We are about to start our first self funded IVF treatment at Nuffield. I lost a baby in Dec 2002 at 6 mths (naturally conceived) but have not fallen pregnant again. The NHS would not help us for 2 yrs with fertility treatment however following several private tests at Springfield hospital at Chelmsford I was eventually referred by my GP to see Dr Haloob at Basildon and had several fibroids removed in July 2004, which I believe grew drastically during my first pregnancy and were causing an obstruction. Obviously Dr Hallob agreed. Now I am recovered from that operation, I am reminded that time is not on my side and have had to choose between 3 mths of Clomid or go straight to IVF. We have chosen the latter as my husband has a high abnormal sperm count. Have been told to lose more weight though. We have both followed the advice in Marilyn Glenville's book since Sept 2003 and we have both lost 3 stone each (despite my odd slip up in the chocolate department!). We both feel better than we have for years. Not sure whether we should just appreciate what we already have in life or take fate into our own hands. Nothing ventured nothing gained!!!