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Huge congratulations, Ally 🥰 love the name. Sad to hear the birth didn't quite go to plan for you but she's here and healthy and that's what really matters! Hoping you've been able to establish what's happening with your BP by now. Fingers crossed it was just a pregnancy thing. Such a shame you had that on top of the rawness of a newborn. Hopefully you're coping just fine and looking after yourself! Look forward to hearing how you're getting on. Such a special time for you both.

Katkat - Not long now! You must be so excited.

HD - How have you all been keeping? Is Fin coping well with his big brother role? Lovely to hear about him feeding Raffy 😂 how sweet! I've noticed so many changes with Beaux since his birth. He watches everything and everyone so intently now. His neck muscles seem really strong during tummy time or when he's looking up at us during cuddles. He's a content little thing and it's made life really easy so far. Dragging my bum outta bed twice in the night (usually 3am and 7am) has been the hardest part. Occasionally he'll have a whinge but it's definitely not the norm and there's usually a reason behind it. What about you? How are you finding it? Do you share the feeds? Good to hear Raffy was a similar weight to ours at around the same age. I'm finding it hard to know what's the ideal, I rely on Google alot. You've done it all once before, I imagine that makes you more confident? I could be wrong, haha.

DH and I are already discussing doing a FET early next year if all goes to plan with being allowed to travel etc. Becoming a parent has been the best experience of my life and I'm only 7 weeks in. I'm probably getting way ahead of myself, haha. Beaux is a wonderful little boy. His smiles and coo's are just the best 💙. He's meeting all his milestone, he's a good weight and so far we've had no problems. Sadly I had to stop breastfeeding at 4 weeks due to his tongue tie, which won't be corrected just yet as it's understandably not a priority. It was just agony but he's switched to the hungry baby formula and he's thriving, bless him. I've felt really good in myself since the baby blues I had in the first few days after the birth. I definitely think it would be a wise decision to have lots of help arranged for the first week if I have another one as its so emotionally and physically exhausting. Hats off to you HD!

Learning to accept the blessings in all this time of sadness and uncertainty. For one, its been wonderful to have my DH home to share these first few months, it's certainly not something I will take for granted. They've bonded beautifully. I'm sure you're all feeling the same. Unless your partners drive you mad 😂. We lost my Nanna only a week or so ago to cancer and that's been difficult but again, the family are staying strong despite the distancing. She held on until Beaux was born and then passed very peacefully. Having this gorgeous little man to see us through it all has been the biggest blessing!
 

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Congratulations Ally! What a lovely name :) sorry that the birth didn't go as planned, but happy to hear that she arrived safely. How is it all going? Do you feel like you've settled in a bit now?

Katkat - how are you doing?

Omnom - yes, Fin is doing well as a big brother. Mostly still likes to do his own thing but goes through phases of being so interested in him and wanting to talk to him. Managed to get him on video the other day stroking his hair and giving him a kiss, priceless!

Haha, the during the night including 7am did just make me smile! Perhaps because Fin has been waking me up before that nearly every day for over 2yrs now! Early wake ups are just what happens here nowadays! Two feeds during the night isn't too bad though, well done Beaux! Yes, we're still sharing the feeds at the moment and sleeping on the sofa for half the night each, but the past few nights he's only had one bottle during the night (counting the night as around 11pm-6am) so we've decided that from tonight we'll put him in the bedroom and both sleep in bed together. The first time for 8 weeks!!!! My only fear with that is that when he wakes up and cries, we have to carry him past Fin's bedroom and I just don't want to wake him up but we have to brave it at some point.

I do Google a bit but definitely not as much as I did with Fin, was constantly checking things! Definitely more confident this time and not feeling like we have to be as careful or gentle either, that's what my partner has said recently!

Sorry to hear that you had to stop breastfeeding when that's what you wanted to do, but glad to hear that you're happy with the decision and that he's doing well on his milk :) lovely to see them now smiling isn't it and 'chatting' away to you. Can't wait to hear giggles. How exciting that you're planning an FET, I really hope that it works for you. I think having them close in age will be lovely as they grow up and it's really sweet seeing them together while they're both young too.

Sorry to hear about your Nanna, but lovely to hear that she was around when Beaux was born. I'm sure he really is a good distraction and keeping you busy. The rest of your family will also be thinking the same, I'm sure, a new baby to spread some happiness. I'm also appreciating having my partner here. It's definitely tough though because she's still expected to do a lot of work and Fin just doesn't understand that he can't always have her attention.
 

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I hope everyone is well. Our daughter Emilia arrived on 2nd May via emergency c-section. We are so so so happy and feel extremely privileged that this very last frozen own egg embryo resulted in our beautiful little girl. The labour process wasn't exactly what I had in mind but thankfully I already made peace with the fact that it will probably go a totally different way anyway so not disappointed and just glad she's here sound and well. So after a couple of failed membrane sweeps (my cervix was too posterior/high and closed and couldn't be performed), we went on to have a balloon catheter inserted to help ripen the cervix. About 18 hours later I was dilated to 1 cm and it was taken out (strong period pain overnight). Then my waters were broken which didn't hurt at all and 2 hours later I was put on the drip for induction of labour. 6 hours in my cervix had only dilated to 2 cm! The pain was pretty strong to be honest but I didn't take anything and managed with visualisation and imaging , stuff I'd only read about a day before and it was ok..I wanted to keep gas and air for when i couldn't take it anymore and that was after 6 hours. In any case for me it didn't help and I pretty much immediately knew I'd want the epidural and the next 6 hours were sort of bearable. But guess what I was then still only 2 cm dilated?!? Totally demotivated I'd then asked foe the c section and literally half an hour later I held our baby in my arms - super emotional as she was embryo transfer no. 14 and our last one! I'm really so much in love with her x x
 

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Katkat - Fantastic news 💕. Huge congratulations! We've picked some great names in this group. Its crazy how these babies arrive sometimes. Not how you imagine at all. What an absolute little miracle though. A very welcome blessing in these strange times. 6hrs in before G&A, that's amazing! It might not be how you'd planned it but sounds like you coped brilliantly despite the circumstances. You should be so proud. Enjoy all these precious moments with Emilia, they go so quick! Lots and lots of photos and vids.

HD - Ah what a brilliant moment to capture on video. When they're older and scrapping, you'll be able to show them and say "look how well you used to get on, you couldn't get enough of eachother" ☺. They'll temporarily hate you for it, haha. I can't believe you don't get to lie-in at all now. I feel like this might be an indicator of things to come with two possible babies so close together. Aaaargh. It's a struggle now! I just hope it's worth it, ha.

Its been that long since you shared a bed?! All that time without cuddles. How do you cope?! That's dedication. When Beaux cries for a feed we just take it in turns. Though I'm convinced DH pretends not to hear him sometimes 😂 He's back at work now so I don't wake him to be fair. Time to buy Fin some ear defenders, bless him. It must be really confusing for him having her there but not being able to keep her attention. Hard on them both I imagine. I hope her seniors are being understanding considering the circumstances. How are you finding caring for two whilst she's working?

I completely understand what you mean about the lack of googling this time round. I feel like I'll be so much more confident with the next baby just through experience. Beaux is already growing out of his outfits. 1-3 month clothes are hit and miss at the moment as to whether they'll fit in the leg. Insane how quick 8 weeks went! If we have a girl next time and need to buy clothes from scratch, I'm going to purchase the bare minimum. I swear I have about 8 favourite outfits for Beaux that have become my go-to wardrobe and the rest just sit there, each day becoming closer to not fitting. Dressing him up is just not for me. I've done it a few times but I prefer just letting him chill in a long sleeved vest or a grow. Especially in this heat.

I can't wait for giggles too. At the moment, he beams at me and makes a cooing noise. Sometimes his smile is so giddy that it's like he can't cope and the arms and legs do a starfish. We're sharing a house with my mum and step-dad at the moment so he's getting very spoilt with cuddles and attention. It's giving me a break to get stuff done which I'm thankful for. Every now and then he's having a grizzly phase of the day. It could be any time. Do you find that with Raffy? Normally propping him up with pillows so he can get a good look around helps, or scooping him onto our chests does the trick. Depends if he's over tired or lacking entertainment. It's hard to tell sometimes.

Will you be leaving a similar age gap before perhaps trying for a third? That's probably the last thing you want to think about after not long having Raffy, sorry haha. Hope you're all coping OK during this lockdown!
 

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Massive congratulations Katkat! What a beautiful name and well done you for coping so so well. It is not what you’ve planned but she is here safe. I often look back and think of the deliver day. I get so so emotional. Would love to experience pregnancy one more time and have a sibling for Alice but I don’t think it’s going to happen. We feel so so lucky we have our little miracle.

Omnomnom and HD thank you for your kind words. I’ll have to scroll up the chat and remind myself how your babies were doing early stages.
Alice doesn’t seem to have a routine. She definitely doesn’t sleep 18 hours per day. She will be 4 weeks on Thursday and we can’t believe it. Breastfeeding and topping up with formula too, I feel there’s no time for anything else. She is enjoying her baths at the moment which is great. We just need to find a way for her to sleep more. She often falls asleep in my arms and wakes up as soon as I put her in her cot. I’m sure things will settle, it’s just so hard seeing her getting upset.
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Kat - brilliant news :) welcome Emilia, another lovely name! Transfer number 14, how amazing for you both! I hope that you're enjoying all of those newborn cuddles and managing to get a bit of sleep.

Ally - hope you're enjoying all of your bonding time with little Alice :) personally, we've never been strict about routines and found that you just start to notice things but I think before around 2 months it's quite early for it anyway. We write down all of Raffy's feeds and can see a bit of a pattern but nothing completely predictable yet! Same with naps really, he's just quite on and off through the day but the night has gotten much better now. The top tip we got with Fin was to switch the lights off in the evening, try to stop making eye contact and talking to them. At first I felt mean but it really does start to teach them the difference between night and day.

Omnom - yes, no doubt there'll be plenty of arguing as they get older! Probably won't be too long until Raffy tries to grab for Fin's toys and he gets cross! Yep, lie-ins are pretty non-existent unless one of you offers to get up so that the other can stay in bed. We do that sometimes, but obviously means you're not laying there having cuddles together or anything. Fin does surprise us sometimes and sleep a bit later, but by that I mean probably like, 7.30 or something haha. 6am has been the average for the past few weeks, maybe because it's getting lighter earlier.

Yep, 8 weeks sleeping in different places! We used to lay on the sofa together sometimes in the evenings and watch TV so I suppose that squeezed in a bit of cuddle time, not exactly the same though. We've done 3 nights now and Raffy has been great, think he woke at around 5 on the first night and then the second night Fin managed to climb over the bars of his cot and fall and hurt himself so Raffy was up too at about 3am. Last night was 2.30 so a bit all over the place but only one time. Haha I don't blame your husband and sure it happens a lot! I will admit that I'll sometimes lay there for a few seconds, think we have a bit of a stand off about who will move first!

Having both of them on my own can be a bit tricky sometimes, like sometimes they'll both be screaming though luckily that's not very often. Raffy still sleeps quite a lot so that's helpful. I must admit, Fin is definitely watching more TV than usual and we've paid for Disney+ too which he is loving. I do feel a bit guilty but at times you need the distraction so that you can get things done. He does often watch nursery rhymes on TV so I guess that's quite educational.

We got an email from his nursery yesterday asking if we'll be sending him back in June. At the moment we put no, although we're both so torn and it made me cry. Everytime I read things about schools and Early Years and the changes I cry. As a teacher and a mother to young children I just can't imagine it. We don't want to risk him picking it up from the other children or staff when we've been trying to be so careful and especially now with this new Kawasaki link that's still quite unknown. Also makes me sad to think of everyone being distanced when we know the little ones like hugs etc. We've seen him hugging the staff and sitting on one's knee.

Are you going to hold on to Beaux's clothes in case you have another boy? That's what we did and my uncle and his gf had a little boy last July so they've borrowed all of Fin's clothes too. I know what you mean about them not wearing all of the clothes, especially now I'm finding that Raffy isn't because we're not really going anywhere apart from walks around our local area. Nobody is seeing him in the lovely outfits but obviously taking lots of photos.

Lovely seeing them smile and be 'chatty' isn't it :) must be quite nice to be sharing the house too, although I can imagine a bit stressful too maybe at times! Yeah, I think he can get a bit grizzly early evening, think lots of people find that and call it the 'witching hour', although seems to be more than an hour for most that I read about!

Yeah, I think a similar age gap, so we'll have an extra crazy house haha. One of my friends said she's heard that it's better to run through the fire than walk! Get the crazy baby and toddler days done at the same time. Doubt it'll necessarily get easier as they get older though, just different! Suppose they can maybe play more together and entertain each other, concentrate on activities for longer. My partner also wants to try and do it soon because she turned 34 on the day that Raffy was born and doesn't personally want to be too much older when she gets pregnant. Let's see what happens!

Coping mostly ok, thanks. My phone randomly went wrong on Sunday though so I feel a bit cut off not being able to use ********. We have groups for both sides of the family that we're always posting on and I'm constantly taking photos and videos of the boys! Waiting for Vodafone to send an envelope and then have to send it off and wait for it to be repaired and returned, gutted! We got Fin a 'big boy' bed delivered this morning after his horrible fall the other night so I've got a mix of excitement and dread about that. Can imagine that he'll be in and out of it all evening!

Has Beaux had his immunisations yet? Raffy had his first set on Monday. He was a little bit restless through the day and cried more but not too bad.

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HD - 7.30 😂 should be illegal to class a lie-in as any time before 10am, haha. I love that it's the same in other households when it comes to who will wake first! Trouble is, once I'm up I might as well get him because my husband is as about as nimble as a cross-eyed mammoth. He usually props the boy up between our pillows which is a few inches from my ear so I can hear him go from crying of starvation to over enthusiastically slurping milk. Chances of falling back to sleep become slim. I have to admit, I love it when he does the squelchiest farts and DH reels in protest 😂. I have to subtly sink my face in my pillow so I don't giggle out loud.

I've read about this kawasaki link. It's terrifying. As if the rona wasn't enough to stress about. I appreciate its completely down to the individual parents but I'm not sure I would feel comfortable sending children to school before September. In all honesty though, I don't believe I'd feel any better sending them during normal term time either. From what I can gather, it seems children are less at risk of more serious symptoms (kawasaki not incl. obviously) so they seem to be going forth with the mentality of herd immunity and allowing everyone to return to work. I feel for the parents with that decision to make. Particularly in regards to multiple children of varying ages. Exactly like you said, little ones can't be expected to socially distance or think to wash their hands so what do you do? I'm sure many will feel backed into a corner with little to no choice, especially when they look at reducing or discontinuing the furlough scheme. I've read recently that they think we'll likely get a more fatal second spike as we enter the winter months. It's a really troubling thought.

The days are just racing by. We're in the tenth week already! Aaaah. Where does it go?! Beaux no longer fits into anything upto 12lbs. Which is quite a lot of his 0-3month old clothing. He's got some that are 14lbs so he's wearing the last of those but he's also trying 3-6month bits. Some are a little baggy but he's got room to grow which is perfect. Yeah, definitely want to keep hold of his clothes as he's barely worn half of them. With them being so little, it's not like they get dirty or scuffed either is it? Part of me hopes the next is a boy so I dont have to shop for new clothes 😅. I'm not a huge shopping fan and clothes can be expensive for what they are and how long they're worn.

We're settling really well into a basic routine now. During the day he's happy to be entertained by mum and me. We're usually talking as we potter about the house. After a while he usually dozes off or I'll pop him in his jungle gym to be entertained by a flashing elephant, toys, songs and sounds from Africa. He's so content, I love it. He usually grizzles in the evening between 6-9 before he eventually stops fighting it and he sleeps right through then until 2-3am. At this point he has a quick feed and bum change and we don't hear from him until 6-7ish. I then pull him into bed with me as DH has left for work. Then we cuddle and nap until 9-10am. It's brilliant. Some days it differs slightly but we're getting there. Are you seeing the same with Raffy?

I love that saying of running through the fire, it definitely applies here and it's how I'm feeling about it all. I can imagine I would feel similar to your partner with the age thing. I love that you can take it in turns carrying your babies. Wish DH would take one for the team and be a seahorse for me. So selfish 😏 ha. The thought of doing it all again is daunting and I'm only 26. Best to get it underway and then I can give my body a rest. Not sure I'll want any more after the 2nd. We'll see.

Poor Fin, I hope he's OK after his fall! He must be so excited for his new 'big boy' bed. It's lovely to think he's growing up but must be equally sad to think you never get that time again, especially when they're so cute and dinky. Sounds like Raffy coped really well with his jabs considering! Beaux had his last Friday. Started off quite grizzly. All weekend he just slept and ate, hardly any interaction. Then yesterday he woke as his usual smiley, squeaky self. Been fine since, bless him. Its not pleasant witnessing them cry like that as you're asked to keep them still. Felt really mean!

Some mums manage to make this look so glamorous and instead I'm over here with my pj's still on at midday, texting with one hand and feeding my half dressed baby with the other who as we speak has his leg cocked in the air and is farting like a trooper. thought men couldn't multi-task anyway?! 😂 How you're coping over there with two, HD, I just have no idea! Haha.

 

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I know, no such thing as that kind of lie in anymore! Even when Fin has stayed at a relatives house we've been up fairly early I think, just used to it and probably wanting to get stuff done or just sit in front of the TV together and relax! He was up at 4.50 this morning :| thankfully that's not something that happens often. Haha that did make me laugh! When Raffy wakes up we take him into the kitchen to make a bottle and then sit on the sofa with him so that it doesn't distract the other person or Fin.

It's really tough isn't it. I'm glad that I'm on maternity leave really so that I don't have to potentially go back in. Just worried about my partner having to go in though because she's an assistant headteacher at the moment but has asthma. Hoping she'll still be able to stay off because of being on the vulnerable list and I think that she can realistically do most of her work from home. Really hoping she won't have to go because I'll be terrified everyday for all of us, particularly her with an underlying illness and the potential Kawasaki link with the babies. I think the same with the furlough scheme etc, it's going to force everyone back into work soon enough although so many have also lost their jobs that surely unemployment is going to be a problem for a long time too.

Yes, Raffy is 10 weeks today, crazy isn't it! Did you ask the nurse to weigh Beaux? I asked our nurse last Monday with the immunisations and he was 12lb 3oz and when I Googled average 8 week old weight he was bang on target. Wonder how he'll be as he grows up because Fin suddenly shot up at some point and has ended up along the 91st/98th centile for weight. Need to check Fin's red book to see when his weight changed. Ha, I'm the opposite with clothes, kind of hoped for a girl so that I could buy loads of new stuff! Just love looking at baby stuff.

That sounds like a lovely little routine, nice and relaxing for everyone. Raffy wakes up once in the night for a feed and then usually wakes up again around 7.30-8am but I think that might be because he hears us up wit Fin. He then has another long sleep on the morning and usually a long one during the afternoon. Typically wakes up just as we're about to eat dinner, even though dinner isn't at a set time in this house! It's like he senses it! We have a little playmat but he doesn't tend to like laying on it for too long, same with his swing. Maybe a bit overstimulating sometimes. My friend recommended an app called Huckleberry to track naps and feeds, it gives you a notification for 'sweet spots' where they should nap, can't use it at the moment though with no phone!! Still had no envelope from Vodafone and I reported it last Monday, getting a bit ridiculous now. I tried to speak to them on online chat but not getting very far with any answers.

Haha, it can definitely be a bonus that we can both carry, in theory anyway. Obviously never know what will happen when she tries, fingers crossed all goes smoothly. She had a big operation as a baby and has a scar that cuts into her belly so she's a bit worried about that but hopefully it'll be fine to stretch. On the whole I've enjoyed being pregnant so slightly sad I won't get to do it again, but don't really fancy a third c-section either coz I imagine the risks must rise with each one. Also had lots of adhesions this time around which would probably be worse if I did it again and they scared me when they said part of my uterus was really thin. Yeah it's a hard choice to make until you're in that situation isn't it. I think if we'd have had a girl this time and if my partner wasn't interested in carrying then that'd be us done. She just decided that she'd like to try and experience it too so that there's no regrets in the future. Would also be lovely if the boys could have a little sister to look after, and if not then another little boy to add to the gang!

Yes, he had a bruise on his forehead and a little cut on his nose but he settled down quite quickly after it happened so that was good. So glad that my partner is a first aider because she always knows what to do in those kind of situations! I should really take a course too so that I feel more prepared. He's settled really well into his new bed, I was a bit worried that he'd continually get in and out and be screaming the place down but he's settled straight down and slept most nights. Think there was just twice that he called us and asked for milk. Yeah I totally know what you mean, it's definitely a mix between missing the newborn baby phase but then we're just in stitches with stuff that he does everyday and love seeing how much he learns all the time.

Ah that did make me laugh. I think if we didn't have a toddler we'd have a lot more pyjama days but we try and make sure that we take him out every day, I definitely had a lot of those days when Fin was a baby and couldn't blame that on lockdown! On the days that we take him out later in the afternoon or after dinner I can also be found in my pjs at midday, no shame haha.
 

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4.50am is just criminal, I would be having words with Beaux 😂.

I'm the same as you. Happy to know I don't have to think about work anytime soon. I hope they see how much of a risk returning to school would be for your partner and family. It's just not safe for your household. You're totally right about the unemployed. Devastating. I have to be thankful my husband works outdoors in construction where he's as safe as its going to get. He takes all the PPE side of it really seriously when we send him out foraging too. Wish everyone did.

Ah, your little Raffy sounds like he's coming along perfectly. Got to love a textbook baby as my Mum calls them. We weighed Beaux at 10wks and he was 12lbs 4oz so he's a bit behind I think. He guzzles his milk and is always gaining each week so I won't fret. Oo so Raffy could possibly be like his big brother then? Definitely try and find out when Fin had his little growth spurt.

If we have a girl next time I'll just send over our card details & you can spend away by all means👍☺. I took a photo of Beaux completely fascinated with a Nationwide card reader yesterday, it was really cute but the guilt quickly washed over me when I realised I really ought to buy him some new toys, haha. I'm just the worst!

I'll have everything crossed for you and your partner when you go to welcome the next one. Imagine if its a boy again! 😳 Haha. Outnumbered! Hope her scar doesn't have any impact on a future pregnancy. Do you have any names if the next one is a girl? Downloaded the Huckleberry app because you mentioned it and it's absolutely brilliant so thank you. Has your phone been returned to you yet?!

Wonderful to hear little Fin is bossing his big bed routine 👏. Must be lovely to watch the relationship between the brothers grow. Too cute. Just recently Beaux has started really holding his head and looking round. It's wonderful to watch. He tries to reach something but in an energetic burst that doesn't have much coordination haha. He laughs lots and smiles all the time. I'm completely besotted. Have you noticed Raffy learning new things?


 

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I know, terrible isn't it! Average for the past few mornings seems to be 5.20, still tough but better than anything with a 4 at the start! We've been taking turns and letting the other person sleep in til about 8.30 so that's quite nice.

Well she went in for a meeting a few days ago and has to go in for an hour tomorrow. She said everyone was really good about distancing and when she has to go in a few more times she'll be working in a room alone etc, there's tonnes of things that schools are putting in place and she said she feels safe with all of that in mind. Doesn't stop me being nervous but not much I can do really! Yes, really good that your husband is working outside and good at using PPE, bit of peace of mind.

In terms of weight they always say that if they're following their line on the chart then not to really worry, even if it's above or below the 50th. Raffy is almost 3 months (crazy!!) so will weigh him again then and see how it looks. Might ask at his next immunisations but kind of just want to get in and out and if I have to undress him and weigh him it's just adding extra time!

Haha I would love that! I haven't done enough baby shopping this time around! What are you thinking of getting? We've noticed Raffy is getting more interested in toys and books now.

We had this for Fin so we're going to get it back out soon
https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1478765

He's also liking the toy tray off of this...
https://www.mamasandpapas.com/en-gb/baby-snug-and-activity-tray-navy/p/4126k3201?utm_term=Mamas+-+Papas_shopping&pdg=aud-382310809856:pla-299359839059:cmp-7246961182:adg-94650717799:crv-419394573811:pos-:dev-c&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIuZ_hh-_n6QIVArDtCh2G4gE0EAQYASABEgJFj_D_BwE

Won't be long until he can use the Jumperoo either I suppose! Hours of fun to be had in that! Got a good deal on ours one Black Friday.

Ha, I know, we're convinced that we'll have another boy and be totally outnumbered, living in a madhouse! Yes, we had a girl's name early on before we found out that Fin was going to be a boy and have stuck with that. It's Millie. We talk about her as if she exists, putting it out there to the universe to make it happen!

Good to hear about the app! Yes, thankfully got it back a couple of days ago, feels so good to have it back. I haven't started using it yet because I've just been catching up with stuff but definitely will do, especially as you seem to like the app too!

Yes, so exciting whenever Fin takes a bit of notice of Raffy! Oh bless him, they're getting so interested in the world around them now aren't they. Raffy has just started to laugh so that's lovely, keep trying to catch it on camera to show family. Even though we've now been told we can meet up outside with more people we're still probably not going to yet because we just don't trust what Fin will do! He'll probably just want to run straight over to everyone and cuddle, hold hands and pull them around etc. Just think it'll be stressful instead of fun! Are you meeting up with anyone?
 

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I have to agree with you there, 4am'ers are not the one! I believe I may have jinxed us. Beaux keeps falling asleep of an evening earlier & earlier now and this morning he woke at 3.30am. I thought I was going to be sick. Hope he grows out of it.

It's quite reassuring to hear that at least she feels she can work in a reasonably safe environment. I can appreciate you still feeling anxious and understandably so. It hasn't been quite so daunting for us as DH never really stopped working at any point. He's taken a week off here and there but they keep dragging him in so the risks always been there.

Immunisations are all booked for next week. Hope Raffys go smoothly for you. I really found the last ones hard when he started screaming. Not looking forward to them but will be interested in what they scribble down for his weight. I know what you mean. I don't take Beaux anywhere enclosed so I get a bit nervous taking him into a doctors of all places. Best to be in and out asap.

It's a deal, haha. Well he has his jungle gym, some books and small like rattle toys. I've seen this one and thought it looked interesting but I'm worried about him being on his tippy toes for prolonged periods.

https://www.johnlewis.com/baby-einstein-around-we-grow-4-in-1-discovery-centre/p4979356?sku=238365413&s_ppc=2dx92700054676603633&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gclsrc=aw.ds&&gclid=CjwKCAjw5vz2BRAtEiwAbcVIL16sfWbq2KKNLk9PYZ3HeYiZ9NNSRWr0EdCUrviERnSCT0K0pbUUnBoC8hgQAvD_BwE

We don't tend to leave him doing one activity for more than half an hour but I don't know whether the time will add up over the course of the weeks/months he uses it. They also advise from 6months onwards but I'm convinced he'll be ready for it earlier than that. Quite a few reviewers have said their babies tried it from 5 months. Especially if I take the piano part off and sit with him. He has a little piano one he presses at the moment but it's so limited. I get these proud mummy moments when he focuses intently on the toys swinging down from his chair. His little arms are a bit wobbly but he always grabs the toys and holds on. He predominantly uses his left arm but I imagine it's too early to read too much into that at the moment. Books he just stares at with these huge eyes of concentration whilst pouting. It makes me giggle 🤣. Such a character on him.

Let me know which jumperoo you purchased. I saw one with Fisher price being sold at Smyths for £70. It looked pretty good but I wouldn't have a clue.

Millie is a lovely name! Haha, I hope the Universe hears you and you get to do all that shopping! Win! You must promise you'll keep in touch when you both go ahead with the next cycle too. I'll have everything crossed for you both.

I'm getting on well with the app. The only thing is the times we record everything are probably a bit off as we often forget at the time and the have to fill in the info later. Life can sometimes be a bit too busy for that kind of commitment but we're trying. Especially at 3/4am feeds 🤢😴.

Completely agree, they've come such a long way in 3 months. I'm so excited for the future. Poor Fin, I imagine he would be so confused as to why he couldn't just cuddle the world and its dog. Lovely to hear how well he's doing with his little brother in the meantime though. It must be hard to go from being the only one to having to then share his toys and attention but it's sounds like he's taking to it well.

We don't really go out other than shopping and we never take LO. He's been on a few walks which we've really enjoyed, round parks and woodlands. I suppose I'm still too anxious at the moment for anything indoors or near people. Hate going shopping myself as it is. We had BBQ round DHs brothers. His parents are high risk so we just sat apart in the garden but at least they got to look at Beaux. It was wonderful to be socialising after what's felt like forever. Have you managed to see your family or friends?
 

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Aww, hope the 3.30 was a one off?!

I suppose that's good in some ways with him working on and off the whole time, because with us it's felt like something dramatic and major as it's been left for so long. Still worrying for you though, I'm sure.

Immunisations went pretty well. I still hate being in the doctors and decided to wear a mask this time, suppose it made me feel slightly better. The screams were horrible again but he stopped so quickly this time, was shocked! Didn't get him weighed in the end, need to do it at home. Have you weighed Beaux again? Did the nurse do it?

That toy looks good, there's a lot going on and it's good how it grows with them. I know what you mean about the tippy toes, we were the same. When Fin was strong enough to go in his Jumperoo but not tall enough to reach the floor we just put cushions there and that solved the issue! Yeah I think you'll know when he's ready, I'd say it's more about being able to keep his head up steady up steady enough really. Do you have any black and white books? Raffy absolutely loves them.

This is our Jumperoo https://www.argos.co.uk/product/4834911

Aww, thank you! Yes, will definitely keep in touch. Same goes for you when you decide to go for another cycle!

Haha, I'm the same with trying to go back and fill stuff in. We often forget and end up just making up the times. Still finding it quite handy though to get a rough idea of patterns.

Oh a BBQ must've been lovely. I'm sure everyone would've been desperate to hold him, but as you say, at least they got to have a look at him. We only really go for walks too, mostly just in the local area and have been a bit further once or twice. Went for a walk along a local river one weekend which was a nice change. I've taken both boys to my parent's house in the past few weeks but either left them in the car or sat them in the pram and distanced. Done that a few times when my partner needed to do important online meetings! Some more family want to see us and meet in the garden but I'm just nervous about Fin not distancing. Been talking to 2 of my friends about meeting up somewhere with them but they also have 2 and 3 year olds so the same distancing problem! Considered just taking Raffy and not Fin this time but dunno if that's mean because I'm sure he'd love to play and just go somewhere different, especially after all this time.
 

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Turns out the 3.30am was not a one-off. Starting to think he might be entering this 4-month old regression period that I keep reading up about. Poor little man. He's ravenous half the time too which I think shortens his naps, despite knocking back 150ml-200ml each feed. He's sitting at about 1st1lb at the moment. These are home weigh-ins that we do each Sunday. I'm wondering if it's just an intense time of growth both mentally & physically for him. How's Raffy's routine getting on?

Lovely to hear he recovered quickly from his jabs. Don't blame you for wearing the PPE at the Dr's! It's not my favourite place to be. I was a coward this time and sent DH in with Beaux. I'd hoped not to hear the screams but he was still sobbing as he came out so I had to comfort him with a bottle. The pillow under the feet idea is brilliant btw! I didn't even think of that. He's holding his head up really well now and grasping everything quite confidently so I might sit him in it and see if he's capable of playing. We were gifted a couple of black & white books by or hospital but they're a bit boring if I'm honest. He's got some colourful ones like 'There's a dragon in my book' and lots by Julia Donaldson. They're way beyond his age but he laughs when we do all the actions, noises etc. I think he likes looking at the pictures too. I get free audiobooks with Amazon Prime so I might set him up to listen to some stories on my phone whilst he's in his playpen or chilling on the bed whilst I do housework.

On some of the sites, they suggest that Beaux should be taking weight on his legs by now when held, trying to roll over (he only gets to his side), laying on his front and lifting himself with his arms/elbows, etc. Beaux literally does none of this. We practice for say 10-20 minutes each day but he's not really improving much. Talking is a different matter. He's babbling away and blowing bubbles, it's crazy. It feels like he's just going to burst one day with excitement and all these words will come tumbling out, haha.

Jumperoo looks really good. In a few months' time I'll look into it more. We've just ordered his high chair which said it will be delivered in 9 weeks' time which has worked out pretty perfect timing-wise. When will you look to start introducing solids to Raffy? There's so much conflicting info out there as to when to start that I'm not really confident as to what to do. Do you remember when you started with Fin? Yeah, I agree about being able to see the rough patterns on Huckleberry. We love the app, but have to scold ourselves often when we forget. Least now we don't have to keep guessing when he was last fed or how long he slept for. It's so useful in that respect.

It's tricky isn't it with all the social distancing still. I guess if they're happy to let you mix now with another household then at least little ones like your Fin can play together again without all the confusion. There is always going to be that worry for the parents though. Most people are being sensible, thankfully. If you ignore Leicester that is, haha.

Getting a bit too impatient to start cycling again. DH isn't convinced that we should be rushing ahead and has put his foot down. I've been told to wait until next January, as was agreed. Fiddlesticks! -.-

 

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Oh no! Yep, I keep reading about the sleep regression too and have dread about it! I've noticed he's falling asleep later and finding it a bit tricky to fall asleep within the last week or so. Still just up once in the night at the moment. Weighed him about 2 weeks ago and he was 14lb 10oz. Yeah I think he's probably just got a lot going on, they say that's what the regression actually is, their brain changing etc.

Horrible hearing the cries isn't it. I've got even worse dread about the 16 week ones because I have to take Fin this time. Just hope I can distract him enough and keep him happy in the pram. Hate him walking around in the doctors at any time, let alone with all this going on!

I got an email today about babies at 4 months and it does say that they'll start to prefer more colourful things now anyway so those new books would be good. Popular ones for us when Fin was younger (and that he still quite likes) are the 'That's not my...'. There's so many of them and he loved touching the different textures. Once he starts being into lift the flap ones Dear Zoo is a good one and the Julia Donaldson Tales from Acorn Woods series. Would recommend them. Also good to get quite a few board books because there's less chance of them being able to ruin them!

Aww I honestly wouldn't worry! Fin was quite similar to that, he absolutely hated being on his stomach so tummy time was almost non existent, means that he wasn't able to practice pushing up etc. He didn't roll for many months after they said that they 'should'. He also didn't crawl properly until he was about 13 months and didn't walk until about 23 months. His speech was really good though and his fine motor is also brilliant. He definitely wasn't holding weight on his legs at 3-4 months. Raffy is completely different and he's been holding weight for weeks now, we were shocked and not expecting it. He also doesn't mind being on his tummy and can lift his head up quite well. Such a change for us, they really are all different and it will all come in time.

Ah that's good timing for the high chair, no rush at the moment is there! Yeah with weaning we started Fin at about 5.5 months. I'd read bad things about starting it too early like higher chance of allergies, their digestive system not being ready etc but there's so much conflicting advice. Will definitely be sticking to the same kind of timeline anyway, whenever he seems ready, sitting up well when supported, quite interested in our food etc.

We've met up with some people, like on father's day we went to see both of our dad's in their gardens and saw my partner's mum on her birthday too, just stayed outside and distanced. Fin did grab one grandad's hand a few times though and nobody obviously has the heart to pull away from him or anything. I know he's really on top of sanitising and hand washing though so at least that's something. I met up with some of my friends distanced too and the kids touched some of the same toys. Just made sure he didn't touch his face and then sanitised his hands. So tricky but we've decided to send him back to nursery in August so he'll be interacting with other kids again soon and touching the same things etc then too.

Whereabouts are you? We're London/Surrey borders. Seen yesterday that some London boroughs are at risk of being locked down again apparently. A little bit worrying but would rather go through that again and stay safe!

Haha, it's so exciting isn't it! January will be here before you know it though. I'm the same sometimes. My partner's Dad has said that he's going to pay for a big family holiday to Florida in 2022 and as soon as we were alone in the car I was like 'did you think the same as me...?' and she did. That probably would've been when we would've cycled again so now we'll have to probably put it back a little bit. I did say she could put it forward but probably better not to take a baby and she doesn't want to be pregnant on that holiday so think we'll just start when we get back.
 

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I'm so tired it's untrue. Our gorgeous little man is going through a grizzly phase atm, which consists of him frantically shoving anything and everything into his mouth and sucking away whilst making a whiny noise. It's his swaddle blankets that really get it. Find myself washing them constantly. He can still be his lovely, smiley self but it's just not as frequent and his sleep pattern is suffering. Lots of mucus is beginning to gather on his chest so he either dribbles or chokes temporarily. We try to keep him upright when we can and gently massage or pat his back which seems to help bring it all up. I'm not sure if anything's happening under the gums but nothing coming through as yet.

You're so lucky that Raffy is still going through the night with one feed, I'm literally up every 2-3 hours. Ergh! It's reassuring to know that they're all different, even with your two. I hope that this phase doesn't last forever, he's usually such a calm, textbook baby. On a more positive note, he's very recently been holding himself up on his little arms during tummy time 👏 love him. He was looking all around and not making the 'lifting my medicine ball head is tiring' noise he usually makes. Think we're getting there!

The book suggestions are fab, thank you! You're right about the board ones, I'd hate to see some of these paper ones go to shreds. Makes sense for you to wait for feeding cues from Raffy. We've bought some porridge today that you can try from 4 months. We're gonna have a go this weekend with just a tiny amount and see what he thinks. There's been plenty of occasions where we've eaten something like cheese or a banana and stuck some under his nose to gauge his reaction. He always looks intrigued and confused by it all, haha. We're not expecting much from the porridge but we'd like him to experience a new texture.

That's so sweet that Fin's managed to start finding normality again, even if it's briefly holding grandads hand. You must be so anxious but I think you're doing the right thing sending him back. Ah you're not too far! We're based in Wickford, Essex. It seems crazy to think we could enter lockdown again. A family friend who works as a nurse said that her department is being prepped for a potentially large covid and flu influx around December. Sounds so ridiculous but I absolutely love Christmas and it would be such a shame to potentially be seperated from everyone again. Appreciate it would obviously be much safer for us so I would understand. Just sad.

Wowzers, Florida! What a fantastic holiday to have in the line-up but completely understand why your partner would want to wait. 😂 I'm way too impatient, I'd be looking at treatment now tehe. Tbh, I've been tempted to start earlier myself but we have a holiday booked for Portugal and Scott doesn't want me 7/8 months pregnant. I can see what he's saying and I'm sure he's not going to budge. It just sucks, I'm so ready now.

I haven't received a letter yet for Beaux's next immunisations. Dreading them!! Have you had your letter? It's gonna be the worst.
 

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We have the same with the grizzles too and his hands are constantly in his mouth! Means that dribble is everywhere and he's so noisy when he does it too! We've tried to get him to use some of the teething toys but he's not quite able to hold onto them well enough yet so it lasts for a few seconds then the hands are back in!

Aww no, the night feeds are tough aren't they. There's a 4 month 'sleep regression' and they're also going through a big leap at the moment too so there's a lot going on for them. Haha, medicine ball head, well done little Beaux!

With weaning we really liked the Ella's Kitchen book 'The Purple One'. We followed that with the ideas for different veg for the first two weeks, the idea being that apparently if you start with more savoury things they'll grow up to like them too and not just want sweet things. So many different ideas and viewpoints though. I also found an Annabel Karmel book that I really like but I got that later on, not during weaning. I really like having the different recipes and ideas and look forward to getting creative again. Nowadays (pretty much since he was 1-1.5) Fin pretty much just eats whatever we have.

Yeah, we've had to just relax a little bit with Fin. Especially seeing as he's going back to nursery soon, seems silly that he'll be holding 'stranger's' hands but not our own family's who we've just given santiser to. My partner decided to let her Dad hold Raffy last weekend too. I wasn't sure how I felt about it but her Dad doesn't go out apart from going to golf where he doesn't have to touch anything and he gets online shopping deliveries. Heard again yesterday that they think children are very low risk for transmission too so that made me feel better. We went to a family picnic at the weekend for my uncle's son's 1st birthday and that was nice. The kids were all playing together and I just had to try and relax, they were just sharing the same toys like cars and footballs etc.

Ah yeah, not too far. Really hope that that doesn't happen but who really knows. It could spiral out of control again so quickly. I'd really love a family Christmas too, it's so lovely when there's children around especially. I said that to my partner and said that I know the four of us would have a lovely day but it would definitely be a shame. I'm sure if that happened then everyone would be having a delayed Christmas day whenever lockdown ended!

Haha, I've been on holidays during both pregnancies and I'd say you'd probably enjoy it more if you're not pregnant at the time, especially if you like a drink! The first time was when I was pregnant with Fin and we went to New York as a last hurrah. The plane ride was even more uncomfortable than usual and I was jealous of my partner drinking cocktails and wine when we went out! Went to Devon while pregnant with Raffy and would usually love to sit around the pool with a drink, or try out the flavoured gins in the evening but couldn't do any of it and my sister in law clocked on straight away and knew I was pregnant! Also can be tough to handle the heat while pregnant too.

I've never waited for the letters personally, they always arrive after he's already had them done! I just ring up and book because I know that they're due and just book for 4 weeks after the last ones! So yeah, he had his done last Tuesday and I had to take Fin with me too which I was dreading a bit because I thought he'd be moaning to get out of the pram and walk around but he was really good. Raffy did get a temp but was mostly ok, hope Beaux's go ok too!
 

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I've tried to write this a zillion times. The distractions are real!

I swear you've literally written that first bit about Beaux 😂. Poor Raffy, it really looks as if it's driving them up the wall. It's nice to read that I'm not the only one going through this anyway. I keep checking his gums but there's no sign of anything. I agree, it's definitely this 4 month regression phase. It's like we've taken a huge step back in terms of how many hours he gets at night. I'm shattered by 8am and he's wide awake! 👀

During the day he naps lots, thankfully. He's normally much perkier during daylight hours, so alert and smiley. He seems to be growing into such a character. I really do count my blessings. How is Raffy getting on now with all his little milestones? Have you tried him with anything food wise or will you wait do you reckon? Can you remember when Fin cut his first tooth?

I've seen some of Ella's kitchen stuff on the shelves. Is it good then? Or is it better to make your own from their recipe book? I've had mixed reviews from people saying that their ready made should be avoided and others saying it's fine, just stains. I'm so lazy, I'm keeping my eyes peeled for a local company that do fresh, homemade delivery that he can try. Some just aren't varied enough with their menus so their might be a little space in the market for my area. New business venture maybe, haha. We're just too far from London for most of them to deliver, sadly.

Lovely to hear Fin has been able to socialise more. There must be nothing worse at that age than not being able to play with friends and family. Least it seems to get easier and more relaxed all the time. Is your partner looking to return to work from September? Or will she stay home because of her vulnerability? We were invited to a BBQ yesterday but I declined as there was 30 odd people attending, inc quite a few kids. I just couldn't have Beaux there and expect people not to want to snuggle him. He has his last jab this Wednesday so I'll probably feel a bit more confident after that but it's hard to say for sure.

His Dear Zoo book has arrived! As well as a few 'there's a..... in your book', can't wait to read them to him. Thank you for the suggestions, hun. We've come away from Huckleberry now. I think he's old enough for me to not panic all the time. I'm quite confident of how often he does everything and there's definitely routine there without the app. I'll be using it when the next one comes along for those early months again. For peace of mind it was priceless. Talking of other babies, I've managed to convince DH to let us cycle again from November so 🤞. Quite nervous but excited. We've chosen to book the holiday last minute if I'm feeling up for it. It's only Portugal so there's no major planning needed. I've taken all your advice and experience on board though. I didn't feel uncomfortable particularly with this pregnancy but I'd rather book last minute so I can always pass if I feel like crap. I'm not a drinker (boring) so I never really miss out on that. I treat myself to the odd sweet cocktail but I can normally substitute for the alcohol free equivalent. When I do drink, I get two double vodkas in and I'm doing carpet angels usually 😂. Absolute lightweight. You might be right about the heat though. With Beaux so little I would probably be subjected to a week in the shade anyhow! Woo.

I overheard DH on a work call saying Boris thinks we'll be back to normality for December. Obviously he's can't predict the outcome of any future spikes but it sounds positive at least that we might be able to have a reasonably unaffected Christmas. I'm really hopeful. It's just my absolute fav time of year. I watched love actually the other night and didn't feel a smidge guilty, haha. Even if DH did raise his eyebrows and smirk at me. Its become tradition to purchase a christmas decoration from Harrods each year and then pop into Hamleys to grab some toys for the nieces/nephews. Wonder if we'll still be socially distancing. We've not done Winter Wonderland yet, everyone's said it's overpriced for what it is. Have you been?

Aw, well done Raffy. And Fin! 👏. I always get asked to refer to the letter to give them the week commencing date otherwise they tut and sigh at me. They're so rude sometimes and talk to you like you're an idiot. Then you get there and they're all smiles. It's like nope🤚, do one. Haha.

I'm rabbiting on, sorry 😂. Hope you're well anyway!
 

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Haha, I can imagine!

No, we have no signs of teeth either. I think that's quite a common misconception from how much I keep reading similar things. People are convinced teeth are coming because of the dribble and hands in mouth but it's just what happens at this stage apparently! Fin's first tooth came when he was about 5.5 months. We both cried and weren't sure why haha.

Raffy is doing well, he's very close to rolling so we keep trying to dangle toys away from him and stuff to encourage it. He twists his body around but just doesn't done that final push yet. Has Beaux? We're going to build the Jumperoo in the next few days because it says to use it when they're able to hold their head up well and he can. Excited and hope he'll love it!

No, we won't do any food until closer to 6 months, maybe 5.5 like Fin if he seems ready and able to sit up well in the highchair etc. He's fine with just his milk for now. I would honestly say to give it a go just making your own at the start. Lots of advice is just to do single veg tastes and then single fruits so it's pretty easy to start with. You just boil the veg and then blend it and most of them make so many ice cubes worth that you can store in the freezer and just defrost. A single potato, for example, makes lots of portions at the start. I used a pouch for some of the ones that you had to strain like peas I think.

You just divide whatever you make into ice cube trays and then pop it into the freezer. Once they're frozen into the cubes then transfer them into little freezer bags or whatever and take them out as you need them. The next stage (Ella's Kitchen wise anyway!) was to then mix 2 or 3 vegetable tastes together. I found this part really quite simple. With some veg we gave Fin a piece of it to pick up and taste too, like a thin stick of cooked carrot and a floret of broccoli.

Once I was back at work I did use more ready made stuff, especially the Cow and Gate jars which are always on pretty good multibuy offers. We would usually get 2-3 meals out of each jar too. I'd use those if I hadn't had time to cook things or if I'd forgotten to defrost the food before work. I never really paid for the more expensive ones, like Ella's Kitchen, because supermarkets have started to do their own ones now. Tesco, Aldi, Sainsburys and Asda all do their own baby food, for example. Aldi do really good Greek yoghurt pouches that are just yoghurt and fruit puree and don't need to be stored in the fridge. We found those really handy for days out and loved that they had no extra sugar. The tiny Yeo Valley yoghurts are good too, no added sugar so perfect for weaning.

My partner's back at work in September, yeah, and will be working a bit during the holidays too to prepare for the kids coming back. We've been socialising even more recently, but obviously can't get rid of the nerves! We went to a little party in my friend's garden for her daughter's 3rd birthday at the weekend and Fin played with two other children, sharing toys etc and he went to my parent's for a little while last week while I popped into work with Raffy to say goodbye to some member's of staff that are leaving. I took Raffy just so that my parent's didn't have to hold him and stuff. The people at work decided to go to a park yesterday when they finished work for the last day so we decided that I'd meet them there and take the boys. Fin got to run around and I got to sit and have a couple of little bottles of drink!

Ah I hope he likes the books! That's so exciting for you, November will be here before you know it! Yeah that's true then with holidays, if you're not a big drinker and will be in the shade with Beaux then you'll probably be fine!

Would love for things to be more normal for Christmas. Just find it hard to believe in a way because they're also saying it's likely to get bad in the winter again. Just have to be optimistic I suppose and see what happens. Haha, I love Love Actually too, doesn't have to be restricted to Christmas viewing! Harrods and Hamleys sounds lovely. It's nice to have little family traditions isn't it. Hope you can still feel comfortable doing that this year. We're looking forward to starting some new things this year, like a Christmas Eve box for each of the kids and plates for Santa etc. We haven't done it the past 2yrs because Fin didn't really understand but he'll be so different this year. Want to put things like hot chocolate and new pjs in there, a kit to make a gingerbread house, maybe a game that we can sit as a family and play.

Yep, we go to Winter Wonderland most years, always went even with my parents and sister when it started. It's very busy and overpriced but makes you feel a bit festive, we like it! We enjoy having a bratwurst and a mulled wine or cider. They also do circus shows there and do an adult one in the evenings which is really good. We took Fin when he was almost 1 and that was a bit stressful on the tube and needing to find stations with lifts etc but he liked all the noises and lights and stuff. Look forward to taking the kids again when they're a bit older.

Haha, I know exactly what you mean about the doctors. I always call the receptionists the gatekeepers. If they don't think you're worthy of an appointment then you don't get one!
 

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Aw, how sweet that you cried! Haha. 5.5 months doesn't seem so far away. How crazy! Feels like forever ago we were counting down the weeks till our births.

Ah wow, well done Raffy!! I reckon it won't be long for you guys and he'll be rolling back and forth. Beaux is going on to his side occasionally but that's about it. It tends to be when he's really trying to get something in his mouth and he's shuffling all over the place. Definitely not sounding like he's at Raffy's stage yet. Bet he's gonna love the Jumperoo! You'll be more excited than he is, haha.

That's fair enough! I always feel so impatient like I want him to try it all, ha. You already know your timing worked out perfectly for Fin so it makes sense you would stick to something similar this time round. I'm going to keep Beaux on just the milk and porridge for at least a few more weeks and then perhaps try a blended veggie. Mum gave him some of her plain yoghurt she uses for smoothies. He was quite taken by it so that might be something for the future.

He did a really sweet, porridge smelling poo the other day, so I thought to myself that at least it's all working its way through without any issues. We make it more towards a liquid consistancy to replicate the milk. Thanks for all the food ideas btw. The ice cube suggestion is brilliant. Least there won't be much waste that way. Be interesting to see what he makes of something less sweet than the porridge.

I wonder if your partner feels anything like mine. Everyone in the house is still wary that they could bring something back and potentially put Beaux at risk. I think as long as they're wearing PPE where necessary, I really can't see how they can do anymore. I know it doesn't take the anxiety of it away but they need to get back to their normal lives as much as possible. It does sound as if we're pretty close to vaccines and what not in the near future.

I left little'un with my sister in law Thursday while I had my hair cut and I felt really comfortable about it. His cousins adore him so much, they played for 4hrs straight. He was a darling for them as I'd hoped. He passed out after, it was brilliant. I thought it might be more daunting to leave him but it was fine. I grabbed a Costa and for a short while it felt like I wasn't even mum. I didn't know what to do with myself!

Can't wait to get started in November. Need to book bloods and scans for the month before but my body and everything is back to normal and I know my PCOS is practically non-existent. I'm about a stone heavier now which has really helped my cycles. Looked up the chances of falling again after having a live IVF birth and it seems relatively stacked in my favour. Have to remain hopeful.

The Christmas eve boxes and santa plates sound really cute! Aw, Fin is at that age now where you're really going to enjoy all his reactions and involvement in everything. Few more years and Fin will be sharing all the excitement too! I think it's so important to have traditions. We had so many in our family and they were the best bits. We usually leave out a mince pie for Santa (which Mum scoffed) and left Rudolph out a carrot. Dad would reluctantly crunch on it apparently 😂. Poor parents. They were never organised so they stayed up till 3am usually, drinking sherry or snowballs, listening to Christmas music and wrapping a million presents. I don't want to wish the time away but they're definitely moments I look forward to myself.

We might try Winter Wonderland, perhaps in a few years once they can handle the travelling. The adult show sounds good! We could add in into our Hamleys/Harrods trip. We wouldn't dream of taking the kids along, I always think that takes the magic out of it if they pick out a present but it seems so many parents arent fussed 😕. I'm glad I'm not the only one to enjoy Love Actually. Sometimes I push for other Christmas films throughout the year and get scowled at, haha!!

The gatekeepers 😂 it's so bloody true! It's amazing how they can diagnose you over the phone and decide its level of severity before pushing back your appointment by 3 weeks. Which is done, I reckon, in hopes that you'll have either recovered by then, died or been forced to attend A&E. Either way, they don't have to deal with you! Woo!

🙈 Terrible.






 
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