Hi just want to share where I am at this point. I have managed to speak with 2 clinics - Institut Marques and IVF-Spain. I am still waiting to get a hold of the guidance counsellor at Instituto Bernabeu. Between the 2 that I have spoken with I am more impressed with IVF-Spain. But maybe because the person I had a discussion with was more articulate in explaining what they do.
From what I understand, they will choose the donor based on what your look / ethnicity. IVF-Spain is more confident that they can find a match for my ethnicity ( I am of a Chinese descent) while Institut Marques still needs to check the availability of donor.
Also, from my conversation with the 2 clinics, IVF-Spain gave me a more reassurance than IM that we can choose the education background as a requirement. However, they will still choose the donors (they said they will choose up to 5 donor candidates and start contacting them starting from the one who they think will have the strongest egg quality and move down the list based on their availability). So, in the end you have to be trust them.
My plan is to have a consultation with the doctors with all 3 clinics and make a decision after we speak with the doctors with our history. We also plan to make a trip to Alicante to have the consultation with IB and IVF-Spain while doing a skype consultation with IM. Will keep you guys updated.