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Offline Lilly83

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« Reply #100 on: 5/07/15, 11:48 »
Hi Tigger

Please don't dont feel afraid to post  ^hugme^

Anyone with questions is able to post in either as the ladies on both will give good advice, we just ask that those with firm views either way to stick to the relevant thread as like CH says we have had people crossing over

L x

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    Offline daisyg

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    « Reply #101 on: 5/07/15, 13:19 »
    Hi Tigger,

    I have donor embryo twins from Spain who are 8 and I have told them from very early on.  You could chat to me on the telling thread if you like?

    (Hope it is OK for me to reply here?!)

    Best

    Daisy xxx

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    « Reply #102 on: 5/07/15, 13:52 »
    I was going to suggest you Daisy, and yes it's ok for you to answer here  :)
    Tigger I have started a thread for you  :)

    https://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?topic=337304.new#new

    Xx

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    « Reply #103 on: 5/07/15, 17:08 »
    Thankyou Bundles! x

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    « Reply #104 on: 5/07/15, 17:15 »
    Hi Ladies,

    My partner and I are non-disclosers 100% from the time I first decided on DE. It isn't on any UK record & my daughter is a very plausible phenotypic match. I respect others' decisions on what they choose for their own families, but for us there was never any question of, nor advantage to, behaving any differently than if she'd come from an OE cycle.

    TiggerBounces, I've PMd you re FIV-Marbella.

    B xxx

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    « Reply #105 on: 5/07/15, 17:24 »
    Sorry, bombsh3ll, not sure where I got the idea you were a discloser. I agree with you that, if you're not going to disclose, keeping it out of UK records and telling no one is the way to go -- one of the reasons I chose Reprofit for this last OE cycle was that, if we made the decision to move on to DE, they have a good program and it would be plausible to tell our families were were going back for more OE treatment, as we couldn't really disguise the purpose of the travel. Hopefully TiggerBounces will get some good advice on her new thread.

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    « Reply #106 on: 5/07/15, 20:48 »
    Hi Tigger I'm also a teller who used anon with NO regrets kids will grow up to know he's a donor and not 'dad" heck they prob wouldn't even be able to communicate as he"s Greek, I'm confident they aren't gonna lynch me over it  ;D ps not planning on telling until I feel they have a grasp of it either x

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    « Reply #107 on: 5/07/15, 20:50 »
    Blondie, I think it was you I confused with bombsh3ll. I'm probably perfectly capable of making that mistake normally, but I'm going to blame it on pregnancy brain.  ^idiot^

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    « Reply #108 on: 5/07/15, 21:06 »
    Looool you have a good excuse then and it only gets worse when baby is born  ;D

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    « Reply #109 on: 5/07/15, 21:30 »
    That's ok CrazyHorse,

    I can see why you'd get us mixed up! I'm not a natural blonde it's out of a bottle, hence the speedy match in Spain  ;D

    B xxx