Well done Phatty, you must prioritise yourself. I'm the other side of things now as have an amazing little girl via adoption who has filled my heart and life in more ways I ever thought possible. The trauma of infertility takes a long time to heal from though and, you're right, very few people who've not experienced it get it, so well done for looking after your own needs. I've done it myself, told some friends in the middle of my journey that I couldn't be involved in shower for a friend's granddaughter! Even though I explained why they still didn't get why it would be painful for me so if you can't be blunt in future then use the same trick, don't waste your energy on other people's needs.xx Take good care.xx