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Hmm, how do I begin? I'll start from the VERY beginning. I'm originally from Florida, but moved here in 2000. Dh & I met on the internet whilst I was at university. I had had family problems then so I just moved out and in with my (blood) sister. About the same time, I had been accepted for a student work visa (July) and was debating when to go since I'd never been out of the country before. Dh had come over to visit me for a week and asked if I was going to go back with him. I consulted my sister who said "go for it", which I did. I stepped foot on UK soil on 29/08/00 and have only been back to the US once (Feb/March 03). My work visa was for 6mths so dh took me to Cyprus, where he proposed. I returned on a tourist visa and found out from immigration that we had to be married before my visa ran out in Aug. We did well organising a wedding in 2mths! On 21st July 2001 we were married. I received British citizenship on 01/12/04 so I'm quite chuffed at having dual nationality.
Dh and I have been ttc on and off since about Dec 2001. I went off the pill because it was screwing my cycles up - and making that month's period last 25 days. As I've gotten older, the cramps I had became worse and worse. I went to my doctor who prescribed me various tables, one being a progesterone supplement, but none helped. The cramps finally became so bad that I had them almost every day of every week, no matter if it was before, during, or after AF.

My GP finally referred me to the local fertility unit which also housed the IVF and gyneacology departments. I saw the specialist there who put me in for a laparoscopy. I had my lap on 17/03/04. They couldn't tell from that so after another 7 months (Oct 04), I went back and the consultant said "You have all the symptoms of endometriosis so I'm going to treat you for it". He prescribed a Zoladex 3.6mg injection, with 3 mth reviews.

This past Monday I had another review with being prescribed another 3 months, which will be the maximum about of 9 mths being on Zoladex. This time I was also prescribed an HRT patch to help alleviate the symptoms, which have been a nightmare (hot flushes, fatigue, achy joints, nausea, etc).

Whilst on the injection, I don't ovulate nor can I get pregnant. So during this time, I have been trying to get dh to do his SAs, which is a nightmare. He blames himself, etc and it's the whole macho thing of "I-can't-get-my-wife-pregnant-so-I'm-less-of-a-man" scenario. Although, I have told him otherwise and even my consultant who is head of the IVF unit said that all men fluctuate a bit so that's why he has them do 3 SAs then take it from there.

Being a mother is the only thing I really want in life. I do find it hard. I can remember last year on my birthday, dh wrote in my card that maybe next year I'll have a mommy one. Well, that's not going to happen so it gets me down, along with mother's day and things like that.

Well, I think that's about it for now. I hope everyone is having a lovely Good Friday. Take care,  Mel x
 

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Hiya Melissa

Lovely to meet you

Thanks for sharing ur story with us

I would tell u mine but it would bore u to high heavens and i havent a spare few hours ;D ;D ;D

Why not pop and join in with the Endo chit chat thread, we are all very friendly and offer friendship support and advice to each other.

I can completely understand the zoladex thing.....i have had a total of 21 months of zoladex in 3 years so know all too well about the side effects

One thing i would say tho is (not many drs think to tell u) that u should use a non hormone form of birth control whilst on zoladex as altho its not common it is possible to get pg on zoladex

A good site for Endo is this one

http://www.Endoaware.co.uk

lots of help advice and support for endo

Wishing u lots of luck with the zoladex and ur dh doing his SA's my dh is similar stage at present

Best wishes
Emilyxx

If u want to chat feel free to send me a message
 

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Hi Melissa

I've already re[lied to your PM, but I thought I'd reply here as well.  I have read treatment for endo is not usually helpful for fertility, so perhaps you should go back to your doctor and ask him about it and whether you can come off it.  My problem is that I haven't even been referred for a lap yet.  They have found a suspected cyst of endo in on eof my ovaries but my doctor says it wouldn't affect my pregnancy chances and the Gaynae would be unwilling to lap me for a "small" cyst (3.5cm).  What is driving me MAD with worry is that there may be other patches of endo - adhesions, blockages etc, that they obviously haven't seen on the ultrasound, and which they won't find until I have a lap.  If I have to wait another 6 months to be referred to the fertility clinic and another 6 months on the waiting list before I'm seen at the fertility clinic, then that leaves a whole year of misery, worrying and also the chances that the damn cysts could be getting bigger and any patches of endo that are there could be growing and getting worse!
 

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Hi LadyM,

I havent received your PM yet, but cyberspace might be a bit slow!

How strange you read that about endo treatment! I have heard that it can take from 6 to 12 weeks after coming off Zoladex to get AF. That is crazy! I can see me worrying every day whether or not AF is going to show up because sometimes she can drop in unexpected!! I read the leaflet for my Zoladex injection and it is used not only for endo, but for testicular cancer AND assisted reproduction! How strange that it can be used for three different things! I think I will stay on it until May, which means I have only two treatments left to go.

I am surprised that you haven’t been referred for a lap, especially as you have pain. After pestering my GP that something wasn’t quite right for about 6mths, he referred me. I also knew that I wouldn’t have anything done on the fertility side until dh does his bit, so I thought I should at least try to sort myself out until he plucks up the courage. I can completely understand your worries re other endo patches. I worry too sometimes, especially when I get odd twinges that I never used to get before and are completely different from AF or normal tummy pains. I can only advise you to INSIST on being looked at sooner. That’s one downside of going via the NHS. It’s extremely slow; it’s frustrating. I like to have things done, looked at, etc and know what the next step is, which seems what you need.

I do hope things get better for you in general and with your mum. Take care! Mel x
 
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