[kerry f]

Good afternoon ladies

Here is a bit of background information about myself.  I have just turned 30 and my dh is 32.  We have been married for 1 year and have been ttc for nearly 2 1/2 years.  After having all the tests done (came back fine), we have been diagnosed as having unexplained infertility.  We have an appointment at the end of this month to see a fertility expert at the end of this month to discuss the next step (possibly I.V.F).  this is a bit    but my dh has suffered with delayed ejaculation all of his life (which is a bit of a nightmare when ttc).  We have spoken to our GP about this and he told us that as long as dh is putting it in just as he is about to come  then this is just the same as through intercourse and the sperm will be getting where they need to be.  As we have not got pregnant yet I think this is the cause.  If there is anybody in the same kind of situation I would love to hear from you, especially any success stories.  Its great to know other people are in the same boat.  T.I.A
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[kerry f]

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[Flopsy]

Dear Kerry,

I'm so sorry that you have not had any replies. I had a boyfriend once with the same problem so sending lots of sympathy to you. 

I presume that the doctor you saw checked that the delayed ejaculation is not caused by a medical condition or drugs he takes for one.  I also presume that your DH has been checked to make sure that when he does ejaculate through intercourse he doesn't have another problem like backward ejaculation.

If his sperm count is OK (and I hope that is what you mean by the tests) they may suggest using IUI first instead of IVF. This is to ensure that the sperm is getting to the right spots.

I'm sorry that I am not much help. Your gut feelings are sure to be right but I don't have enough experience to point you in the right direction.

Good luck.

With warmest regards,

 

[Ellie.st]

I don't know the answer to your question either but if you are going to see a fertility specialist, I would definitely ask him/her about it and see what he/she says as GPs aren't fertility specialists and it's well worth getting a specialist view.  I'm no expert but Flopsy's suggestions seem spot on to me! Also, looking on the bright side, if it turns out that the d.e. is the only problem then IUI might be a really  effective way of of addressing it (which would be good news given that it's less invasive than IVF and you can generally try more cycles of it before moving on to IVF if necessary).  Good luck, and keep posting so that we can see how you get on!