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Hi Davidaa!

I just wanted to send you virtual support over the loss of your BFP through blighted ovuum.

It is such a kicker to finally get that positive, only to be blind-sided. I truly believe the constant recommendations made by the specialists to older gals that we MUST use DEs really sets us up for whole other disappointments thanks to the conditioning that they will be the magic solution. Having gone through many progressions within infertility treatments to get to the DE stage is quite an experience. To get there and have your dreams shattered again is extremely tough, so I do commiserate with you, but at the same time I want to acknowledge your perseverance and tenacity for dusting yourself off and making new plans.

I had 2 x DE BFPs and losses (no suggestion of blighted ovuum!) but am now - after more years of planning, waiting & hoping - now contemplating that we might yet be successful - thanks to the BFP by our surrogate mother in the Ukraine. Never did we expect to be here, especially after those DE BFP losses. I say this as encouragement for you now.

Best wishes for whichever cycle you decide to do.

DB x
 

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Hi Dreambaby, thanks for your kind words.  Congratulations on your BFP and I pray it all goes well and that you are soon holding your bundle of joy.

Hello to All!

 

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Hi All,
Has anyone been to Dunya IVF, Cyprus recently? I've been speaking with one of the patient coordinators and I'm not getting as clear information of the steps involved (egg donor ivf) as I'll like. If anyone has recently been to this clinic, can you please share with me the process involved and if possibly the coordinator you were involved with. I don't mind PM if you prefer that.

Many thanks
 

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Hello Ladies,

I wanted to say hi... it's been around 5 years since I last posted. Eek!

I'll have a read through the most recent posts to familiarise myself with you all :)

We have a 4 year old (almost 5) daughter from donor egg ivf in South Africa in 2015.

But we'd like to give her a sibling so are exploring Ukraine (Isida and Intersono) as they treat women over 50, the donor is anonymous and you can see childhood photos of the donor too.

It'd be lovely to hear stories from over 50 ladies who are undergoing / exploring donor egg ivf too. 'Very happy to receive advice / recommendations for UK / Ireland / European clinics offering donor egg ivf to over 50's (must have anonymous donors and childhood photos a plus).

Happy Saturday ladies!

Lisa
 

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Hi, congrats on your decision to start the journey. Both IVF clinics you mentioned are known in Ukraine and have positive reviews from their users, but if you are considering undergoing somewhere else, I can recommend my clinic in Gdansk, Poland. Good luck on your journey
 

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Hi Everyone!

I spoke too soon.

After having our hopes start to believe this might actually be possible, our first surrogacy pregnancy (2nd ET) failed at 11 wks.

Prior to the slow move to international surrogacy, we did 15 ivf cycles here in Australia. It was only after using DE that we had any success, 2 x pregnancies ended with m/c.

We are quite devastated. This news is almost 24 hrs old. We have been working on IVF since 2007. I once knew many others who were also doing IVF. I am, however, the only person I know of personally who has failed ultimately. Only a few people know of our surrogacy attempts. Today has been hard, as there has been no one to comfort us. It is such a lonely endeavour.

Our ages are getting up there now. We are waaay past 50. Hubby is convinced that his old sperm is the cause of this. Certainly, our overseas clinic would not allow us onto their ‘baby guarantee’ programme. We’ve always been willing to go on trying, but I fear that we are destined to be those people: the ones that could not make this work. I worry another failure would finally break us.

Like DEs before, I think I believed surrogacy would be the answer. But it is not. Nothing is guaranteed. All the effort, time, hope and money just won’t make this happen.

Apologies for the gloomy post. I have no where else to express any of this.

DB x
 

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Ahhh Dreambaby I’m so sorry to read your update, in the scheme of things I don’t think your d/h is too old for some good quality sperm to still be available, lots of clinics do sperm sorting like MACs I think it’s called, we used that, basically magnetic a perm sorting, the deformed sperm get sucked to the side and allow the normal sperm to swim through, so it doesn’t just rely on visual sperm sorting and choosing. i can’t remember if you have any remaining embryos that you can use, but I hope you can find the strength to try again, if that’s what the both of you decide to do.
 

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Hi All, I hope you do not mind me introduce myself.
Will be reading all the previous posts once I have this one out of the way.
I am 51, himself 49. Started this journey about 14years ago.
4 clinics and one of them aboard, 8ivf cycles, number of fets with own eggs and hubby sperm. Got pregnant naturally 1 and mc at 7weeks and a few missed miscarriages along the way. I think was pregnant a good few times but no baby.
One cycle with donor egg(5 blasto) twins to 1day off 7weeks and nothing after.
Never been pregnant before with hubby and hubby has no children. We met in our late teens. Study and jobs got in the way. Then Covid to add to it all. Hubby is the only one of his family that does not have children which is hard as he is from a large family.
If anyone can give some advice as to where to go please do.
 
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