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Offline Omnomnom:)

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« Reply #900 on: 23/08/19, 20:34 »
Oh MollyMartha, I really feel for you. To find yourself unable to relax and enjoy any aspect of your pregnancy is so very upsetting. You seem so caught up in identifying every negative possibility & outcome (even when the odds are vastly in your favour) and it's as if you've become completely consumed by it all. These forums are so wonderful for finding support and sharing our worries however for the sake of your mental wellbeing, I believe you can't deny yourself a much more specialised level of care. There must be councillors/therapists who specialise in fertility that would be able to provide you with the ongoing support you need. Perhaps a couple of sessions per week alongside a fresh approach at the meditation? Maybe someone who you could video call even? I'm not suggesting by the way that you come away from these forums for a minute because I know how vital they can be when it comes to receiving care and advice 🥰 I just think the ladies here are going to struggle to provide the answers you're looking for. I'm devastated that you're feeling this way. Pregnancies are so short and precious, I only hope you can find some positivity in yours. Huge hugs  ^hugme^ & wishes for a smooth and special pregnancy.

Firefly - Hi and Bye 👋😁 never got to speak but take good care of yourself in these remaining weeks. Best wishes.

Angel Delight - Welcome! My nausea was really strong at 4wks and then disappeared until 6/7 weeks. Definitely no consistency with symptoms for me. If I eat bland foods little and often throughout the day, I forget I'm pregnant haha. If I'm late having my breakfast though it's ends up being a whole day of non-stop nausea. Look forward to hearing how your viability scan goes!

Londonwriter - Glad to hear you had a much better day yesterday. Even better that you heard LO wriggling around. When we used our doppler today the HB was not quite in the same spot as its always been. It was surprisingly strong and more central, then it faded slightly and had to follow it. It was quite lovely really ☺️.

WobblyTulip - Hope you had a lovely time at the nature park! Can't wait to sign in tomorrow and see how you got on. Less than 2 weeks till I hopefully see our LO. Ageeeeeees. I've got a little bump forming where baby hangs out. I love it. I'm quite slim so it's obvious. The thought of feeling movements one day would just be incredible.

Shooting - Counting down the days until your scan & got everything crossed still. Our baby measured a few days ahead than I expected, but like I said, sonographer told us it was too early to take measurements too seriously & to wait until 12wks. I think you're taking the right approach by staying calm but cautious. Hope you can convince them for that earlier scan. Your symptoms sound comforting though, hun. I didn't use a doppler till 10 weeks for that same reason of not being sure I would even hear anything. Least you've got it ready for when you can 😁

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    « Reply #901 on: 23/08/19, 22:55 »


    Sorry Mollymartha...I completely agree with Firefly.

    I have been checking in on this thread and reading your posts and it saddens me to see that, despite all the excellent advice you have been given, you have chosen to ignore it all.

    As a medical professional, I urge you to stop "researching" on google and instead listen to the advice that other medical professionals have been giving you. They do their jobs day in, day out and it's sad to hear that you have such little faith in them. It's worth pointing out that different NHS Trusts have different thresholds for less researched tests such as PAPP-A. The Trust that I work for has a PAPP-A low threshold limit of 0.38, which in your case is well below your result, and if you were treated here then it's unlikely you would have even been told your results.

    Believe me, the only thing that is putting your baby in danger at the moment is your anxiety. Not IUGR, not PAPP-A. Like a previous poster wrote, high blood pressure as a result of anxiety in pregnancy can lead to all sorts of horrid complications and increase the likelihood of post natal depression.

    It's clear to me that you need counselling to help you deal with your anxiety urgently, before it spirals further. How do you know counselling isn't for you? It takes a number of sessions before you can start to see the benefit. Please, please consider this.

    Lastly, I'm not entirely sure what you are hoping to get from the forum if you continue to be anxious and disregard all of the great advice you have been given. I think only a mental health professional can help you, not an anonymous internet forum.  ^hugme^

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    « Reply #902 on: 23/08/19, 23:23 »
    Iím going to pop in here also as I have been stalking shootingstar 😋
    Iím not even pregnant atm and find your posts molly quite difficult to read, I can only imagine how hard it is for the newly pregnant ladies to read it as well. Pregnancy is an anxious time, there are no guarantees with any pregnancy, I know you have read the replies to your posts, itís a shame that your actually not absorbing what the ladies are saying, especially firefly who has unfortunately had first hand experience, everyone one here has absolutely given you sound advice and it seems your just skimming over it. If your sitting at the drís or midwife appointment and calmly saying that your a bit anxious well they will just hear it but probably not do anything about it because your not showing them how this pregnancy is affecting you, Iím sure if you showed them your posts on here they would jump to attention and start the process of help that is obviously needed. I donít know what to suggest either as everything has been said, but I will say, do you want to loose precious time with your newborn? Because if you donít get help now, this is only going to escalate and move into postnatal depression and you will spiral down into that. It is NOT NORMAL to obsess over one thing and then move onto something new ! I also donít know why you donít think you deserve to be pregnant first time trying, plenty of ladies get pregnant first time etc...... keep asking for help, show them your posts if you canít put into words how badly you are feeling, you need to be your own advocate and keep pushing for your own mental health.  ^hugme^

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    « Reply #903 on: 24/08/19, 00:53 »
    thank you all ladies for once again taking the time to reply to me , I honestly do read them all and the last few days, weeks they often have me in tears and sometimes I just don't know what to say in reply, I agree its definitely best if I step away and don't post the very last thing I would ever want is any of you lovely ladies being upset offended or dragged down by me when you each have your own hurdles struggles and worries along the way to get through yourselves I will keep browsing as its lovely to follow your stories chat share advice and experiences and a really friendly lovely place I wish you all well in your next stages and hope all goes really well for you all and again I apologise for my posts take care everyone and hoping the best for you all x

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    « Reply #904 on: 24/08/19, 02:25 »
    Molly again you have read but not understood, no one here wants you to stop posting and getting support but we do want you to push for medical/professional help as the ladies cannot give that to you, or give it to you in the way you need it.

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    « Reply #905 on: 24/08/19, 10:04 »
    Agreed - Mollymartha my love absolutely NOBODY wants you to stop posting.

    It's just that if you're after cold hard medical information, nobody here can give that to you. The only people that can are your NHS Trusts medical professionals (who you don't seem to like/trust/listen to). The only thing us ladies can recommend is counselling or speaking with somebody who can help with your severe anxiety (which you don't want to do).

    If you don't feel like your midwife etc is taking your anxiety seriously - honestly if it were me I would shout and scream and refuse to leave the surgery until I was listened to properly. I know some midwives can be difficult, so if you feel you're not getting the support you need, speak to the practice manager, a nurse, doctor...anyone that can help you maybe switch to one you have a better relationship with.

    I think I probably speak for everyone when I say that we are just all keen for you to enjoy your pregnancy free of the worry and anxiety that seem to have taken over the past few weeks. From the sounds of things, your pregnancy is progressing really really well so far - I just wish you could focus on that instead of obsessing over things that are completely out of your control. This is why a lot of ladies are trying to convince you to have counselling, as that can help you focus on the positives instead of being consumed by the negatives.

    Nothing in life is guaranteed and a lot of ladies on this forum will be able to tell you that. I could get run over by a bus tomorrow - but I don't spend today panicking that there's a chance I could be!! I'm absolutely positive that in a few short months you will be blessed with a healthy baba in your arms. Xx

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    « Reply #906 on: 24/08/19, 17:29 »
    So good news. We have a baby with a heartbeat on the scan. 120bpm. Measuring 6+5 at gestation 6+3, so all on track!  :) Midwife sonographer thinks bleeding last week was likely due to implantation. So relieved right now. Next step enjoy the BH weekend and hot foot it to London on Tuesday for another immune drip.

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    « Reply #907 on: 24/08/19, 18:45 »
    Thanks everyone for the welcome.

    WobblyTulip, congratulations what lovely news.

    Mollymartha, I'm new to this forum but just wanted to say; do not stop posting on here.  We are all here to support each other.  I really hope you get the help you need  ^hugme^


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    « Reply #908 on: 24/08/19, 20:14 »
    Hi everyone,

    Angel_Delight - Hope you are doing OK!

    WobblyTulip - This is fantastic news, congratulations!  All of that sounds very reassuring.  Glad you were able to find a cause for the bleeding too!  That must have put your mind at rest a lot.  Will you have another scan before 12 weeks?

    ThePhysiosWife - I hope you are doing OK and getting on well with your pregnancy!

    Stacey10 - Haha I'm stalking all of you too!  I hope you're doing OK and have managed to get going on your cycle.

    mollymartha - As others have said, everyone wants you to stay!  Nobody has suggested otherwise.  I hope you will continue on the thread as we all want to hear how you are getting on and support you through your pregnancy xx

    Omnomnom:) - It's lovely that you are able to use your doppler to trace your baby's movements now.  I'm longing for that day!  I think I'll have to wait a few more weeks.  Thanks for the reassurance too, that seems to be a common theme from what I have been reading, that measurements before 8 weeks are often unreliable.  I'd always understood it to be the earlier the better but it seems not to be the case!  I hope you are doing OK??

    I hope everyone else is doing OK?

    AFM - 7+6 weeks today.  I felt a lot of cramping last night which was fairly persistent and concerned me a lot.  It felt like AF was about to start!  Today, it's been on and off, much milder, with a bit of backache.  I've also felt a bit sickly but I think this was because I hadn't eaten a full meal until tonight.  Boobs have been really sore and itchy today and feel a bit fuller.  I have decided to go for a private scan on Monday morning as I've found a place which is cheaper and from the photographs looks like they use a good scanning machine.  I want to be able to compare at least a weeks worth of growth.  I'll have had a scan a week and a day before it.  I should be measuring 8 days bigger on the scan on Monday than the first scan I had.  Feeling very tired tonight too which I'm hoping is another positive sign xx

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    « Reply #909 on: 24/08/19, 20:45 »
    I've been very quiet for a week! I was away in Liverpool and only using my phone for the internet so was a bit tricky to reply. Just going to try and read back through everything.

    Karleigh, Angel Delight and GED - welcome and congratulations :)

    Claudia - glad to hear that your scan went well. I'm sure that it was scary at the beginning though!

    London - good to hear that you're feeling better! Lovely that you're able to hear the heartbeat.

    Shooting - sorry to hear that things are so up and down with the scans! I hope that you'll get some good and clear news from Monday's scan. Rooting for you!

    Wobbly - great news :) will you have another early scan or wait for your NHS one?

    Molly - as others have said, nobody wants to see you leave the forum, everyone is here to give support and advice. Echoing what others said, it really does sound like you need to speak to somebody. Do you speak to family and friends about your worries? It's also something that really needs to be managed before the birth because there could be more worrying times to come. Not to scare you, but my birth and the weeks afterwards were some of the worst that I've been through. They were mentally challenging and I can only imagine that it would've been much more difficult if I was already having anxiety troubles.