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Hi girls! Sorry I was MIA for a bit here.
Sapphire and BabyB - Glad everything went well at your respective appointments :)

KJade your business idea made me laugh out loud, all those things are true!!! In fact, I just ordered a vitamix blender and clean eating cookbook haha

AFM - I am 6DPIUI and finished all my pre-IVF screening. I had an appointment wit my family dr because my liver enzymes are elevated. She said it is surely from the hormones, but now I will be having it checked every couple weeks. So now I truly am in detox-mode. I already exercise daily, and have cut caffeine down to one coffee a week, but now I will be totally off alcohol, red meat and all the delicious tasting food. I love wine, coffee and going out for charcuterie, so I am hoping that I will learn to love decaf, grape juice and salads instead...
 

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Aw amanda hun, it's not fun is it.
I love coffee too
Not a massive wine drinker but a glass now and again would be nice
Blxxdy unfair especially when the vast majority our age just get preg as spontaneously as a bolt of blinkin lightning
But think positively. All your friends will be envious of your no doubt amazing figure and skin and think of all the favours  your doing your health


Urgh ladies can anyone advise. Bad dream last night. Got to IVF and they retrieved just 3 poor quality eggs
Anyone else have bad dreams like this??
 

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Hi everyone

I was hoping you would be able to offer some advice. I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant and my other half is really struggling with bonding with the baby. I'm worried this might be because of using donor sperm (same sex couple) and her feeling a bit like she hasn't had much involvement. She played a big part in conception with injections etc  (although I did take over the last cycle a lot injecting myself - only as I enjoyed it hehe! Now kind of wishing I had let her take the lead still so she felt more involved). She was there for insemination, has been to all 4 scans, I try to involve her when browsing at baby stuff online.

Any suggestions what else I could do, or what type of support she could look into would be really useful.

Thanks in advance x
 

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I think it is just very difficult for any "other half" to feel part of it all and bond at such an early stage. Even I sometimes wonder about what I feel for our "bunny". Hoping it all becomes more tangible soon hard to bond with nausea and fatigue as only sign something is going on).
We used donor sperm too, and I try to bring DH to every appointment with obs/scan (up till now only had 1 scan ;-) ). I read him all I can find on "weekly updates" of foetal development, but I think it needs time, might get easier if movement can be felt: a tangle sign that something is in there. Try not to worry too much, and pay some extra attention to your partner too, so she does not feel left out or pushed out of the way by baby. Maybe she just feels everything is between you and baby now, and she is left out... Try doing something romantic together and spend time together (not just focusing on baby). Don't know if it helps, but at least you can try!
 

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Thanks Hannah. Just trying to do some work before we have to leave at 12.

Big week for us. Hysteroscopy today and back at the clinic tomorrow for review appointment. I think we have decided that unless the doctor trys to convince us we'll move to IVF (or ICSI) if they think a better option. So now I'm just wondering when we can start!!!
 

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Just thought I'd pop in and see how you're all doing and saw the sapphire's news - huge congrats and so glad that your scan went well. So glad everything is working out for you 😊
Best of luck to everyone else too!
 

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Ssltw - LOVELY to hear from you.  How ru? Hope all is well with LO, must be 6 months old now? I'm hoping so much that this one is a keeper. 

MrsE - good luck this week Hun.  Hope your hysterscopy gives you comfort all is well and you hVe a productive appointment later this week.  Fx for you.

Hannah - it's tough isn't it.  I hated the concept of picking a donor so don't blame you for asking the clinic to do this for you.  It is one hurdle after another. We didn't want to engage too much in who they were. As KKade said, we picked someone who broadly shared similar characteristics to DH and who appeared to be a nice guy.  Haven't spent much time thinking about them since.  Although at my scan the other day I did think the 'nose looks big' and had to hold back on querying where that had come from.  I think the counsellor said to us that we are creating a new little person who is unique in their own right and we shouldn't be too tied to them not being genetically related - easier said than done tho!

Godiva - glad things appear to be going well for you Hun.  The whole donor thing is weird.  I worry what DH thinks recently, tho I haven't asked.  Like you, he's been with me every step of the way and is equally invested.  We haven't told DH family that we are using DS so it will be a bit weird when we announce the pregnancy. I'm worried we will feel a bit deceitful. 

Charlotte - I think bonding is diff at this early stage.  I've barely let myself bond with baby due to fear of loss but also it's difficult to feel real at this stage, apart from symptoms.  I'm thinking of getting a Doppler so we can both listen to HB later on.  Hopefully this will help make it feel more real!
 

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Thanks for the advice everyone :) it's been a huge help xx
 

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Ok so not quite the day we had planned yesterday.

I went for my hysteroscopy as a private patient at our local hospital and the doctor was LOVELY. He explained it all and kept really calm.

I have a polyp that is almost filling the uterine cavity. It was much larger than anyone thought and he had a go at removing it. But because it was low down, he couldn't get it all. He was at it for a good 30 mins and then said that he would have to stop and do it under a general anaesthetic. I then argued with him saying, I'm fine, I'm fine - carry on, I don't want a GA....but, good job he stopped as I then went into a sort of shock, felt sick, started shaking and they had to put me into a recovery room for a good hour and half to stop shaking and for the pain to ease off. That bit was worse than the actual procedure.

Anyway by the time the nurses had finished with me the doctor had come back saying he'd rejigged his NHS list around for Thursday and he had broken all sorts of rules to squeeze me in. So I am going in on Thursday for a proper operation. Was in hospital most the afternoon and caused all sorts of problems at work as I was supposed to be out and about on Thursday and Friday - but no am not! I just can't say no to an NHS wait of 2 days!

The bonus of all of this, is that he said I would never have got pregnant with a polyp that size, so IUI may well work. He was going to call into the fertility clinic on his way home to let them know and pass on the photos. Also the rest of my womb cervix and opening of fallopian tubes look great. So thats good news. He also said that I can cycle again with my next period. So assuming Thursday goes well and I get my period the week after, I can go again. It remains to be seen if we do IUI or IVF.

We have appointment with fertility clinic today to discuss this, and we'll see what they say about IUI vs IVF. I also want to know why something of this size wasn't seen before hand. If we had taken their advice and done IVF in the first instance, it would never have worked and we would have lost our NHS try all because of this polyp.
 

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oh my word MrsE what the hell!!!  :eek: :eek:

sounds like you had a lovely helpful Dr though.

problems at work pppaaahhh. let them manage. this is your priority.

I really think there should be more preliminary tests/ examinations before someone goes for IUI/IVF like u said.
I think 'troubleshooting' can be the absolute key to success.

but good news all in all as you've identified and  fixed one major problem, so should be back on the road soon!
xxxx
 

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Sorry you had such a traumatic time Hun.  I had a horrid experience whilst they tried to give me a scratch.  This found a polyp which I had removed under GA - much better as there can be lots of bleeding. 

Good that've found the issue - I've a friend who recently was diagnosed with PCOS, it took 3 years for NHS to spot it - shocking! The system has been trying to rush her to IVF but she is adamant she wants to be properly checked out (full lap and hysterscopy) and give iUI a try before jumping to IVF.  She thinks too many people are pushed to this when they don't need to be if we do the diagnostic job properly the first time.
 

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Yes I am glad they have found it and that the lovely doc broke every NHS rule going to fit me in this week!

Been to fertility clinic now and decision made...moving onto ICSI. Brother in law's sperm is not likely to work with IUI, they had 3 natural pregnancies in 5 years with just 1 baby, so at least we discovered the polyp and gave it a go with IUI. Because of the borderline sperm we are going straight to ICSI to make sure.

I feel so relieved that we have made a decision. Well it was DH and the Doctor who vocalised it for me, I still couldn't get it out articulately. Also I want to move when I have a polyp free uterus - we don't know how long it will stay that way. And Manchester is about to get control of their own NHS cash....and i have a sneaky feeling fertility treatment will be the first to get the axe!
 

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Sapphire - I'm great thanks, Alice is 7 months now! Time is flying! She is amazing - worth every second of all the treatment.
Keeping my fingers and toes crossed that everything goes well for you 😊
 

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Ssltw - she looks gorgeous.  Glad all is well :) I'm sure she s growing fast!

Mrs E - sounds like a productive meeting, ICSI sounds like a good bet given your BILs history.  You're just like me, usually in v articulate but in the doctor's I'm reduced to an incoherent mess too!!

 

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Glad things got sorted so quickly, Mrs E. Funny how different countries/clinics have different ways of doing things: in my hospital in Belgium they would never try to attack a (huge) polyp without GA: if they see one during a diagnostic hysteroscopy they schedule a "therapeutic" HSC under GA, while an egg collection is usually without GA.
I had to take a light OAC pill for 3 weeks after polyp removal to allow the lining to grow enough to cover the scar of the intervention (and no bath/sex as long as there still is some bleeding). But yes, after period I would have been able to start treatment. You will probably find (like I did) that your periods get much shorter and less abundant after polyp removal, so another plus (although of course I hope you do not get to "enjoy" this benefit often before you don't have a period for nearly a year).
Glad also that you have your decision to move straight to ICSI! Fingers crossed!
In my Belgian clinic I was checked out pretty well before starting treatment: could not have IUI without hysterosalpingography (did the foam one). It was during this test they saw my polyp for the first time, so referred me for hysteroscopy. As polyp was confirmed on hysteroscopy and foam-test was inconclusive I was booked straight for therapeutic HSC + laparoscopy (which resulted in me getting an all clear for IUI).
 

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Hi ladies sorry been gone a bit.

Saph great news on the scan. So happy for you.

MrsE I'm so sorry about your episode but so glad they found that polyp! It's amazing how different care can be based on the doctor. I agree sometimes you have to pay up to get it and glad they found it now. Exciting to be moving forward with IVF. Can't wait to cheer you on.

Hope everyone else is getting on well. I myself am still pretty much home bound with occasional outings. I went to a friends house this weekend and told my girlfriends about the baby. I'm also going to the movies but I'm al STILL spotting daily. I just don't understand how the MFM doc didn't see a thing so it will be interesting to see what my OB sees on the scan next week. I'm in my second trimester and now slightly more nervous about the pregnancy than I was in my first due to the bleeding/ spotting episodes and my now greater risk of complications like abruption and preterm labor... Now I just can't wait to make it to the end of June when I reach viability so 10 more weeks! Hoping this spotting stops soon so I can at least resume normal activities even if at a slower pace. I've already gained more weight than I should cause of the inactivity :/ But baby has looked great at every scan so he's strong it's just now me that's the problem go figure.
 

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baby im sorry you are still experiencing bleeding.
wow second trimester- how quick has that gone!

im starting next week again and finding the PMA hard to muster
xx
 

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oh positive mental attitude LOL
hows it going Hannah?
I forgot to say I think your idea of letting your nurse choose the donor is  a really good one
I found choosing the donor a bit stressful if i'm honest.
I think sometimes letting someone who is not involved in the situation and totally detached may be better, they will be more objective and may get a really good match as not emotions involved.

ladies I must mention I have been using a hypnotherapy CD by a woman named Rizwana Patterson called relaxation for your IVF cycle (or something like that). I must say I have found it amazing. I have not felt one bit anxious since I started it, and I seem to have developed a what will be will be attitude!
I usually put in on with headphones after a hot bath
u can get it of amazon £10
 

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Hi ladies - well I've been done as a day patient yesterday and polyp successfully removed.

My mum had to come and look after me and bring me home as hubby was on nights. Feel ok just hungover and tired!

Doc suggested to let my next cycle come and go then request treatment on cycle after that as I've had quite a traumatic week and look a bit washed out still - but shouldn't be too long ad AF due on Sunday. To be honest am spotting from op so may not know when AF starts properly!

More later when a bit more with it!
 
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