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Offline Aggieblue

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« Reply #50 on: 9/10/19, 13:56 »
oh god we are really terrible at keeping this board up!

Lauren, I hope the blood scare was that one off! how is your pain? i imagine ti will not ease up, as it must be just things getting squashed (maybe a nerve?). but i hope it hasn't gotten any worse.

AFM - I am finally moved into my new flat. i love it, although disappointed that it turned out to be quite a noisy area. I viewed a flat on a saturday morning so it was nice and quiet then, but it's definitely not the case in the evening, there's quite a lot of traffic through what seems like a small little road. and also didn't realise there was no double glazing upstairs in the bedroom, only downstairs in the living room. I was worried i won't be able to sleep but it seems like it annoys me more than disturbs me as i sleep the same as before. so at least it doesn't keep me awake, but i just hate noise.
still everything is in boxes but bought a few furniture last weekend and hopefully i can unpack slowly in the next few weeks.

in the meantime time passes and i am now 22 weeks (wth!!) and had a bit of a sudden bump grow, which i'm fully embracing! just love it. little karate kid seems to be happy too, kicking away in there. some days he's more active than others, giving me something to worry about. also loves kicking my bladder, which feels super odd and well, not the most pleasant  ;D

so no complaints here, still struggling with food though, always feel sick after eating, but i#m getting used to it.

i'd love to hear from everyone else, if anyone ever still visits here...

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    Offline Londonwriter

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    « Reply #51 on: 9/10/19, 16:48 »
    Hi,

    I'm still around. Not much to report. Had my 20 week scan yesterday and Grape was okay, everything normal and slightly large for dates (exactly the same as my DS). I also met with my consultant who freaked me out when I broached my desire to avoid a lot of intervention. I sensed he thought I was crazy trying to going for a natural birth, or even a vaginal birth after the shoulder dystocia, which seems odd to me as there's no reason to suspect I'll have a complicated second birth (my DS wasn't in fact huge and 90% of women with shoulder dystocia don't have one a second time).

    AggieBlue - Sorry that your flat isn't as great as you expected :( I remember, before we got our first house, we spent an entire night in a hotel nearby to judge the noise levels. I guess we were also paranoid about noise.

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    « Reply #52 on: 12/10/19, 23:33 »
    Hi all,
    Sorry, I havenít been on here either. Im not telling people as a general rule, so it feels weird to chat about babies.
    London that is true commitment to your housing choice - booking a hotel to check out the noise. I think my neighbours probably moved out when they saw me pull up outside.
    Aggie I hope you get used to the noise, do you think as you get used to being there you will start to filter noise and stop hearing it, the way parents do when their children are pestering for something in a shop (or might be just me)?
    Lauren I hope your tummy pains have lessened and you are having a nice, boring time being pregnant.
    I am 22 weeks today and found I was having a girl at my anomaly scan - went into shock, as I have a teenage son and I felt a bit out of my depth, having spent so much time socialising with boys, since nursery and onwards.
    Iíve come round and am quietly excited at the prospect.
    Apparently, her tummy is on the 95th centile, so I will probably have my blood checked at the midwifes appointees next week, in case I am developing gestational diabetes. So hoping for the best. She might just be a tub?
    I don't really eat a lot of sugar, really didn't crave sugary foods, although ate a lot of potatoes in the first trimester. I  have noticed she goes wild when I eat sugar or a lot of carbs, but mainly sugar. Not sure if that means much in terms of having elevated blood sugar levels, but I donít want to drive her mad, so I am trying to being careful about sweets and puddings.
    How is everyone feeling? How are your energy levels? Are you buying things?
    I have been scared to buy anything in case the pregnancy fails, but recently have been browsing the internet (I would rather meet friends for lunch or cook or anything other than go shopping)
    Apologies for not name checking everyone, I canít see very far back in the thread on my ipad and my memory is atrocious, but I would love to hear from everyone.
    Xx

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    « Reply #53 on: 15/10/19, 23:09 »
    Hi all,
    Just had another midwife appointment 22+3. Had a doppler to check her heartbeat, it was 148, which the midwife thought was fine?
    Might have a uti. The last urine sample was the same. I dont know if it is just me, but I struggle with finding something I want to drink. Tap and bottled water tastes ok, but seem to give me heartburn. I Don't like tea much at the moment and coffee is quite bloating.
    What does everyone else drink? I need to drink more.
    November is packed with appointments. I havenít told work yet (baggy clothes) but I will in my 25th week, so that I can get the time off.
    Has everyone else announced to work? I have had trouble with actually believing that this is happening.
    Itís becoming more real now and I have told my son and a few friends.
    Hope you are all well.

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    « Reply #54 on: 16/10/19, 13:43 »
    Hi everyone

    @Whatonearth ĎGrapeí was at the 85th percentile on his 20 week scan. No one mentioned gestational diabetes - the sonographer thought it was because he was an ICSI baby. Anyhow, when I got home, it turned out that DS (naturally conceived) was around the 60/70th percentile and almost exactly the same size and predicted weight as Grape. Not sure how theyíre both the same size and one was at the 60/70th percentile and the other was at the 85th; maybe itís just that tiny size differences make a huge difference in predictions at this stage.

    I havenít bought anything specifically for Grape, but this is mostly because I have a DS already. I didnít do anything until I was over 30 weeks with DS. We have made some big changes. My MIL was annoyed that we were potentially having two children in upstairs rooms with broken doors and lining paper peeling off the walls (the house was bought in a bit of a Ďstateí) and has now paid to repair the ceiling/redecorate both top-floor bedrooms. Iíve also bought a cargo trike, but - again - itís not just because of Grape; DS is slightly too heavy for a rear bike seat (he is a gigantic three-year-old).

    Energy levels have improved. I think this is largely immune as my last Chicago test shows that my immune system now appears to have downregulated to Ďnormal person activityí.

    Iím drinking water, mostly, but also hot chocolate, decaf tea and decaf coffee.

    Iíve told clients about the pregnancy, but Iím self-employed and mostly work on short-term projects so the consequences are fewer. Most of my long-term clients knew I had a lot of appointments for IVF so I kinda needed to tell them I was pregnant because, otherwise, it caused awkward conversations (as they assumed it had failed). In general, because I work from home in a downstairs room, have a dog, and a part-time childminder working in my house, my DS is integrated into my working day anyhow. At least once a week, I have a live-action version of the Robert Kelly BBC interview going on. Today, for example, my childminder was off sick so I set up an phone interview with a scientist with my DS noisily doing a jigsaw behind me.

    Offline Aggieblue

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    « Reply #55 on: 17/10/19, 20:44 »
    Hello everyone! i still don't have internet installed at home, but only a few days now...

    Londonwriter, i'm sure your consultant means well but sometimes they're really just a bit overcautious! how do you check about the percentile? this is never mentioned to me and it doesn't appear on the notes. the graph where they add measurements  is literally just a line without numbers in my notes.

    whatonearth, congrats on having a girl! i understand the fear but i'm sure it will be nice to experience having both. i told my boss quite early (11 weeks) because i needed the time off for midwife appointments but only announced to the rest of my colleagues around 16 weeks.

    I have still not bought anything, but got given quite a few things, mostly clothes though. my friend who gave birth earlier this year sent me a list of things i will need and marked off things she can give me, which is amazing!
    my energy levels are dropping now again (23 weeks), i get really tired around 2/3pm, which was the case in my first trimester too. i'm still struggling with food, i always feel sick after eating, no matter how small or light my food was. i hardly ever feel hungry but i make sure i eat 3 times a day anyway and i eat some nuts and fruits during the day.
    I'm the same as you whatonearth with water, i can only stomach ice cold water, so i keep some in the fridge.

    i'm slowly settling into my new flat. i love the flat itself (still not fully unpacked!) and my landlady is getting a quote for double glazing in the bedroom, fingers crossed she will find the price acceptable!

    i am contemplating getting a private scan next week at 24 weeks. mostly because i feel robbed of my 20 weeks scan, after hearing everyone's experience and this guy not allowing me to see the screen at all, plus printer not working. I feel like i haven't even had one. on the other hand, i could do with not spending another £100 (after buying so much stuff for the flat!) plus i'm getting a scan at week 28 too so maybe i can wait...

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    « Reply #56 on: 17/10/19, 23:02 »
    Hi all,
    London, that's great about having your MIL fork out for the decorating. I'm painting at the moment and still lots to do. I haaaates it!
    Do you have to accept her choice of decor?
    Good news that your immunes have stabilised.
    How often are you having the Chicago tests?
    Aggie great news that you are settling in well and the possible bonus of double glazing.
    When would the next NHS scan be and would it be with the same person? It might be nice to get a fun scan earlier if you know of a good sonographer.
    My 20 week lady was lovely, very chatty and pleasant. We were laughing about the old wives tales surrounding the sex of the baby. I had been convinced that I had another boy and was completely wrong.
    I agree eating is so tricky in . I can't eat a large amount either, but sometimes I get so hungry that I do eat too much for my stupid, squashed stomach and it's miserable.
    I really don't like grazing, but it seems to be the way. At least it's not for too much longer, we're over halfway.
    Has anyone got a spotty face? My skin is awful. It just broke out and it's covered in red blotches.




    Offline Londonwriter

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    « Reply #57 on: 18/10/19, 13:56 »
    @Aggieblue I got a report with sizes in mm and bars. The sonographer told me Grape was at the 85% percentile and, from that, I guessed the percentiles for my DS based on the bars. That was at the Fetal Medicine Centre in London (private) tho'.

    I'd wait unless you want the reassurance (we had a 25-week reassurance scan with DS). I didn't even see Grape on my 12 week scan because my childminder was off sick so DS came with me. I wrote about my experience on the early pregnancy thread - he went completely wild and, at one point, tried to pull a ceramic statue of a fertility goddess onto the floor. I spent the entire scan craning my neck around trying to ensure he wasn't killing himself in some way or other. In some ways, it was less stressful than an ordinary scan because I wasn't focusing on any potential problems with Grape, and in some ways, it was more stressful because my DS was a complete lunatic. I'd had a Panorama test at that point and, just before I left, we discussed the scan results, inc. the sex of the foetus, and I said - deadpan - in reference to my DS, "well, hopefully, I'll have another one *just like him* in a few months."

    @whatsonearth No, I don't need to go with her choice of decor, but she doesn't really understand our budget. She fluctuates wildly between believing we are completely broke and can't afford anything, even a £30 bookcase from IKEA, and somehow expecting us to be able to spend shedloads of money on things that benefit her grandson (like childcare). It's a bit "we can afford a few pricey things, but not all of them." We've been decorating slowly and saving up for good-quality stuff, and she's now pressurising us to decorate quickly and do everything as cheaply as possible. I don't really see the point - neither Grape nor DS are going to die from sleeping in a clean, tidy room that just happens not to have been decorated for twenty years. I mean, it's not attractive, but it's functional.

    I'm not having as many Chicago tests as I'd like TBH, despite the cost, because I want to monitor my own immune state for when I've completed my family (I'm actually symptomatic with a chronic, unknown, life-ruining illness and, at some point, need to try to get a diagnosis from a *real* immunologist). I had a Chicago test two months ago and then another one last week. I won't have another until the end of the pregnancy, which is making me nervous because Dr Gorgy wants me to continue on monthly intralipids up to 28 weeks to be on the safe side and, without the Chicago tests, I can't work out if my immune system has suppressed naturally (as it's supposed to in pregnancy) or whether the numbers have gone down because I had two IVIG.

    I'm not spotty. I'm slightly hungrier than usual and more tired, and that's about it apart from the physical issues caused by the bump (mostly ligament pulling and it bouncing up and down). I'm considering getting a pregnancy support belt to see if that helps with the bouncing when I'm doing Zumba/dance aerobics classes. I've had to stop cycling with my DS on the back of the bike because he's already a struggle with being so huge, and I had tailbone pain/transverse muscle pain for days from cycling on hills with him last week (we did 16 miles). Today I was hopping from foot to foot in dance aerobics, rather than fully jumping, and I got down onto the floor for a dance move. As I was scrambling to my feet, I was petrified I was going to squish Grape by accident (he's having a little move at the moment, so I'm sure he's fine). It was like trying to bend up and down at speed with a sweet potato in water tied around your waist.

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    « Reply #58 on: 18/10/19, 17:00 »
    thanks for explaining Londonwriter! actually my baby's measurements mostly fall outside the line. he's big!
    hilarious about your 12 weeks scan! love it!  ;D

    don't think you can squash Grape so wouldn't worry about that, although i can't even imagine jumping around or dropping on my stomach. i do exercise but not cardio (apart from lots of walking and bit of cycling), i think i would find jumping up and don uncomfortable. but a belt is a good idea!

    whatonearth, my skin is fine, thankfully! i always get a different sonographer, previously i had really nice ones. so who knows!

    AFM - something weird happened today. I got frentic calls from my GP surgery and a message to call them to arrange a midwife appointment ASAP. i do have an appointment on the 1st November (my 25 weeks app). I called them back in the afternoon and the girl on the phone didn't know anything (midwife and the colleague who tried to call me earlier was gone) she just said there's a note that the midwife wanted to see me ASAP, so i'm going in next friday. obviously i'm already thinking about the worst, i am not sure what it could be... i'm trying not to worry but next friday can't come soon enough!

    on a lighter note, i was at the BabyShow this morning with work. It was interesting, although a bit OTT for me and i much prefer handdowns and second hand sothe whole thing is not really my thing. but there were a few cute things and LOTS OF BUGGIES!!! i feel like i should have tried some but i haven't done any research on what to look out for so have no idea what i want from a buggy. but there were a lot of fancy ones!

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    « Reply #59 on: 18/10/19, 17:09 »
    on a lighter note, i was at the BabyShow this morning with work. It was interesting, although a bit OTT for me and i much prefer handdowns and second hand sothe whole thing is not really my thing. but there were a few cute things and LOTS OF BUGGIES!!! i feel like i should have tried some but i haven't done any research on what to look out for so have no idea what i want from a buggy. but there were a lot of fancy ones!

    I wouldn't worry too much about getting the exact right buggy - I never even bothered using one. I was told, before I had DS, that I ABSOLUTELY 100% needed a buggy, and was an idiot to think I didn't, and I ABSOLUTELY had to get the ABSOLUTE right buggy, but this didn't turn out to be the case - there are lots of ways to transport infants. I do own a BabyZen YoYo, but it's mostly used by my mum and the lady who babysits my son. I carried DS in a sling, then a soft carrier and - later - a backpack. It was just much more convenient on public transport in London and left my hands free. I could even breastfeed in the soft carrier. I'm not intending to buy a double buggy for Grape or anything. We're just going have DS walking and Grape in a carrier. It does depend on whether you use a car a lot though - I think most people who have cars use buggies with car seat attachments.

    I didn't drop onto my stomach!  :o I dropped onto my hands and feet, crawled across the floor, and did a couple of quick 'mountain climbers' (knees up towards chin). The problem was getting back up into a standing position in time with the music - Grape and his equipment were getting in the way!

    Are you expecting any blood test results back or anything? If not, it's possible there's been an admin error.