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A thread for everybody testing in May 2019.

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I had a 2d frozen embryo transfer yesterday afternoon, and have started my2WW. This is the 3rd time I have done it, the last two times were in 2016 so its been a while. They resulted in an early miscarriage and an ectopic so Im praying this time that it all goes well. My test day is 2nd May. Im 44 but the embryo was collected in 2015 when I was 41. I have one left in the freezer now!
I took a break from it all as my Dad was diagnosed terminally ill with pancreatic cancer a week after I had the ectopic pregnancy and it was all to much for me. I decided that I would rather wait and spend time looking after my Dad. After he was given 2 months to live he defied all odds and was with us for 15 months which was amazing. After his passing my partner and myself decided to start arranging to make use of the 2 embryos we had in the freezer since 2015. My favoured consultant had left the clinic I was previously using and was setting up a new one so we had the 2 embryos transferred to the new clinic last October. In the mean time I had carpal tunnel surgery on both hands and an epidural cortisone injection for spinal stenosis at C6 in my neck. That now brings me to where we are now. I feel more positive this time compared to previous attempts and am keeping my fingers crossed.
 

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Blossomberni : wishing you the best of luck with your embi, keeping fingers crossed for you .  I am so sorry about your dad and everything you had to go through.i can totally understand why you would take some time off the treatments .

I had a 3dt yesterday and my test date is the same as yours , May 2nd !!  It is my third IVF. First one did not result in any fertilized eggs , the second resulted in a pregnancy but I lost the baby at 24 weeks. The baby had severe ventriculomegaly and other malformations and would have not survived . It was a really difficult time and I needed some time off after that . Fast forward to today, 4 eggs fertilized but only two were good enough for transfer , although one of them was behind in the number of cells . They put back both of them ! Really praying that this time everything works out !
 

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Hi Mint
Wow that must have been really tough for you. I can't imagine what that must have been like to deal with.
It's great news that we are testing on the same day - are you doing a home urine test or Beta HCG bloods or both to get your results? I've decided to do a urine test at home but have also booked an appointment for HCG that same morning at my clinic. I was quite patient the last two times I was in the 2WW but am already feeling that I'm going to be impatient this time round. I think the fact that we only have one more left in the freezer after this and my age of 44 is worrying me. It feels like the last chance saloon!
Anyway what will be will be - I know that I have been treated by the doctor and clinic that suit me and I trust the most and he has done everything possible to give me the best chance at success. The care I've had has been exceptional this time. Im so glad that the doctor I prefer has left his old clinic and set up a new one.
Are you in the UK?
 

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Hi Blossom ,

I’m going to be doing a urine test as my clinic doesn’t do betas . I assume I could do one with my GP but I haven’t thought of that yet . Yes I’m in the UK at the fertility clinic in Oxford . What about you ?

Glad to hear they are providing a exceptional service and that you trust your doctor ! While everyone at my clinic is really nice at times i feel it is quite impersonal .

It is my last attempt at IVF as I have severe endometriosis and my egg quality is not great . I feel like I don’t have it in me to try again ( although you never know ) . I m really hoping this is the time that works but like I will be exactly like you super impatient .  ;D it’s not so bad for the first few days but I feel like around implantation time I will be symptom checking like crazy ! Hope you are having a nice long weekend
 

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I'm using Kings Fertility In London which works in partnership with the Fetal Medicine Foundation. It's owned by a charity (only one in UK) and all profits go back into research. It also looks after the NHS patients from Kings College Hospital and incorporated their old fertility unit into it when it formed about 18 months ago. I really like the ethos of it not being a money spinner like my last clinic. You really felt it there, shortly after I started using them they were taken over by a private equity company and you could see the pressure to deliver profit! There was only one consultant that I didn't feel this from who I actually believed was in the fertility field to actually be a Doctor not a money maker. I was so glad that when we decided the time was right to go back to IVF that he had moved to start Kings Fertility. It was well worth the extra approx £1000 to get the remaining 2 embryos transferred 4 miles over the river Thames :)

Ive spent the last 2 days either gardening or doing small jobs on my allotment. Anything to keep me occupied really. I love being hands on. Today has been a bit tricky as I think the meds are making me feel a bit queasy. I also could do with stopping doing my injections exactly where my waistband is so that's its a bit more comfortable. Must remember that later this evening!

I wouldn't worry about the HCG - my clinic offer it but don't even suggest you get it done as they don't like to sell anything that isn't essential. At the end of the day it isn't necessary and a urine test is enough for an answer. It's probably just because I was used to it the last clinic that I asked and booked in to do it. You never know I may change my mind yet and cancel it.

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I hope you are having a nice weekend.
 

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Hi Blossomberni ,

That sounds like a great clinic, especially that all the profits go back to research. I ve had a clinic in the past that was really Money driven and I could feel it also.

What kind of injections are you getting ? I only have the progesterone pessaires , which make me feel extremely bloated !!

I have been super busy yesterday as I planned a surprise bbq for my partner’s birthday so time flew by . I just hope that being out and about all day was not something bad for the embryos .

Hope you are enjoying the nice sunny weather too !
 

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Hi Mint
Im pretty sure that keeping things as normal as possible and staying active is much better for you and the embryos than taking it too easy. I don't think it does the body any good to slow down.

I'm on progesterone injections as well as pessaries. Only had the pessaries the previous two times. I think its been added in to give extra support due to my age and the previous miscarriage and ectopic events. Feeling quite bloated and very crampy wind pains - what joy :) My other issues are my breasts are sore and I feel a bit queasy due to the progesterone. Are you finding that an issue?

I imagine you had a great time at the BBQ and it was a great distraction for you. I hope your partner appeciated it. The weather is almost a bit too hot for me :), but I am continuing to focus on the gardening as it relaxes and provides a great distraction from the 2WW.

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Hi blossomberni ,

It’s great that they are giving you both the pessaries and injections ( although the pessaries are such a mess aren’t they !  ;D)  I do not feel queasy so far but I did hear it could be a side effect . I do feel very tired however with cramps as well .

You are right I think it is good to stay active instead of stopping everything !

I agree it is so hot outside . Sat outside 15 minutes this afternoon and could not stand the heat . I’m usually quite ok in the summer or when on holidays at the beach .

Hope you are enjoying your gardening and having a nice long weekend :) I’m taking it easy today I had such a busy day yesterday , I already feel like sleeping and it’s only 6:30 😂
 

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Hi Mint

Glad you are not having to rush about today and had some me time. Oh yes those pessaries are messy things. Im having more luck with them this time as they have an applicator. I didn't have an applicator last time so probably wasn't getting them into the desired position. Im sure they were messier for me last time round.

Im having an evening of sitting on the sofa with my 2 dogs and watching any old rubbish on TV. My husband has gone up to Chesterfield to see his 97 yr old Grandad armed with a roast chicken he cooked earlier, some aunt bessies roasties + yorkshire's and veg so that they can have a a nice Easter dinner together. The poor old thing isn't doing too well but always hangs in there and defies the odds. He the sweetest thing but I just didn't want to be sitting in the car for two and a half hours each way with the pessary situation ;D

I got my husband to pack an overnight bag so that if he was tired he could stay and make the most of the time with him. The pair of them do make me laugh as they are very similar. I find it fascinating as Im adopted so don't have that thing where I can look at people in my family and see physical similarities to myself.

Anyway me and the dogs are quite happy here on the sofa.

Enjoy the rest of your evening
 

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Hi Blossom,

Totally understand not wanting to go on a two and a half hours drive with the pessaries situation!  I hope you had a nice relaxing evening with your dogs . I had a dog unfortunately she passed away last year and I miss her so much . We get so attached to them don’t we .

So mice of your husband to go visit his grandpa and bring him dinner !  I’m sure he appreciates it so much.  Did he end up staying there overnight ?

I’m off work today and we re going to an Easter celebration with my partner’s family around 3, which should be nice . However I am so tired since yesterday , I think it might be the progesterone .

Random question , regarding intercourse my clinic said it is fine but I keep reading that it is not nexesaarily recommended during the 2 ww . Plus to be honest I’m really not in the mood  ;D however my partner is getting quite impatient and he keeps asking . I do feel like he’s being a bit selfish and not thinking of how I’m feeling at the moment . What did your clinic tell you in this regards ?

 

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Hi Berni and Mint,

I’m on my second round of IVF where the first didn’t result in any fertilised embryos. This time, two were collected and both fertilised and have been popped back in on Saturday. My test date is Friday 3rd May.
It was such a huge relief to get both fertilised this time and that overnight wait was hard - no idea how I will cope during the next week and a bit!
I would have liked to be resting but have had a lot going on and today is my first day ‘off’ from the world. And back to work tomorrow for a rest!
I was interested to read about King’s as they were an option for me - I was lucky to have two rounds available on the NHS. I went with Guys in the end as it was easier for my other half to get there for appointments etc.

So any top tips for this stage? I’m trying to eat well and limit my chocolate intake...

L x


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Hi Mint Do you Know I was thinking that I didn't ask the clinic that question only this morning! My husbands away a lot and probably values his life too highly to ask at the moment ;D I will email my clinic in the morning to ask and let you know so that we get another answer for you (and me of course). Im so bloated and my breasts are sore from the progesterone, I don't think I could cope with it at the moment. The last clinic I used a few years ago sent me away with a massive list. I don't have it anymore but I only remember a few thing from that:

no intercourse for a week
no baths - that really annoyed me as I do love a bath
no swimming
no lifting anything heavy
this list went on and on and on.......

I will surely let you know when I get a reply from them. This will make you laugh though, as it did my doctor. I asked if I could still do some boxing and he looked astonished at the thought of me boxing. He then said I'm banning you from all contact sport. Anyway I was so desperate for a pee after holding my bladder for so long that I just left it at that and didn't say to him it would just be sparring with a personal trainer and not a full on fight. I should have phrased it better. Im sure he thinks Im nuts ;D

Hi lottsy Welcome to the board - I'm the worst person to ask about tips regarding eating healthily etc! I probably eat all the wrong things. The one thing I would highly recommend though is keeping your mind busy with other things and just relax. We've spent nearly 20K on it so far as by the time I felt well enough mentally to try for children I was 39 (I've had depression since I was 18 and it was particularly bad in my 30's).  I had an NHS appointment when I was 40 and then the CCG changed the rules that month and stopped offering IVF over 40's full stop. They are notoriously bad for IVF funding and last year cut all funding for it. Make the most of that NHS funding - I've heard Guys is great. The most important thing I have learnt is that if you feel comfortable and trust your doctor then you are at the right clinic. I believe that the NHS treatment protocols used are fairly standardised across the clinics so the choice of clinic you made makes a lot of sense as the logistics of getting to appointment is a big factor when you are going through this.

Wow - so we will all know our outcomes within 24hrs of each other.

Happy waiting ladies - keep busy and watch some good TV if you find your mind wandering!!
 

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Welcome to the 2ww Lottsy, great to hear you had two nice embies put back. I wish you the best of luck :) did you have a 3dt ? The wait is really hard. I’m already impatient and it’s been 3 days  ;D

Hi blossom , thank you for asking that would be great to get a second opinion ! I’m totally not in the mood though so I hope the answer is that we shouldn’t  ;D ! My partner is so demanding in this regards and honestly it does get annoying . I have a hard time dealing with it .

My clinic had similar recommendations : no baths no swimming , no lifting or doing intense sports . I can imagine their reaction when you asked if you could go boxing  ;D  that must have been quite a funny situation.

I’m feeling so bloated today and uncomfortable and I already started googling symptoms while I know very well it’s way too early . Oh and I just caught a cold I have a really sore throat . I’m just taking paracetamol and ginger and lemon with hot water . I’m just scared that the sneezing may affect implantation.

Hope you had a nice Easter Monday . I will definitely be watching tv this evening , I need to watch the latest game of thrones
 

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Hi ladies I hope you don't mind me joining in this thread. I had joined the April 2ww too but my OTD is the Friday 3rd May.

I had my second IUI done on the 17th April, my first one failed back in Feb/March this year. We are having treatment on the NHS and feel incredibly lucky we get to do so, I have no idea what will happen if we use all our tries and haven't got the result we want but I've got my fingers crossed that this time it will work.

I am having progestrone pessaries and what a joy they are! I feel like the are affecting me more than they did last time, last time I don't think I had any side effects from them but this time I feel tired, I don't think it helped me and my OH travelled two and a half hours on Friday to see my family and then travelled home again on Saturday. My nipples have been sore since Thursday or Friday and today I have been feeling a little sick and I have a headache. I have been feeling rather emotional over the last two days aswell. I keep going up to my OH and asking for cuddles and the only thing I can explain is "I feel sad", I don't even feel sad really just a little emotional. I know it is all because of my progestrone but I can't help but feel a little more hope this time as last time I didn't have any side effects. It feels like this time the medication is working a little harder because I could be pregnant. Does that make sense or am I just being silly? I wish I could fast forward until the 3rd May so I could just know!

Lottsy - the only thing I can really recommend is to keep yourself busy but don't overdo it. I have been reading a lot over the weekend and have found it is a great way to keep my mind off any pregnancy related or fertility related. I also find talking to people on here so helpful. It is nice to know there are people who have going through the same thing and that they are going to say stupid things to make you feel better.

Mint - It is so nice to see you on the tww! I'm glad I'm not the only one googling things already! I hope the cold quickly disappears for you quickly, I know what you mean about sneezing. I have hayfever which has been affecting me and every time I sneeze I hold my belly thinking I hope it doesn't hurt the baby!  ::) Silly me! If you aren't in the mood for intercourse with your partner just tell him you aren't allowed, he doesn't have to know any different.

I wish you all luck and hope the tww doesn't drive you insane.
 

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S_lauren: so nice to see you on this thread , fingers crossed this is your lucky cycle and you get a bfp on May 3

Those pessaries also make me feel SO bloated and sore bbs is another side effect, however not too much so far.

I am also emotional , especially today . I am not feeling any symptoms of implantation so even if my rational self knows its too early my emotions take over and I feel discouraged . Btw I do the exact same when I sneeze .  ;D
 

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Mint & S_Lauren - you must relax and try to stay away from Dr Google. I think it would make me anxious so Im not going near it. It's a very hard wait I agree. We can and will get through this 2WW - it would be easier without the progesterone causing symptoms and even better if there were no messy pessaries :)

I haven't sneezed yet but can understand what you are saying. It must be a natural reaction.

I went to bed an hour ago but have got up again with earache thats appeared out of the blue. It's really annoying me.
 
Mint - My OH did end up staying with his Grandad and came home this evening. It was great to get a FaceTime call from them both earlier today although Grandad had the phone first so all I could see was down his earhole ;D These little things do make me smile.

For anyone thats back at work tomorrow have a great day.
 

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Hi Blossom ,

Sorry to hear you are having an earache , they are so painful  i will do my best to stay away from google this week , and this might prove easier as I will be very busy at work ! Your FaceTime story made me smile , my dad also calls me on video and puts it on his ear  ;D

I have also  slept badly because I have an extremely sore throat , definitely getting a cold , I’m feeling quite poorly this morning . 

I’m now 4dp3dt , keeping fingers crossed for positive results 9 days from now. No symptoms at all so far except from the progesterone.

Hope everyone has a great day back at work today !

 

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Hi Mint

I hope that you start to feel better soon. The progesterone is definitely making me tired too. For that throat you can probably use the throat lozenges that have the mild local anaesthetic in them. I rarely get a sore throat but always find them great. Just check with the pharmacist. I worked for Boots for 23 years and always find most things can be sorted easily if checked with the pharmacist.

I managed to get to sleep and have woken up with a less painful ear so that was good. 5dp2dt - same as you no symptoms other than the side effects of the progesterone.

Hope everyone is doing well and holding in there x
 

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Just had call back from nurse at my clinic. It's amazing how they all differ. Advice for sex was it was -  fine as long as it was protected.
 
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