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Offline sm89

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« Reply #220 on: 8/03/18, 10:47 »
Dreamer - Sorry to hear about the damage to your house. Glad you are all okay though and no one was hurt  ^hugme^

lollipop - Hope are you okay. Like Dreamer says, everyone has their wobbly days. I've had a fair few too after periods of bad pain or feeling nothing. It's the worst, so try to get your midwife to listen in to give you some reassurance.  ^hugme^

Clarabelle  & Inaya - lovely that you got to hear the heart beat. It really is amazing  :)

Hope everyone else is well, this website isn't working properly for me at the moment so I'm sorry if I have missed anyone.

18+4 for me today! I have my 20 week appointment next Thursday. Always look forward to getting some reassurance. Still getting odd pains but think it's just everything stretching. Very uncomfortable some days and then others I can't feel a thing! The main thing for me right now is exhaustion feel like I could fall asleep standing up! Is anyone else having this?

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    Offline miss sd

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    « Reply #221 on: 8/03/18, 15:25 »
    Sm89 I am 18 + 4 today too!
    Hope everyone is ok.  Sorry not been on again for a while.  I got admitted to hospital on tuesday with very heavy bleeding.  Was very scary , they used Doppler but couldn't find  heart beat (argh) but thankfully scanned me quickly and found one.  However they admitted me as concerned at the blood loss.  Been here two nights and the bleeding has just stopped.  They are doing another detailed scan at 4.20pm to measure the baby and check it has the right amount of fluid around it.
    They said im.likely to bleed all the way through so will be scanning me every four weeks.

    Without wanting to sound ungrateful as I've been desperate to get pregnant for 7 years- I am hating pregnancy so far , finding it very stressful.  My consultant has recommended I go on anti depressants as my anxiety is not good for the pregnancy and he thinks I'm very detached from the pregnancy which could cause issues when its born with bonding etc.

    Nothings easy is it !!

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    « Reply #222 on: 8/03/18, 16:53 »
    Miss sd - I feel for you, what a worrying time you have been through, blood loss must have been scary but then utter relief that all was ok with baby. I'm glad they are keeping a close eye on you now and hope the detailed scan goes well.


    As for anxiety, I suffer with it too and it does taint things. Make sure if you do start meds that your aware of the side effects relating to the pregnancy. I am sure the doctor knows what's best though.


    All I can add is that with my DD I didn't really enjoy the pregnancy, I was anxious the entire time, literally spent every single day feeling like it would all end. I didn't really talk about it though, I didn't want anyone to think I wasn't grateful, I was grateful and obviously so happy to be pregnant but after waiting so long and thinking it would never happen I ended up severely anxious the entire time.
    Whilst my daughter was born a healthy and chunky weight and had no health concerns , she was and remained a very unhappy, screamy, unsettled baby for the first 6 months. She was never happy, cried and screamed 90% of the time, doctors said it was severe colic. Anyway it passed and under it all was a very happy , bright little girl, but I do wonder if somehow my constant state of anxiety and fear in pregnancy somehow made her so screamy and stressed as a newborn. She was that bad my HV visited my house weekly until she was 4 months old!
    Anyway what I am saying is to get help where and however you can and its great your being honest about how you feel. I should have done the same last time too.


    Be kind to yourself, there's no right or wrong way to feel when pregnant, we are full of hormones and ultimately been on a huge journey to get here in the first place ^hugme^

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    « Reply #223 on: 8/03/18, 19:32 »
    Hi All..
    Lollipops on the movement I'm 19 weeks tmrw and I am only feeling very light movements and they are still really sporadic.  Bit worried too as with my son I'm sure I felt him more by that stage.  I had a scan last week and they used a Doppler and heard the beat, they also heard it at 16 weeks so it's somewhat reassuring...just trying to not get absorbed with anxiety when I hear stories about loss too.  It's not something I suffer with but I am a worrier! When is your next scan ?

    Miss sd so sorry to hear about your bleeding you're in the best place though...and it's positive that it has stopped .

    Sorry to hear about the house dreamer .  Last thing you need.   Hopefully the scan gave you a boost.  How did it go?

    Sm89 it's wieerd as my energy seems to peak and then completely drop...I slept until 9am the other night and was snoring on the sofa at 10pm on Monday!

    Afm I'm all good...paranoid about movement but trying not to worry too much.  I just want to fast forward to August ! My scan isn't until 22 weeks! Arrrgh.   What do they normally check for ? Can't remember from the first time ....

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    « Reply #224 on: 8/03/18, 20:15 »
    Miss sd sorry your going through such a hard time.I had a subcutanious hemorrage at 6 weeks. I hope bleeding stops and you can feel better in pregnancy soon. I too feel anxiety and wish i could enjoy pregnancy. Perhaps when i feel the baby move consistently i will relax a bit. I just want it to be August already and have baby. X

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    « Reply #225 on: 9/03/18, 01:48 »
    SM89- Not feeling exhausted, no. Wonder if that is the norm though, unless your iron needs checking, that can make you feel as you describe. Felt like it in the last pregnancy and it was my iron.

    Not long till the big scan :

    Miss Sd - Dealing with all that worry must be exhausting  ^hugme^ It's understandable that you feel detached, and upsetting that you can  not enjoy this experience.  So hope the bleeding lessens for you, just listen to your body and rest loads. Keep
    Away from stress.The pregnancy is a very important part, not denyingg that  but in the scheme of your baby's birth and whole life, it is not as big and you will have all the other milestones and joys to look forward to .

    Lollipops- Two rooms affected and stuff in them, really hope the insurance pays up. Didn't sleep last night worrying about it, but today am
    Feeling more positive that it is fixable and could have been worse. That may change Tommorow of the insurance company still
    Havent called back!

    Maybe once you get further along with the pregnancy you will feel differently this time. So sweet your daughter is excited but I see how you feel the pressure even more because of that

    Miss Tee- 3 more weeks ! It will come and hopefully very quickly for you. The list of what they check for is quite meticulous, more so than how it was 9 years ago. As a bonus you get more time  to see more of your baby.

    Ruby81- Have you  heard back from the consultant? Any news ?


    20- week scan today and all good. Phew! It took an hour and twenty minutes and I have been quite sore after and cramping a lot. Came home and got back in pajamas and went to bed and  rested all day. Made the most of hubby and I being on annual leave! Lie in Tommorow too as hubby will do the school run. Yay  ;D

    Bit worried if babe's r  ok from the scan it seemed  traumatic for them as they would keep on punching back at the sonographer  as she pushed deeper in to my belly. It  kept making her jump.

    The girl was using her cord to rub her nose for comfort with both her hands around it, and stroking it with her finger on her nose.  it was so cute. Got a picture of that moment too My twin girls still do that now with the tag's on their comfort  blanket, so was an extra special moment. The boy wasnt as relaxed as appeared as if he was trying to escape her squashing him!

    Next milestone.. Viability!


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    « Reply #226 on: 11/03/18, 13:15 »
    Hope everyone is ok...

     ^rainbow^ ^daisy^ HaPpPy**MoThErS**DaY ^daisy^ ^rainbow^

    To you all  :-*

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    « Reply #227 on: 12/03/18, 20:57 »
    Hey girls.


    How's your weekends been?


    It was my 16 week midwife appointment today. She didn't listen to the babies heartbeat  :-\ 


    I ended up in tears about my anxiety. She said she will try and refer me to the mental health midwife at the hopsital.  I hate crying in front of people, I find it humiliating but it just came pouring out.


    She asked me if I was feeling any movements yet as its my second and I am not  :-\


    On saturday we went for a private scan and took our 5 year old DD, that was magical. I am trying to remind myself baby was well and so despite no movements or not listening to the heartbeat today, all is well  ^pray^ 


    Gosh I hate anxiety 

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    « Reply #228 on: 13/03/18, 01:03 »
    Lollipop my obgyn also gave me the name of a therapist for my anxiety as we had a previous loss ( early though) i just did not go as its not free. I left my workplace when pregnant and still on sickleave but iam considered high risk due to age. I have felt fluttering at times but so sporadic i get anxiety again when i feel nothing for a long time. We looked at baby things today in walmart but cannot bring mysel to buy anything yet. Maybe closer to 28 weeks. X

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    « Reply #229 on: 13/03/18, 01:08 »
    My obgyn used the doppler at 12 weeks and 16. Could not find h/b at 11 weeks and i burst into tears when she found it the week after. Next appointment is 20 weeks. They are sending me to a specialist for my 3rd trimester as will be 47 when i have the baby.