[freda]

I have been looking through the goldies thread to see if ANYONE has been successful.  I am now 45 and very depressed about age and running out of time by the end of this year.

I need to be reassured I'm not completely wasting my time and money at IM Barcelona.  Using DE with ICSI.

freda

 

[sculley]

Freda - dont give up hope.

I can not answer your question, but have friends who have conceived naturally at the age of 43....so there must be hope for some of us!

Sculleyx

 

[Rice cake]

freda-I think you will have a good chance with donor eggs.

 

[Lorri]

Freda,
Age is not really an issue with donor eggs, as it is the egg quality that reduces your chances of success, and your egg quality declines with age.

Good luck !

Lx

 

[nuala]

Freda,

There is a girl on another site who is now 44 and she is 5 months pregnant following 3 IVF cycles (all short protocol).  My local nurses sister had 8 rounds of IVf then gave up at 44 and last year age 45 found herself pregnant (natural conception) and age 46 has a bouncing baby girl.  Also another friend who is a nurse locally has a 51 year old who fell pregnant naturally and delivered a boy a few months ago.

So, it does happen - never give up and I have been told with donor eggs you have up to a 50% chance of being successful - that's pretty amazing.

Nuala

 

[freda]

Thanks girls - I needed to hear (read) that.
freda

 

[susieB]

hi freda
i posted on the bun in the oven thread about the same thing - i asked if anyone concieved using own eggs over 44 - a big fat silence  came back.
I am going to try one last time with my own eggs and then once with donor eggs - then i m afraid i have to say enufs enuf.

But all the girls are right - there is a fantastic success rate with donor eggs. Have you chosen your donor yet. What will sway you to pick a particular woman. for me it would be blood group height and appearrance.
Wishing you  lots of luck
sooze

 

[freda]

hi sooze
All my attempts have already been with DE. IM chooses for us except matching characteristics and blood group.
freda

 

[susieB]

sori freda didnt realise you were using DE. i will keep my fingers crossed for you. Do you mean that they gave you a choice of women and you choose based on colouring and blood group. I have a rare blood group wonder how that would work.
Have you deceided if you will tell any child - i dont think i will but thats very open at the moment. A good friend of mine told her youngest daughter that she wasnt her husbands child and its done untold damage. sometimes its best not to know - yet at the same time its the childs right. Sorry for rambling on..
Love
Sooze

 

[freda]

hi sooze
no need to apologise.  When I say all, I mean all this year, 4 attempts in all, including one FET.

That's why they try to match blood group in case you decide not to tell the child.  They don't offer you a choice, they just try to find a good match.  When they've found you a donor, they tell you her age, hair colour, eye colour, height etc.  I guess at that time you can refuse, but its a bit late then cos you've been synchronized.

I think if you are going to tell the child, then it has to be done at an early age.  Thats just my opinion though.
freda