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Offline butterfly74

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« Reply #730 on: 11/12/19, 07:48 »
Dear girls
My my little boy Elia is sleeping I am getting in touch again. One week ago was the happiest day of my life. My baby came to the world without problems and when the doctor announced “he is born” I started crying silently and smoothly. I could not believed it ! This feeling is still with me today, while I am looking at him. Is it possible? Did my dream finally come true? When he cries and I do not know what to do, this sort of happiness is also the reason why I am thankful for his colic, screams and cries as well!

The baby is healthy and is growing well. Due to my diabetes he had to drink some artificial milk at the hospital, but when we came home after 2 days from the Birth, I started to feel awful with fever and tremors of cold, so it came my natural milk.

The only little thing is upsetting me a bit is a “ microtia in the right ear with a pre-auricular appendage” as they have called it. It is a little outgrowth of the skin on the right ear, which is a little smaller than the left one. We have already done the first audio tests and it seems they are ok, but we have to keep his hearing monitored and in 7/8 months do other tests. Hopefully it could be for him just an aesthetic problem that could be surgically cured.  Let’s see.... anyway since it could be a genetic thing (but also something occurring naturally during the embryogenesis, doctors said), I asked VH to ask the DE girl if she had any problems of this sort in her family. They replied immediately that “they have reviewed the donor's medical history and neither she or her direct family members (3 generations) have problems of this kind.” Hope it is like they say and Elia will have just a special distinctive sign!

The first days with the baby have not been easy, as you can imagine you have to switch all your life and habits towards his requests! I have to learn everything and mostly to sleep like a soldier, that is to say, little sleep, on command and whenever there is an opportunity!! My husband is much better than me in this and sometimes he does not event hear Elia’s screams while sleeping, but since he has to go to work I prefer let him sleep and ask him for help in the evening when he is back.
My mom is also helping me a lot, since with the Caesarean section I have to rest more and to avoid some hard works like home cleaning or up and down movements. The first days I had also some problems in standing up from the bed, considering I am using a “next to me” crib which is tied to my side of the bed.

What else? Well being a mom is so strange and new for my body, that I have a sort of left shoulder tendinitis...you know, breast feeding and baby holding was never on my gym program 😂😁


Girls, it a very special feeling which I cannot describe better than saying that I it seems to me now that I have become something else. It’s a new me who is born with my baby too. My life has completely changed, so I am. Hope to be a good mom and make Elia’s life happy.

A big hug to all!

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I wrote a first mail to my VH contact with some nice and personal thoughts together with some pics of the baby. She replied with a short and unempathic message that made me think of a standard [email protected] did you experience the same or was your contact nicer and sweeter?

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    « Reply #731 on: 11/12/19, 16:26 »
    Hi Everyone,

    I hope you don't mind but I would love to join your group. I haven't posted on a forum before but I have just moved to Vistahermosa and think it would be lovely to have your support.

    I have been reading your posts for a while and it is so nice to see people have the same highs, lows and worries as me.......it is quite a journey. It also gives me a huge amount of hope to hear about your successful pregnancies and a huge congratulations to you Butterfly74, I dream of having a baby in my arms in the not too distant future too :-)

    A short summary of my history - my husband had hodgkin's lyphoma as a child and treatment unfortunately left him infertile. We therefore knew we would need to use donor sperm from the outset. We have now been through 2 years of fertility treatment with a clinic in London. As I was only 30 when we started I think the clinic thought we would be an easy case (as did we!). From first investigations it looked like there was no issues from my side and the only issue was male factor. We started with a natural IUI and thought that might be it.......that was a BFN so we then tried a medicated IUI to increase our chances, again BFN. I should point out my husband and I live in Kenya so there is a lot of travel and disruption involved to receive treatment, we therefore decided to go straight to IVF. Everything went well and we ended up with 3 Blasts. We transferred one and I got my first BFP.......that was it, we thought we were there! Unfortunately 2 days after the BFP I started bleeding and the pregnancy ended in a blighted ovum. We all thought what a horrible bit of bad luck but at least I got pregnancy so surely next time.......We then went back for a natural FET as I ovulate well naturally and the doctor said that was the best way forwards. We defrosted both remaining embryos but only one survived, this resulted in a BFN (the transfer should have fallen on a Sunday but as the clinic was closed they transferred on the Saturday which they said would make no difference). We then decided to change donor and try another fresh round of IVF. Again everything went well and we had 4 Blasts which were better quality to the first round (I had started taking CoQ10 which I think helped). We transferred one and again got a BFP......I felt safe that it couldn't possibly go wrong again but my HCG wasn't doubling normally and again a blighted ovum pregnancy. After this I decided to do a bit of investigation and had a bloods done with Dr Raj Rai in London. The only thing they found was that I was Heterrozgosity for MTHFR A1298C but he didn't think that should be causing my miscarriages and that it was most likely down to random fetal chromosome abnormalities. We then went back for another natural FET, first with one embryo which resulted in a chemical pregnancy and then the final two embryos (again transfer day fell on a Sunday so they transferred on Saturday) which resulted in a BFN. Safe to say we were getting pretty bored of being told nothing was wrong......the doctor was refusing to think outside of the box and said it is just bad luck and to keep trying without changing anything. We really felt the staff were overstretched and we were just another number.......

    After a lot of research and reading your board we decided to visit URVistahermosa in November and the first thing they suggested was a hysteroscopy (which had never been suggested by the London clinic). Low and behold they found scar tissue in my uterus (goodness knows how that got there!) and that I had a narrow tubular uterus with a lower than normal volume which might well explain the miscarriages! The team were great and were able to carry out corrective surgery the following day which they were happy with the results. I am now on 3 months of Progynova/Cyclogest cycles to build up my lining and get my uterus in the best possible shape before a new IVF cycle at the end of Feb. It was so refreshing to find something that might be causing this.......we have a long way to go but I do feel this is hopefully a good step in the right direction! We will also PGS our embryos this time and I feel much happier with the Vistahermosa team :-)

    Hopefully 2020 will be THE year for a lot of us. I can't tell you how many of my friends are pregnant or have had babies in 2019. I hate to compare but it does hit home a bit when friends who weren't even engaged when we started this journey have got married and had babies. I am well aware we might have a few more chapters to our story but I do hope we are getting closer! It is very scary going through all of this without even knowing how the story will end but I do get some hope from reading your posts.

    I will stop rambling on for now but look forward to giving and receiving support in the upcoming year.

    Wishing everyone a happy Christmas and New Year and looking forward to seeing what 2020 will bring x

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    « Reply #732 on: 18/12/19, 12:14 »
    Sorry I haven't been about. Ive been having a tough time with my health. Ive developed an autoimmune disorder wich is attacking my eyes and joints. I can read a bit but the words are fuzzy. I spent ages typing a post last week but my little rascal hit the phone and deleted it all. Ive been feeling sorry for myself because I was so looking forward to my first Christmas with baby and I wanted it to be perfect. I do however realise how lucky I am and its worth feeling this bad to have my little boy.

    Poppy how are you? You've had such a tough time with your leg as well. Its no wonder that you feel down. It doesn't get any easier no matter how much you try not to get excited you cant help it and every time it hurts just as much. I found going to gym classes helped. It was an hour a day where I didn't have to think about anything other than not dying of exhaustion. Have you any plans for Christmas. We tried to go away for Christmas in previous years and do something different. Even just going to a b and b in Scotland gave us something to distract us. Have you had any more thoughts about trying again next year with your frosties? Sending you lots of love xx

    Brighty how are you. You must be so excited now. Its not long to go now. If you are writing a birth plan remember to plan for a c section just in case. As ours was planned we were able to choose music if we wanted and decide if dh would cut the cord. If you do need one you can be in control too. Hopefully all will go according to plan for you and you get the birth you want. Have a lovely Christmas and enjoy as much rest as possible xx

    Butterfly Congratulations you are a mummy. Im sure your baby is perfect. Because we went through so much to get here we really appreciate how lucky we are. Im so happy for you. Have an amazing Christmas as a mummy and Santa xx

    Firefly welcome to the group. Everyone is lovely here. It is a very supportive group. I probably should have moved on but Ive nowhere else to go where people understand my journey. I also feel connected to the people here. You have had a difficult journey too. Hopefully 2020 will be your year. Its nice to have something to look forward to in the new year. Its always easier when you have a plan. Have a lovely Christmas and I wish you all the best for your new cycle in February xx

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    « Reply #733 on: 18/12/19, 12:48 »
    Poppy I was wondering about you when I was at doctors. I had mild symptoms of this illness before pregnancy and I had autoimmune tests done after my miscarriages but they came back normal. After having baby my immune system has gone crazy and its attacking me but my blood tests are still normal. The doctor  said there is a rare  form of autoimmune disease that doesn't show up in blood tests.
    I think he called it seronegative disease. He said its very possible it caused miscarriages and it may be just luck that my immune system calmed down enough to stay pregnant. I was wondering if you may have something similar. Have you had psoriasis or joint pains or anything else related to that no matter how mild  you have probably had all the tests but I was just thinking about you xx

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    « Reply #734 on: 18/12/19, 13:57 »
    Poppy Im sorry if this isnt relevant but my mind is going into overdrive now that I feel better enough to think. Yesterday I got a steroid injection to calm the inflammation. It has really helped my pain but it reminded me that I had a steroid injection before my cycle. I had been trying to loose weight for treatment to give myself the best chance and I was at the gym constantly. I hurt my knee badly and was given a steroid injection into it. The doctor told me yesterday that the injection I got would last up to 3 months. Now Im wondering if the injection into my knee calmed down my immune system and allowed me to stay pregnant. It may just be a coincidence. Ill ask the consultant on my next visit. Again sorry if this isn't relevant to you. Im probably overthinking everything as usual.
    Im also sorry I haven't been here for you with all you're going through but I couldn't see very well and my fingers were so swollen I couldn't move them to type. Im sure you thought Id forgot you x

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    « Reply #735 on: 21/12/19, 16:59 »
    Hi everyone

    Sorry I haven't been on here in a little while. I have had to step in and help a friend who had a mental breakdown out of the blue and lives alone with no family to call upon. It's been pretty intense and incredibly stressful. She has stabilised a bit now and is getting help but it has been a lot to deal with. Perhaps not surprisingly I came down with a dreadful cold a few days ago and have been stuck in bed and lost my voice. So am writing this from bed...

    Butterfly, congratulations on the birth of your little boy. I am glad things are going well and it sounds like you are settling into motherhood. I am sorry to hear about the small issue with his ear but it doesn't sound like anything major and as you say, adds to his individuality. Hopefully his hearing will be totally fine. Much love to you and to him.

    Firefly, welcome and sorry for the delay in responding. It sounds like you have had a difficult time of it like all of us on here, but that you are feeling positive about Vistahermosa and looking fw to trying with them in the new year. Travelling from Kenya must make it more tricky certainly. I guess you will just have to work with a wide window of dates so that you are in Alicante in plenty of time in advance of any transfer. Please share all you want and ask any questions you may have and we will try to answer if we can.

    Maiziee, I am so sorry to hear about your health and the doctors saying you have this condition that you mentioned. It sounds really difficult and must have been scary wondering what was happening to you when it first started. Of course I didnt think you had forgotten about me, I just assumed you were busy with life and your little boy. I am so sorry that actually you have also been struggling with all of this. Now that they think they know what it is, is there treatment you can have to help stabilise things? I hope so. Please do keep us posted and know we are here for you. I for one am very glad you have stayed on this board since having your son as your knowledge and support and experiences are all very welcome and helpful. Plus you are a lovely person and one of our own. So please dont go anywhere. But of course only come on here when you want to and feel able with the health effects you are experiencing.

    I am putting things on hold until the new year but then prior to going ahead with further treatment and using our frozen embryos I am going to have some more blood tests here in the UK and go to see this endocrinologist who is recommended a lot on fertility friends. I want to check if there is any health issue that has not been identified as I truly believe there is something and it is somehow related to the immune system and my thyroid. In particular I do wonder about hashimoto's disease as my mother has it and I have a lot of the common symptoms. It is something not often picked up by a GP though or by standard tests. Anyway, if he gives me the all clear then great, but if not it will be good to identify whatever it might be and get it treated before looking to use our frozen embryos.

    I looked up the condition you mentioned Maiziee, and thanks for thinking of me, but I dont think that sounds like what is going on with me, though there are a few similarities. But let's see what happens when I start to investigate more. Out of interest, what kind of specialist are you seeing who has helped determine what is wrong with you?

    Also Maiziee, I understand these health issues putting somewhat of a dampener on xmas which is really disappointing it being your first with your son. However, if you had this condition before and it went unnoticed, how amazing that you managed to have your son and have a fairly problem free pregnancy. And at least it has been diagnosed now so you can hopefully get treatment and the right kind of support to make it easier to live with going forwards. I really hope xmas isnt spoiled for you. Though I do understand as well because its really been an effort for me to try to get into the spirit of things after my recent loss. And my last loss was in early December 2018, so that made last christmas hard too. But this time I am trying to remain a bit more positive.

    Brighty, I hope all is well with you and the twins and that the meeting with your consultant went well regarding the birth plan. Your baby shower sounded like it was so lovely and so much fun. And incredibly touching that your friends wanted to do that for you. You deserve it.

    Ok well that's all from me for the minute as my head is full of cold and I need to rest. But I am thinking of you all and wishing you all the best. Touch base again soon.

    Xxx

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    « Reply #736 on: 27/12/19, 03:53 »
    I hope you all had a very Happy Christmas and a restful Boxing Day! Thank you for welcoming me to your group  :)

    We now have our dates booked for Alicante and will be leaving Kenya on the 26th Feb and back on the 14th March. We have to be there from the first scan onwards as we don't have any facilities near us in Kenya. Luckily I work from home online anyway so can continue and my husband is the boss of his business so can take the time without having to explain too much!

    Reading your posts I am thinking about booking Bazar 16 as for that length of time it will be important to have our own space. Did you guys book the Penthouse one bedroom apartment or the two bedroom?

    Thank you in advance for any advice! 



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    « Reply #737 on: 29/12/19, 12:04 »
    Hi Firefly

    Happy Christmas and soon to be new year. We stayed in the 2 bedroom apartment at Bazan 16. I was the one who recommended it originally. It was great and really spacious. The only thing to be aware of though is that there is no lift in the building. So you need to be comfortable with walking up and down a few flights of stairs.

    Its great you have your dates booked in with Vistahermosa and have something to work towards/look forward to. I will have to regroup in the new year and think about what I want to do next.

    Hi to everyone else. Hope you all had a good Christmas. And Brighty - not long now!! Hope all is still going smoothly.

    Xxx

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    « Reply #738 on: 29/12/19, 15:40 »
    Thanks Poppy, that is great! I think the two bedroom looks a bit nicer. Which doctor are you with? Hopefully you will have a good follow up chat with them and work out the best way forwards and what (if anything) needs to be changed. When you are ready it is always nice to have a new plan in place  :) A bit of a break is always good though and to let the body settle back to normal......wishing you a lot of luck for next year!

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    « Reply #739 on: 2/01/20, 18:35 »
    Hi all!! Happy New Year! Here's to 2020 being all of our years!...

    So sorry for my radio silence - there's no baby news I'm afraid, I've just been ill again (as a lot of you have too from the sound of it!) and out of action. There have been so many last min things I've needed to get sorted before the babies arrive, every moment I've had any energy I've been trying to get through my list, so it's been a little stressful with no time to write here..but all ok really and I'm now finally starting to feel better again which is a relief, so close to giving birth!

    Butterfly -massive congratulations on the arrival of baby Elia, so so pleased for you - and what a wonderful Christmas/New Year gift. I really hope his ear problem gets better soon and you can get past it.

    Firefly - hello and a warm welcome to this group! What a lot to go through, esp when in kenya and having to travel such long distances for everything. So positive about finding something wrong that can be fixed though - I remember feeling so deflated after all my various recurrent miscarriage tests when they'd say 'good news, everything's come back normal' - when all I wanted was for something to be found that could then be fixed!
    I totally get what you're saying too about how scary it is on this journey with no knowledge of how it'll turn out. We wrangled a lot with this over the past 7 years, wanting to give it our all but really not wanting it to take over our life (impossible I know) and detract from all the other positive things in our life, not to mention alternative opportunities - it certainly is a path full of dilemmas and decisions that most people don't seem to have to face in the way we all have. We feel incredibly lucky to have finally got to where we have though (about to pop with twins), after everything we've been through, it's still difficult to believe, and i hope that does offer some hope to others.  I really hope 2020 is your year, along with everyone else on this board. Sending you lots of positive vibes for the end of Feb!!

    Maiziee - I'm so sorry to hear you've been so unwell, that's really terrible. So unfair after everything to have this thrown at you as well  and affecting your enjoyment of your first Xmas as a Mum. I really hope you can get some relief soon if not already - how are you feeling now and how was Christmas with your little boy?

    Poppy - it sounds like you've continued to have such a difficult time what with your friend not being well and then you not being well either,... Did you manage to have a relaxing/enjoyable Christmas/NY and have some time for yourself? I really hope so... you really deserve a break and chance to recuperate after everything that's happened these last few months (not to mention before that). Really pleased to hear your NY plan about endocrinologist though - such  good idea to cover all bases before going back to your frozen embies, and that's really interesting about your mum and hashimotos - I've heard that's one that's often not picked up or missed, so think you're totally doing the right thing not leaving any stone unturned. I hope the fact that you do have those embryos left has given you some comfort though - when you're ready and have checked off those other issues, they'll be waiting for you. I know it means another round of picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and getting mentally/emotionally ready again - which is an effort in itself - but hopefully this time you've given yourself will make that a bit smoother. Do let us know how you get on when the time is right, we're thinking of you and sending you so much love and support....

    As for me, I'm on the home straight now. 36+4 weeks. Had several false alarms over the past week or so but no twinnies yet. I'm booked in to start the induction process on Tuesday when I'll be 37+2 as with twins they want me to have delivered before I get to 38 weeks. I was hoping to avoid induction but as it looks so likely now, I have got my head round it now, and we are feeling incredibly excited about finally meeting them. Saying that though, I'm doing all I can to encourage spontaneous labour - I'm booked in for acupuncture tomorrow, reflexology on Sat, a sweep on Monday morn and a massage on Monday afternoon! Ha - a woman on a mission!  Am so huge now and can't really walk very far, but apart from that so far both myself and the babies have done really well healthwise. It seems to be quite unusual to get this far without being brought in for early c section for various health issues, so very lucky to have kept them cooking for this long. And they are both head down so in the right positions too...

    Anyway, I'll keep you updated with more news when I can, but in the meantime I'm thinking about you all and sending you all much love, support and positivity, and look forward to hearing more news from you guys.

    xxx