Mrs Gally,
Having a fertility problem and having to endure fertility txs I think is one of the most difficult situations to deal with in life! The first doctor we had seen at our GP surgery when starting out tests was not our GP but another doctor. Even though he admitted himself that he had a similar problem and had treatment, he was rude and impatient with us when DH asked about giving a specimen and whether there were facilities at the hospital where the SA was to be done. He said there was only public toilets and he said frowning at my DH "you don`t need to be so anxious about it". Plus, he had sent my DH to the wrong hospital for his SA because they didn`t even do SA! After that we wrote a written complaint to the surgery about that GP and asked not to be seen by him anymore and since then we have never been offered to be seen by him, and have only seen our own GP for our fertility since, who we are very happy with and he is much more patient and understanding and this makes such a big difference.
My DH has been told by an embriologist to take zinc, selenium A, C, E, folic acid vitamins and he has been for 2 years. My DH went to our GP to ask for another SA as we want to see if these have made a difference and he hadn`t had SA done for over a year. Luckily he didn`t send him away and let him do another test but he did say "I`m not in your shoes so it would be easy for me to say but I wouldn`t worry about this if I were you". DH said to me "easy said then done". We`re going to find out the result this week.
One of his SA was 5million per ml, then 2.5million, 10million but all with low motility. We have found that sperm counts can change and that`s why I want to have my tubes checked as I want to be sure that there`s nothing with them to prevent a natural BFP as we will always be hoping for this. I am annoyed that this wasn`t done at first. The first consultation we had at our fertility clinic we had asked the doctor if it was possible for us to conceive naturally and she had said "well yes, you only need one sperm".
We didn`t have much life changes that needed changing and we weren`t given any instructions about this at all by the fertility clinic. We only drank alcohol rarely and now haven`t had any alcohol for months and we don`t smoke and have a balanced diet. The only thing I would say my DH probably needs to do is to exercise regularly. We, fertility patients take so much care of ourselves, I think we definitely deserve 3 free goes at tx and also because we are starting to have an ageing population.
As long as your DH is doing/eating healthy things and looking after himself and taking his vitamins there is nothing much else he can do and so that`s why he should try not to worry and stress about it. You have the right to change your GP if you want and I think you should do this. If we were to do all our tests privately then what would we have left for txs??
My DH doesn`t take the vitamins you mentioned so I can`t comment on them. Did your clinic suggest that he takes these? I would try to have done any tests you feel should be done, but at the same time continue with your tx. You have come so far now and shouldn`t give up. I know a BFN from the first tx can be devastating. You are not alone.
All the best,
Roses