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Offline mierran

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« Reply #20 on: 26/09/14, 03:00 »
Hi,
your son looks happy and relaxed because he no longer has to put up with going to school. Look back on your diary and talk to him and you will remind yourself that he wasn't settling at school.

keep up home ed meets but remember that we are all different. Some people are more self contained and need less interaction with others. So see what works for you longer term. It may be that going every 2nd week suits you with something else eg a playdate with another family during the other week. And remember he will get lots of socialisation talking to folk at the shops, going for cuppas, going to museums etc. Don't be too ridged in your perception of socialisation. And don't stress about it.

Ignore the teachers etc. Part of it is they don't like feeling they may have failed.  Which they have - they have failed your son. You are not. And they like to perpetuate the myth that they are the only ones who can educate your child. After all, it's what they get paid for.

so your 6 year old  is supposed to be an expert manipulator who managed to consistently show behaviour changes including toileting problems because he secretly loved school but wanted to prove his power over you. Errm, does that strike anyone else as ludicrous.  Your son showed the behaviour he did because he was miserable. You are working on sorting it.  End of

and don't feel bad for not doing anything earlier. I only really introduced the idea of home ed to you on sun night. He then only had a day or two at school. How much faster could you have acted? You didn't know about it before - not in a real sense - so how could you have done anything. And he had enough time at school with you trying to sort it for you to be able to say to all that you tried. Give yourself a  break , doll.

Bring out your inner rebel .  ;D 

no seriously, you are doing what any good parent would do in the same situation. So what if it isn't going to be the education in the system of 90% of kids. I reiterate I don't think that is a bad thing. Your son was miserable at school. Now he knows he no longer needs to go he is happier. Don't think about other people and their opinions.  Most people when I talk to them about why ideally I would prefer to home ed are actually quite open to the idea after initial shock. As i did well academically it is assumed I must have, loved school. I did ok despite school, not because of ( after age 9 anyway ). And I was only there about 2/3 of the time max as I kept getting viral infections and would take to my bed for 2 weeks.

I am interested to hear what you think of the books once they arrive. I hope they help give you info, and reassurance as well that for a lot of families home ed isn't something they intended to do, but what is best for their kid/s. And that there are as many different ways to home ed as there are families.

there is an interesting bit in the homeschooling bok about different types of learning - how some are visual, others need to do etc. I found it fascinating.

Big hugs  x x

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    Offline karenanna

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    « Reply #21 on: 26/09/14, 17:04 »
    Jade -

    You're bound to feel a sense of fear and trepidation however it sounds as though you've made a good start.

    I think once you've mentally got your head around it, worked out what you need to do and got into your own routine/s you'll feel much less anxious.

    It will take time - you aren't going to feel super confident straightaway. I'm sure a network of others doing the same thing will be a great help too.

    It would be great for you to keep documenting your progress - what you learn etc... as I'm sure it will be of use to others too.

    Lots of  ^reiki^ ^reiki^

    KA xxx

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    « Reply #22 on: 26/09/14, 17:34 »
    Jade you've had some excellent advice on this thread - particularly from mierran. Do not beat yourself up...you have done exactly the right thing...the thing you needed to do for your son. Shrug off the looks/comments you'll inevitably get from teachers/other parents. They won't understand what home education involves, plus it makes them question themselves (which noone ever likes to do!).

    I have a 3.5yo ds who won't be going to school next year. I've known this ever since I discovered home education when he was 18 months old. I just love the whole idea of it and I can't see how any school could measure up to an individualised education. We're sporadic home ed group attenders - my ds doesn't really want to socialise much at this age - but we have just started attending a weekly home ed forest school group.

    It's great that you've had such support from your local authority, but just take a bit of time to read up on the law regarding home education and the local authority's role. For instance they have told you that you'll only have to meet them once a year, when in fact there is no legal obligation for you to meet them at all, ever. Nor is there an obligation on you to provide any evidence of work/learning written or otherwise. Once you get more involved in the home ed community you'll realise that you'll get all the support you need from the community, and there won't be anything the LA can offer/provide in addition to this. Here is a link: http://edyourself.org/articles/helaw.php

    Here are a couple of links to some social media groups where you can read others questions and post your own: https://www.social media.com/groups/Homeeducationuk/ and https://www.social media.com/groups/563643820369515/ you'll be able to get lots of input on various ways of learning, programmes, curriculums, workbooks, games, activities, etc to suit whatever style of home learning you want to pursue!

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    « Reply #23 on: 26/09/14, 19:50 »
    Thank ypu mierrian, karenanna and caramac.
    mierrian how come you always talk a lot of sense. you are right. he couldnt manipulate like that for sooo long, habitually and every time hols come up he as right as rain. no accisents no ww3 kicking off!
    karenanna,
    youre right im not super confident, but im ok  ;D beginning to hold my head high. met some more ppl today. fantastic. it was strange seeing my boy thru their eyes. strange good. he doesnt mix easily and yet there he was in the thick of it with the older children, with barely a backward glance. occassionally i saw him pull away and come sit away from them and look quite pensive. i did question his pensiveness with the 'matriach' (my name for her) of thr group and she said its quite normal for kids to step back and process whats going on around them. he take 5 mins out and then go and rejoin his 'new friends' i did ask him what their names were and he had no idea ;D
    but he was having fun and was relaxed. matriach said trust him to not wander too far, its called exploring and twice i realised i hadnt spotted him for 5 mins. he was absolutely.fine. ;D
    We didnt get back till 2.20 from this morning. it was fab ;D spent the rest of the afternoon chilling. his maths time table flap book arrived and hes gone between cbeebies on laptop to perusing the table book.
    i am in a bit of a quandary though. matriach said i have 2 ways og going with younger son. give A deschooling time on his own leave J where he is or have them both deschooling together. she has home ed 5 children so far. i asked her opinion on whether to keep J in reception or just pull him out. as hes not yet 5, he doesnt have to be in school really.
    my quandary is this - do i pull him out of school when hes perfectly happy, or do i wait until yr 1 when he comes up against A's previous teacher and wait for her to damage him? difficult.
    He did threaten to "walk himself home" this morning when.i took him. impossible as he would have to sneak out of the security door at repetion and most of the gates are locked. i told him he would be on a ds ban  ;D
    caramac,
    thank you for thise links, i am going to print them off and keep them to hand. just in case.
    camhs questionaire arrived today. i havrnt filled it in. dr has said turn up for camhs appt but explain, since leaving school, A's issues have disappeared. which they have in the main.  ;D thankfully!
    will keep a basic update.
    have a few pics of the erupting snow experiment. today we poured lots of water on it to see it all dissolve into water. pretty cool  ;D

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    « Reply #24 on: 26/09/14, 19:51 »
    Thank you one and all for your continued reassurance and support in these very early days. it really does mean an awful lot!

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    « Reply #25 on: 26/09/14, 19:53 »
    Love the sound of the snow experiment

    I saw a great experiment somewhere for showing them how rain is made - I'll try and find it to post for you.

    KA xxx

    PS Re: J - go with your gut feel

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    « Reply #27 on: 26/09/14, 20:09 »
    I only have the one and no plans for any more, but in your shoes I'd be tempted to just pull your other boy from school and have them both at home. They'll have so much fun learning together and life will be a lot simpler not having to follow the school timetable for just one of them. Yes, ds2 might be fine at school and not experience the same problems/issues as ds1 but I highly doubt he'll have any worse time at home with you and his brother! And it seems mean that he's missing out on all the fun!

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    « Reply #28 on: 26/09/14, 20:16 »
    Hi karenanna,
    thanks for those links. they look fabulous and the rain one looks cool.

    at this point, i havr no gut instincts. 1 day i want to take him out, convenience and relative freedom for me. no times to be back for. the other hand hes happy, so if it aint broke, dont fix it.
    hmm, what to do.
    guess its wait and see.

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    « Reply #29 on: 26/09/14, 20:26 »
    Hi Caramac,
    its a very difficult decision. i might wait till end of the term, have a weeks holiday with the boys and see how well i cope with a little home es. with both of them.
    and see how often J threatens to "walk himself home". little monkey.
    theyre quite happily looking through the new book together.
    the matriach said their squabbling would lesson if they were being home ed together.
    i just dont know