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I thought I would start this thread as there are a few of us who cycled in Sept / October that are pregnant but obviously keeping baby chatter down in the ttc board were using.

This seems a good place to share early pregnancy worries,  woes, exciting and share the next stage of our journey.

Hugs Ikle xxx
 

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Hi Ikle, good idea! I’ve missed chatting with you all. How are you doing? My scan and blood test results all came back fine so I’ve started telling friends and family. I’ve not told work yet but thinking I’ll wait until after Christmas. 

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Hey Rio,

That's amazing news,  it must be such a huge relief to be over the 12 week mark.  Had it sunk in yet?

We did the harmony text last week and have our 12 week scan on Thursday,  I just can't wait feeling a little more relaxed as I've been scanned weekly until last week by the miscarriage clinic but this is the first time I've gone 2 weeks between checkups. 

We're telling my family at xmas so we can tell them in person but we've told a few friends already and my father in law as they run a business together so he needed to explain all the time off for hospital appointments.

I'm not telling work until after Xmas either as we're going through a restructure which I running and designing so I'm hoping to get a promotion out of it which I deserve but I don't think will be forthcoming if they know I'll be leaving on mat leave.

Will you find out what you are having or do you prefer a surprise? 

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Hi girls
Thanks for setting it up Ikle!
Great to hear from you and that things are going well!
Im still in bed,been up since 5am vomitting..I am totally taken by surprise by how sick i am considering i had very mild queasyness with the twins that was fixed easily with one cracker in the morning but this is something else that goes on all day..I shouod be thrilled everything is going.ok but my whole day revolves around being sick and trying to eat drink...I have a 10wk private scan booked for today if i can manage to crawl out of bed..at least its Sat i cant do bed Mon to Fri..but i crawl in at 9every night to make the days shorter.
Ikle that will be lovely telling them at

XMas..we are thinking the same and hoping i am a bit more well by then.
Have you an issue with progesterone?
I am struggling with the hormones.i cut my dose in half ,not recommeded by my clinic but i literally cant take anymore progesterone my cervix is not liking it and has been bleeding.i think the dose they had me on was too high as when i read the med pack it said 200mg max per time not 400...i figure the placenta will be producing some p and e by now. 10wks.Believe me.i dont want to risk this pregnancy ive done loads of research..trying to balance not getting an infection and having enough progesterone/oestrogen while trying to not vomit up tablets too..it must be so easy not going through IVF not having to deal with all the drugs on top of pregnancy stuff.roll on 12wks ill be happy to throw the meds away hopefully forever woohoo!
Hope everyone doing well.I also have a ridiculously bloated belly Ikle ,the injections and drugs im.sure..i lost a stone from throwing up but i look fatter than.before.:) I also really dont mind girl or boy as long as its healthy,it will be different no matter what as its our first biological one together.Ive started thinking of names now which is always nice to actually get a bit excited!xxx
 

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Thanks for setting this up Ickle! I’m loving hearing how you’re all doing!!!

I’m currently 6 weeks2 days. I have a scan next Sunday to confirm everything is ok. I’m nervous! Last night I needed a pee in the middle of the night and when I wiped it was a little bit pink. I totally freaked out but I had to go and settle my son in bed so I couldn’t check dr google to see what it said. I was convinced it was the end and I got so anxious I wanted to be sick. I then wasn’t sure if it was morning sickness or anxiety induced. Today things are back to normal. No more pink when I wipe. This is SUCH an anxious journey!!

We’ve told my parents because they babysat for my transfer. I think we plan to tell my MiL after the scan next week. I wanted to tell my brother at Christmas time but I won’t have had the 12 week scan by then and I should probably wait til after.

Love to you all

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Hey ladies,

Wow Triona your sickness sounds blooming awful, I hope it lifts soon, I can't imagine having to carry on with twins with morning sickness like that. Mine has been bad but off and on and I get off respite which of course freaks me out and then it's back. I find as long as I'm nibbling carbs I can control it but that means I'm like the side of a house now.  I would imagine reducing the progesterone will help with the bloating and as you say by 10 weeks the placenta will be kicking in.  I'll be taking my Progesterone until 14/16 weeks but that's due to insufficiency issues in the past, can't wait to stop and hope the bloating goes down too.
Do you and hubby agree on names or will it be a major task coming up with something you both like? I always find it so hard to imagine what would suit a baby until you've seen them in person,  hubby is already back tracking on the nave options we've agreed on for a boy so I'm hoping it's a girl for ease.

Lorz, how exciting it feels like that has come around quickly but I bet it's dragged for you, the next waiting room after the 2ww is almost harder waiting to get to the first scan.  Not long now just a few more sleeps. Have you had any beta blood tests or any follow ups or do your clinic not do those? In terms of bleeding I have to say I've had bleeding in every single pregnancy and a little bit is expected.  It can be your cervix from the pesseries or usually munchkin attaching itself to settle in for the long haul. They have to build hundreds of links to the blood vessels in your uterus to grow so its really common to experience bleeding in the first 10 weeks. I know that won't stop the anxiety but hopefully it'll give you some reassurance.
How beautiful you have been able to share the news with your family so you have people you can talk to about it, it's so hard keeping it s secret.  Can't wait to tell mine.

So i have my 12 week scan on Thursday. I can't wait my anxiety it almost through the roof but I'm also going through a restructure with work which could lead to redundancy and I've been headhunted and it's a job I really want but obviously neither know I'm pregnant so I've no idea what to do.  I've got to tell the new job by Dec 11th what i want to do and I'm thinking of just being up front,  I want the job but I'm pregnant so at least I'll feel better if it's all on the table. I'm pretty sure they'll charge their mind after I've shared which i know they shouldn't but it does happen its pretty common and I'm not sure I'm ready to dive into 60 hour weeks to build my reputation with a new firm as I get into the 2nd and 3rd trimester. I'm awake most mornings at 4am stressing about it.  Having the scan and finding out of bubs is likely to make it to term will force me to face it all.

Hugs to all
Ikle xxx
 

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Hi all,

Ikle, hope all goes well with your scan tomorrow. Have you had your harmony test results? Are you finding out the sex? Sorry if you mentioned that.

I feel lucky that I’ve not felt sick - just very tired. I’m 14.5 weeks but still anxious. I think I’ll feel better when I can feel the baby moving about.

I’m on my phone so find it hard to read your posts too.

Triona- sorry you’ve been so sick. Have you needed to have time off work?

I’m going to re read your posts and then come back x
 

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Gosh 60 hour weeks sound scary @ikle. Is that standard in your line of work?

I had to leave my high pressured stressful client-facing role back when I had my first failed cycle in 2016. I couldn't juggle it emotionally. I'm in a more straightforward part time role now and it isn't as taxing nor pushes me as much. Career wise it is a slower pace though.
 

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Ideally I’d have something a bit more inbetween work wise cos I feel like I need to be stretched more.

Ikle, are they allowed to withdraw the headhunting offer if you’re pregnant? How many months would you be there before baby? Three or four? If it’s in writing? Lots to think about. It’s hard to navigate isn’t it!

Lorz, hope scan on Sunday all okay. Sorry about the pink scare. 💓
 

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Just a quick one

Lorz, good luck today with the scan honey,  sending lots and lots of positive  vibes.

Rio, it's such a tough call I want to be stimulated mentally and challenged with work but this jobs generally require your 100% dedication which means racking up the hours,  being available all the time.  I wish I could find something that excites me but doesn't detract from my family.  I easily out a10/11 hour day in and miss so much time with my Son and I returned from Mat leave early to help them out. I'm not going to do it with this one, I'm taking 12 months and all my leave can't wait.
Technically companies would have to honour the deal even if I turn up 4 months pregnant but it would be a career limiting move.  People have long memories and I think I'd ruin promotion chances etc because the trust would be gone.

Triona, how you doing? You must be coming up to 12 weeks soon, I hope the sickness is easing and wishing you all the best for the scan. If you get some good pictures you might be able to test the nub theory to see if it's a boy or girl early ❤💙

We made it to 12 weeks btw bubs is looking great, pretty sure it's a boy as his head is bigger than my sons which was on the 98th centile so if we're having a girl she'll have a huge head lol

Hugs to all

Ikle xxx
 

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Hey ladies!!!

I’ve just stumbled on this thread!

I’m due in June with twins!

Morning sickness - I should really say sickness is terrible! I’ve lost weight rather then putting it on which is a bit worrying!

I have my 12 week scan this Friday. Il be 12 weeks and 5 days then!

How are you all??
 

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Hi everyone!

Iklefeet that is great that your 12 wk scan went great! Did you decide what to do about work/ promotion?tricky one.... Hmm i wonder if its a boy, it could be a girl too, whats the nub theory? We certainly have loads of photos but I can't make out anything...

FM86, how is your sickness? I woudn't worry about losing weight at this stage, you'll prob put it all back on , as long as your keeping a bit of food and drinks down. Its hard isn't it? I am not eating as healthily as I normally would as I don't feel like Vegetables whatsoever, can just about manage smoothies and I'm gone off my usual food , just snacking here and there. Seems like a constant battle against the nausea. I wish I could say its eased up but it hasn't at all. still i'm 11.5wks so thats normal , hoping that it'll ease up by XMas:)

Lorz - How are you doing?

Hope your all wellxxx
 

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Hey,

How is everyone doing especially with the latest covid news? It's such unpredictable times, I'm really hoping that the vaccine stabilises the situation in the new year so we can have some normality back. My dad's been a prisoner in his own house for almost a year and he's just desperate to get the vaccination so he can go out again.

Fm - I hope the morning sickness has subsided and you are feeling better

Rio - how are you doing, did you tell work yet?

Triona - honey how are you feeling?

Lorz - we haven't heard from you,  a little worried the scan didn't go as planned, I hope you are OK.

We've got to the 15 week mark, my belly has popped right out and I've started to get round ligament pain as I get bigger. Can't believe I made it to the 2nd  Trimester. I've also started having odd hot flashes,  my face lights up glowing bright red I look like a baleshia beacon.

I hope everyone is doing OK and your Xmas isn't ruined by the recent news,  sending you all hugs and Xmas wishes

Hugs Ikle xxx
 

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Hi Ikle,

So glad all going well. I’m now 17 weeks. Had a midwife appt last week and asked to hear the heartbeat again. All well. I’ve also got a bump - think mine is about two months ahead of my first pregnancy! Look v pregnant.

We’re tier 4. Had to cancel our plans to host family here for two days / nights. I just wish the Govt hadn’t suggested it so early and then taken it all away. I told all my family on the phone about being pregnant (bar my mum). Were you going to tell people over Christmas in person? All my family are tier 4. 

They’ve closed my daughters nursery early due to cases. Friends and neighbours have got it. Just hoping to stay clear of it as long as possible...

I’m going to tell work on my first or second week back. Might just wait till the 20 week scan.

I’m kinda wanting it to be Christmas already as just scared someone in my family will start coughing and be ill for Friday ❤🎄❤🎄❤
 

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Oh gosh Rio how scary to have people around you that have it, it's so close to home now, I think the news about xmas has been harder because everyone was given hope that we could be together but I understand this new virus is very dangerous. So scary about your daughters nursery,  so to think catching it is inevitable? Will you be able to work from home now?

17 weeks already. Gosh time is flying by isn't it, such a shame you've had to break the news on the phone, how did everyone take the news?

I thought i was going to have to wait another 4-6 weeks until after lockdown to tell my dad but after two days of family conferences is been decided his mental health is such that he wouldn't cope with canceling.  He's trapped with my mum who's dementia is so bad she doesn't interact with him and he's been put on anti depressants in the last 2 weeks because he's so lonely. He begged us not to cancel saying he needed the break and as we've been isolating for 2 weeks the risk is actually very low so we've been able to form a support bubble which means that although we can't see everyone else we can at least see him.

My sister in law and the whole family caught it from her sons teacher and she's dodged it all year despite working on a high dependency covid unit and sadly my school friend passed away from covid-19 two weeks ago at 46 so very sad so I'm taking it very serious and I'm terrified off catching it.
Here's hoping 2921 will be better, I have my new job interview on the 7th so I'm hoping new year,  new job, new family,  new adventures. We're going to write a post covid bucket list xmas day to focus on all the things we can do after this blows over.

Hugs and stay safe
Ikle xxx
 

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Oh my gosh Ikle - that’s so sad about your school friend. I’m so sorry. A good plan about your dad. So glad you can see him ❤❤

Yes all happy and excited about my news.

Sadly since this morning we’ve been called to say my daughter needs to self isolate for 10 days. So can’t do walks or the park now. Touch wood no symptoms. 😨😨😨

So a different week and a bit for us xx
 

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Happy New Year guys, 

Here's to a 2021 full of beautiful births and bouncing babies.

We're having a baby boy, we found out on Xmas Eve so now the negotiations on names has commenced with hubby lol,  we've hit an impass on my favourite versus his so we're looking for something new we both like.

I hope everyone is good and things are progressing well,  hugs to all

Ikle xxx ❤
 

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On wonderful news Ikle ❤❤

Happy new year.  All well here. 10 days of isolation for my daughter complete and we are allowed out into the world again xx
 

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Happy New Year All !!!
Sorry I haven't been in touch much.

FM 86 how are you doing? Exciting expecting twins!!

Ikle, how did you get over the XMas and New Year? Its a shame plans had to cancel !

Rio- Thats a relief the self isolation is over. its a pain this whole Covid thing, i would love to self isolate in the Canaries for the next 3 months! :)

Lorz- How many weeks are you now?Hope all is good!

I'm nearly 16 wks now, my due date is 21.06. I've had 6 scans since this pregnancy started which is bit ridiculous but they are taking good care of me in the hosp so i'm not complaining. I had one private scan but don't think theres any need for any more now as they are giving me so many and seeing me every 2 wks in the hosp.
Everything on track with baby anyway thank goodness. The scan at 15 weeks, the consultant said 80% sure its a boy!! I couldn't stop laughing as we were convinced it was a girl from earlier scans , but it is STILL a little early . I've stopped looking at girls names now and focusing on boys names but it wouldn't surprise me either if they tell us its a girl at the 20 wk scan so I don't know what to think but 80% does sound convincing alright  ;D thatl be a hatrick of boys ::)
As for my nausea i think its just going to persist throughout the whole pregnancy. I was hoping it would magically go away at 12-14 wks but I guess it is getting slightly better , i'm learning to live with it too after 3 months... Also fatigue has kicked in and literally  knocked me over  at times. . Its unfortunate the schools will be closing for longer etc but what can we do. I'm like you Ikle, just hoping we get past XMas okay and haven't picked up Covid along the way, not that we saw many people, hardly anyone but it only takes one. Our childminder told us she was a close contact so we had a bit of a scare before XMas but turned out she was Negative but feels like its getting closer and closer eeeek!! Not going to worry about things I can't control eh?! were locked down now at home and thats all we can do ....
Hows everyone else feeling?


 

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Oh lovely news Triona. Yes to the Canary Islands! How are you doing? When is your 20 week?

I had my 20 week scan last week. It was all good -and we’re having a girl. I was very happy either way but excited for my daughter to have a sister and we’ve got so many clothes already 💓.

I’m doing well. Feel much bigger than 21 weeks but think these lockdowns and no commuting / not much walking isn’t helping. Need to keep an eye on it tho.

Hoping these vaccines get to as many people as poss and we can maybe have a bit of freedom before the babies come... fingers crossed

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