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« Reply #970 on: 3/08/19, 00:42 »
BeenaEmpathy
I am sorry to hear of the findings of your 10 week scan, I am praying for you that the outcome will be a positive one.
You must stay positive and strong.
Have you had any further news from the fetal heart specialists that you have been referred to?
I have been thinking of you a lot and was shocked to read of their findings but very hopeful that this will resolve itself.
I have truly been praying a lot for you and was thinking of you while I was at the clinic on Tuesday for my transfer.
I believe in love and prayer and that if we stay positive I am hopeful that this will resolve itself.
I have asked my angel to look over you and help in any way that he can.
I am a believer!

I have had both of my remaining embryos transferred.
My lining was 9. Something or other, I canít quite remember as it is hard to take it all in on the day. My progesterone was something like 14.99 I think, but they said that it was amazing. My two embryos looked different, one was noticeably larger than the other. I donít know if you in all of your knowledge, could guess what that could mean? My mum was with me and was crying during the transfer as this is a very emotional journey. We both where crying.  Like everyone of us ladies, now I must just stay as calm as possible and be positive and of course pray to my babies father who is guiding me from heaven.

Have you ever tested at home early?
I have decided in myself that I will test on the 1st anniversary of my darling late love which is 3 days before my clinical blood test. I tested at home 3 days early with my last ivf which was positive and gave me my amazing baby boy.
So this is it for me, I have honoured my promise to my love and am doing my upmost to carry on with our plans and dreams. Now, I will pray and pray and am staying positive, I have done all that I can and I know that my angel is guiding me.
Xxx




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    Offline BeenaEmpathy

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    « Reply #971 on: 4/08/19, 01:28 »
    Hi Littlebab,
    I've been thinking of you too.  So glad for you and your journey and that your mom was able to be there with you.  A lining of 9 is amazing!  It's OK that your embryos look different as far as I understand.  They are graded differently.  I'm excited for you and keep you in my thoughts and prayers as well.  Your story is so unique, you are such a strong and inspiring person by what you do and I think you really do deserve the best outcome.  I totally tested early with one of the "first response" types of tests that are more sensitive.  3 days early should be fine, but of course every pregnancy is different and you might get a false negative as in some pregnancies it could be too early.  No such thing as a false positive I don't think, so hopefully you get a positive.

    I've done some more reading on high fetal heart rate and calmed down a little since the 10 week scan.  It doesn't have to be bad news.  Part of it was the way my clinic here delivered the information poorly.  My husband and I both found that the Canadian doctor was unnecessarily pessimistic in delivering the news, she not well informed of the situation and she was unscientific in her speculation of a possible poor outcome for no good reason (not evidence based).  Our impression is that the Canadian doctor's ego and her sense of competition with the Spanish clinic did seem to be very much involved in her poor attitude.  She actually said: "if it doesn't work out this time you should come back and do things properly with us here [in Canada, with less medication]".  No words to describe her unprofessionalism and ego of this doctor.  It is not the first time hearing comments like this from her, completely discounting the opinion of other doctors (e.g. in Spain) without taking the care to be informed of the reasons for the differences in practice. 

    Trust is a huge part of the process.  I trust the doctors in the Spanish clinic.  I trust the doctors in Canada less.  While no doctors are perfect and I try to take any good advice, no matter where it comes from, I do feel a greater trust for the doctors in Spain.  The docs here have not done anything to understand my specific situation or build my confidence in the protocol they recommend (they just do the same protocol for everyone regardless of their medical details).  They also don't have the same rapport with their patients.  I just feel much better about the level of care in Spain and the caliber of the doctors and their individualized protocols.

    Thankfully, in speaking with Spain, the doctors there are not worried about the heartbeat (they tend to be more optimistic) and say that the heartbeat is totally normal.  While I trust the Spanish clinic much more, I think everyone is just a bit premature in their conclusions and speculation. 

    I believe that the truth is that no doctor (in either Spain or Canada) has a crystal ball & knows the answer but you will never hear "I don't know yet, we need more information first."  So I'm cautiously optimistic but waiting for more information as I believe that is the most realistic mindset to have.  I prefer to live with the truth of the situation (wait and see) rather than speculation that the doctors are doing.

    The fetal heart specialist I have been referred to in Canada is an OBGYN and they won't see patients until they reach the 12 week mark by ultrasound dating, which means I have my appointment on August 13th which is a few days after my week 12 dating.  Hopefully everything will be fine (and what I've read seems to indicate a good outcome is more likely).  However, if there is a heart issue, it may be treatable either in utero or after delivery and that can be OK too.  Hoping for the best and the strength and positivity to live a full and happy life between now and the next scan (and thereafter).

    Baby dust to both of us!

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    « Reply #972 on: 4/08/19, 12:39 »
    Hi BeenaEmpathy
    I am so releived to read your email, you have given me a lot more insight into your babies condition. It makes a lot more sense to me now, I have also experienced some doctors with ego issues in the past both in the fertility field and other. To read that this does not have to be doom and gloom has lifted my spirits greatly, my inner soul tells me, that this will resolve itself. I pray.
    I also have the upmost respect and trust in the Spanish doctors, my late love was a genius man in his own right who had done a lot of research into fertility and ivf and where in this world we should have our treatment. He had complete confidence as do I in our doctors in Spain as he found that they where many of the most experienced and knowledgeable ivf doctors in the world. It is now the 4th August so your appointment is coming up soon and then you will have more answers. You must stay confident and positive, take joy from the beauty around you, the earth, the trees, the birds, the kindness and love from those who care for you and your family. I would  be grateful  if you could send me a private mail to give me a little more of the history of your ivf journey as I reconnected with this site after you had begun your journey. I am much more excited and releived now for you, thank you for sharing, it has meant a lot to me.
    Baby dust to us both my love, my angel will be watching over us both.
    Xxx

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    « Reply #973 on: 9/08/19, 17:22 »
    Hi BeenaEmpathy

    I havenít been on the site as Iíve been very emotional over the last week.
    I did my test at my clinic here today and they have come back saying that my pregnancy test was negative but that my progesterone levels results werenít back from the lab yet.
    I tried to contact Spain to no avail so I phoned my clinic here in Ireland who where to send the results to Spain.
    Since then, my progesterone levels where emailed to me by my Irish clinic and where 50.3.

    What does the progesterone level mean and why are they important when the blood pregnancy test determines a positive or negative?
    Iím confused?
    I dont know what to do about my medications so I am just going to carry on with the medication until I speak to them Monday.
    You are so wise and knowledgeable.
    I would love your opinion.


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    « Reply #974 on: 11/08/19, 20:46 »
    Hi LittleBab,

    I'm so sorry to hear the result is negative!  You deserve only good things in this process.  I had everything crossed and all my best hopes for you!    :'(

    The big test important test is the quantitative betaHCG test.  Besides just saying negative, did they give you the quantitative number for the betaHCG level (for example a level of 1 is very different than a level of 16 [a 16 you would want to re-test a few days later], but both could be considered negative)?  I believe the progesterone test is just to determine if they need to adjust the progesterone dose at all (ultrogestan).  Staying on the medication until Monday does not hurt you.  I can see how you will want to talk to Spain and follow their instruction.  That is a smart thing to do.

    Did you test on the day Spain told you to test?  If you tested on the correct day and your result was a true negative then I'm afraid the result is negative.  I imagine you will need time and space to have this settle in and decide what you want to do.  I cannot imagine this experience for you and the emotion of it, but my heart goes out to you.  I know it may be too soon to think about, but please know that you do have options if you are looking for another pregnancy.  I believe in you.  I believe in your determination for your family plans. In my humble opinion this does not have to be the end of the road for you if you want another child.  The method might not look the same as what you had thought it could, but I believe that another child is still a possibility for you, if desired.

    Big hugs and don't hesitate to send me a private message (or another public post) if you want to chat further.

    By the way, thank you for your kind words about me.

    Big hugs and nothing but admiration for you and your journey!

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    « Reply #975 on: 14/08/19, 23:06 »
    We just had some sad news at the 12 weeks scan yesterday and the subsequent appointment with the fetal specialist.  There was no fetal heartbeat on the ultrasound and there was no growth since the 10 week scan two weeks ago.  The doctor diagnosed this as a loss.

    We are sad and disappointed of course.  As usual for my history, there were no symptoms over the past 2 weeks, so it was a bit surprising.  The doctors do not know the cause.

    We are sad, however there is nothing we can do at this time. 

    I wish I had better news for you!  I hope your journeys do not have this heartache!

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    « Reply #976 on: 20/12/19, 07:10 »
    Is this thread still alive?

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    « Reply #977 on: 31/12/19, 09:46 »
    Hi everyone, I'm new around here and just wanted to quickly present myself. I'm half German, half British, currently living in Berlin for work, I am now 37, hubby 38, I was 34 when we started. Diagnosed with Low ovarian reserve, we did 2 rounds of IVF in the UK, ended in 2 BFN. Very heartbroken... We are now looking to try ED in Spain. IVF Spain is one of our top 3 clinic options so far, so I'd really like to hear your opinions about them. Reviews are really good but it's such an important decision I want to be extra sure before making a first appointment. Hope you can help me... This is such a difficult journey... Really nice to meet you all.
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    « Reply #978 on: 14/01/20, 18:16 »
    Hi, welcome to the board. I think a lot of people are using the social media support pages.
    If thereís anyone who is still reading from earlier last year I had posted about problems with bleeding.
    It all turned out well and I gave birth to Oscar on December 5 2019.
    Good luck to people still going through the process.