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New home girls.

Will update the list as soon as I get chance.  Back to work full time this week and I always distrurb the kids on the computer at night.  Dh has some time off so going to get him to move it downstairs so I can get my FF fix, I really will miss being at home and/or part time.

Good luck to everyone

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Hope the full time job thing goes well for you Karen, you really are Super Mum and all that now arent you!  :)

Love Lou xxxx
 

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Hi everyone,

Lou - Will be holding your hand all the way, but then you know that eh?  So pleased we are on this journey together x  :-*

Karen - Hope it goes well for you at work.

Hi to everyone else.

Went to see the sw with our crb forms and proof of id yesterday.  Looks like we will hear back in about 4-6 weeks.  Just waiting to hear about our prep course dates...

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Hi ladies

Our adoption review went well last week and we've submitted our application to the courts to legally adopt our angel. Hoping to get a hearing date through soon.

She's starting playgroup next week, just to get her used to mixing with other children, and being away from me. I return back to work end of November, only part time but it'll be a wrench leaving her. But it has to be done!

Hope work goes okay for you Karen, hasn't the time flown since you first became a mum?! I can't believe my 6 month leave is nearly over!

Just need to find out where to get name tags from to label our DD's clothing/shoes etc for playgroup? Any ideas?

Good luck to everyone
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Ever

Just had my Studio Cards catalogue through for Xmas and they do them in there.  Mothercare do a pen that does not wash off.

Hope she settles well. 

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Hi everyone,

Ever - I got my sew on labels through Asda - £3 for 48.  Get the sew on ones as the iron on ones lift off at the corners and pucker in my experience.  As a back up I got an indelible pen from Adams to mark ds's shirts with his name.  The name doesn't wash off unless I have to boil wash the shirts but then I just use the pen again.  You can order the labels online, in store or over the telephone from Asda and they arrived within a week so I would recommend them.

Karen - good luck with going back to work full time.

No news here.  STILL waiting for dh's crb check to come back.  It has been 5 weeks now since mine came back and I was waiting 8 weeks for mine to come through.  It has been 13 weeks now that we have been waiting for dh's crb check.  Nothing to be done but wait but it is VERY frustrating as we cannot progress on to the home study until it comes back.

All the best to everyone at all our different stages

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Just off to the the doctors now, to have a chat about our adoption wish. Also want to chat about coming off my tablets although I have got myself down to a really low dose but want to make sure I am doing the right thing. Also think it would be helpful for them to know what our intentions are and what they think. Basically get the doc on my side if I can!!  ;D

Speak later

Love Lou xxxx
 

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Lou - Love the new ticker...and fab idea about seeing the DR.

Karen - Well done you.....you wont have any time to sleep will you!. Good luck anyway!

Ever - Well done, with yet more paperwork!!...hope you get a date really soon!

Laine - It all seems so long ago since we went and took all our ID in!.....hopefully they wont keep you holding on to long to get back to you with more dates......

Jennifer - 13 weeks is really long isnt it, im sure you must be getting quite frustrated about it now. Especailly as yours came back a while ago...... hope you get it back soon so you are ready to move on to the next level!

As for us, we are still waiting for our review, a week today. It will be nice to catch up with our SW again although we did briefly bump into her when we was at SS a few weeks ago and she was amazed at how much weight  I had lost.
Apart from that, life is busy but fun...

Natsxx
 

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Nats - well done on the weight loss, thats brilliant, its certainly not easy I'm sure. I went on a diet this year (not fat but just felt uncomfy from all the IVF) I really enjoyed doing it and have stuck to my eating habit changes. Feel a lot better for it too. Well done  :)

Jennifer -  hope you get these wretched checks back soon. Must be very frustrating for you  ^bigbad^

Ever - hope the return to work goes well. I called Adam in the other day to read your post. What struck us is how when reading what you had written you would never have guessed your little one had been adopted. You spoke no differently to other Mums who are lucky enough to give birth to their own. We found it really encouraging.  :) Its lovely that things have worked out so well for you and you are so happy. Enjoy....................xx

Karen- hope your day at work is going well. How are the girls finding nursery now full time? Did you find SS cave you any trouble about intending to return to work? Although do I remember reading sometime that Rich is at home a fair bit? Its great that things have worked out so well for you too. xx

Laine- hope you don't have to wait too long for the prep dates. We will be waiting together wont we, although you are a fair bit ahead of me. I am just beginning!!! Just hope the LA dont make us wait the 12 months although the social worker I spoke to said there is no fixed rule. Thanks for the loan of the hand. xx


Well been to the docs, all fine and doc was really helpfull. She said she thought it was 'marvellous' that we had made the step and will support us all the way though, phew.... she said the dose of tablets I am on now probably aren't actually doing too much anyway so I can just continue, slowly with what I feel happy with. She said that she would hope any social worker would be able to understand how I became unwell with what we have been through and it shouldn't stand in our way, we will see........ hmmmm...........

Also finally had my smear test done, I am so out of date and have been really naughty with all the IVF.  ^evil^

Just having a potter in the garden now, am planting up some winter baskets and tubs for both the practices I work in. I do try and make the front doors look nice, even if the doggies pee all over them, grrr... ^bigbad^

So thats it for now, by the way, have you all read The Perfect Match? Such a fab read. Its the follow on from The Baby Trail. I loved them both and laughed my pants off. They are so well written and it was as though I could have written them myself. Lovely ending too, had a few tears on the last chapter. Laine if you have not read it you must!

Love to everyone

Lou xxx
 

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aww thanks Fee, have IM'd you  :)

Just been for a nice walk up the golf course with Harry in my new red hunter boots (they are so cool, have been waiting ages for them :)) it felt really quite autumy kicking the leaves. Winter is on its way  :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
Its rainy here so gonna get in my jim jams early tonight  ;D

Lovely.......................................
 

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just an update on us our 1st visit is booked for the 13th October presume this is 1st home visit. We have been send criminal forms etc. to fill before. Cant believe its 2 weeks tomorrow!!!!! The nerves are starting to get in and mad dreams about it all.
What amazes me is every LA seems to do things differently - eg. prep courses before home study or not!!!
Anyway hello to everyone whatever stage you are at.

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Hi everyone,

Ever - Hope you get a date soon.

Jenny - I can't believe you are having to wait so long for your dh's check to come back.  It is ridiculous.  ^bigbad^

Nats - Well done with the weight loss.  Hope your review goes well.

Gilly - Not long until your first visit. 

Lou - So pleased that your GP was supportive.  Well done you on cutting down your a.d's too.  I am sure everything will be ok with the sw.  BTW I was chuffed to see your ticker too.  Thanks for the book recommendation.  Sounds like you have been busy in the garden.

Hi to everyone else.

Nothing to report here.  I have been busy in the garden this morning.  Doing lots of autumn/winter preparation.  Does anyone watch Lost on Channel 4?

Laine x



 

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Just a quick one I promise I will catch up later.

Jenny - I work for the police and we are getting delays with getting the checks back on our recruits.  The reason for the delay is the aftermath of July 7th and 21st.  Hold tight they shouldn't be long.

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:) Hi Lou

Thanks for your message, really sweet. Seems funny to hear someone say that because to me I am my angel's mum and we feel like we've never been without her! Can't really remember what life was like before May!

To be honest though, before we had her placed with us and became a family, I never in my wildest dreams imagined that it would feel so natural and so "normal". I thought it'd feel strange and awkward for quite a while but I think we've been incredibly lucky and things just fell into place almost immediately. We genuinly forget that we're adopting her, and when people say she looks like me (we don't see it!) it melts my heart and I just think "if only you knew" !!

If I had the chance to re-run my life again over the past 5 years, I wouldn't hesitate to go through it again. Even all the heartache and ups and downs of IVF. I've no regrets, because I know if things hadn't panned out as they did, we wouldn't have our daughter now.
It truly is well worth everything you go through to get here. It's amazing!

Best of luck to you and your husband, and your future.
Keep us informed!!!

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LB, sorry to hear your news but you have to do what is best for you and your DH.  This is a life changing decision and you're right not to take care over it.  Hopefully you and the girls will both find the right matches.

Karen, hope things are going OK being a busy working Mum.

Laine, fingers crossed you don't have to wait too long for a prep course.

Ever, 6 months already??? Time flies.  How often is your DD going to go to playgroup.  I started our DS off on just 1 morning at nursery in order to help him socialise but he found it hard to break away from me.  Since I've increased to 2 mornings things have been better.  I still haven't got the labels thing sorted out yet, I've been using the iron on labels but Jenny is right they curl.  Must get one of those pens that Karen mentioned as I don't do needlework, much to my Mum's disgust as she is the original arts and crafts woman  ;D ;D  I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to change a thing (well apart from the early mornings and the pooey nappies  ;D ;D).  We've ended up with a bright, gourgeous little boy who's so much better than I could ever have imagined.  I will always feel sad about losing the baby that I carried but I don't regret the way things have turned out.  As my DS has the same name that I'd chosen for the baby and is only 3 weeks older than the baby would have been I often think that this is the way things were meant to be.

Jenny, this wait must be so frustrating, it must help that Karen's got a possible reason for the delay.  It's strange to think that those events have caused so many different ripples in people's lives.  Hope you don't have to wait too much longer.

Lou, it's so nice to hear that you are getting such support from your doctor.  I think she is right any SW should understand what you've been through and take into consideration that you've faced these if demons and successfuly come out the other side.  Sounds like you're keeping busy whilst all this process is progressing.  Make the most of the book reading.  I used to read avidly, at least a book a week, but since our son arrived I'm lucky if I can read a paragraph a week  ;D ;D

Gill, I think you're right things really do seem to vary from LA to LA, good luck for the 13th (which I don't think is an unlucky date as my birthday is on the 13th  :)).

Had a good time in Cornwall, we managed to explore quite a bit and it's a shame to come back to the daily grind.  Weather was so good on Sunday XXXXX ended up splashing around in the sea  :) :).  The downside of the weekend is that we have discovered that our DS has a new party trick, he can climb out of his travel cot.  Fell out the first night and burst into tears.  He was unsettled being in a new place and we couldn't get him back to sleep.  I ended up putting him in the car in his pyjamas, wrapping him in a blanket and taking him for a drive until he fell asleep  :( :(.  Fortunately that technique worked and at least I got to see more of Cornwall.  We now have to work out a strategy for when we next go away with him.  We also had bad news on the house front as the valuation survey on the property we want to buy has shown movement and the building society won't give us a mortgage without a full structural survey.  We're not sure we want to go down this route so we've got some serious thinking to do.

Hope everyone else is well.

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sounds like your trip was fun Cindy, even with the acrobatics. We have our niece stayover night with us sometimes and if she wakes in her travelcot during the night the only way that she'll go back to sleep is in bed with us. Shes 2 and has a mighty kick and left hook when she's asleep, so we end up battered, bruised and tired after she stays over.....but we really enjoy it none the less.

nothing else to report. still have not heard from our SW if our details are going to be sent out. it feels like they're delaying things in the hopes that the childrens SW finds them another family....but I'm probably just being paranoid. What do you guys think.....should we have to wait 3 weeks just to find this out?

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Hi everybody!!

I am quite new at this so it will take me a while to get to know everybody.
I did post on here a few months ago, and was waiting for our la info evening.
In between that we had a review with our IVF cons and she persuaded us to use our frozen embies which we did and we did get pg only to msc.

So we have finally decided to put that all behind us and we went to our la info evening last night. It was really informative and we are really pleased with the way things went, they left no one under any elusions.
They mentioned a thing called dual registration has anyone here heard of it? It means that you can be on the foster registrar and the adoption one as well.
So they can give you a child waiting for freeing. I just wondered if anyone had done this as we are really considering it.
Also when you picked your referees did you find it difficult?

Sorry with all the questions but as you can imagine my mind is buzzing today with all the info we were given last night.

Thanks everybody I have been lurking here for the last week or so and it has been really helpful and I hope to get to know everybody a bit better now that I know I am really on my way.

LOL Keli
 

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Hi keli
I'm sure i'll be joining you with all the questions soon cos we have our LA info evening in just under 2 weeks- am chomping at the bit now...
we had our official letter about the info evening yesterday and i had to ring and confirm we were going, which i have just done. the letter says in addition to the info talk you have a 1/2 hr interview with a social worker where you discuss the initial form we filled in. at the end of the evening - a 'selection' of people will be invited to proceed, and the prep courses start in nov. theres 3 days in nov and 2 in dec. i feel like we are really going to be under pressure to 'sell ourselves' on that night so that we are able to proceed quickly :eek: I know we have alot to offer so i'm not too worried but i can get tongue tied on the spot so am worried am going to blow it! it doesnt say how many they can take...

Lou, am glad your doc is behind you all the way, thats really good news :)

cindy - i did chuckle when reading about your ds/escape artist! what a monkey. have you thought about a different style travel cot that  might be harder fro him to escape from? maybe you could do a swap with a friend/or sell/buy on ebay?

jennifer - i'd be climbing the walls by now if i'd had to wait that long :mad: perhaps karens explanation helps a bit...

love to everyone else

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KJ- can I ask which authority have you applied to? I am I the only one who's LA dont hold an information evening  :( Im sure you will do just fine, good luck  ^reiki^

Back later

Love Lou xxx
 
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