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Hello everyone - Looking for some advice here!! After fourteen years with my husband and two failed attempts at IVF at 38 and 39 (hubby had a vasectomy during his first marriage) we eventually separated. Very sad but we are still good friends.
Have met new partner and, at age 41 I found myself having the potential to get pregant naturally for the first time ever!! Did not really believe that I would get lucky at my ripe old age but he hit the bullseye first time!! I tested positive on the day my period was due in July but period came five days later. Cycle is always very regular and returned to normal the following month but in September I tested positive again - the same thing happened and I started bleeding five days later. The following month I tested positive again and this time it stuck around but I then miscarried at 7 weeks. This is three pregnancies and subsequent early losses within a four month period (the first two have barely made it to 5 weeks (chemical pregnancy is it called? and the third has made it to 7 weeks). Did not ever get any blood tests done in first two so have no idea what HCG levels were. On the day of the MC (which was very sudden and all over within a few hours!) the levels were about 380 when the hospital tested me. I have to say that I had very few symptoms with that third pregnancy and I wonder if my HCG levels were always low).
I am due to have some blood tests in January but I wondered whether anyone else had advice about trying to get pregnant at this age. Are the three positive results reason to be optimistic that one will go full term? or is Mother Nature trying to tell me that my ovaries and womb are like the Gobi Desert? I have been suffering a great deal of stress and anxiety since the breakdown of my marriage and, to be honest, I probably would not have gone straight into another relationship if I had not wanted to have a last shot at having a family. All of the changes I have faced recently feel like "too much too soon" but I also think I don;t have time to wallow in a trough somewhere while my follicles spit out the last of my eggs. Is it pointless trying to get pregnant when your head is a mess? (my reaction to each of those positive tests has been one of blind panic I have to say which is not a good start)! New partner is a lovely and supportive guy so I have no worries about that!
Any advice very welcome and good luck to everyone else out there on the quest for parenthood!!
KTP
Have met new partner and, at age 41 I found myself having the potential to get pregant naturally for the first time ever!! Did not really believe that I would get lucky at my ripe old age but he hit the bullseye first time!! I tested positive on the day my period was due in July but period came five days later. Cycle is always very regular and returned to normal the following month but in September I tested positive again - the same thing happened and I started bleeding five days later. The following month I tested positive again and this time it stuck around but I then miscarried at 7 weeks. This is three pregnancies and subsequent early losses within a four month period (the first two have barely made it to 5 weeks (chemical pregnancy is it called? and the third has made it to 7 weeks). Did not ever get any blood tests done in first two so have no idea what HCG levels were. On the day of the MC (which was very sudden and all over within a few hours!) the levels were about 380 when the hospital tested me. I have to say that I had very few symptoms with that third pregnancy and I wonder if my HCG levels were always low).
I am due to have some blood tests in January but I wondered whether anyone else had advice about trying to get pregnant at this age. Are the three positive results reason to be optimistic that one will go full term? or is Mother Nature trying to tell me that my ovaries and womb are like the Gobi Desert? I have been suffering a great deal of stress and anxiety since the breakdown of my marriage and, to be honest, I probably would not have gone straight into another relationship if I had not wanted to have a last shot at having a family. All of the changes I have faced recently feel like "too much too soon" but I also think I don;t have time to wallow in a trough somewhere while my follicles spit out the last of my eggs. Is it pointless trying to get pregnant when your head is a mess? (my reaction to each of those positive tests has been one of blind panic I have to say which is not a good start)! New partner is a lovely and supportive guy so I have no worries about that!
Any advice very welcome and good luck to everyone else out there on the quest for parenthood!!
KTP
. I know what you mean about the suddenness of it as well as that was what I experienced myself four weeks ago. I was fine one minute and then cramping and bleeding the next. It was all over in a couple of hours and I also spent the afternoon in hospital (overseas as well where the only word I could understand was 'vagina' - must brush up on my Spanish!!). It is such a shock isn't it? There is still hope though but I appreciate what you say about the money. We had to fund our own IVF in my last relationship as my hubby had a vasectomy before I met him so the NHS would not even think about funding us. We separated last year and I am with someone else although I still shed a tear for what might have been. 
