairly common. I also used to have a problem with leaky bladder. After I went to toilet when I stood up urine would gush again. I learnt to roll up some paper and hold it in place while I stood up.
 
#15 ·
Thanks holly, I've had that with wee for a while, so I know that this is different. It doesn't smell like wee and they even told me it's watery/water like. Going with DH this morning to get everything for my hospital bag as I'm a big jittery now! If it's the same today and my clinic haven't got back to me I will ring the hospital again xxx
 
#16 ·
Phoebs hun  ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^ ^hugme^  sorry to hear this is still worrying you hun. When you next go in, insist on seeing a consultant - you are totally entitled to see one, as other doctors are all in training and not qualified specialists yet, and if you are worried you need to see a specialist. At 31 weeks Carrie is totally right, your LO can move all over the place - I was in hospital with one woman who they could not decide if to CS or not, as her baby was breech one minute and head down the next - just not engaged, and in the end she insisted on seeing the consultant and requesting a section, which she got, and her baby had the cord around its neck which is why it could not engage- she was right to insist and you are the advocate for your LO and your health, and sadly you need to push things sometimes. Your placenta can also move lots, and I would expect they would not make a decision about a section until a bit later in the pg - usually after 32 weeks or so.....thinking of you and hope they can sort you out and reduce your anxiety.

Am amazed at the discussion about enjoying labour - am sad missed out on the experience  :(  maybe with \2 if we get that lucky - I didn't think that pushing a football through your cervix and vulva would be 'enjoyable', although the end result obviously is  :)

cupcake it is so nice to see you posting here as a happy mummy  :)  so pleased it has all worked out for you hun

lots of love to all
Ceci :-*

Am amazsed
 
#18 ·
I was quite happy not to feel that bit :-[ I think cos I was induced and had my waters broken, the pain went from "totally bearable, I can breathe through this perfectly fine", to "OMG this is the worst pain of my life" in the space of about 30 minutes :-\ so I asked for an epidural and it was the best thing ever ;D


Pheobs - hope you get some answers ^hugme^
 
#19 ·
Hiya, thanks again for all your support. Well I read my notes last night and funnily enough they don't reflect what I was told or what happened?? The consultant from my clinic got back to me and she said it sounds like my waters to her, she said I need a scan ASAP and even if amount of fluid looks ok it could still be waters and they can use special sticks/strips to see if it's amniotic fluid. So don't know what to do. Not seeing my consultant until a week Thursday, can I just ring antenatal clinic and see if he has any appointments today? Xxx
 
#20 ·
pheobs you must do what makes you feel better hun. i had a lot of wetness and lucacites in my urine so had swabs and checks and was nothing. hope you get a reassurance scan.

cupcake love that you enjoyed labour.

have a friend popping over for baby in a bit but wanted to catch up. addi asleep in her swing. didnt realise how much you had all been chatting lol.

ju cant believe youve decided to go again, then youre lucky youre young. guess we'll have to make our decision in next few months. im thinking no at mo but.....
 
#21 ·
Pheobs - if you are being fobbed off by the midwives, present yourself at A&E and get a scan once and for all. I'm pretty sure they can't send you away without treating you? We had a day assessment unit at our hospital wonder if yours has that too? Or what about finding a private clinic near you and paying for a scan? Makes me sooo mad that no-one is listening to you  ^bigbad^

I know what you mean about the notes, that was one of my biggest bugbears and I ended up throwing a massive strop in the midwifes room about it!!
 
#22 ·
Morning all


Loving all the labour stories. Best part of my second one was no internals cos we had no midwife - just my dh, mum and sister and a couple of paramedics who hid in my kitchen  ;D  Not sure whether I'll go for a home birth this time. It was perfect with dd#2 but I'm not sure if it would be as easy logistically with 2 other kids to sort out. Then again if it happens as quickly again I might not have any choice!


Phoebs - Have you had your swab results yet? I remember when I was around 35 weeks pg I woke up one morning and thought I'd wet myself. I'd slept with knickers on and they were soaked, but actually round the back half way up my butt cheeks. I realised it wasn't urine and assumed it was just watery discharge. Fast forward to about 6 weeks after baby was born and it started again. A swab identified group b strep which doesn't usually cause symptoms but in my case had. I actually passed it on to dd during labour(that was only discovered when her belly button failed to heal around the same time I had my swab.). So I would perhaps ask them to check you for that.  Hope you get sorted soon, sounds as though you've been given the runaround.


Having a nightmare time here. Since dd#2 had chickenpox she seems so run down and has had every virus going. I think she's getting her molars too so is a complete misery to be blunt! She's having screaming fits but refuses to be comforted so ends up rolling about the floor in a temper or throwing things around... She is quite temperemental at the best of times but she's really upped the intensity! Her big sister is a complete angel, so placid and sweet natured so it's all a bit of a shock to me!! I shouldn't be totally surprised cos my dad and I have awful tempers so I guess one of the kids had to inherit it! 


Juju- when's the open evening? I'm so excited for you. If they can get me pg first time aged 38 you'll have no problem! If you forget our cancelled cycle and the hycosy which you hopefully won't need, it cost us about £1200 in all so that might give you some idea of how much you need.


Hak- good to hear from you, hope you're well.  ^hugme^
 
#23 ·
Hi everyone, sorry for the me post but I'm still a bit knakered
The consultant from my clinic got back to us and she said it sounded like my waters and to get seen and a scan ASAP. I phoned antenatal because my consultants registra had clinic yesterday and they said they couldn't fit me in, but ten minutes later the labour ward phoned me and told me to come in. I saw my registra, he took another look (ehww) and it wasn't so wet yesterday, but he said from my description there was enough eveidence to suggest it was my waters. He didn't take another swab as results we're back from Fridays yet. They sent me for a scan and there looks like there is still a nice amoun of fluid around the baby. So he said as it wasn't as bad for the last two days, he sent me home and I'm to go straight back in if it gets heavier again.
So I'm pooped today!
Also bit miffed because I have an appointment for a scan for my placenta in a week and a half and seeing specialist in previa straight after. The sonographer who scanned me said it hadn't moved at all and took it upon herself to cancel my appointment and make it for 6 weeks time grrr! I knew they were going to keep pushing it, but it hasn't moved a milimetre since they picked it uo at 17 weeks. Also just to be extra awkward he is breech at the minute - I know there is time to move, but his head is under my boobs and feet down by my placenta. I think he's probably been there the whole time and the student midwife just made a mistake thinking he was head down.

Well going to enjoy my day in bed. Will do personals later xxx
 
#24 ·
Just a quickie, am on phone in car.

Pheobs - glad you're getting somewhere at last. Take it easy.  ^hugme^

Cupcake - scan 1.30 today!!
 
#25 ·
Good luck NM for scan xxx
 
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