Vistahermosa cycle chat 9

[ZC]

Thanks Poppy
Yes I’m pretty devastated and drained emotionally and financially!

Salome will call me during the week. But what next?

This was our 4th embryo from donor to fail  And previously 9 OE transfers before that all the usuals injectables tracking the works.

Asked about changing donor. Why? I’m not even considering it. So why did my fingers type the question?

At some stage you’ve to ask yourself when is it enough?

I don’t feel done. I want another. I want her to have a sibling. I’m 44 and feel way too old for this. But I know VH would have a donor lined up in a month. And we’d be transferring in 2/3 months. And the idea is giving me relief. But then if that fails. Then what. And oh let’s find the best part of 10k for all the treatment and extras.

I feel so helpless. And I shouldn’t. I’ve a daughter. I get that too. And I remember when we were without her I would see those with one needing another and think you should be happy with one.

Rambling a little but no one else gets it!

[FertilityFriends]

[Jen2907]

Im so so sorry ZC for your news, its so devastating time after time. But your right i do think theres a time where you have to say enough is enough and only you can make that decision. Have you  considered adoption? Just out of interest is your daughter from an OE or donor cycle? Its so hard to get off the IVF rollercoaster as I know each time you have a failed cycle the only thing that keeps me going is the ‘whats next’ question and focusing on what we can do differently next time. I really feel for you and hope your feeling better soon ❤️ Have you heard from the clinic? What ever decision you make will be the right one. The mind is a crazy place but at least you can share you thoughts and feelings on here and get them off your chest, without being judged as we all feel that desperation throughout our journeys, Take care xx

[Annapv]

Hello
I saw your post regarding the intralipid infusions in London.
Please can you give me details of the clinic. I am having a FET tomorrow in Gdansk and have had a pre FET infusion today. However getting back here is going to be difficult so wanted to see where I could get my ongoing infusions in the UK,  am London based.
Many thanks
Anna

[jennyH1]

Hi everyone,

Hope your all doing ok and managing to stay safe in these crazy times.

ZC I was so so sorry to read your post. I'm sorry I haven't been on here in a very long time but I sent you a PM xx

Poppy how are things? Have you decided on whether to go for transfer...I know you were talking about possibly sept or october? Hope things are going to plan for you. Let me know where your at when you get a chance xx

Jen2907 Did you go to VH for your transfer after? If so I really hope you had success xx

Firefly hope everything is going well in your pregnancy. You must be close now. God it's crazy how time has gone so fast. Hope all's good xx

As for me I'm still waiting for my thyroid to settle. I underestimated how difficult it was going to be to get it stable this time but my endocrinologist is great and am almost there please God!!! It's so weird that something that causes me such few symptoms can have such a huge affect on trying to have a baby. I've resented the extremely long wait if I'm being honest....it's been crappy.
Otherwise my hubbies semen has been shipped to UR and I had an ERA which came back post receptive so that's good. At least now I know I'll be transferring at the correct time. I've got an appt to meet with my endo next wk to see if we can start taking the next steps. If we get the all clear we'll be heading in November/early December...fingers and toes crossed 

Anyway guys hope your all doing ok and sorry if I missed anyone xx

[Firefly86]

Hi Jenny and everyone! I had my 34 week check up yesterday and all looking good. The only thing is she is still sitting breech so I am trying to do all I can to help her turn as I would like to avoid a c section if at all possible. 3 weeks now until we go down to Nairobi for the final count down......wishing you all the luck in the world for your next steps and I will let you know when there are any updates my end x

[jennyH1]

Firefly so glad all is going well for you. Hope things work out as best as poss with the delivery. Have just everything crossed for you and will be thinking of ya. Best of luck now and keep us updated. Your almost there. Soooo exciting xx

[Jen2907]

Hi everyone,

Hope everyones keeping well!

Jennyh have you got a date yet to go over for your transfer? Will you have to self isolate on your return??

We went over in august but unfortunately was unsuccessful. On the day of the transfer they took some bloods, one being progesterone. They rang me that night to say my progesterone levels were low and to get some lubion injections which i did but made no difference so felt like it was a no go right from the start. So will take those from day 1 next time. We have 2 frozen left and they have finally agreed for us to have intralipids. Not sure how it works really, if anyone can shed some light on that? We wont be going until the isolating on return is removed as i cant really have 2 weeks off work afterwards.

ZC did you make a decision on whether to cycle again with VH? Or are you enjoying a break from it all.

Xx

[ZC]

Jen you must have been there just after me

Sorry it didn't work out. You can also use IM progesterone this worked for me on my first

Or prolutex and vaginal But you can only start progesterone 5 days ahead of transfer so just be careful there

Maybe talk to you own doctor here about injectable in the bum progesterone. Its not so bad and pretty much standard in most clinics. I have had this conversation with VH too.

Hope it works next time. We too are considering intralipids but I can't seem to organise here sadly

Stay strong you will get there. Here if I Can help at all

[ZC]

To answer we are meant to travel 29 November but I have had some serious health issues. Always something. If I can get better by then I will try. Fresh cycle so its scary!

[Jen2907]

Oh no!!! I hope your ok and will keep my fingers crossed for you to get there! Have you gone with a new donor? Thats not long off at all is it!
I have googled and seems a few clinics about an hour or so away would do intralipids for £250 with proof of advice so thats what my focus is. That’s interesting about the progesterone, thanks for that, ill have a chat about that with VH. They also recommended we have a scratch on the cycle before but im sceptical about that as ive had it in the past, it was awful and made no difference!
Have they changed anything in your protocol this time round? X