Hi
we live in the very bottom of a culdesac and have been here 4 and 1/2 years. Next door there lives a mum and her two boys age 9 and 7 and next door to her another family with older children and a younger boy of 4. This year Amy has begun playing out the front and it was the main reason we chose this house when we bought it because we wanted our children to have the freedom of riding bikes, playing football etc.
To be honest now the boys next door are horrible I am finally at my wits with them and have just shouted at them in the garden and slammed our back door the reason behind this is because they are always leaving her out of their games. Today she has spent 2 hrs playing with the 4 year old and we haven't heard a peep, they have played so lovely as they always do. The older two were out with their mum till about an hr ago and upon their return they began playing outside too. Within 15 mins amy was sitting in our porch on her own crying because they were leaving her out AGAIN. I then sent her out and shouted so they could hear 'amy's playing too', the mum of the 4 yr old knew she was being left out and went and got amy an ice-cream which was lovely of her. so with that the horrible nasty boys went into their back garden and only invited the 4 yr old boy. We only have a 2ft fence seperating our gardens so I asked them over the top of it please can amy play and they said no That's when I shouted 'we'll remember that' and slammed the door.
I am so upset and feel like there is something more I should be doing Big problem is the mother is very unapproachable ( I am even worried about asking her if we can replace the fence later this yr for a 6ft one!) she is the sort who will quite honestly just shout and scream and I really really don't want to make a situation out of this - we as adults get on well and I have good relationships with all the neighbours, can ask for anything etc. So approaching her is not a solution.
Last month at easter after another leaving out episode amy and I went to tesco and we bought a box of doghnuts for them all to share thinking that would be nice, well the little horrors took the doghnuts and invited the 4yr old into their garden to eat them and again said they didn't want amy there It's not the mother stopping her it's them! They also say hello to hannah whenver they see her and always ignore amy
I am getting myself really upset about this and it's bothering me a lot. Withoit approaching the mother is there anything anyone else can think of to stop this happening.
Amy is a lovely kind little girl who just wants to play with all the others outside and these boys are making her fun a misery she has never done anything to any of them and I feel at 3/4 yrs older than her they should know better.
Sorry for my ramble, I am an upset Mummy today x x x x
we live in the very bottom of a culdesac and have been here 4 and 1/2 years. Next door there lives a mum and her two boys age 9 and 7 and next door to her another family with older children and a younger boy of 4. This year Amy has begun playing out the front and it was the main reason we chose this house when we bought it because we wanted our children to have the freedom of riding bikes, playing football etc.
To be honest now the boys next door are horrible I am finally at my wits with them and have just shouted at them in the garden and slammed our back door the reason behind this is because they are always leaving her out of their games. Today she has spent 2 hrs playing with the 4 year old and we haven't heard a peep, they have played so lovely as they always do. The older two were out with their mum till about an hr ago and upon their return they began playing outside too. Within 15 mins amy was sitting in our porch on her own crying because they were leaving her out AGAIN. I then sent her out and shouted so they could hear 'amy's playing too', the mum of the 4 yr old knew she was being left out and went and got amy an ice-cream which was lovely of her. so with that the horrible nasty boys went into their back garden and only invited the 4 yr old boy. We only have a 2ft fence seperating our gardens so I asked them over the top of it please can amy play and they said no That's when I shouted 'we'll remember that' and slammed the door.
I am so upset and feel like there is something more I should be doing Big problem is the mother is very unapproachable ( I am even worried about asking her if we can replace the fence later this yr for a 6ft one!) she is the sort who will quite honestly just shout and scream and I really really don't want to make a situation out of this - we as adults get on well and I have good relationships with all the neighbours, can ask for anything etc. So approaching her is not a solution.
Last month at easter after another leaving out episode amy and I went to tesco and we bought a box of doghnuts for them all to share thinking that would be nice, well the little horrors took the doghnuts and invited the 4yr old into their garden to eat them and again said they didn't want amy there It's not the mother stopping her it's them! They also say hello to hannah whenver they see her and always ignore amy
I am getting myself really upset about this and it's bothering me a lot. Withoit approaching the mother is there anything anyone else can think of to stop this happening.
Amy is a lovely kind little girl who just wants to play with all the others outside and these boys are making her fun a misery she has never done anything to any of them and I feel at 3/4 yrs older than her they should know better.
Sorry for my ramble, I am an upset Mummy today x x x x