Efi, I agree with you. It sounds this way in the interview but maybe there are more details in the book regarding that. The message for now it’s clear for me - ivf it’s easy, it always works and you can always do ivf if you have a problem with ttc.
It’s very difficult to find someone who understands because unless you went through something similar or worse then you will not understand and that’s ok. I would never say to anyone going through multiple miscarriages or after having a stillborn that I understand because I don’t. I can have a compassion, respect and acknowledgement of their struggles but I don’t understand it.
I pointed out this once to my therapist and said that people just don’t understand. I wondered if there is a point in sharing it if no one I know in my life went through something like that and she said that the job of a therapist would be pointless if that would be the case because most of therapists never went through the tings that the patients went through and yet they can listen and help.
I guess not everything is black and white and I think it all depends on the person. And as much as the “I understand” coming from people having no clue what they are talking about makes me mad I still think most of the people want good for you and they just don’t know what to say.
I was one of them- naive and ignorant and optimistic

Now I know what I know but how they should know if we don’t talk about it?