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Hiya,

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Felt the need to sign up here because I just really want to talk to people who know how I feel.  People try to be so supportive, and they are, but paranoid or not I can't help but think everyone who knows my situation looks at me and sees a moody moo who finds it difficult to talk about babies without crying!

After the NHS froze IVF funding, DH and I appealed and the meeting was 11th Feb. We still haven't heard anything! We had decided that if the NHS still say no, we'd try IVF in Cyprus at the Dogus Centre, but after reading threads on here we feel hopelessly confused!

Friday at work I was so stressed and then angry when I got home and found there was still no letter, I rang and cancelled a dinner with our friends. It really upset DH, he thinks we'll lose all of our friends if we carry on moping and cancelling on people...
 

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Hi smiley
I just wanted to say I know what your going through the N.H.S has refused me and DH funding because he already has children with an ex partner and with various things that are happening at the moment going private isn't viable for us at the moment. We re currently in our first cycle of Clomid but have been told this will only be funded for 6 months. I also have had problems being around friends because I'm just so stressed and angry with the world!. My best friend gave birth in December and I still haven't seen her daughter as I just dint feel I could cope with it. What I ve found tho is that being honest with friends and family and telling when I am struggling helps them understand I'm not just a mardy moo. My DH also came up with a rule that no one who had children (and that includes him) is allowed to tell me they know how I feel and he made all our family and friends awear of it. I'm new to the website as well but in the last few days everyone as been lovely to me and its given me a boost to know I'm not alone and the thoughts and feelings I have don't make me mad or mardy

Liv x x x
 

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Hi Smiley29,  ^reiki^ ^reiki^

Big hugs  ^hugme^

I bet people dont think that, its just they probably dont know what to say or how you are feeling, this is such a tough time for you and you have joined a great community of women who will totally understand how you feel, i think this will help you, it has me by knowing that the way i feel is normal and i am not losing the plot, some days are good then other times i could be driving, walking my dog and im crying  :'(

Im having to go for DE abroad and am looking at cyprus. Have you looked at the cyprus thread lots of info there.

keep in touch

DDx
 
 

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Thank you so much liv and don don, it was great to hear from you both. Thanks for the hugs!  ^hugme^ Back atcha!

Do you girls go in the chat room? I just saw this site has that facility, I was thinking that might be a good idea at some point.  :)
 

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hello Smiley, I have also just joined here & I am sorry to here you may not get it funded, I do know so someone who has appealed & got the IVF funded so don't lose heart  ^pray^
I have been offered 1 go on the NHS before we have to fund ourselves & this all only happened a few weeks ago  :)

sending love & hope your way  ^hugme^
 

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I ve not been in the chat room yet but Im sure I will at some point.
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Hello Smiley.

Your not alone in your feelings honey. This site proves this! We all feel the way you do at some point.  I often want to avoid certain people or situations if I feel they will make me uncomfortable or anxious. It's only natural. Everyone around me seems to be in some sort of baby zone! Neighbours, work friends , family are all talking kids, popping out kids or trying for them!  All the while I feel like a freak- some barren outsider who's opinion on children doesn't matter as I can't actually have them! The majority of my emotions or feelings are all self inflicted , I know people try to include me and try to help and be supportive of my situation but as we all know- they really don't understand how hard it is. So the logical option is to avoid people and keep away. But of course if you do this you end up feeling even more isolated and friends/family won't know how to react and they too avoid you. It can turn into a vicious cycle of shutting yourself away , but please try not too. Force yourself to socialize , there will be moments where the conversation turns to babies , pregnancy etc....but unfortunately it part and parcel of dealing with infertility. I find if I try and join in on these conversations that somehow its easier than sitting there quietly ....it eases any tension and it proves to people (and myself) that I am not some freaky, crazy childless women!
It's so hard honey. The only cure is to get what we want - a baby. And because of our infertility, we become stronger, better people and most importantly the very best mummies and daddies in the world!  :)
big big  ^hugme^  and  ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^  for your journey.
lolli xx
 

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WELCOME TO FF

Smiley29

Wanted to say Hello and welcome you to FF, my role here of FF as a MOD is to make sure you find your way as easy as possible, hopefully this message will do that :) Am so glad that you have found us, hopefully you will meet like minded people that will help and support you through what can be a very hard stressful journey. There are many members here on FF with a true understanding of what you are going through at all stages that infertility throws at you :( FF has brought so many people together and helps form many new friendships that may last many years, I certainly have and my life is richer for it. It's hard when family and friends don't fully comprehend what the IF journey entails and the emotions that go with it, That's where FF comes in to play.
I hope that you will find the links i have left you helpful and direct you where you need to be until you find your feet, which won't be long i can assure you. If there is anything that you still need to find give me or any MOD a shout and we will be happy to help you :)
Links to follow..........................................

What Every New Member Needs to Know
CLICK HERE

Fertility Guides
CLICK HERE

While undergoing treatment, you might find it useful to join other ladies having treatment at the same time.
The Cycle Buddies threads are just for that.
Just pop along to the appropriate month and say "Hi" when you are ready to start treatment

Cycle buddies
CLICK HERE
Starting out & Diagnosis ~ CLICK HERE

http://www.hfea.gov.uk/fertility.html

http://www.hfea.gov.uk/fertility-treatment-cost-nhs.html

Treatment Outside The UK CLICK HERE

Clinic Reviews ~ CLICK HERE

Girl & Boy talk - Community & Fun Board
CLICK HERE

Its not all just serious stuff here, you can also have a bit of fun or just gossip while you are on FF too so check out the general chit chat / jokes / hobbies area:
You can also chat live in our chat room. We have a newbie day in the chat room every Wednesday where you can meet one of our mods for support, meet other new members and get technical support with navigating the site and using all the functions available here.
CLICK HERE FOR INFO ON NEWBIE CHAT

You can also "meet" and chat with people in your local area through the Location boards. This is especially useful to find people who may be using the same clinic and or in the same PCT area.

Wishing you lots of luck ^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^ and ^fairydust^
Keep in touch
Lou
 
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