Hi Dollystrumpet, i understand your concerns and to some extent i have to agree that they are some what dismissive with regards of the matching of the donor. I also wanted more understanding with regards to having as near as poss match with my looks, Dr Monika can come across as not having the empathy in this area... on the flip side though she is extremely good at what she does and i guess for her it’s really not about the looks but more about creating a baby for you to hold and cherish. I have 2 birth children thats grown up and ive also got a 16 year old son that i adopted so i know theres a difference in your love for your children and yes it is important to feel attached to the potential baby you are going to have, but i guess you must reconcile this worry before you decide to go ahead and use D.E... its taken me 5 years to get to this point of peace within myself that i’m doing the right thing choosing to use D.E