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Hi everyone, hoping someone can offer me some advice for things I might not have tried.
DS is making my life pretty hard at his bedtimes lately. I've been a soft touch with him all the time and let him get away with so much. He moved out of his cot a number of months ago now and into his Thomas bed, which he hated (told me it was dangerous, new word at the time) anyway, I took the Thomas bed down and got him a new plain bed, which he also informed me was dangerous and he'd scream and cry and not stay in it.
So this is where it gets worse, he moved into my bed. Was fine and would go down ok for months until a week ago when he wont let me leave the room after giving him a kiss and cuddle. I've done the reading a book, fine until I leave the room, singing lullabies, again fine until I leave the room. Then he cries and screams at the top of the stairs at stair gate until I go back up to him again and put him in bed. I don't leave him too long cos he gets really upset and does that really horrible crying where they are kind of doing really big deep breaths as well (don't know how to explain it, heartbreak crying).
Anyway, because he wouldn't settle in my bed any longer I had nothing else to offer him(I know he wants to sleep on the sofa though, but not going there lol), so we're back to the Thomas bed, first time last night and I had to sleep in the other single bed that I kept up in his room, last night he ran around up there crying and screaming with me going up every few minutes putting him back in bed and not talking to him just for him to get straight back out again before I'd even reached the door of his room. He eventually settled down at midnight with me sleeping in the bed next to him, I say midnight but guess I was asleep before him. Tonight I didn't want him dictating my whole evening again so I laid down on the single bed while he went into Thomas bed, he fell asleep within minutes because he was so tired. I left it about 20 mins before creeping out. Within 10 mins he'd woken again and was screaming and crying for me, so up I trot again and lay down on the other bed, he falls asleep again after constantly watching I wasn't leaving him for about 20mins, then I go and run my bath. As I'm running the bath he comes in and wont leave because I'm not in his room and gives a running commentary of what I'm doing
funny, but not when all you want to do is relax and unwind at the end of the day.
After that I go and lay down with him again and he falls asleep to wake up again after a few minutes to find me no longer there and he's crying. As I've been typing this it has all gone quiet, but I had left him screaming for probably 15 or more minutes before that happened. I'm going to have to check on him but don't want to wake him if he's fallen asleep. Why do the stairs always creak when its sooooooooooo quiet, oh and I must oil that squeaky stairgate grrrrrrrrrrr.
Any advice would be gratefully received before I go stark raving bonkers and he ends up ratty all day through lack of sleep. Its really getting me down after taking his sleeping for granted.
Thanks.
Zoe xx
DS is making my life pretty hard at his bedtimes lately. I've been a soft touch with him all the time and let him get away with so much. He moved out of his cot a number of months ago now and into his Thomas bed, which he hated (told me it was dangerous, new word at the time) anyway, I took the Thomas bed down and got him a new plain bed, which he also informed me was dangerous and he'd scream and cry and not stay in it.
So this is where it gets worse, he moved into my bed. Was fine and would go down ok for months until a week ago when he wont let me leave the room after giving him a kiss and cuddle. I've done the reading a book, fine until I leave the room, singing lullabies, again fine until I leave the room. Then he cries and screams at the top of the stairs at stair gate until I go back up to him again and put him in bed. I don't leave him too long cos he gets really upset and does that really horrible crying where they are kind of doing really big deep breaths as well (don't know how to explain it, heartbreak crying).
Anyway, because he wouldn't settle in my bed any longer I had nothing else to offer him(I know he wants to sleep on the sofa though, but not going there lol), so we're back to the Thomas bed, first time last night and I had to sleep in the other single bed that I kept up in his room, last night he ran around up there crying and screaming with me going up every few minutes putting him back in bed and not talking to him just for him to get straight back out again before I'd even reached the door of his room. He eventually settled down at midnight with me sleeping in the bed next to him, I say midnight but guess I was asleep before him. Tonight I didn't want him dictating my whole evening again so I laid down on the single bed while he went into Thomas bed, he fell asleep within minutes because he was so tired. I left it about 20 mins before creeping out. Within 10 mins he'd woken again and was screaming and crying for me, so up I trot again and lay down on the other bed, he falls asleep again after constantly watching I wasn't leaving him for about 20mins, then I go and run my bath. As I'm running the bath he comes in and wont leave because I'm not in his room and gives a running commentary of what I'm doing

After that I go and lay down with him again and he falls asleep to wake up again after a few minutes to find me no longer there and he's crying. As I've been typing this it has all gone quiet, but I had left him screaming for probably 15 or more minutes before that happened. I'm going to have to check on him but don't want to wake him if he's fallen asleep. Why do the stairs always creak when its sooooooooooo quiet, oh and I must oil that squeaky stairgate grrrrrrrrrrr.
Any advice would be gratefully received before I go stark raving bonkers and he ends up ratty all day through lack of sleep. Its really getting me down after taking his sleeping for granted.
Thanks.
Zoe xx