Hey honey, it is SO not the end of to the road. It’s just another challenge you guys will overcome. Don’t worry, there are so many challenges along the way but as you saw with your daughter, every now and again, it all works out. It’s about persistence and open communication and prioritizing love and support between the two of you. There’s nothing wrong with him, he can do it, he‘s just letting the anxiety get the better of him.
So many ways and things to try. Viagra is very likely not the solution. Maybe some alcohol, some weed, getting the doctor to prescribe a Valium, you getting involved, dressing up or something, naughty videos or pictures. It’s tough but try and avoid any pressure in any way and try and laugh about it together. And don’t worry ahead to egg collection. Focus on this for now, one thing at a time. Once you manage this though, I definitely recommend freezing a sample (maybe even ask if they can freeze this one) - then there’s no pressure for egg collection day. We didn’t have this issue but I wanted to not have to worry about it and we always made sure there was a frozen sample we could at least use as back up. Although it can also be used as first choice, there is NO evidence that frozen sperm is less effective (unlike frozen eggs). Plenty of guys struggle under these circumstances, it’s SO normal. Us girls are heroes for going through all this but so are our boys, cheer him up, cheer him on, he just needs to keep trying and it WILL work.
