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Offline Sienna77

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« Reply #30 on: 13/11/16, 03:08 »
I so feel for all of you & it's so hard hearing the struggles everyone has.
We are the same. My DD took many years & IVF cycles & we've tried the same for a 2nd child. A month ago we failed the 7th stim cycle & we didn't get 1 egg fertilised. So the Dr has said we have to give up. I'm beyond devastated. I feel the decision to stop has been taken from me.  Even though financially we would probably have to stop anyway, I'm struggling to come to terms that I've had that choice taken away from me. The Dr said she thought I was infertile already.
I've been on anxiety drugs & my GP referred me to a psychologist. But it's not really helping. I've stopped being sociable & as much as I'm desperately trying to not let this impact my beautiful DD, I'm just so down about it.
I am desperate to have another baby & don't want my DD being an only child.
But I have no choice but to accept it. I am not sure I ever will.

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    « Reply #31 on: 13/11/16, 03:08 »
    I so feel for all of you & it's so hard hearing the struggles everyone has.
    We are the same. My DD took many years & IVF cycles & we've tried the same for a 2nd child. A month ago we failed the 7th stim cycle & we didn't get 1 egg fertilised. So the Dr has said we have to give up. I'm beyond devastated. I feel the decision to stop has been taken from me.  Even though financially we would probably have to stop anyway, I'm struggling to come to terms that I've had that choice taken away from me. The Dr said she thought I was infertile already.
    I've been on anxiety drugs & my GP referred me to a psychologist. But it's not really helping. I've stopped being sociable & as much as I'm desperately trying to not let this impact my beautiful DD, I'm just so down about it.
    I am desperate to have another baby & don't want my DD being an only child.
    But I have no choice but to accept it. I am not sure I ever will.

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    « Reply #32 on: 13/11/16, 21:01 »
    So sorry to read your post Sienna, it must be devastating for you.... Such a difficult thing to come to terms with.... Heartbreaking 😢😢 thoughts are with you c

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    « Reply #33 on: 13/11/16, 22:26 »
    Hi, I'm the one that started this post a while back just after my mc. So I was in a mess back then googling everything. I had started to convince myself that having just one would be ok and I would be able to move on. I even booked a cruise for us next year.

     Then when the hormones died down and I saw lots of newborns the wanting another kicked in. Therefore I had a top grade embryo transferred in oct and mc at 5 weeks.

     Im about to go for another get tomorrow. I want this so bad but wish I didn't. My child has starting saying can you have a baby in your belly please mommy. I'm 40 soon and this is the last embryo I have left. Other people are getting pregnant all around. This whole process has put me into depression and made me a angry person. I don't socialise and do not spend any money as may have to spend even more on ivf.

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    « Reply #34 on: 14/11/16, 20:52 »
    Hi Jessica so sorry to hear of your loss. I really hope it works out for you this time....
    All seems so unfair... IVF really does alienate you from a social life as you can't drink and have no money to spend 😫 I m going to try and enjoy the Christmas period and put our last blastocyst back in January got a follow up appointment on Thursday.
    I hope you get your bfp 🙏

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    « Reply #35 on: 3/12/16, 07:48 »
    Just for update, I got a bfn on this fet. It was my last embryo. Now I face the stress and expense of icsi at the age of 40

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    « Reply #36 on: 29/05/17, 08:32 »
    Hi, I'm struggling too. We have a 10 year old conceived naturally but when it came to number 2 had various issues and discovered I have severe endometriosis. I had this removed but still nothing. I'm 40 in July and literally can't stand it I've never not wanted a birthday so much in my life. Everyone around me has had number 2 or even 3 and other friends who had previously struggled are now pregnant. I'm desperate for my son to have a sibling we hardly have any family anyway and the thought of him being alone when he's older is too much to bear. Friends don't know what to say anymore, I'm at the point where I can't be bothered to pretend everything is OK anymore (9 yesterday of trying has taken its toll) we previously tried IVF but never got started each time we went there was something else wrong, high AMH, cyst on ovary, couldn't find ovary!!!! I think we have to give IVF another go, I can't accept him being an only child, it's killing me 😢 (PS anyone in West Yorkshire?) xx

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    « Reply #37 on: 29/05/17, 08:34 »
    Hi, I'm struggling too. We have a 10 year old conceived naturally but when it came to number 2 had various issues and discovered I have severe endometriosis. I had this removed but still nothing. I'm 40 in July and literally can't stand it I've never not wanted a birthday so much in my life. Everyone around me has had number 2 or even 3 and other friends who had previously struggled are now pregnant. I'm desperate for my son to have a sibling we hardly have any family anyway and the thought of him being alone when he's older is too much to bear. Friends don't know what to say anymore, I'm at the point where I can't be bothered to pretend everything is OK anymore (9 yesterday of trying has taken its toll) we previously tried IVF but never got started each time we went there was something else wrong, high AMH, cyst on ovary, couldn't find ovary!!!! I think we have to give IVF another go, I can't accept him being an only child, it's killing me 😢 (PS anyone in West Yorkshire?) xx

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    « Reply #38 on: 3/07/17, 11:42 »
    So glad I found this post.
    I have one son turning 5 in August and we have been trying now for over 3 years.
    I went down the IVF route earlier in the year, had a real panic about everything and stopped before ER, I had planned to go to prague but really didn't have the support mentally.
    I am now going to give it another try but this time in the UK, that way I know what to expect.  Looking to start soon.
    My DS is always hoping for another baby in my tummy as everyone I know or see seems to be pregnant.

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    « Reply #39 on: 4/07/17, 23:08 »
    I'm sorry to hear what you are all going through, it all seems so unfair. I hope you do try ivf & have success.
    My DD was IVF and as hard as the journey is, it's so worth it.
    Please let us know how you are getting on. We can suppprt you through the cycle.

    I've also just turned 40 and was so depressed about it, feel it's the end of any more hope of having a second. Although the Dr told me to give up on ivf, I've always had this glimmer of hope that maybe I'll fall naturally, which is stupid as we've been trying for 9 years now & it's never happened naturally.
    I don't know if you ever come to terms with it? It's been months since we were told to stop doing the cycles yet I still don't feel any closure or think about it any less. I'm still less sociable & avoid people if I think they are trying for another baby. I left a kids birthday party in tears as my friend announced she was pregnant with her 3rd, I just didn't see it coming. My poor DD had to leave the party early which is so unfair on her.
    She's the most precious miracle & as much as I am grateful for every single second I spend with her, I feel cruel for not giving her a sibling.