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Parenting twins from bump onwards,
« on: 19/06/17, 20:10 »
I think I completed a diary with most of my IVFs. I loved getting my emotions out on paper all the hurt, upset, depression and loneliness finally disappeared after my BFP.

I had 3 full rounds & 3 FET - which hurt the bank a lot. 1 chemical, 1 DS, 2 ES, I've went to London (8 hour train) Dr Grogy to Prof Q in Coventry. I have to pay £850per month for 2 years & 2 months to be debt free!

I'm going to do it. Now is the best time whilst the twins are inside me. When the grow they will want iPads doe birthdays and party's and I want to be able to give them everything. It's going to be a tuff old 2 years, but it sure as hell will beat the past 5.

Sometimes I lay down and can't believe that it finally happened. I'm past my scans and turn 23 weeks tomorrow. My babies are the size of egg plants (obergiens)

Let me warn you, I've got dislexia - and my diarys can be a bit patchy.

The only thing, and I mean only thing, sad about being pregnant was that I felt I lost my friends. All my friends had babies, bumps or toddlers and I kinda grew away from them. Out of pain , I just hurt so much. Ladies of fertility friends became close to me, and I wanted to support and help them. But when I commented on threads, I found that the process had changed, and I didn't know what I used to. Strange how much a thread can change over 6 months eh!

Our babies are 1 boy & 1 girl, we've disputed names since before birth but settled on Jax & Jessica (followed by both our surnames double barrelled) it's unusual but why not. I'm only doing this once eh xxx

Next bump scan 28th of July which will make me 28 weeks exactly & moving on to my final trimester 👍😮.

My happily ever after has already begun. I've no idea how to be a parent 😟 Xx




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    Offline Wishings15

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    « Reply #1 on: 16/07/17, 16:38 »
    26w4days

    I'm on the count down to the next trimester. Some say your into your third trimester at 27 weeks others say it's 28 weeks. I'm going to leave it at 28 weeks. So 1 week and 3 days before I move on.

    It works out at around 10/11 weeks until I give birth. That's if they manage to stay in that long.

    Next scan date is 28th July and I'm counting down the days. My babies hardly kick me, they don't move very much and it sometimes upsets me and makes me worry. I was going to phone the hospital recently but I listened to them on he monitor and realised that it's properly just the highland midwife to show that got me upset.

    I've bought loads of cloth nappies, I've bought everything I need for breastfeeding (I think) and everything for the babies. All I need is a cot mobile, bras & maybe a few breastfeeding dresses (which I'm putting off until I make sure that I can actually do it)

    I'm reading the guide to gentle parenting, my mother was not eh greatest at all, my up bringing was hard and sometime I feel that I've turned into her - which I'm staying clear of!

    The plan is to remain calm & relaxed at all times.

    Easier said then done but why not try eh - change the cycle of emotional rubbish and lack of love/compassion/Understanding.

    I can't wait to get started. It's all just a worry. I hope they come out with a full bill of health xx

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    « Reply #2 on: 29/07/17, 21:21 »
    28w4ds

    Oh what a few weeks. I had a few members reading my previous post and who kindly sent me a wee message advising that if I'm low on movement to head in to the hospital or call them.

    So last Sunday 16th July and yesterday I headed up to the maternity unit.

    The first instance, they put the big bands on me (tightly) and I couldn't believe it they were kicking away like mad straight away. Such a weight off my shoulders from that moment. The nurse advised me that it's normal and they sometimes don't like the pressure of the band.

    Anyways, I went home cause the doctors were doing 2 c sections and this was 1am.

    A week or so later after 5 days on holiday. That was me, worried out my nut again. No moments. Maybe the odd twinge from the girl, but apart from that nothing.

    I'm 28 weeks surely shouldb be feeling something.

    I went back in, this time the straps weren't so tight and there we're no kicks. 3 hours later, I got a scan and all looked ok.

    I've got a full growth scan on Monday, and a consultation with the twin consultant.

    Can't wait, want this babies to be ok. Can't wait.

    Aside from that, my bump is measuring at 34 weeks and I'm 28.

    Eeek/ I knackered at doing anything. Honest, something has changed, I pee every hour, I'm shattered every day.

    Can't wait for Monday, 2 sleeps yas!! Xxx

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    « Reply #3 on: 31/07/17, 20:04 »
    Had my growth scan and so pleased to say that they're both looking good. All within normal range (actually the girl is above that) lol.

    I had my review with the twin consultant, and she agreed to book a section for around 37 weeks at my next scan. They wanted my next scan to be 4 weeks away but when I explained that I couldn't wait that long because of my front placenta and not feeling them.

    Especially, after the last few hospital visits.

    So, that's me for another 2 weeks, just taking it easy xxx


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    « Reply #4 on: 11/08/17, 20:07 »
    30weeks2days

    I'm so grateful for being pregnant. I sometimes go to sleep and forget and wake up. If i think about my journey in any depth it brings tears to my eyes.

    I can't believe I got my happy ever after. After I give birth be have fully recovered, I'm going to donate my eggs, although this time I want to do an open donation and because I live in Scotland I'm not sure how easy that's going to be?

    Anyways, my girl is 4.27lb and my boy is 3.45lb 😂. Big, the normal, I reckon that they will either come early, or be like 7lb at 37weeks xx

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    « Reply #5 on: 15/08/17, 18:38 »
    I'm 31 weeks tomorrow 😲

    My girl is head down but boy is sitting diagonally-kinda like there feet are touching.

    27th of September (3 days before DHs birthday) I'm so excited.

    I just can't wait 😊 xx

    Next scan is 28th of August 😂 and form filling for the section -

    That's if My waters don't break in the mean time 😂

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    « Reply #6 on: 2/09/17, 19:51 »
    32weeks3days

    My partner has not his job! Argh, something we really couldn't afford. So that IVF debt will be staying around a bit longer unfortunately.
    Least he will be here for the babies 🤷‍♀️. Hopefully tho, he will get anther job.

    We worked on his cv.

    For another scan, babies are 4.76lb and 4-66lb. I'm not sure how actual accurate that is tho🤷‍♀️

    Section booked for 27th of September, it's all beginning to be a bit more real tho?

    I can't take my knickers off 😂, I can't bend down 🙈- if I drop something, it stays there, not through choice 😂.

    So looking forward to these babies coming. Plan is to breastfed & use cloth nappies xx

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    « Reply #7 on: 11/09/17, 15:01 »
    34w5days

    I've been in and out of hospital this week, Tuesday, overnight Thursday-Friday, wife on Sunday.

    Well, I've got preclapsia. I'm bloated, filled with fluid, a high blood pressure and protein in my pee.

    I can't move. I can hardly breathe.

    The specialist is making a decision today on if I should bring my c section forward or be admitted!

    My pet hate is hospitals. I'm so grateful to be in this situation but I'm terrified at the same time.

    My babies are measuring at 4.5 and 5.5.And they weights can be around 1lb esch way

    I'm scared for them, 4pm roll on
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    « Reply #8 on: 28/09/17, 14:28 »
    Well the decision was taken out of my hands at 35w2days my waters broke.

    I went into hospital with my mum and partner and they said I was 2cm dilated, however, I wasn't in labour and the twins were just pushing on my cervics.

    They said that I'd have a steroid injection that day and Saturday and that I'd have a c section on Monday morning.... needless to say that didn't happen.

    My DH & mum went home, at 7pm I felt period pains every 20 mins, then every 10mins. They said that labour can stop its self an wouldnt move me to the labour ward, because it was only 2cm. Buy the time my partner and sister arrived, I was screaming for gas and air and contractions every 2 minutes.

    I screamed to get moved, which they finally did. They were refusing me a section because they wanted the steroids to work. No 1 was on the room but us, they only inspect and check you every few hours.

    I went from 2cm to 10cm within 2 hours and never checked once.

    I was ready to push, my sister ran out and got someone, who confined I was 10cm.

    They came in to scan me, and find out where the babies were.

    They couldn't find the girl heartbeat and the big one was slow, this was checked by 2 people and then, it was code red, all these people were about me, I was rushed to theatre.

    I had a general anaesthetic, and can't remember anything but the next day.

    I'm still crying that I missed my babies birth, it's amazing, that there here, healthy.

    But the pain is so massive, I never picked them up until the next day.,,,, I never done there first fed, or had skin to skin,,,, I never got to see there full heads of hair...... and when I did, I was alone.

    I still cry talking about my birth, even 11 days later.

    Although, my little bundles of joy, are everything to me xxx

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    « Reply #9 on: 27/01/18, 06:31 »
    I canít even being to explain why this hasnít been updated since I gave birth. My little miracles are 4.5 months old and itís been a whirlwind. Itís been the hardest 4.5 months of my life, but also the most amazing.

    The nighttime feds at the start were so difficult the lack of sleep was unimaginable. DH didnít help out allot at all. Heís been a nightmare, and one day I made plans and left him-he struggles and when I got back he explained how he would help me more etc.

    Anways, my son Jax has reflux, it wasnít diagnosed quickly enough, I canít tell you the screams, in the car, in the buggy nothing stopped him. Went to nhs 24 and admitted to hospital; finally we are on a medication that seems to be working, and Iíve been weaning him early. Just a wee bit porridge and food. Not much.

    Heís started to roll, and Jess has started to sit up. I guess the reason that I have time to write this is because although I try and go out every day. Weíve all been stuck in the house with the cold.

    Last night I needed up doing my finances and the amount of money that I spent on ivf is unbelievablez

    Donít get me wrong they were worth every penny and more but we are loving skint for 2 years.

    Really trying to get it together xxx