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Hi,

I am new to this (today in fact). I saw the page when we started our tests and thought everyone seemed very helpful.

My husband and I got the results: I'm fine but he has very low sperm motility (25%) and the likelihood of us getting pregnant naturally is very low.

We saw a specialist at the JR in Oxford yesterday who told us that IVF is our only option. We are in our mid-twenties and are told as my tests were fine we will have a 30% chance if we go ahead now but 50% chance if I lose a stone (already on a strict diet) and shouldn't take too long (the only bit of optimism I have).

My husband and I are distraught. Everyone seems to be pregnant (I've deleted my ******** to avoid seeing the inevitable).

I am very worried about the procedure (injections/surgery/possibility that it doesn't take) not to mention how we find the £5,600 to pay for it. He has told me that I can use a sperm donor if I like but that isn't what I want, I want OUR baby, not mine and someone else's.

I would love to hear a true story about IVF (procedure, time line, problems, how you got the funds together if possible) as I've read so many clinical things regarding IVF but I'd love to hear it from somebody who has been through it.

Also, if anyone has a husband/partner with low motility and if there is any good alternative? I'm feeling desperate and we only started tests 5 months ago but have been trying for quite a while.

Any hints, tips or information greatly appreciated.

Thank you :)
 

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Hi Hopingabc

Firstly welcome to Fertility friends and a big ^hugme^ - it takes a lot of courage to do that first post - I remember it well! I have to say you have come to the right place - this really is a brilliant website and all the ladies/gents on here are extremey helpful - I don't know what I would have done without it. You'll find there are lots of abbreviations etc... used on here so I'll try and help out a bit in this post and there is also a link to explain them http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/component/option,com_glossary/Itemid,202/

In terms of you husband's (DH - D for dear I think?) sperm count - you can have a look on the male factors (MF) board - you'll find lots of success stories and advice on there and you can also post questions

http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?board=35.0

If you have MF it is likely you will need to have a procedure called ICSI - link to ICSI board here http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?board=31.0 - you can see there is a whole thread dedicated to success stories for some inspiration.

Just to let you know that we have both male and female factors - DH had to have PESA (type of sperm extraction) and we had ICSI - we now have 8 week old twins. Although it is scary at first, you will soon get used to the injections etc... and become a pro.

Hope this helps and lots of ^fairydust^ for 2011

Karenanna xxx
 

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hi there, welcome to the site xx Im in a very similar situation to you, and although we haven't started tx (treatment) yet i hope i can be of support to you  ^hugme^

its still fairly new to me, we were just told in October that we needed ICSI, and that i needed to lose weight-judgement day is on 12th January!

also we are having this tx on the NHS, not sure how many goes we get on the NHS but if you meet certain criteria Im sure you will get at least one attempt? may be worth looking into. hope this has helped hunni

Joanne xxx
 

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Hi there,

I'm in a similar boat, was shocked to find out our test results. Our only hope is ICSI as my DH has azoospermia and he'll need sperm extraction. We're waiting to hear if the NHS will pay for this sperm extraction, they will pay for two rounds of ICSI for me assuming we can get some sperm for that. My DH is dead set against having donor sperm! So fingers crossed its successful!

Good luck with your treatment and the process! We hope to start ours in January, very scary.

Louise x
 

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Hello and welcome.

My DH has no sperm at all and we have had to make the decision to use donor sperm. I have been through IVF twice and a FET once. It really is fine - the injections are fine and the whole thing is a rollercoaster of hurdles to jump, but it is no where near as difficult as you are imagining, if you take each day at a time and just do what you are told.
I have conceived on both of my fresh cycles. I did lose the first baby in the second trimester - it was small for dates, but then I am closer to 40 than 30 and more likely to have chromosomal errors in my eggs than you.

I have also done the mind body program at the Bridge Centre. 10 years of infertility took its toll on my mood and thoughts. I would recommend the books by the American doctor who set up the program - Alice Domar - Conquering Infertility - it has turned my life around and it is also proven to improve IVF success and natural conception rates.

The only slight worry in a young patient is ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome - they will need to dose you carefully and keep a close eye on you. You should learn about what to look out for. I was slightly hyperstimulated in my first cycle even at the age of 38.

If your DH has sperm then there is a good chance that ICSI will work.

If you are mid twenties have you looked into getting NHS funding. Each area has its own criteria, but it is worth checking.

Also has DH done everything to improve his sperm. It takes about 3-6 months to improve sperm quality with lifestyle as it takes several months for the sperm to develop from scratch - he needs to keep cool down below - watch out for occupations where there is a lot of heat, computers, underwear and hot baths and hot tubs/saunas, take a well man vitamin supplement including selenium and zinc, stop bad habits such as smoking and drinking alcohol. You never know it might improve things so much that treatment is not required.
 

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Hi !

Just wanted to say that my friend's husband had very slow mobility and they needed ICSI and on their first IVF go (after 3-4 IUI's) they struck luckily!! BFP due in January.
Try to keep your chin up ;0)
 

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Hi Ladies

It is all such a shock but there is hope. Hopingabc everything happened very quickly for us on a similar timeline to you. Basically Sept 08 I went to GP as felt there was something wrong, got refered to fertility clinic seen Nov 08 and DH had tests (not many sperm and those he had were lazy blighters) nothing wrong with me, told Dec 08 (2 years ago today) we needed ICSI, horrendous NYE and :'( all the time.
Next appointment around Feb 09 and booked for ICSI May 09 (NHS), drugs started March and injections were not a problem for me took a deep breath and got on with it, (did end up jib jabbing in some strange places but added to the experience) very lucky to have success 1st go Baby born Jan 10.

I don't know your situation but you can apeal to your PCT for funding, also if private funded timelines are usually very quick. I now need to lose 4 stone so we can have another bash. Good luck on the weight loss anything that inreases your chances is worth it. I also had accupuncture which I loved. There are also lots of stories on here of ladies who were told they couldn't concieve but went on to have natural pg, unimaginable I know but we can't help but hope.

Any questions pleased ask/pm me.

^reiki^ ^reiki^ ^reiki^
 

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Hi all, my DH and i are in a similar situ - having told we have to go straight to ICSI due to MFF. we are due to see the NHS fertility nurse in 14 days time. i have been told to drop bmi, its gone from 32.5 to 31. i am on a v low cal diet and running and running (like forst gump) though sadly its only my bust getting smaller. i did loose 8lbs over xmas!!! is what i would liek to know from anyone out there more advanced than us, is when we see the nurse and she does all the forms what do they consist of - i cannot get any info anywhere. we are NHS so i know that these forms go to the Oxford Fertiliy Unit to apply for funding. i was told they are speedy and the clinic has a 2-3 week wait (wow) but i just dont know what to expect from the nurse. any info greatly received.
for info we have had: 4 Semen Analysis/1 laparoscopy/1HSG/both - HIV/Hep/Chlamid - all neg! and i have had all hormone tests/THS/FBC..... uh cant think what else but i have had 19 in total. Pin cushion style.

heres to a good 2011 and success stories x
 

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Hopingabc; I just wanted to empathise on the ******** thing - watching other people's good fortune every time you log on feels like a form of self torture.  I think you have done the right thing in deleting your account (i did exactly the same for exactly the same reason).  I spent the first 6 months of my IVF journey feeling bad for the parts of my life I was having to shut out in a very blinkered fashion.  What I would say is: your feelings are absolutely normal and cut yourself all the slack you need to get through this. 


Once you start the process of IVF, it is actually quite empowering, after all those months of feeling helpless and unable to move forward. You will then be doing everything you can to make this work. 


Timeline:  It was first mentioned in April; all the tests and the referral were completed in May; our first appointment was in June and our first cycle started in August.  It would have started in July but we were oh holiday
Funds:  In May I started selling things on ebay.  I have so far made £1600.  The rest is on a 0% credit card which I am paying every month
Problems:  Be prepared for things to not go as you had planned.  If you like to be in control, it can be difficult.  Be prepared to go with the flow on each cycle
What helped:  Consider what your success criteria are.  You may currently think that the only success criteria will be to have a baby 9 months later.  I have altered my success criteria:  Success is ensuring the medics find out all they can each cycle to make the next one successful. 


I hope this helps and I wish you all the best.  I know its a lousy bumpy road sometimes and we look around and see other peoples lives going just as they had planned.  The ladies on this site are truly remarkable. 


Take care


Livertypickle x
 

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I know its a shock to get this news but as the other guys have mentioned any sperm is good news. My DH has a VERY low sperm count with morphology issues so we were referred for Icsi.

Am am currently down regging and the needles etc dont seem to be as bad as I thought.

Its a huge decision to do IVF but you can get plenty of info and all the ladies on this site are great with advice. You will soon discover that infertility is VERY common. Five people I work with are having/had Icsi, that makes it seem not so scarey.

Vanessa
 

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Hi there  :)

On my DH's first sperm test he had a good count, but only 5% motility. He started taking Vitamin C and zinc tablets and by the next sample the motility had gone up to 30%  :) , although we did find out that it also had something wrong with the morphology. On the day of my egg collection, when DH went off to his sample the results were pretty much normal and we were told we could of actually had straight forward IVF, even though we did go agead with ICSI in the end to be on the safe side.

Maybe ur partner could try zinc and Vitamin C ??

I hope this is helpful.

bunny xx
 
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