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« Reply #10 on: 19/01/15, 13:00 »
Thanks Wendy, it's great to have somewhere to go for support. I am going to have some counselling to see if that helps. It seems surrogacy is not an option due to me being single, you can't apply for the parental order after birth as a single mum. Adoption may be extremely difficult here in the Middle East. There is the option of donor eggs, well would be either donor embryos or double donation, but I'm just not sure there's any point if my body is just going to miscarry. Not sure yet what then future holds but the more research I do and the difficult things seem, the more I fear it's never going to happen at all.

Gail sorry you too have such a horrid history and I understand the fear behind trying again. I really hope this DE cycle works for you.

Mon sorry you're feeling low. I hope the consult goes well and you're in a good place to try again soon.

Max thank you. Yes things are very raw right now and im taking time to just feel sad.

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    « Reply #11 on: 19/01/15, 20:29 »
     ^hugme^  ^hugme^  ^hugme^ Jen, I hope a path becomes clear and you are ok.

    Mon
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    « Reply #12 on: 20/01/15, 09:36 »
    Think us lot are going to need each other lots over this year no matter which roads are journeys take us, very scary times and makes you feel so vulnerable, just feels like you build yourself up to get another beating.  Hugs to everyone  ^hugme^ . If there was ever a time we needed rainbows it was now xxx

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    « Reply #13 on: 20/01/15, 09:58 »
    Hi all,

    I'm still lurking here too...sorry we're all still here and not on pregnancy threads; but also glad to have you ladies here too. A few of us have been through a few cycles together now I think.

    Dory, do you have any plans for further treatment yet?

    Wendy - I think you're starting or have started treatment again, hope you're doing ok?-

    Mon, Jen and Gail, I'm so sorry you have all had such awful times lately; I hope taking some time to consider future options is useful. Jen, things are so raw at the moment for you, it's no wonder that feeling of utter despair is creeping in. Time will heal the raw pain to an extent, and hopefully allow you to find a way forwards to be a mum.

    We're just embarking on what will likely be our last shot at this, finances and emotional wellbeing meaning I just don't know how much more we can handle. The ARGC don't do things by halves so running up and down to London from Birmingham daily is a tough one but needs must! I find it so frustrating that nobody really knows why with good embryos and seemingly textbook cycles, we haven't been able to get any implantation after our first cycle. And when the first cycle ended in such a freak of unlucky nature I really believed it was just that...v unlucky and that because we conceived first time on a bog standard cycle, and only ended because of the 1 in 200 million or so chance of our blast splitting into 3, I always thought we'd get there again.  Makes it hard to think of a plan b when there doesn't seem to be a solvable problem with plan A.

    Sorry for the 'woe is me' post!

    Hope you're all managing ok - sending lots of rainbows xx



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    « Reply #14 on: 20/01/15, 10:07 »
    Massive hugs all round  ^hugme^


    Yes, I start stims tonight  :o  feels like it's happening to someone else!

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    « Reply #15 on: 20/01/15, 13:54 »
    Hi ladies,

    I'm just getting ready to start again, endo scratch on my next cycle, then natural FET the cycle after that. I know I'm only a short way into my journey compared to some of you, but I'm struggling to believe it will ever happen for me.

    Wendy, stimms already! Fingers crossed for you.

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    « Reply #16 on: 20/01/15, 16:21 »
    Hi ladies,

    Happy thoughts going out to Wendy for starting stimms tonight.

    I thought I'd check in with this thread as, although not far along the path yet, I'm anticipating starting again with a FET cycle this year.  I've been in touch with my clinic here and in Spain, and I have a gp appointment on Friday to discuss both trying again, and to ask about counselling for last year's loss. 

    Good luck and plentiful hugs to all for this year.
    Tick

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    « Reply #17 on: 20/01/15, 20:23 »
    Ooh Wendy good luck, I hope that first injection goes well.

    I am struck by my contradictory feelings- so pleased to see old friends around here, but so so sorry they are still here.  I take so much comfort from your words when the journey is tough that I don't know how I do it without you, yet at the same time, I am struck but how sad it is that we are here and have to go through so much pain.

    Poppy, I've been through the arcg bootcamp so any questions feel free to send them my way.

    Gail, I hope you find your specialist.  So sorry it was such a disasterous visit to the specialists.

    Flips, Tick, Wendy, Dory and everyone else  ^hugme^

    Mon
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    « Reply #18 on: 22/01/15, 09:41 »
    Wendy -  ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^ Keeping everything crossed for you, hope the stimms have helped with the grottiness of DR.  Come on follies!

    Poppy - It is so hard to make sense of this journey isn't it, big  ^hugme^.

    Gail - Sorry your recurrent mc clinic visit wasn't helpful  >:( .

    Mon, Flips, Tick - Sending lots of hugs  ^hugme^

    Dory
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    « Reply #19 on: 26/01/15, 17:57 »
    All the best Wendy.. Keeping my fingers crossed for you..