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« Reply #50 on: 4/10/14, 19:30 »
So friday an indoor meet but a private enclosed play area. met more mums, who have been doing this since last year. so much advice, very welcoming.
A was relying on J for playing at first but J is quite a socialable child and he drew A into the thick of it with the other kids. soon both of them were playing quite happily with the whole group of children.  they were content to play and not do any of the crafts. thats ok!
today been to a ball park for 3 hrs and when.we got home they were eaxh given a hammer to learn how to break down our home made rat run.  yeah scary. but bith boys stepped up to the responsibilty of breaking down and de-nailing vwry well. J is fantastic at denailing :-) A brilliant at prising wood off struts. so i think thats design and technology.
now they have constructrd a hornby model railway (with instruction) and are currently problem solving why it keeps stopping. science/engineering loosely maybe.
met LA officer at library yesterday and she has helped put education philosphy together. we are child led. she told me that for saying ive only been doing this 2 wks i seem very together. dont know how true that is.
she did mention going on jamesdysonfoundation website. as dyson will deliver free a hoover that we can break up with instructions to see how a hoover works. you get it free for 4 wks and it doesnt matter if you cant reassemble it, they collect it for free as well. so i have ordered it. due 3rd november. i personally cant wait. J is soooo into hoovers, he will love this.
A is into poo. im a poohead, everyones a poohead so i have found a museum of toilets - thinking that will be a good project for him. :-D . i think im moving away from wanting to attempt national curriculum, think we'll be better doing our own thing.
kids now working together on the train set. DH's train set :-O . so far he is remaini.g patient. photos took, of them denailing etc and setting up train set.
all good for my folder.

think were enjoying family time :-D
ooh a friend from school has told ne A's space has been filled and all last week J's teacher was under the impression he was ill !! receipt for deregistration arrived friday.

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    « Reply #52 on: 4/10/14, 19:38 »
    Cureently no bedwetting, no accidents in the day and although he still loses his temper, it is more manageable now.
    i seriously think he is manipulating me again hahahahahahaha

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    « Reply #53 on: 5/10/14, 15:12 »
    J has just completed his maths whizz assessment on maths whizz, it has come back saying his maths age is 5.58 yrs. he is good on number placement but  his mental calculations + &- need to be worked on.
    he is only 4!
    quite impressed!!!

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    « Reply #54 on: 5/10/14, 19:55 »
    A has completed maths assessment on maths whizz. maths age 7.38 yrs. needs to improve on fractions - yeah good luck with that!!!!:-D
    well impressed!

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    « Reply #55 on: 10/10/14, 21:30 »
    So meeting at camhs was awful! he has been discharged but ........ lets put it this way im waiting for a knock on the door from social workers.
    he 'sensed' my depset mistrust of mental health services local support teams and social services. i refused to fill in the questionairre for A, as since hes left school the issues are lessoning.  he wasnt happy with this. then it was how long have you been married, dh why is that relevant? lots of partners have a detrimental effect on kids. so i said since 2002.  he then asked about other family members. my mum my dad. had we got a good support network? dh family and dh wouldnt let him write down parents or uncles on his side. cousellour (ex social worker) queried it and dh said although he sees his family the children dont so it doesnt impact on their lives/emotional wellbeing.  so social worker/counsellour tried to question him further (which shuts dh down) and he simply said my family are not relevant in this. counsellour didnt like this.
    he made the connection that my eldest isnt dhs. asked has that ever caused problems. well yes of course -duh!- my son felt he had been pushed out for my new love interest. he was 5, of course he fwlt pushed out. Asked what schools he went to.  told him he went to catholic secondary school. ooh i didnt realise ypure relivious. my answer were not, but i wasnt sending my son to the local secondary school as my son is sensitive, not a fighter and the local school has racist wars going on, i didnt want my son caught in the crossfire. (sorry not trying to be offensive) there is at least 3 massive brawls per year outside scholl between whites and non-whites (sorry couldnt think of any other way of saying it) and i had visions of my son coming back in a body bag. his response (i was offended and gobsmacked) i didnt realise your eldest is mixed race. i said hes not. he said why worry about racist attacks then? i said because there are race wars that do go on in that school and innocent children get caught in the crossfire. i saod i have had 1 child die and i wasnt placing my child in unecessary danger by sending him to the local school. he said why the catholic school. are you religious? no im not but it seemed a very nurturing school. he said Re you teaching the boys religion. i said yes sort of. we read 'my book of bibke stories' jw publication every night. then we read nursery rhymes and you choose. oh so ypure a jw. no im not i said but scholls dont do enough detail of any religion so were teying to expand their knowledge religiously. i said wd alao go messy church once a month which is christianity so therefore we are not affiliated with any religion. just mixing in various. to hopefully give them an informwd choice. are they christened? no, thats not my choice to make for them, thats their choice when theyre older. he aaked when and what my child died of? cot death 1993. he said how do i feel about that? what??? i said its scars you forever. in what way? i dont sleep all night i said. what do you mean? Right i got to bed 11pm, i wake sporadically throughout the night and che k my boys are still breathing. i get about 2 hrs a night unbroken. the rest of the night is fitful. he says dont you think ypure highly anxious. i said no.i have had rhis sleeping pattern for about 18 yrs (funny enough since my eldest was born) and this lifestyle has carried on through my other 2 being born and i dony ezpext my sleeping pattern to change until my children are adults and have left home. i still check on my 18 yr old (not thrpughput the night) but i see him in a morning when i let the dog out of his room. he said no-one can live with that amount of anxiety for that long without mental health being affected. i said im fine. i couldnt sleep all night long as my body simply isnt used to it.
    variois other little snippets. my gp had wrote my husband has anger issues. i never said that. i said hes short with the kids on occassion and he gets pulled up for that. counsellour waited until dh took J to rhe toilet and asked has there ever been any domestic violence in our household. i was truly shocked!!!! i said no, hes sometimes impatient with the kids but i pull him up pretty quickly. it was horrific actually. but he has relunctantly discharged him. but if ever need to come back dont hesitate to get a referral from the gp.  like hell!!!! if thats help from the mental health services they can shove it sideways where the sun doesnt shine and then some!!!!!!
    home ed meet up was fantastic. we arrived just after 11 and left at 3.45 . it was brilliant.
    oh, he tried to pick apary home education. i wasnt having that!!! A's behaviour has improved dramatically since leaving school and that is all the proof i need to say were doing the rifht thing for both. watching him play with kids older and younger than him, free as a bird with no issues emerging is fantastic. he absolutely loves being with a girl with asd and her sister. both my kids get on with these girls very well. 
    so im expecting social.workers at.my flipping door. and he tried to vet information on my home ed support network. where do we meet, when, how oftwn. i simply said im not at liberty to answer that. if i do that i lose my support network and im not willing for that to happen. oh so ypu cant grass? no its not grassing, its protecting my childs interests. and other innocent families. Grrrr!
    got what to do?????
    kids are fine though phew! although J did say s%&t in that office. he covered it well saying i said shoot, i said shoot. oops!
    were going to a science fair tomorrow. the highlight being we are going to ve maki.g and launching rockets. yes!!!!! :-)

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    « Reply #56 on: 10/10/14, 23:24 »
    Hi,

    omg what a nut job the cahms guy sounds like. I think he may have some issues to deal with

    glad all going well re the home ed , and you are finding the way that works for you and your family.

    Don't stress about science. Everything in like is science.

    eg Get a jug of water and see how much water is displaced by different objects. See what floats and what sinks, and if they can work out why.

    Mix oil and water and let them try anď mix together. Add washing up liquid, mustard, washing powder etc and see which allow it to mix

    paint your leaves and press onto paper showing pattern of veins. Look at how trees are put together and how sap flows

    You can buy a microscope quite cheaply with made up slides

    the Osborne book on the body with flaps is quite good ( how your body works, or some such ) there is also a big jigsaw I thought looked good on amazon but for older kids than mine.( 100piece )

    X x


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    « Reply #57 on: 11/10/14, 02:50 »
    Hi Jude, sorry you found the assessment so intrusive.  To put some perspective on it, it very standard questions with behavioual concerns with children and in mental health generally.  I sufder from intermittant depression.  No big issues in my life but seems to be closely related to female hormones.  But each episode GPs and councellors go through the whole spectrum of possible reasons.  Family history including my parsnts job.  As I live 150 miles away and am 37 little obvious relavance but its about getting a complete picture.  Im an adult nurse.  When I assess patient before having chemo I go through everything from what thier illness is (chemo not just given for cancer) to thier sex life, job and hobbies.  Yes it is relavant.  Chemo is passed in all body fluids in first 7 days at least.  So knowing if they are sexually active means I can emphasise importance of barrier method of contraception.  Some jobs and hobbies/intersts put people at more risk of infection, like gardening.  I need to know to advice my patients appropratly. 

    There can seem some very irrelavant questions but remeber they dont know you.  The only way to try and find out is to ask.  Since the recent very traggic cases of children being abused and ultkmatly murdered, there has been increasing concern that those children could have been identified and protected.  It is noe standard practice to ask at each antinatal visit if the woman is expised to domestic violence.  My mw asked md each time she saw me.  As an adult nhrse I dont treat any childrdn, but I still have safe gaurding training for children.  If I suspect any safe gaurding issue of a child accompanying a patidnt or evdn visitor, I have a duty of care to take it further.  Not nice for any of us but if it saves a child from abuse then its a horribly but nessassary piece to do.

    Sorry big long ramble.  Not trying to say your being unreasonable.  It is not nice being asked intrusive and seemingly jugding questions of you and your family.  It must seem like an interigation.  Just trying to explain that it is all relavant.  If they know you theyd not need to ask.  Behavioual concerns are very complexe and can have multipul caurses.  They can only fibd the true caurses and then help and advice if they make a holistic assessment.  It may seem obvious that after a traggic loss that checking on your children and being sleep deprived  is normal.  But everyone copes, and responds differdntly.  Many parents will suffer mental health concerns after such loss and this can impact on thier children.  Again if they dont ask they cant know how it has effdcted you and your family as a unique unit of people.  And again not trying to get at you, but explain from a different angle. 

    Sorry rambling again.  Anyway I hope nothing more comes of it.  And that your children continue to thive on your home ed.  All best with it.  Youve even inspired me to make more out of my time with my ds.  Home schooling is not for us, but many of the things you are doing Im trying to incorpeate into my time with ds.  We went to nature reserve last week.  Nirmally its just a nice trip out.  This tkme I asked ds loads more questions and explained much more.  Ds wanted to drew pictures of the animals.  So next time we will take some paper and pens.  I'll ask him to write a fact about each animal too.  We do lots of activitues but now Im asking ds a lot more about those activities to get him interested in what we are doing more.  Oh reminds me ds asked just before school about the sun hiding when jts night in space.  Was no time to answer properly, but nedd to play being the sun and a planet and space.  Its lots of fun for me too.

    Ayah xxx

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    « Reply #58 on: 11/10/14, 07:51 »
    Thanks mierrien and ayah.
    merrien the bit i didnt like was "im not teaching i hope anyone to suck eggs but ......" ramble ramble ramble. on exactly why he thinks were doing the wrong things on x,y and z.  i felt like saying " well shut the hell up then".
    he offended me greatly on the way he posed the questiins "so youre relivious then?" and "oh yoir son is mixed race?" . they werent questions, they were said accusatory, if you understand. And there is nothing wrong with either of those 2 subjects, by the way, but he could have worded them better.
    A wouldnt speak to him. he kept trying to draw A in and A retreated.further into his shell.
    Ayah - thank you for explaning why so many damn questions. v much appreciated.
    so glad you are 'educating' without hum realising and making more of your time with him. that is truly brilliant!!! HE isnt for you granted maybe. but youre already doing it :-D
    lovely news.
    congratulations on new baby also
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    « Reply #59 on: 11/10/14, 15:58 »
    We built boats out of twigs and wool to see if they would float - they did :-).
    we checked out a mim pond with magnifying glasses to see all the insecys in the pond. kids enjoyed it
    they wouldnt put their hands in the magic goo. cornflour, wayer and food colourant. i did eurgh ;-)
    looked thrpugh telescopes and learnt aboit the mirrors inside them.
    and finally, they built rockets out of pop bottles and then the staff launched them at 5 seconds and then 10 seconds. it was fabulous. boys really enjpyed that. so did i!
    played in the onsite ball park for 2 hrs and now they want to watch old dr who episodes (other drs not new one) on you tube.
    wonder iff we would be able to make daleks out of egg cartons???
    just a thought! lol
    other home edders are corrsct when they say home education is intense, compared to school. wd just dont seem to stop. its relentless - in a good way, of course. we are so busy most days now. with going out and socialising and shopping.
    oh yeah he did mental calculation today. nanna told both they had 1.50 each as a treat for sweets. went to the 4 for a pound section and they got 4 whams, 2 bixes of avengers sweets and tattoos and 1 refresher each. ok A had to help J do the calculations, but they did it.
    took photos of pur outing, cant wait to have some money to print them off at boots. put them in their 'evidence' folders.
    shattered now.