Sunday 14th January 2018
P is 4 yrs 10 months old
R is 3 yrs 9 1/2 months old
12 Weeks 3 Days Pregnant
Family life is back to normal now after the Christmas break. DH and I are back to work and P and R are back to pre-school.
The last few days P and R have been really big into drawing pictures as I got them 500 sheets of blank white A4 paper and washable markers. I’ve discovered that P is really good at art
She mainly draws pictures of our family...me, DH, herself and R and our 2 cats. We look like proper people and I think her attention to detail is brilliant for her age. She has us all in proportion and she includes R’s ‘baby doggy’ teddy that he brings everywhere with him. I’ve also noticed we always have big happy smiles on our faces in the pictures which is good to see. I wonder if one of her donors was good at art
It’s interesting to see her talents emerging.
R really likes drawing pictures aswell and I can see a big improvement in his abilities from a few months ago when he would only have done scribbles on a page..now he really tries to form proper pictures. His specialty at the moment is drawing what he calls snowmen and baby octopuses
Ps pre-school teacher told me just before Christmas that P is very advanced academically for her age as, amongst other things, she can read and write her own name and some other words and a lot of numbers despite not being formally taught how to do it
She won’t be formally taught that until she goes to primary school in September. We have put her name down for a country school about 10 minutes drive from our house and we will find out at the end of January if she has secured a place there or not...fingers crossed
All is going great with my pregnancy. I have passed the major 12 week milestone and results of the Harmony Test I had done came back to show the baby is low risk for all trisomies and we are expecting a boy this time!
I am absolutely delighted that all is clear on the Harmony testing. I didn’t mind whether it was a boy or a girl so long as all is ok.
The only slight niggle I have about it being a boy is that I wonder will he look very noticeably different to R
If it was a girl then she would have been like P but a boy might be very different from R and people may comment on the physical difference as R is OE/OS and this baby is DD. Anyhow I know I’m just thinking about other people’s possible comments which at the end of the day don’t matter a damn. When I was pregnant with P I had niggles wondeing what she would look like and if she would be totally different looking from myself and DH and I worried that people would comment a lot about it and although I have had a couple of such comments in the last 4 years they have been few and far between and they have affected me like water off a ducks back
I know these kind of thoughts are normal for a donor pregnancy and the most important thing is the baby is healthy and DH and I are absolutely delighted to be adding another member to our happy family
Although it’s relatively early days in this pregnancy we told P and R yesterday that we are having a baby in the summer. P couldn’t believe it when we told her...she kept asking “Are you sure you’re having a baby?” She has been adorable, kissing my tummy and putting her hand on it gently
Last night she asked if she could sing the baby a lullaby and she sang it “Rock a bye baby” and before she went to bed she said good night to the baby
This morning when she got up the first thing she asked me was "How is the baby today?" and she gave my tummy another kiss and said good morning to him. She says she wants a sister and as we are not telling them the gender for the moment I have been emphasising that it could be a boy or a girl and pointing out to her the advantages of having another brother rather than a sister like not having to share her toys or her room