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« Reply #190 on: 9/06/20, 20:44 »
I have to agree with you there, 4am'ers are not the one! I believe I may have jinxed us. Beaux keeps falling asleep of an evening earlier & earlier now and this morning he woke at 3.30am. I thought I was going to be sick. Hope he grows out of it.

It's quite reassuring to hear that at least she feels she can work in a reasonably safe environment. I can appreciate you still feeling anxious and understandably so. It hasn't been quite so daunting for us as DH never really stopped working at any point. He's taken a week off here and there but they keep dragging him in so the risks always been there.

Immunisations are all booked for next week. Hope Raffys go smoothly for you. I really found the last ones hard when he started screaming. Not looking forward to them but will be interested in what they scribble down for his weight. I know what you mean. I don't take Beaux anywhere enclosed so I get a bit nervous taking him into a doctors of all places. Best to be in and out asap.

It's a deal, haha. Well he has his jungle gym, some books and small like rattle toys. I've seen this one and thought it looked interesting but I'm worried about him being on his tippy toes for prolonged periods.

https://www.johnlewis.com/baby-einstein-around-we-grow-4-in-1-discovery-centre/p4979356?sku=238365413&s_ppc=2dx92700054676603633&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gclsrc=aw.ds&&gclid=CjwKCAjw5vz2BRAtEiwAbcVIL16sfWbq2KKNLk9PYZ3HeYiZ9NNSRWr0EdCUrviERnSCT0K0pbUUnBoC8hgQAvD_BwE

We don't tend to leave him doing one activity for more than half an hour but I don't know whether the time will add up over the course of the weeks/months he uses it. They also advise from 6months onwards but I'm convinced he'll be ready for it earlier than that. Quite a few reviewers have said their babies tried it from 5 months. Especially if I take the piano part off and sit with him. He has a little piano one he presses at the moment but it's so limited. I get these proud mummy moments when he focuses intently on the toys swinging down from his chair. His little arms are a bit wobbly but he always grabs the toys and holds on. He predominantly uses his left arm but I imagine it's too early to read too much into that at the moment. Books he just stares at with these huge eyes of concentration whilst pouting. It makes me giggle 🤣. Such a character on him.

Let me know which jumperoo you purchased. I saw one with Fisher price being sold at Smyths for 70. It looked pretty good but I wouldn't have a clue.

Millie is a lovely name! Haha, I hope the Universe hears you and you get to do all that shopping! Win! You must promise you'll keep in touch when you both go ahead with the next cycle too. I'll have everything crossed for you both.

I'm getting on well with the app. The only thing is the times we record everything are probably a bit off as we often forget at the time and the have to fill in the info later. Life can sometimes be a bit too busy for that kind of commitment but we're trying. Especially at 3/4am feeds 🤢😴.

Completely agree, they've come such a long way in 3 months. I'm so excited for the future. Poor Fin, I imagine he would be so confused as to why he couldn't just cuddle the world and its dog. Lovely to hear how well he's doing with his little brother in the meantime though. It must be hard to go from being the only one to having to then share his toys and attention but it's sounds like he's taking to it well.

We don't really go out other than shopping and we never take LO. He's been on a few walks which we've really enjoyed, round parks and woodlands. I suppose I'm still too anxious at the moment for anything indoors or near people. Hate going shopping myself as it is. We had BBQ round DHs brothers. His parents are high risk so we just sat apart in the garden but at least they got to look at Beaux. It was wonderful to be socialising after what's felt like forever. Have you managed to see your family or friends?








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    « Reply #191 on: 13/06/20, 22:24 »
    Aww, hope the 3.30 was a one off?!

    I suppose that's good in some ways with him working on and off the whole time, because with us it's felt like something dramatic and major as it's been left for so long. Still worrying for you though, I'm sure.

    Immunisations went pretty well. I still hate being in the doctors and decided to wear a mask this time, suppose it made me feel slightly better. The screams were horrible again but he stopped so quickly this time, was shocked! Didn't get him weighed in the end, need to do it at home. Have you weighed Beaux again? Did the nurse do it?

    That toy looks good, there's a lot going on and it's good how it grows with them. I know what you mean about the tippy toes, we were the same. When Fin was strong enough to go in his Jumperoo but not tall enough to reach the floor we just put cushions there and that solved the issue! Yeah I think you'll know when he's ready, I'd say it's more about being able to keep his head up steady up steady enough really. Do you have any black and white books? Raffy absolutely loves them.

    This is our Jumperoo https://www.argos.co.uk/product/4834911

    Aww, thank you! Yes, will definitely keep in touch. Same goes for you when you decide to go for another cycle!

    Haha, I'm the same with trying to go back and fill stuff in. We often forget and end up just making up the times. Still finding it quite handy though to get a rough idea of patterns.

    Oh a BBQ must've been lovely. I'm sure everyone would've been desperate to hold him, but as you say, at least they got to have a look at him. We only really go for walks too, mostly just in the local area and have been a bit further once or twice. Went for a walk along a local river one weekend which was a nice change. I've taken both boys to my parent's house in the past few weeks but either left them in the car or sat them in the pram and distanced. Done that a few times when my partner needed to do important online meetings! Some more family want to see us and meet in the garden but I'm just nervous about Fin not distancing. Been talking to 2 of my friends about meeting up somewhere with them but they also have 2 and 3 year olds so the same distancing problem! Considered just taking Raffy and not Fin this time but dunno if that's mean because I'm sure he'd love to play and just go somewhere different, especially after all this time.

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    « Reply #192 on: 30/06/20, 16:25 »
    Turns out the 3.30am was not a one-off. Starting to think he might be entering this 4-month old regression period that I keep reading up about. Poor little man. He's ravenous half the time too which I think shortens his naps, despite knocking back 150ml-200ml each feed. He's sitting at about 1st1lb at the moment. These are home weigh-ins that we do each Sunday. I'm wondering if it's just an intense time of growth both mentally & physically for him. How's Raffy's routine getting on?

    Lovely to hear he recovered quickly from his jabs. Don't blame you for wearing the PPE at the Dr's! It's not my favourite place to be. I was a coward this time and sent DH in with Beaux. I'd hoped not to hear the screams but he was still sobbing as he came out so I had to comfort him with a bottle. The pillow under the feet idea is brilliant btw! I didn't even think of that. He's holding his head up really well now and grasping everything quite confidently so I might sit him in it and see if he's capable of playing. We were gifted a couple of black & white books by or hospital but they're a bit boring if I'm honest. He's got some colourful ones like 'There's a dragon in my book' and lots by Julia Donaldson. They're way beyond his age but he laughs when we do all the actions, noises etc. I think he likes looking at the pictures too. I get free audiobooks with Amazon Prime so I might set him up to listen to some stories on my phone whilst he's in his playpen or chilling on the bed whilst I do housework.

    On some of the sites, they suggest that Beaux should be taking weight on his legs by now when held, trying to roll over (he only gets to his side), laying on his front and lifting himself with his arms/elbows, etc. Beaux literally does none of this. We practice for say 10-20 minutes each day but he's not really improving much. Talking is a different matter. He's babbling away and blowing bubbles, it's crazy. It feels like he's just going to burst one day with excitement and all these words will come tumbling out, haha.

    Jumperoo looks really good. In a few months' time I'll look into it more. We've just ordered his high chair which said it will be delivered in 9 weeks' time which has worked out pretty perfect timing-wise. When will you look to start introducing solids to Raffy? There's so much conflicting info out there as to when to start that I'm not really confident as to what to do. Do you remember when you started with Fin? Yeah, I agree about being able to see the rough patterns on Huckleberry. We love the app, but have to scold ourselves often when we forget. Least now we don't have to keep guessing when he was last fed or how long he slept for. It's so useful in that respect.

    It's tricky isn't it with all the social distancing still. I guess if they're happy to let you mix now with another household then at least little ones like your Fin can play together again without all the confusion. There is always going to be that worry for the parents though. Most people are being sensible, thankfully. If you ignore Leicester that is, haha.

    Getting a bit too impatient to start cycling again. DH isn't convinced that we should be rushing ahead and has put his foot down. I've been told to wait until next January, as was agreed. Fiddlesticks! -.-


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    « Reply #193 on: 1/07/20, 21:57 »
    Oh no! Yep, I keep reading about the sleep regression too and have dread about it! I've noticed he's falling asleep later and finding it a bit tricky to fall asleep within the last week or so. Still just up once in the night at the moment. Weighed him about 2 weeks ago and he was 14lb 10oz. Yeah I think he's probably just got a lot going on, they say that's what the regression actually is, their brain changing etc.

    Horrible hearing the cries isn't it. I've got even worse dread about the 16 week ones because I have to take Fin this time. Just hope I can distract him enough and keep him happy in the pram. Hate him walking around in the doctors at any time, let alone with all this going on!

    I got an email today about babies at 4 months and it does say that they'll start to prefer more colourful things now anyway so those new books would be good. Popular ones for us when Fin was younger (and that he still quite likes) are the 'That's not my...'. There's so many of them and he loved touching the different textures. Once he starts being into lift the flap ones Dear Zoo is a good one and the Julia Donaldson Tales from Acorn Woods series. Would recommend them. Also good to get quite a few board books because there's less chance of them being able to ruin them!

    Aww I honestly wouldn't worry! Fin was quite similar to that, he absolutely hated being on his stomach so tummy time was almost non existent, means that he wasn't able to practice pushing up etc. He didn't roll for many months after they said that they 'should'. He also didn't crawl properly until he was about 13 months and didn't walk until about 23 months. His speech was really good though and his fine motor is also brilliant. He definitely wasn't holding weight on his legs at 3-4 months. Raffy is completely different and he's been holding weight for weeks now, we were shocked and not expecting it. He also doesn't mind being on his tummy and can lift his head up quite well. Such a change for us, they really are all different and it will all come in time.

    Ah that's good timing for the high chair, no rush at the moment is there! Yeah with weaning we started Fin at about 5.5 months. I'd read bad things about starting it too early like higher chance of allergies, their digestive system not being ready etc but there's so much conflicting advice. Will definitely be sticking to the same kind of timeline anyway, whenever he seems ready, sitting up well when supported, quite interested in our food etc.

    We've met up with some people, like on father's day we went to see both of our dad's in their gardens and saw my partner's mum on her birthday too, just stayed outside and distanced. Fin did grab one grandad's hand a few times though and nobody obviously has the heart to pull away from him or anything. I know he's really on top of sanitising and hand washing though so at least that's something. I met up with some of my friends distanced too and the kids touched some of the same toys. Just made sure he didn't touch his face and then sanitised his hands. So tricky but we've decided to send him back to nursery in August so he'll be interacting with other kids again soon and touching the same things etc then too.

    Whereabouts are you? We're London/Surrey borders. Seen yesterday that some London boroughs are at risk of being locked down again apparently. A little bit worrying but would rather go through that again and stay safe!

    Haha, it's so exciting isn't it! January will be here before you know it though. I'm the same sometimes. My partner's Dad has said that he's going to pay for a big family holiday to Florida in 2022 and as soon as we were alone in the car I was like 'did you think the same as me...?' and she did. That probably would've been when we would've cycled again so now we'll have to probably put it back a little bit. I did say she could put it forward but probably better not to take a baby and she doesn't want to be pregnant on that holiday so think we'll just start when we get back.

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    « Reply #194 on: 6/07/20, 20:00 »
    I'm so tired it's untrue. Our gorgeous little man is going through a grizzly phase atm, which consists of him frantically shoving anything and everything into his mouth and sucking away whilst making a whiny noise. It's his swaddle blankets that really get it. Find myself washing them constantly. He can still be his lovely, smiley self but it's just not as frequent and his sleep pattern is suffering. Lots of mucus is beginning to gather on his chest so he either dribbles or chokes temporarily. We try to keep him upright when we can and gently massage or pat his back which seems to help bring it all up. I'm not sure if anything's happening under the gums but nothing coming through as yet.

    You're so lucky that Raffy is still going through the night with one feed, I'm literally up every 2-3 hours. Ergh! It's reassuring to know that they're all different, even with your two. I hope that this phase doesn't last forever, he's usually such a calm, textbook baby. On a more positive note, he's very recently been holding himself up on his little arms during tummy time 👏 love him. He was looking all around and not making the 'lifting my medicine ball head is tiring' noise he usually makes. Think we're getting there!

    The book suggestions are fab, thank you! You're right about the board ones, I'd hate to see some of these paper ones go to shreds. Makes sense for you to wait for feeding cues from Raffy. We've bought some porridge today that you can try from 4 months. We're gonna have a go this weekend with just a tiny amount and see what he thinks. There's been plenty of occasions where we've eaten something like cheese or a banana and stuck some under his nose to gauge his reaction. He always looks intrigued and confused by it all, haha. We're not expecting much from the porridge but we'd like him to experience a new texture.

    That's so sweet that Fin's managed to start finding normality again, even if it's briefly holding grandads hand. You must be so anxious but I think you're doing the right thing sending him back. Ah you're not too far! We're based in Wickford, Essex. It seems crazy to think we could enter lockdown again. A family friend who works as a nurse said that her department is being prepped for a potentially large covid and flu influx around December. Sounds so ridiculous but I absolutely love Christmas and it would be such a shame to potentially be seperated from everyone again. Appreciate it would obviously be much safer for us so I would understand. Just sad.

    Wowzers, Florida! What a fantastic holiday to have in the line-up but completely understand why your partner would want to wait. 😂 I'm way too impatient, I'd be looking at treatment now tehe. Tbh, I've been tempted to start earlier myself but we have a holiday booked for Portugal and Scott doesn't want me 7/8 months pregnant. I can see what he's saying and I'm sure he's not going to budge. It just sucks, I'm so ready now.

    I haven't received a letter yet for Beaux's next immunisations. Dreading them!! Have you had your letter? It's gonna be the worst.

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    « Reply #195 on: Yesterday at 11:32 »
    We have the same with the grizzles too and his hands are constantly in his mouth! Means that dribble is everywhere and he's so noisy when he does it too! We've tried to get him to use some of the teething toys but he's not quite able to hold onto them well enough yet so it lasts for a few seconds then the hands are back in!

    Aww no, the night feeds are tough aren't they. There's a 4 month 'sleep regression' and they're also going through a big leap at the moment too so there's a lot going on for them. Haha, medicine ball head, well done little Beaux!

    With weaning we really liked the Ella's Kitchen book 'The Purple One'. We followed that with the ideas for different veg for the first two weeks, the idea being that apparently if you start with more savoury things they'll grow up to like them too and not just want sweet things. So many different ideas and viewpoints though. I also found an Annabel Karmel book that I really like but I got that later on, not during weaning. I really like having the different recipes and ideas and look forward to getting creative again. Nowadays (pretty much since he was 1-1.5) Fin pretty much just eats whatever we have.

    Yeah, we've had to just relax a little bit with Fin. Especially seeing as he's going back to nursery soon, seems silly that he'll be holding 'stranger's' hands but not our own family's who we've just given santiser to. My partner decided to let her Dad hold Raffy last weekend too. I wasn't sure how I felt about it but her Dad doesn't go out apart from going to golf where he doesn't have to touch anything and he gets online shopping deliveries. Heard again yesterday that they think children are very low risk for transmission too so that made me feel better. We went to a family picnic at the weekend for my uncle's son's 1st birthday and that was nice. The kids were all playing together and I just had to try and relax, they were just sharing the same toys like cars and footballs etc.

    Ah yeah, not too far. Really hope that that doesn't happen but who really knows. It could spiral out of control again so quickly. I'd really love a family Christmas too, it's so lovely when there's children around especially. I said that to my partner and said that I know the four of us would have a lovely day but it would definitely be a shame. I'm sure if that happened then everyone would be having a delayed Christmas day whenever lockdown ended!

    Haha, I've been on holidays during both pregnancies and I'd say you'd probably enjoy it more if you're not pregnant at the time, especially if you like a drink! The first time was when I was pregnant with Fin and we went to New York as a last hurrah. The plane ride was even more uncomfortable than usual and I was jealous of my partner drinking cocktails and wine when we went out! Went to Devon while pregnant with Raffy and would usually love to sit around the pool with a drink, or try out the flavoured gins in the evening but couldn't do any of it and my sister in law clocked on straight away and knew I was pregnant! Also can be tough to handle the heat while pregnant too.

    I've never waited for the letters personally, they always arrive after he's already had them done! I just ring up and book because I know that they're due and just book for 4 weeks after the last ones! So yeah, he had his done last Tuesday and I had to take Fin with me too which I was dreading a bit because I thought he'd be moaning to get out of the pram and walk around but he was really good. Raffy did get a temp but was mostly ok, hope Beaux's go ok too!