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Hello all
i hope you do not mind a man getting involved on here, but my wife is not very PC aware and works shifts as a nurse.

We just had our first private treatment and they were only able to harvest 2 eggs, of which only one was suitable to fertilise and put back. The 2 weeks are up and it failed. We are both destroyed by the news. My wife is nearly 40 and we just got the extra good news, that it is unlikely that we will get a free NHS go, as she will be 40 before we get to the top of the waiting list.

She is going through a series of blood tests to check the RHS? levels, which appeared high prior to the treatment, before we decide the next move. Is there any quick fixes for improving the numbers of eggs? Secondly we are going to struggle to pay for a second private treatment, but thought we could buy the drugs ourselves and save some costs there. Any thoughts on this route?

We are a mixed race couple (Irish/Jamican) and we were told that egg donation could also be a problem for this reason. Oh what to do next!! ???
 

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Hi Colin and wife

Welcome to Fertility Freinds we hope you get all the info and support you need here.

Firstly i am very sorry to hear of your negative result, its always devestating to hear that it hasnt worked huge hugs to you both ^Cuddle^

There is a chemist in Peterborough that does the drugs cheaper, i will try and find the address for you unless one of the other girls can tell you before i do.

If i were you i would contact some clinics about egg sharing or contact [email protected] she may be able to help you, there are a lot of mixed race couples so i dont see it as that much of a problem - well i would like to think it isnt for your sake.

I wish you both lots of luck in your search and with your next step.

Mel

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Colin

welcome to FF, I am so sorry to hear your sad news and understand completley the devastation you and your wife are feeling.

The first thing you must do is give yourselves time to come to terms with this loss before you move on to thinking about your next txt.

Sorry I cant help you with the specific questions you have, we have had to pay for all 4 of our treatments and we have always shopped around for our drugs, to find the best price. But I'm sure their will be someone on here who will be able to offer you some advice.

I wish you both the best of luck for the future

Love Kate
 

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Hi Colin,

Welcome to FF, its lovely to see a bloke getting involved in the investigations side of infertility.

I think your situation is very common as to how to fund treatments, its an extremely expensive and traumatic experience and unfortunately for your situation that although the new guidelines are going to help a lot of women reach their dream, there is an age limit.

I know some women use egg donation as a means to fund treatment, but again this will not help your partner due to her age - I believe you have to be under 35.

I think a lot of people end up borrowing money from the bank or family or use savings to fund treatments. I think its a good idea to shop around for drugs too as prices can be very different.

In my case I have re-mortgaged my house...not ideal but hey..its what I want to do.

I cant answer your question about egg quality but there is a section on here about complimentary medicines that may be of interest.

wishing you all the very best of luck, and I hope I have helped a bit!!!!
 

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Hi Colin and welcome

I am really sorry to hear about you last treatment.

We have put our house onto a flexible mortgage account to fund treatment and get the cash in. I believe there are also some specialist loan companies out there too. Not the ideal !!

I don;t know the type of clinic you are under at the moment but we have self funded at an NHS clinic which has made treatment cheaper than going properly private due to its non profit making nature. It maybe worth looking into that too.

In terms of drugs it really depends on your prescription. However, we found the hospital pharmacy this treatment was cheapest by a little this time. However, previously we have used [email protected], I will try and see if i still have the phone number and IM it to you if I do. They were about 200 cheaper than Boots for the same drugs.

Hope this helps

Clare
 

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Hi Coilin

Welcome to FF. As you have probably already noticed the girls and boys here are all so very helpful and tend to have lots of experience and knowledge where fertility tx is concerned.

With regard to the financial situation u and and your partner now find yourselves in i would suggest going to see you GP. We have been able to get our drugs and preliminary blood tests done on the nhs thru our GP. This is not ruled by national guidlines but is reviwed on each individual case. It very much depends on how your primary care trust sees it of course. It may or noy not work but hey ita worth a go id say!!!

Good luck to both of you...stay positive

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Dear Colin

I agree with Sheebo, our GP kindly funded our first three lots of ivf drugs which was a huge saving....it depends from practice to practice...wishing you both well and best of luck on the next cycle
paddi
 

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Sheebo, based on the way you have spelt my christian name, i have possibly sussed our problem, "Coilin".

Now wheres the wife gone, so i can check?
 

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Hi Colin, welcome to FF and it is great to see the men getting involved.

So sorry for your negative. It can be really hard to cope with. I really hope you and your wife come through this and find the means to have another go.

Wishing you all the best

Fee
 

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Hi Colin

Have you checked out the thread on IVF chat, page 2, Improving egg quality?

Hope everything works out! Stay positive!

Love Hollie
 

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dear colin and wife - so sorry to hear your negative result , have had lots of them so know how you both must be feeling.

we live in north wales with no funding or facilities for ivf so we have had to travel to other areas for treatment takeing out bank loans to pay. we moved clinics this year and they asked me to ask our gp to help with drugs , tests etc and she agreed so our perscription only cost £18 instead of £200, all the bloods etc were free at local nhs hospital thru gp also, our new clinic also accepts credit card payment not ideal I know but if you surf them for 0% every 6-9 months its just like paying in installments.

on the donor egg issue thats what we are doing now I am with the Care group of clinics there waiting lists seem to be much shorter than most even with mixed race couples and they have clinics all over the uk.

I hope you get sorted love to you both
caron xx
 

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Thankyou all for your kind comments. I was beginning to think the whole world and the NHS was against us personnally, but this site has given us a few other things to try. ^afro^
 

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Hi Colin, we are in a similar - ish situation to you two... our first attempt has just failed. I will be 40 in a few weeks and becaues of my age and because DH has children from his first marriage have had to pay for everything privately.

Our GP refused to provide our drugs because they were too expensive, but recommended we try Boots. I ordered the drugs I needed (having alredy bought one bottle of Synarel) and then went to pick them up. Almost fell over when I had to pay £940.00+ !!!

We need to go back to our clinic to try and find out why it might not have worked - what kind of info did they give you ?

We went thru ICSI with my husband firstly having PESA - they were able to freeze some of his sperm, but although they took out 10 eggs, only 6 were good and then 2 were transferred so we have no egg/embryo backup.

Hope you get the chance to give it another go soon. 'll keep checking cos it would be nice to see how you both get on.

Hang on in there.

Caz
 
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