Hi
This is my 1st post on this area of the forum.
I hope you won't mind me letting off some steam here as i don't really know where else to go or anyone to talk to !!
Me and husband found out on valentines day we are unable to have children , this was a dagger to the heart but we are a young couple who love each other dearly and are trying our upmost to keep the smiles on our face.
Now i know its a hard subject to talk about but it seems since we found out our friends avoid us at all cost, again i don't know if it is because they feel sorry for us and don't know what to say but they really have not bothered, it really upsets us
The friends who do bothere are completely well and it seems like there is a pregnancy epidemic cos alot of people i know or work with are pregnant.
The wife of this couple has treated us terrible while we were on our honeymoon 2 years ago slagging us off to our friend saying we don't deserve a child etc etc etc etc, now i know i will be asked why are we friends , because the husband is a good friend , she stormed out of our wedding reception telling lies etc etc etc. i kept a back seat after this and only made the effort when DH got questioned about my where abouts . we have the pleasent texts every now and then but most recently it got back to me that she has been at it again saying the reason we hardly go round there is because we are JEALOUS she has a child and we DON'T . this is completely untrue and extremely hurtfull. lets just say when she gets her revenge !!
my surposed best friend really doesn't bother with me any more, now this will seem selfish she has started seeing an old friend of DH and not once has she just called to see how i am, its always me and whenever i try and approach the subject she lets me get out 2 sentances before the subjects changed and its on about how great this rave was or what she brought at topshop. The reason i get upset is another friend of ours went though ivf a year ago and when that failed the support she gave her was immense round there constantly with bottles of wine, letting her speak about everything, i did approach the subject the other week , she said well i dont come round to your house because i can't smoke ! ( i gave up smoking 2 and half years ago when we started seeking help from hospital) . if im honest i have given up on this friend ship.
one of my friends is due to give birth on monday ( she needs c section) i cannot talk to her because she has 2 kids and a bump. she has tried to be supportive but it hurts me to speak to her , i was ment to be helping her today move house but i can't bring myself to see her. i have not answersed the phone all day, its hard for someone who is pregnant to understand what we are going though, even though she tries. I love her dearly but even seeing someone pregnant in the street at the moment brings tears to my eyes let alone my best friend, I think to her though im coping.
As much as it pains me to say it, i know my mum loves me dearly , she has asked me once how i am and that is after the op. even on my wedding day and the build up to my wedding, she showed hardly any excitement. my nan sadly passed away 3 weeks before the day but it was hard to get her excited which hurt. not that it matters she didn't even get us a wedding present. yet at other weddings shes bouncing for joy and even traveling to america for one. i mentioned this to her best friend and she said as much as it pains her to say it i am right, she was surprized about how little my mum got excited about my wedding day. she got more upset when someone we knew had a miscarriage. I know she loves my husband dearly though , so its not that , i don't know what it is. i feel like she don't give a toss
My inlaws have been fanastic threw everything , the wedding, the disappointment spending time with us, taking our mind of stuff asking us how we are, they have been amazing our towers.
At work pregnancy is rubbed in my face everywhere i turn.
My DH is the best husband anyone could ask for, i think its starting to hit him and our relationship is being put to the test. I only have to so much ask him to do something and it causes, i love him more then life, if i try and imagine life without him , there is no life.
I feel the weight is pulling me under more and more its like my nose is just above the water
This is like therpy in a way, i feel a bit better for getting this off my chest, if you have got this far down readying then thank you. It prob doesn't make sense , the tears are hitting the keys now
This is my 1st post on this area of the forum.
I hope you won't mind me letting off some steam here as i don't really know where else to go or anyone to talk to !!
Me and husband found out on valentines day we are unable to have children , this was a dagger to the heart but we are a young couple who love each other dearly and are trying our upmost to keep the smiles on our face.
Now i know its a hard subject to talk about but it seems since we found out our friends avoid us at all cost, again i don't know if it is because they feel sorry for us and don't know what to say but they really have not bothered, it really upsets us
The friends who do bothere are completely well and it seems like there is a pregnancy epidemic cos alot of people i know or work with are pregnant.
The wife of this couple has treated us terrible while we were on our honeymoon 2 years ago slagging us off to our friend saying we don't deserve a child etc etc etc etc, now i know i will be asked why are we friends , because the husband is a good friend , she stormed out of our wedding reception telling lies etc etc etc. i kept a back seat after this and only made the effort when DH got questioned about my where abouts . we have the pleasent texts every now and then but most recently it got back to me that she has been at it again saying the reason we hardly go round there is because we are JEALOUS she has a child and we DON'T . this is completely untrue and extremely hurtfull. lets just say when she gets her revenge !!
my surposed best friend really doesn't bother with me any more, now this will seem selfish she has started seeing an old friend of DH and not once has she just called to see how i am, its always me and whenever i try and approach the subject she lets me get out 2 sentances before the subjects changed and its on about how great this rave was or what she brought at topshop. The reason i get upset is another friend of ours went though ivf a year ago and when that failed the support she gave her was immense round there constantly with bottles of wine, letting her speak about everything, i did approach the subject the other week , she said well i dont come round to your house because i can't smoke ! ( i gave up smoking 2 and half years ago when we started seeking help from hospital) . if im honest i have given up on this friend ship.
one of my friends is due to give birth on monday ( she needs c section) i cannot talk to her because she has 2 kids and a bump. she has tried to be supportive but it hurts me to speak to her , i was ment to be helping her today move house but i can't bring myself to see her. i have not answersed the phone all day, its hard for someone who is pregnant to understand what we are going though, even though she tries. I love her dearly but even seeing someone pregnant in the street at the moment brings tears to my eyes let alone my best friend, I think to her though im coping.
As much as it pains me to say it, i know my mum loves me dearly , she has asked me once how i am and that is after the op. even on my wedding day and the build up to my wedding, she showed hardly any excitement. my nan sadly passed away 3 weeks before the day but it was hard to get her excited which hurt. not that it matters she didn't even get us a wedding present. yet at other weddings shes bouncing for joy and even traveling to america for one. i mentioned this to her best friend and she said as much as it pains her to say it i am right, she was surprized about how little my mum got excited about my wedding day. she got more upset when someone we knew had a miscarriage. I know she loves my husband dearly though , so its not that , i don't know what it is. i feel like she don't give a toss
My inlaws have been fanastic threw everything , the wedding, the disappointment spending time with us, taking our mind of stuff asking us how we are, they have been amazing our towers.
At work pregnancy is rubbed in my face everywhere i turn.
My DH is the best husband anyone could ask for, i think its starting to hit him and our relationship is being put to the test. I only have to so much ask him to do something and it causes, i love him more then life, if i try and imagine life without him , there is no life.
I feel the weight is pulling me under more and more its like my nose is just above the water
This is like therpy in a way, i feel a bit better for getting this off my chest, if you have got this far down readying then thank you. It prob doesn't make sense , the tears are hitting the keys now