Morning.. Over the last year or two I've had an ocassional little look on the donor threads but this is first time I've properly posted. Long (sorry I tried!) story short - investigations have shown that we have no chance of using my partner's sperm to create our own biological child. From the beginning (before the Mr R days) donor or adoption has been in our thoughts, more so my own thoughts as my partner couldn't consider that at all before we came to the end of our attempts with his sperm. However, it was my partner who at one of the first appointments with our local clinic told me that he preferred the idea of donor. It was just after that point that our NHS clinic told us our only option would be donor. I know we should be 'grieving' the loss of our potential bio child but in all honesty I've never been too hopeful that it would be a possibility. In some ways I actually feel quite relieved that we don't have to keep going back and forth up to London for appointments and that we can stop. Close family and friends know about our difficulties and one in particular knows we've thought about donor and she is really supportive of it, also my Mum is (a little too assertively) is keen on the idea. Anyways that's us. I know it doesn't matter what other people think but I'm pleased they are supportive. So, if you don't mind I'm going to lurk a little bit and pop in and out whilst we think about what to do. Not sure if that's the right thing to do or not, who knows but here I am. I guess the next step for us, when we feel the time is right, is to get back in contact with our original clinic. I had a root through our paperwork from the early days and it says make direct contact if donor is something we want to consider.
Hi Kjade and Hannah, Amanda and Babyb and anyone else I've missed from the other board xx
