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New home for Mummys and Snow Queens !
 

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Woppa......your snow photo's are lovely, the one of Eva on her own is gorgeous....she's soooo cute !!  Love her to bits :)

Hope you have more fun tomorrow :)
 

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AND STILL NO SNOW IN THE SOUTH :'(


WOPPA ILL TAKE YOU UP ON SENDING US SOME SNOW VIA THE POST.....I REALLY WANT TO TAKE JACK OUT AND BUILD A SNOW MAN.

HOPE EVERYONE IS WELL.

JACK HAS HAD TONSILITUS YET AGAIN...THAT TWICE SINE THE NEW YR..POOR MIGHT.!

IM HAVING MY NEW SOFA ARRIVING TOMORROW YIPPEEE THATS A WHOLE WEEK ON A HORRID DECK CHAIR...I HAD A REAL BARGIN WENT TO THE MFI SALE ON BOXING DAY AND GOT IT FOR £99.. GOT DH PAINTING MY LIVING ROOM WALL SO IT ALL MATCHES.

RIGHT OFF FOR A CHILL OUT

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HI all,

Flakey, Susan there is a feeding device that you can get call a milk maid  you can get a www.twinsclub.co.uk go to twin products then feeding. I ordered two lasted Tuesday and they arrived on Thursday. They do seem to work i have even had the both of them feeding themselfs while is supervise while drink a HOT!!! cup of coffee.

Flakey, dont worry about your first outing it was the same for me. It took me about 40 mins to load the car then the same coming home while all the time i was getting soak to the skin. I got home and thought never again, but it does get easier. Iam even doing lunch with a friend on Friday who also has Twins eek!! 4 Babies.

Can anyone help, I want to start to get Adam and Freya into a routine, but they are still feeding ever 4hrs. I have been bathing them at 8pm then feed then bed, but then they wake up at 12. In all the books the say the last feed does this meen i should be bathing at 12 eek!!

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Sorry I haven't posted for a while but Joseph has a cough and cold again!

Also i need HELP!!!!
From having a baby who from 10 weeks old slept through the night, i now have a child who wakes up at about 2am and screams and then will not go back to sleep. He eventually drops off but then it is nearly time for the alarm to go off!!!

He goes out like a light after a bath and bottle at about 7 / 7.15 and we only hear an odd peep from him(usually if his dummy has dropped out!). When it gets to the early hours though he cries and lies there with his arms outstretched for us to pick him up. We have tried cuddling him and putting him back down, leeting him scream for longer and longer periods and even having him in with us!!!! but nothing is working at the moment.
We are averaging about 2hours sleep a night!

Last night i gave him a rusk as well as his milk in case he was hungry and he woke up at 1.32am!!!!!

Any more tips girls?

This all started when he had a cough last time and has now become habit. How do I break this?

Sorry to moan on :( :(

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HI Everyone,

Having a bad day today - woke up feeling quite low. Its really hard to reconcile this emotion with having a baby that was so so wanted - I feel very guilty about that. Yesterday I had a better day - went round to a friends and we walked our two babies - hers is one week younger than me. She seems to be doing a bit better than me though and is laughing and joking about the trials and traumas of being a new mum. She takes it in her stride, whereas I get quite negative about it.

The health visiter has just been and I was in tears on her. SHe was here for an hour and a half and told me she felt that I didn't have pnd, but had anxiety and difficulty adjusting to my new role as a mum. My job is very demanding, structured and rewarding and what I'm going through as a new mum has no structure and is chaotic and unpredictable and socially isolating. She felt that a lot of mums go through similar things. What worries me is that I have absolutely NO appetite, not even for chocolate and also still cannot sleep without sleeping tabs because of anxiety. But I'm seeing the doctor tomorrow, so will see what she says.

GOt to go, babys woken up


LOve,

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Well hi everyone

Suzy really feel for you - don't beat yourself up about the way you are feeling.  A newborn really upheaves your life and it is hard to adjust to the demands being made on you - especially if you are used to routine and structure in your day to day life (can relate to that totally).  I too felt isolated as we had moved house just I got pg and it was a new area where I knew no one.  I took the bull by the horns and went to a local parent and toddler group - nightmare walking in on the first day but I can say that this really helped me, I was able to meet and talk to people who reassured me that things weren't easy and that some days you did feel like you would like an hour or two just to yourself without feeling guilty, the leaders also would have looked after Josh for 10 mins just to let me get a cuppa in peace (sheer bliss believe me).  I made a friend who I now meet if the parent and toddler group isn't on and yes we phone each other to arrange where we are going and when one asks do you want to go out on Friday the other just laughs and says oh yes I need to escape - we both have boys so they play away and when I say we are going to see Fiona, Josh starts to call Daniel's name knowing that if we see Fiona we also see Daniel.

See what the dr says but do try to get  our in the fresh air as fingers-crossed suggests - just leave the house etc and take yourself out even if it is only for a 10-15 min walk - you will feel the benefit.  Hope you are feeling better in yourself soon.

Jayne - how are you, have things settled down.  Since I had Josh and I suppose before with having gone through tx, I now know when I am ovulating each month (before tx etc I wouldn't had a clue).  I feel so uncomfortable, like a real dragging in my lower tum and get shotting pains.  It is worse since I had Josh and I know that some months when it is worse that others I imagine all sorts of things.  Please don't hang about if things haven't settled for you in a couple days do get down to the drs and get checked out.

Well on my front Josh seems to have got another sore throat.  Seems that he is going to be prone to these.  We are supposed to be going away in the morning for the weekend and I had no choice yesterday but to phone the dr and get an antibiotic (really don't like getting these but if he needs it I suppose I have no choice).  We had agreed to get the antibiotic and only use it if he got any worse - well last night there I was, Josh perched on my knee trying to eat my dinner when he started burping.  Asked dh to pass me a towel as I suspected what was going to happen next and yes you guess, dh faffed around and Josh threw up over himself, me, the chair, floor, table and yes you guessed it my dinner.  A strip for both us there and then in the kitchen and a bath later (not in the kitchen)  the antibiotic was quickly given to him.  Glad to say he slept last night although he did wake a 5am calling juice, juice (a bottle of water was quickly administered) and dh says he was babbling as usual when he dropped him off at my mums.  Fingers crossed he is feeling better.

Well must go and start some work again.

Take care everyone, speak again soon.

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Sara - i am having exactly the same problem with Ellie, she started sleeping through from 6 wks but since i have gone back to work she has started waking up in the night (i think she is also teething).  Ellie was bought a Fimbles toy which sits in the cot and plays lullabies and talks to them, yawning occasionally and it has a night light in its tummy.  i have used that the last three nights if she woke up and touchwood by the time it finishes (it lasts 8 mins) she is on her way back to dreamland!!!

Suzy - I felt exactly the same when Ellie was tiny and have started feeling like it again now that i am leaving her to go back to work. I can highly recommend mother and baby groups, seeing other mums with there babies makes you realise that maybe you are coping better than you thought and that most of the mums there are feeling exactly the same!!

we had snow here yesterday and driving home i went into a skid , which i have never done before and was left really shaken my legs were like jelly. luckily we were ok and a really nice man stopped to check on us but i cant believe how easily you can lose control!!!!

well we are off for coffee at my friends

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Hello everyone - long time no post!! I do log on but never get the chance to post, as someone always wants my attention.

Suzy - I hope that you're feeling brighter, I went through this and felt really guilty for feeling like it as I wanted my babies sooooo and I can't describe how I felt apart from abit numb and shocked I suppose and my anxiety was awful. I found that by joining groups, chatting to friends, getting fresh air etc really helped.
Your whole life changes and when it's something that you thought would never happen to you it takes time to get use to it.
Sorry if not much help just wanted to say I've been there and all's well nowx

Glad that everyone else is getting on ok, I will try to post more often, there just doesn't seem enough hours in the day and our pc is in the spare room so can't post whilst looking after babes or hubby!!

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Clare lovely to hear from you. Love your piccie of Ellie & Harvey.
Hope your all well.

love Kimx  x x
 

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Morning All

Big hugs to you Suzy. Sorry you're still feeling low, after my awful day on Monday of non-stop tears, things have improved. Isabelle has given me a few good night's sleep, and this has helped greatly.

I also had my in-laws here all day yesterday to keep me company and do some housework...all my ironing was done  :). Plus I had someone to talk to. Today is a quiet day, just Isabelle and me with the mw calling round later...possibly the last visit from the mw, which makes me sad as I'll miss her, she's been such a steadying influence. My mw is planning a reunion class for our parentcraft class sometime, which will be fun.

Tomorrow we're off out for lunch with the NCT girls and maybe a walk in Virginia Waters (dependent on the weather)...one of the other girls is going to collect us, as I can't drive for a while yet.

We were meant to be starting a baby massage course at my house on Friday but various people can't make it so, it'll be delayed by a week. Probably a good thing more chance for my insides to heal some more.

I've also started expressing a bit, going to try producing one bottle over the day for Isabelle's night time feed so Kevin can get involved a bit more. I expressed 2oz off this morning, see what else we can get later today if Isabelle leaves any!!

love & hugs

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ohh suzy poor you...dont feel bad even now jack is 18mths and i still have good and bad days.....where are you from ?? can you join a baby group i did from 6wks and still see them every monday.


sara is he crying for hes dummy ?? as i had this problem for 22wks and i went to the dr thinking i had pnd and he told me to stop it..and 4days/nights of screaming i got my little man to sleep through.... have you triend putting the monitor the other way round  so the reciever is in hes room so if he cries you can speak to him without you going into hes room i know that worked with a friend..she managed to sssshhhhhhhh him back to sleep without getting out of bed.

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Hi All

Well I eventually saw my MW late this afternoon. She said I looked an awful lot better than Monday, apparently she and the HV were worried about me the other day. She's told me that I can still phone her even though I'm going to be signed over in the next few days.

My MW has asked if I'd help out at the parentcraft class or rather if Isabelle will help out...by being bathed and getting me to talk about breastfeeding and answering questions. I don't mind as it'll be a chance to help out and get out of the house and meet a few people.

love & hugs

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Hi

Jac - hope you've got some clothes on for arriving in Manchester!!!  ;D  Otherwise you'll be cold!  Hope you've had a wonderful time and are now home safely.

Becca -  ;D at snow in the post!  Can you imagine....  How's your lounge, now dh has painted?  Did the sofa arrive (bargain!)

Sam - bet you enjoyed that hot cuppa!  :)  Nah keep bathing them at 8 they'll drop the later feed in time!  I know Chloe is a singleton but she went to bed earlier over time (from 11 to 9 to 8 to 7)

Sara - sorry that Joseph is poorly ((((((hugs and get well wishes))))))))) I hope you find a solution soon to his early hours waking!

Suzy - please don't feel guilty for emotions that are unwanted and just can't be helped.  You are doing a great job so please don't beat yourself up.  I'm glad that you were able to talk to your h/v and please remember your friend probably has down times too (((((((((hugs)))))))))) good luck with the doc.

Jayne - how you feeling?

Barbara - poor Josh ((((((((hugs)))))) hope he's a little better and you've managed to get away.

Donna - glad you are OK after your skid in the snow!  I agree parent and baby groups can be a lifeline!

Clare - lovely to hear from you!  Ellie and Harvey's photo in your profile is fab! 

Camilla - glad you are feeling brighter (((((hugs))))).  Enjoy your nct lunch (I had my weekly one today - we take it in turns to host and everyone brings a contribution to the hosts lunch - they decide on the lunch!)  Great idea to have a reunion class!  If you're going to express I always feel fuller in the morning (I also started expressing when Chloe was 2 weeks old) so try then, it will gradually build up!  :)

Becca - love the idea of the monitor being the other way round so you can talk to them!

Chloe's still not right but loads better than Monday!

Had a bit of drama this morning, Lulu (the cat) sauntered in, I wondered what was on her back....... she'd been bitten by another cat  :mad:  :mad:  poor thing, so rushed off to the vets who weren't open but luckily saw her between two ops. (think they thought they might have had a  :'( woman if they didn't as I was laden with Cat, Baby and frazzled!).  Luckily Lu's ok!

I'm off to see an old FF'er tomorrow (who doesn't post anymore for various reasons. I did my first and second cycle with her, love her to bits) and she's pg which is wonderful!  Bizarrely she's the same amount pg in weeks as Chloe is in weeks!    Really looking forward to seeing her!

We have the new bannisters going in on Saturday and new coving tomorrow in one area of the hall (still need to strip some of the hall stairs and landing but it'll get done!  The decorator is coming in when we're on hols as I don't want Chloe around the dust!

God, Clark's just told me, elephants have a gestation of 22 months........ god forbid!

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This will be a me post I'm afraid - Amy had another convulsion this evening - a really big one this time. It's strange as I just knew she was on the brink of one - infact I text Becca to say so five mins before it happened  ??? Thought she was around lunch time but seemed okay after some calpol. Put her down for her nap and as soon as I got her up I just knew. I stripped her off ready, got the rectal diazepam (to give if fits over 5 mins) and we sat on the settee with a bottle of water and some books. Half way through the first book she started  :( I don't know how I knew I just did.

It went on for 7 mins, then I gave the diazepam at which point we have to call an ambulance. There has been a massive accident near here and the motorway is closed leaving all our roads gridlocked so a car arrived and the van was stuck - she had been fitting for 20mins by the time he arrived and was just coming too  :'( He said the roads towards the hospital were clear and advised us to drive ourselves as we have a car seat. So we set off but half way there we hit the mass of traffic, Jamie noticed a police car parked up and went to speak to them and they gave us an escort. They moved the traffic and we followed - all very exciting if not in the situation we were in!!!

Anyway all is okay, she's very upset tonight and tired so is now fast asleep in her cot. :)

I cannot say how I feel tonight. The other day I was so calm we had managed it at home and got on with things, today because we had to go to hospital I feel sad and down and just why my beautiful little girl. Why does she have to go through this ordeal, and why as her Mummy can't I make it better. To watch her whole body convulsing tonight and stiff and ridgid was awful, it absolutley broke my heart. Just when I thought we were dealing with it I find I am not  :( I want to lock ourselves in with choccie and books and Bear In The Big Blue House and cuddle all day and I think tommorrow that is what we will do. I need time as well as her to recover from this one. I know she is physically aching and must be sooo tired the poor thing.
We were supposed to be driving home to my parents tonight but just want to be close to home with our own things around us and I don't feel she is up to a big journey. I just want to keep things normal.

Off to bed now an early night is in order

Hope evryoen is okay, sorry it's doom and gloom and all about me but just had to get it out
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Sarah, don't apologise for a "me" post as you put it when you've had an awful day.

I don't think Clark and I would cope as well as you and Jamie do.  The fact you spot the signs in Amy way before they happen must be scary but you did good.

I think your appt is coming up soon isn't it?  :-*  Can they not bring it forward or is it next week?

I too wish your beautiful daughter didn't have to go through this and you and Jamie as her parents didn't either.

I hope your day tomorrow together having cuddles means you can regroup again ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) to you all.

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Oh Sarah......i'm so sorry you and Amy (and DH of course) have to go through all this. I think you're being amazing and Amy is lucky to have such a fab mum. Have a lovely cuddly day tomorrow.....big hugs :)

Suzy ~ big hugs to you to. You don't need to have guilt at all.....these feelings happen sometimes and i promise they will pass. I had the no appetite thing too, just didn't want anything at all. Try to have little bits just to keep your strength up, even just toast or soup...something really easy to eat. It'll pass too hun. Huge hugs to you, hope you've had a better day today. Good luck with the doc too.

I've lost track a bit , will catch up tomorrow......Kitty woke up at 4am and i didn't get back to sleep, zonked now!!

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Hi Everyone,

Thanks for your kind words. I still haven't got it together to reply to everyone.

I got a fright with Jake yesterday. I changed his nappy and there was a spot of blood on it about the size of 20p and a few drops of blood on the end of his penis. He has been well, but was unsettled overnight and woke quite freqently ( at 11, 3 then 4) and also in the evening was crying for about an hour with a really high pitched cry. This morning there was more blood and two little marks on his foreskin, presumably where the blood is from. I am really worried about him. Yesterday I was terrified that he had cancer of the kidney or something equally awful. We are seeing the paediatrician today so hopefully it'll be sorted out there.

It's reassuring to hear that a lot of you went through similar things to me. I do think I have pnd though, mainly because I have no appetite and have actually lost about 6 kg in two weeks ( over a stone) and also cannot sleep for love nor money because of anxiety, unless I take a sleeping pill. Hopefully the doctor will give me something today to break the cycle.


Will let you know anyway,

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Hi Folks

Barbara - sorry to hear that Josh is porrly, hope he gets well soon.

Sarah - to identify the signs and have yourself prepared is being a good Mum.  I hope all goes well at the forthcoming appointment.  Thinking of you and Jamie and of course little Amy (((hugs)))

I've had the day from hell today.  The regressive behaviour in my eldest has hit new extremes and has really tried my patience.  Lost count on how many times I walked away from her close to tears, not trying to let her see how much she'd wound me up and upset me.  I've been trying to ignore her attention seeking behaviour but each time I ignore her she just gets worse.  Today I was on the phone to one of the head SW's and she cried most of the time (drama queen, crocodile tears crying), as soon as I put the phone down she stopped, it then rang again immediately, was Rich and off she goes again.  I've been trying to explain to her all the things she can do that her sister can't and therefore why I have to do certain things with her sister.  

She also managed to free herself from the shoulder straps in her car seat and tried to bend forward to pick up the doll she had dropped.  I freaked and then tried to explain to her what could happen.  She doesn't seem to understand any of what I am saying to her, I just hope that by sounding like a cracked record, the penny will drop before too long.

Other than that, youngest made some attempts to actually crawl in a forwards direction today so got a bit excited about that.

Anyway just spotted the time and have some chores to do so I am all organised for the morning.

Sorry for not many personals, but hope this post find s you and your bubs all well.  
Bye for now

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Hi everyone

Suzy hope the peadatrician appt went OK. I imagine it must have been something to do with Jake's kidneys but praying it's nothing serious. Take care of yoursleves.

Sarah, I don;t know how you cope with Amy's fits. I think you are doing magnificently well. I feel so sorry for you and her too. I only hope with age they get better. But you are right to do the things that feel instinctively right to you, and go with what you feel is right for her. Hope she is recovering for the last one. It sounds so awful, my heart is really with you.

SueL poor Lulu, hope she is recovering.

Camilla, glad you are feeling a bit better :)

SaraM, sorry to hear about Joseph. Don;t know what to suggest. I still feed Toby at night (against all the advice :p), and he goes straight back to sleep. I can imagine if I didn;t we would be having some similar problems. He is going through a real attachment phase at the moment and maybe this is also the case with Joseph cos they are close in age aren't they.

I am doing the sleep training during the day (for naps & at bedtime) and somethimes it works and sometimes it doesn;t ;)

well love to everyone

Toby can growl on command when we say the word "Tiger". It is hilarious! He can't do any other animal noises although he knows what cats, dogs & cows etc are. Why Tiger?!!!!

We have no sign of snow here btw...!

Vicky x

PS karen sorry about your day, I hope the SW are giving you lots of support, cos it must be pretty hard. [Hugs]
 
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