September / October 2020 Cycle Buddies

[iklefeet]

Morning ladies

Congrats on being pupo Rio how are you feeling, I hope bubba is settling in nicely, bless you there is nothing worse than that painful blade bladder feeling waiting for transfer, I think you're incredibly strong going through all that on your own. Telling vs not telling is such a personal thing and it really depends on those around you and how they'll react. We don't tell my family anymore mainly because I tend to have a miscarriage before week 9 (7 times now) and my dad is always devastated but we have to tell my mother in law as she's incredibly hurt and feels excluded if we don't we've learnt that through trial and error but the guiding rule has to be what ever will cause you the least distress. This is your journey and it should be about you,  partner and baby everyone else's feelings come 2nd. That's why I use this forum,  you ladies are like my must supportive confidants that won't freak out because you understand.

Mia, not six needles, if you do that you'll be leaking by day 3 lol, there are loads of you tube videos for tips.  Good luck hon,  just inject slowly it'll not sting then.

DW, fabulous numbers on the embryos, I've got my fingers and toes crossed for good results for transfer, sending you lots of positive vibes for today xxx

Ladymac, how are you doing? I've not had any counselling but i have been referred for cbt after my last miscarriage as I have suffered anxiety recently.  Trying to become a mum under these circumstances is so stressful and there s a grieving process we all have to go through in accepting this will be our route and every attempt is such a roller coaster it has such on toll on your emotions, I think it's a good idea if it'll help.

FM any news on when you'll start? Great that your ovaries are playing ball now though xx

Ducky,  are you transferring soon? I think you are a week ahead of me,  thinking of you xxx

Just trundling along here pumping myself with estrogen biting much going on, I'm on a family holiday with all the unlaws and my family so a mixture of fun and trying not to kill each other lol as hairband when you're all in one house but it beats being at work.  Lining scan Sunday so fingers crossed they're isn't too much fluid in there as they've upped my estrogen after the last abysmal lining result of 7mm last fet.

Hugs all

Ikle xxx

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[DW39]

Hey everyone. Hope all is well.

Had our transfer today with mixed feelings. When I got there they said we had 3 early blasts and one morula. The embryologist was pretty direct and pretty much said 'as only at early stage now, they are likely to be poor quality so you may as well put them all in as unlikely much will happen'. So we did that but walked out feeling very depressed and low. Kinda feels like she could have been a bit more gentle in her messaging but I guess I got a clear message - your eggs are knackered!!

We used proven donor sperm so the issue must be with my eggs which shouldnt be a surprise at my age. I did read older eggs can take longer to get to blast but embryologist kept on reminding me 80% will have chromosomal issues.

So am happy on one hand we got to PUPO but sounds like I shouldn't hold out too much hope.  .

Rio - how you finding PUPO. Started the symptom spotting yet?

Ickle - glad things are going strong and hope the days to your scan go quickly.

Ducky - arent you transferring friday? Good luck if so!! Hope it's a lucky one.

Diya

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[Fm86]

Ikle .....no sign of any period 🤦‍♀️ I get the feeling I’m going to be the odd person that doesn’t bleed with this injection. As soon as a see a bleed I can start the oestrogen tablets. Just that darn old waiting game.

Dw....don’t be disheartened at all. All it takes is one! And stats are stats but sometimes when things are meant to be nothing can stop it from happening!

Hope everyone else is enjoying the sunshine x

[iklefeet]

Congratulations on being pupo DW, I know it's hard not to focus on what the embryologist said but it's as much chance and luck honey,  I've known people get pregnant with 2 day old embryos that they were told wouldn't even get to blast they were so poor and others transfer 2 top grades and nothing. The fact that you got 3 embryos to make it 5 days testifies to how strong they are, don't give up on them now.

FM, always the blooming way🤦‍♀️ wear white trousers, take all the panty liners out of your handbag and plan a night out or family dinner that's sure to bring it on 🤣

Hugs to all, ikle xxx

[Fm86]

😂Ikle that is so true!!! I will defo have them on Saturday! White trousers and working in school wanting AF to appear is slightly risky 😂😂
How is the holiday going? Are you finding yourself bloated with the oestrogen tablets?

Hope everyone else is well and good xx

[Ducky1]

Iklefeet wow you are really coming along with this cycle, not long to go now! Good luck for Sun. Fingers crossed for a nice plump lining!

DW39 I’m sorry you are feeling so deflated. Did you have all 4 transferred? Sometimes it’s really hard to tell from just the outside appearance of the embryos, I hope one will be a good one for you. xx

FM86 Hope AF turns up soon, so frustrating to be hanging around for AF!!

Rio2016 how are you getting on with 2ww?

AFM had the transfer today! We decided to go with 2 this time and they both thawed well so am now onto the 2ww. I am going to see how long I can hang out before being tempted by the testing...

[Rio2016]

Hi all - we are away this weekend seeing family. I’m doing well. Just trying to keep busy and running after my daughter. I think I’ll wait till Thursday to test. We will see! I tested the day before I was meant to when it worked with my daughter and I always got a bleed when it hadn’t worked before testing with rounds 1-4.

How was the transfer Ducky? Glad they had thawed okay.

DW39 - I’m sorry they said that to you. I never got to blasto with my own eggs but heard things like “they aren’t good so shall we not transfer any” etc. Got everything crossed.

Hope the periods come for those who want them 💗

Ikle- I’m with my in laws too - it’s a good distraction.

I better get off my phone but big love to you all xxxxxxxxx

[Rio2016]

Oh and a DE mum grumble - but parents in law asking me “oooh so who does (daughter’s name) look like?”

Er, not me as you know she’s donor conceived!!    🤯🤪😬

I’m bloody lucky and love her to pieces but honestly why people say crap like that to me 🙄🙄🙄

Xxx

[daffodil123]

Hi ladies, I'm hoping I can join the group too! I've been stalking for a bit  but have finally caught up on all the messages, so thought I'd finally introduce myself! 

Iklefeet - I wonder if we might have cycled together previously as your name sounds familiar? And we have a few things in common too!

Ok, so now to introduce myself... 

This will be my 5th fresh round & I've got 1 FET under my belt too. Our main issue is male factor (low count, morphology, DNA damage & clumping or something?!) We had our first two rounds & had ET but nothing happened. Then the third round I started low dose steroids for suspected immune issues & got a BFP & all was looking great at our 7 week scan but then just a couple of weeks later I had a tiny bit of spotting & knew something wasn't right so went in for a scan at 9 weeks & the heartbeat had stopped so it was a mmc & I had to have an ERPC. This part almost broke me - I'd been made redundant just beforehand, my two best friends were pregnant & worse yet, my younger sister also got pregnant at exactly the same time naturally so I had constant reminders of what I'd lost through her scans etc & meeting my baby niece was SO bittersweet & hard. My niece was born just one day before what would have been my due date. I have since developed a lovely bond with her & my new niece, but it sure has been difficult at points! It was only after my mmc that I was then diagnosed finally with endometriosis after a lap/hyst! After getting counseling from an excellent local charity who help those affected by infertility/miscarriage, I then finally got up the strength to try one more time & that resulted in our rainbow baby, our daughter who is now almost 3! She was born just 10 months after my niece & is the biggest blessing in my life.  I then tried again last summer with our 1 remaining frostie, but got a BFN. I was about to start another round in Feb/March but then lockdown hit!  And I've been in the shielding group as I'm on immune suppression medication, so I've had to be super careful with social contact & basically lived like a hermit with my DD & hubby!    I've been told that my AMH is very low for my age (3.2 at 37), & I didn't want to waste any time so I'm now onto our 5th fresh cycle (with Access Fertility). After a delay due to an ovarian cyst (IVF is full of surprises & hurdles isn't it!?!), I'm now at the end of stims & due to have EC on Monday. Eeeek!

Rio - OMG, your in-laws are SO insensitive! They clearly have no clue!!  And I totally get what you mean about bladder issues!! I've had to have a sneaky mini wee before too in fear of a big accident at ET! In more recent rounds, I've just got to the clinic super early & had part of my water on the way & the rest in the car park about 30-40 mins before!

Ducky1 - congrats on being PUPO!  And please...step away from the test!!    It never ends well I've found!! It's like a form of self-torture! The 2ww I've always found the hardest part of this whole process, so wishing you all the best. 

FM86 - hehe white trousers!! 

DW39 - what day was your transfer? Was it a day 3? I think the embryologists are great at the scientific bit but sometimes lack soft skills! I've found out that now since our previous cycles our clinic only put back day 5 blastocysts. They also only freeze blastocysts & not day 3 embryo's.

Ickle - that is so true about counseling & what a tough process this all is.  There are so many little hurdles to get over & nothing is ever guaranteed which is hard. People who TTC & fall naturally have NO idea what we all go through!!  You sound like you've been through so much, so hopefully there will be lots of baby dust & they'll be lots of babies from this round.

LadyMac2019 - I would 100% recommend counseling. We have had a session at our clinic after each round & it's been invaluable. Sometimes it helps you just think of things in a different way too. I've always been pretty open about our treatment & I'm sure that's pulled me through some of the tougher times. I hate the privacy you loose with IVF & the affect it can have on your relationship, but counseling does help you come to terms with some of those things. Our counsellor once said that IVF is kind of like throwing a load of money literally out the window & hoping that it doesn't fly away!

Bobbinhead - I'm so sorry to hear of your ectopic. What a heartbreaking thing to go through. Having an outcome like that or a mc is worse than having a BFN I've found. It is so gutting. 

Hi MiaCat - how are you getting on? Have you started the injections yet?

Which clinics are you all at? We're cycling at Oxford Fertility Unit.

Ok, this is turning into a mini essay!

Night night all Xxx

[Rio2016]

A very warm welcome daffodil123 - I’m at Guy’s in London 💕 Wishing you lots of luck with this round x

If this round works then I’ll be a due a month after a family member - they don’t know about this round but it is on my mind - that must have been tough with your niece and your lost baby’s due date so close together. So glad you had your daughter soon after xx