Hiya. We lost our baby by natural conception which really sadly was ectopic. After years of failing miserably, and finally being told that we won't be able to conceive naturally because I have duff tubes. We are now having IVF. We had our first cycle in August, which was positive, but ended in another ectopic. We are just waiting for AF so we can start our second cycle.
I must admit that I was really apprehensive before IVF, I had mixed emotions including feeling like a failure as a woman because I needed some bloke in a lab to help me do something which everyone else I knew had no problems with. Also, it's the not knowing, to be honest I was petrified that I'd get an injection wrong, or forget to do something.
But then, when we started I felt really comforted that these people were going to help us get what we've waited 10 years for. We made it a "team" effort, my DH did the injections everyday and it just made everything easier with him being a part of it too. I actually started to look forward to the scans to see how big the follicles were and stuff. By the time it came to the transfer, it was a really exciting time.
We went into it being positive about what we were doing in terms of taking this huge step in getting treatment, but realistic that the outcome could go either way and we would have to deal with it. The best advice I can give, is to stay strong, realistic and hopeful. Keep smiling, stay close to your partner/DH, talk things through before you start. We had long chats about how we might deal with it together if it went wrong, it was important for me to know that he wouldn't feel any blame toward me (not that he would, but you know what its like as a woman!).
I wish you the very best of luck
x
I must admit that I was really apprehensive before IVF, I had mixed emotions including feeling like a failure as a woman because I needed some bloke in a lab to help me do something which everyone else I knew had no problems with. Also, it's the not knowing, to be honest I was petrified that I'd get an injection wrong, or forget to do something.
But then, when we started I felt really comforted that these people were going to help us get what we've waited 10 years for. We made it a "team" effort, my DH did the injections everyday and it just made everything easier with him being a part of it too. I actually started to look forward to the scans to see how big the follicles were and stuff. By the time it came to the transfer, it was a really exciting time.
We went into it being positive about what we were doing in terms of taking this huge step in getting treatment, but realistic that the outcome could go either way and we would have to deal with it. The best advice I can give, is to stay strong, realistic and hopeful. Keep smiling, stay close to your partner/DH, talk things through before you start. We had long chats about how we might deal with it together if it went wrong, it was important for me to know that he wouldn't feel any blame toward me (not that he would, but you know what its like as a woman!).
I wish you the very best of luck
x
