Today was a lot more interesting than last week, we had some guest speakers who were really interesting and the group activities were good too.
We got to have a look today at a copy of Be my Parent which is a magazine that shows pictures and gives narratives of children for whom they are looking for parents for. I didn't think last week I'd be able to look at it, but it really gives you an insight into some of the background and reasons why children come up for adoption.
A week to go for day three and this time in 2 weeks the course will be done and then the hard work really begins.
I hope you are well. How are you getting along with coming to your decision?
Well today has been really heavy - we have been discussing abuse. I feel really tired and emotionally drained.
Day four (final day) next Tuesday and then our home study starts. That should take about 3 months. Then soon after we go to panel and then its just a matter of time.
I am really glad that our holiday is soon, as I am feeling really frazzled. Haven't really had a break from IF or Adoption for quite a while, so looking forward to a week in the sun to come back raring to go and get further along the road to our goal.
Thank you all for your support and good wishes.
Dear Karen & Rich
I really do admire you both and know you will be wonderful parents - it will all be worth it in the end.
The timing of your holiday will be perfect - you can go away and chill out so make the most of it 'cos then you'll be busy being mum and dad !!!!
Speak to you again soon. lots of love and good wishes Bev H xxxx
Hi Karen - I've been checking your post periodically and am glad to read all is going well. It will be worth it in the end and your holiday is perfectly timed!! Good luck with the remainder of the sessions!!
Just a quick update from me as things have gone a little quiet for the moment.
Well we finished our course on 24th June and then went away on our hols (just what the doctor ordered). We are now waiting for the social worker to contact us so that we can start on the next part of the process which is the home study. Lots of work and visits etc.
Once this is complete, we will go to panel to be officially 'approved', and then the matching starts. Once a match is made, it all happens really quickly. firstly we have some visits and go to foster carer for bath and bedtime etc. we go on some trips to the park and that short of thing. They come and stay with us over night. This all happens in a three week period and provided everyone is happy, they will then move in with us.
Just relishing our last few months as a child free house. Off on a girlie night out tomorrow. We did have some thoughts whilst we were away on holiday about what life would be like with them and what lfe would be like without them.
We have both agreed though that if it doesn't happen within a timeframe that we have agreed between us, then we will not go ahead. I know that sounds selfish, but by that time (and it is quite a way away) we will have got so used to life being just the two of us that it will be too hard to make the adjustment.
I'll let you all know as soon as we hear something from our social worker.
In the meantime, good luck everyone with whatever stage you are at.
Welcome back hope you had a fab time.
I really hope things happen quickly for you as you have done all this hard work and preparation and you will be such wonderful parents. You are not selfish at all in your way of thinking just beeing honest and realistic.
Look forward to hearing from you SOON!!!
Love and best wishes Bev H xxx
Well I rang the social services yesterday to find out why we haven't heard anything as they said it would be pretty soon after our course that we would be assigned a social worker.
It turns out that the authority we did our training with have delayed sending out the feedback sheets, and our authority are not able to action it unless they have the written documents.
She did tell me though that they have been verbally told that everything was ok with us on the course and as there was a panel day yesterday that there have been a couple of social workers freed up to take on our case.
She thinks she should get the paper work back by the end of this week, so hopefully next week we will here who our SW is going to be.
Watch this space.......
Lily - how are you getting on with starting your journey?
Justine - How is the clomid going?
Bev - been reading and keeping up to date with your posts on July/Aug board. good luck with the scan today, and happy birthday to Garry for next week.