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Offline mrscoyle

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« Reply #260 on: 6/02/19, 12:10 »
Janeliot - I am so so sorry to hear about your mum, i'm sure it was still be a shock although you where expecting it.
But congratulations on reaching Viability and being 24 weeks, its such a relief isn't it. I am not surprised your head is a fuzz hun! but please try not to worry about it, i'm sure everything will work out, I am sure the funeral arrangements will be sorted soon. your double buggy sounds exciting! I bet it will be big!

Toffee-Apple - Oh thats great you are going to the baby show, is that the Excel one? I think we will go on the Sunday as well. so might see you there!
and the Disney musical sounds amazing! I am so jealous! Im sure you will have an amazing time!
Oh bless you don't worry, so i felt flutters at 14 w and then at 16 w i felt flutters and bubbles then not very much at all! until i got my first kick and 20w and had them ever since. So I really wouldn't worry about the flutters as your Mw said.
Lol i don't blame you about the shopping! I am the same once i get started I cant stop! although I haven't got many clothes at the mo, cant wait to get more! 
I actually asked my midwife for the MATB1 form, I txted her yesterday and she said I could collect it at my next appointment with her so that will be 11th March, I said that was fine. as I am self employed I have to do it all myself so I am trying to be organised.

Honeybee - Thank for the Tip on the mother care event hubby and I are going to go on Sunday, im sure it will be very educational!
looking forward to it. So I actually phoned my Drs to ask for the MATB1 form and they told me they don't do them anymore and you need to get them from your midwife now.
Thats interesting about baby hearing now and reading etc to bump, i haven't read that so its good to know! As i use to work at a school I can remember quite a few songs and stories but a book will always come in handy! i bet you are excited to get it! which one did you choose?




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    Offline Honeybee17

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    « Reply #261 on: 6/02/19, 15:56 »
    Hi everyone,

    Janeliot, how are you doing today?

    MrsC - This is the book I chose but there are other similar ones too https://www.amazon.co.uk/Puffin-Baby-Toddler-Treasury/dp/0670878324/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1549467387&sr=8-1&keywords=baby+nursery+rhymes+book. Eagerly waiting for the amazon van to pull up outside my window  ;D

    So just back from the consultants. It was so nice to walk to a baby related appt and not be driving into London or even Reading! So the consultant was super nice. All usual checks normal. They didn't listen for the baby but wasn't especially concerned about that. Haven't felt many kicks today but general movement so wasn't too worried. What was a bit of a surprise was my mini melt-down  :-[ She asked me if I had any questions and I explained I was very worried about things going wrong with the birth after all the history and this really being a last chance saloon due to age and then promptly burst into tears. She basically said they would do extra scans at 28/32 and 36w (I think) and also look to induce at 39/40 weeks or even schedule a caesarian. I asked if that was sth they would really consider and she said they don't offer elective caesarians but in certain circumstances she feels it's justified and she would be willing to consider that for us given my age and the journey we've been on to get here. I'm not taking that likely and I know it's also not without it's risks and requires a longer recovery period, but since she said it I just feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders. I'm not sure it's a done deal but so relieved that it hasn't been dismissed. I would love to have a lovely natural birth and just spend time with our new baby without recovering from an op but seeing as I could have complications related to a natural birth anyway or worse it feels a little bit like the lesser of two evils at the moment.

    She said they will send a lx through the post for scans so I guess we'll take it from there. What I didn't ask was when/if I would see her again but there was no talk of being handed back over to MW care so I am guessing I will get an appt to see her again at some point when we're a bit further along. I have to say there would be a lot to be said for knowing when things might happen and we can plan for extra support post arrival if we know in advance that we're going to need it as my husband would most certainly need to go overseas to work again within 6 weeks of the arrival. My sister could probably come to stay though. We'll see. Still lots of bridges to cross but the conversation was very helpful.

    Not much else to report here. Have a good afternoon everyone x



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    « Reply #262 on: 6/02/19, 20:08 »
    Hello ladies,

    I got MAT B1 form from my GP in the end of 19th week. The form says it should not be issued before 20 weeks.
    I had to visit GP 4 times: to fill in the form (twice, first time the receptionist gave me the wrong form), then check for GP signature and final visit when the form was ready.
    There is Aldi shop close to my GP so over four visits I managed to buy almost everything that is required for the baby the first three months.
    My partner does not want to visit any parent events organised by shops as he thinks the shops will be pushy and we will end up buying a lot of stuff that will never be used.

    Got a surprise at work: HR told me the management considers hiring a permanent person to replace me during maternity leave. When I am back they will try to find something else to do for this person or make him redundant. Sound ridiculous as the same way they can make me redundant when I get back to work. I work in a small head-office and at the moment cannot see the workload for another senior finance person.

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    « Reply #263 on: 7/02/19, 13:38 »
    Janeliot I'm so deeply sorry to hear about your mum. It must be so hard on you but you have 2 little miracles  and you have to be strong for them. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you are doing ok.

    Hi to everyone else!
    We are flying out today, we're going to Romania to visit our family for a few days while I can still travel ... a bit nervous but hopefully I'll be ok.

    Xx

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    « Reply #264 on: 7/02/19, 14:01 »
    Honeybee - Awe it looks lovely! I am sure it will be perfect! I bet you have started it now!? How is it?
    I am so pleased to hear that the consultant has put your mind at ease with the thought of a possible caesarian, I am sure that if they feel its best for you an as you are concerned about a natural birth they will sort it out for you fingers crossed.
    Do you not already have a 26w MW appointment already made? as I am being MW and consultant led and seeing them both at the end of March time next.

    Lily0750 - Lucky u already having your MATB1 sorted! my surgery just told me its only midwifes now so i have to wait! and i was to get it sorted, but it will be fine I am sure. Thats fab that you have managed to get loads to get ready for baby! and i totally get what your partner is saying, I am planning on getting most things 2nd hand and being given a lot but apparently they  are very good for learning how things work etc and I love to learn so I am looking forward to it. (no intentions of buying anything though )  Thats interesting that your work have decided to do that, although i suppose they have decided its the best option.

    Janeliot - How are you getting on?

    Bossy - I hope you have a fab time in Romania seeing family! sounds fab.

    A.F.M - I have just got a 2nd hand electric baby rocking thing, its super cute! I think the cats going to love it! will need to keep it covered i think!
    its a mother care one and £150 new I got 1 in great condition for £50. although its bigger than i expected! not going to be room for me and hubby at this rate! lol




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    « Reply #265 on: 7/02/19, 20:03 »
    Hello lovelies!

    Janeliot, I am so sorry. I can only imagine how difficult is everything for you right now. I hope with time and with the baby coming in a few months you'll be a bit better.  ^hugme^

    mrscoyle, how are you keeping? Are they set for a c-section? It does sound like is the safest option for you and I'm sure your doctors will make the right decision.

    honeybee, seems like they rea very thorough with you and that's always a good thing. At the end of the day regardless of how the baby comes into the world what is important is that both of you are safe and healthy. I want a natural birth but by all means if there is even the slightest question mark in relation to either myself or the baby I know I'll go for the section.
    We also decided to start talking a little . bit more with the little one and play music to him. Just a bit of bonding before more bonding after he's born.

    toffee, I wouldn't be concerned about the flutters not being consistent, it's normal at this stage...and regarding not buying until 24 weeks, well...we had the pram by the time I was 17, some small items when I was 18-19 and received a lot of bits from friends like bottles and stuff. I feel that is early but then everyone else doesn't so I just go with the flow.

    Bossy, so happy all was good with the scan. How cute you're going to Romania, I am from there but moved to Ireland a few years back. My whole family lives there. How many weeks are you now? Did you have to fill in a form you're good to fly?
    I hope you'll have a nice time there.

    As for my pitty self...well, dunno where to start from.
    I don't know if I mention it here but we're currently in the process of moving to a bigger apartment, also with a higher rent and yesterday my wife was told by the company she's working for that because of budget issue they will have to finish her contract earlier. It was a temporary contract anyway but we were both hoping she might be kept on, also they did finish it 2 months earlier which is no t really a fair play. I am also stressed as I'll move jobs in a  month (hard to explain but although working for the same public institution I have to rotate between different hospitals and sign a contract everytime) and obviously I won't work too much until going into mat leave. Tomorrow I'll have a phonecall with the HR person about this and I am kinda scared. I do qualify for full pay mat leave so I shouldn't have problems with it I would just hate for them to make it difficult.
    Back home, my dad hasn't been well. He's not been well for years I suspect but he never complains, never goes to the doctors and he's just very bold in general when it comes to his health. By some miracle they discovered he's anaemic and now I am just pushing for him to get more tests done. I am just scared of the worse. Also to make everything a bit more spicy my parents still dn't know about my pregnancy and now with all this I have no idea when I'll be able to tell them. I just don't want to upset them on top of everything. Everyone keeps saying to me they'll be happy and bla bla but I am not sure. They also don't know about me being married with a woman and all that. I swear I might as well just be in a soap opera! A bad one!
    On the baby front, I am 26 weeks today. This little one is keeping me busy at 2 am, 5 am and the rest of the day. Yesterday we had our first appointment with the consultant. A bit sad that I had no scan, just the old doppler but I guess that's what you get in the public hospital. All was good anyway, my fundal height measured well ahead but the consultant didn't seem stressed about it so I won't be either.  Not now anyway, plenty of other things to be stressed with.
    God, that was a whinge and a half!

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    « Reply #266 on: 8/02/19, 21:08 »
    Hi all

    Just wanted to check in with everyone and thank everyone for their prayers and wishes, it really means a lot to me ❤️❤️

    So the funeral isnít until next week but Iím starting to look past that and think to the future, called the clinic and when we are ready we can have another transfer so in the back of my head thatís a good step. Not sure when we will be ready but I know the option is there when we want it to be.

    Just want to send all my love to you all and Iím looking forward on hearing about the progress through the week xx

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    « Reply #267 on: 9/02/19, 00:16 »
    Lori84- I think of you & you perfect baby everyday, sending lots of love and just take your time only you know when the time is right for you to try again! Next week is going to be hard so look after yourself Hun xx

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    « Reply #268 on: 9/02/19, 11:45 »
    Hi Lori! Youíre such a strong woman. I am glad youíre looking ahead, is always good to do that, I think it helps a lot when someone is going through such difficult moments.
    Lots of hugs and all the good wishes towards you and your family.

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    « Reply #269 on: 9/02/19, 12:14 »
    Aley - I'm good thank you, no decision has been made at the moment regarding c-section they are asking my specialist what he thinks,  but I am happy to have a c-section as it does sounds safer. I hope that you are not getting to stressed about work and moving although they are generally stressful things try not to let them get to you too much hun. I am sorry to hear about your dads health, I really hope you can get him into those extra tests, my hubby is the same the Dr it drives me mad! And although you have to do whats right for you, I would personally tell your parents about your marriage and your pregnancy, I cant imagine they would be anything less than happy and excited for you hun. As my father in law died a few weeks ago and hubby was estranged and hadn't seen him in 8 years, he was so regretful he didn't go see him or tell him we where pregnant etc, although they had a strained relationship and he would never have done that anyway but i know what he means.
    Anyway I really hope that you are trying to keep the stress levels as low as you can, i'm sending you strength.

    Lori84 - I am pleased to hear you are looking to the future and thats great that you have a transfer ready when you are. Been thinking about you lots and sending hugs x